Pratique du Shadowing: 6 Signs You Have Toxic Friends, NOT Real Friends - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo

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Hey, Psych2Goers!
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Are you having trouble deciding if your friend is a real friend?
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"What do you mean by real?" you may ask.
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Well, I'm talking about a friend who has your best interests at heart.
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A friend who is genuine with you and not sneaky.
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If you've had a friend for a while and you feel unhappy or that something's just off, it may be a sign for you to take a moment to determine whether
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or not this friend is a true pal or a toxic one.
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Here are six signs they're not your real friend.
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Number one, they don't show interest or ask about the details of your life.
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How much interest does your friends show in your life?
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Do they ask you how your day was?
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If they do, do they actually listen or look like they can't wait until they can talk next?
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A genuine friend is just that.
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Genuine.
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So if they ask how you are, it may be polite at first, but if you have something to say, they'll be sure to listen and show support.
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They care about you and simply want to get to know you better.
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Here's to hoping you show as much support and care towards them too.
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Number 2.
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They're not reliable, and they're not there when you need them the most.
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Friends are there for you.
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Especially when you're having a hard time.
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If your friend can't stop talking about themselves and their problems while not considering your own, then they're likely not a real friend.
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You may be actively listening to all of their worries and tough situations.
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I had to take the garbage out today.
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There were so many dishes piled up and they smelled so bad.
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Jason never called me back.
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My ferret died.
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Okay, the last one was pretty bad.
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So, I mean, be there for them, but if one day it's then your turn to talk about your worries, and all they do is interrupt with a quick,
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"Oh, I gotta go," or they don't even bother to ask, Don't even bother with them.
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Unless this is an uncommon occurrence with them, and they're going through something, they're likely placing all their negative energy on you, and taking all of your positive,
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while not bothering to give back.
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If you still want to be friends, and since there is something else going on, "Bring up your concerns with them.
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"Mention that they haven't been there for you "as much as you'd counted on.
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If they still won't listen, it's likely you're in a toxic relationship.
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number three they're extremely critical of you Some fake friends can be extremely critical of their friends.
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Remember, your buddies shouldn't be your biggest critic they should be your biggest fan.
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Some friends can offer constructive criticism because they want the best for you and want to see you improve.
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They're honest, but they'll likely do so in a kind, friendly way, if they are a good friend.
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If your pal is toxic, they'll probably just shame you rather than provide helpful critiques.
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If they're a good friend, they may just give a kind dose of honesty and advice.
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Number four, if they say sorry, their apologies don't sound genuine.
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Does your friend say sorry when they're wrong?
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No?
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Uh -oh.
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What about when they do?
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Do they sound genuine?
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No?
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Double O -O.
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If your friend is one to ignore your friendship concerns with a look of "meh", then they're likely not a genuine friend.
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If your friend does apologize when they're wrong, but it's along the lines of this: I'm sorry you feel that way.
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then they're not taking accountability for their harmful actions and owning up to what they've done.
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Good friends can admit when they're wrong.
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They'll then try to work on correcting any negative behavior that affects their friendship.
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So do you do the same?
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Number five, they keep score on how many times you wrong them.
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Does your friend hold a grudge?
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Do you hold a grudge towards them?
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Toxic friendships often involve one or both of the friends involved keeping score of mistakes the other has made.
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When you do something that upsets them again, or maybe you're in an argument, they'll bring up all the disappointments and negative things you've said are done.
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Arguments can get out of hand sometimes.
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But a toxic friend will tend to bring up the toxic scoreboard only when they're confronted with their wrongs.
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They'll use all the times you did something similar as a means of not having to apologize
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or take accountability for what they've done wrong.
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A good friend is honest and listens to the concerns of their buddy.
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while everyone can argue.
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A healthy friendship is filled with healthy constructive discussions, rather than toxic fights.
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So if your friend is acting a bit harmful towards you, how will you bring up the issue?
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Best to do so by having a healthy, open discussion so things don't escalate.
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If they still don't budge, then you'll have to decide if they're really a good friend or not.
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And number six, They play on your insecurities and make you feel unhappy.
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Do you feel unhappy around your friend?
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Insecure, you don't need to feel your most joyful self when around your friend.
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That's normal.
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And there can be times where you feel nervous or unhappy as well from time to time.
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But if your friend makes you feel bad about yourself, then this could be another sign you're in a toxic relationship.
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You shouldn't always feel on edge around your friend, afraid of their next criticism or harsh words.
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Maybe they make snide remarks or always hold themselves in higher regards to you.
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A toxic friend may play on your insecurities to make themselves feel better.
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Both needs should be met in a friendship, without hurting the other's feelings or making them feel unhappy.
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Take note of how you feel after each interaction with them.
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next time you hang out with them.
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You may have had a few fun moments, but do you come home feeling discouraged, humiliated, or insecure?
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Is this because of something they frequently say or do?
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If so, it may just be that you have a toxic friend.
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So do you see any of these signs in your friendships?
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It's best to either openly discuss these concerns with them or think about letting them go as a friend.
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Do you see these signs in yourself?
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If so, know that change is possible.
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Work towards correcting any negative behavior you recognize in yourself.
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It may just be a small step you have to take first.
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Then, when you recognize and genuinely apologize for your wrongdoing, Your friendship may have a good chance to get back on track.
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Sooner or later, you may get back to a real friendship.
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We hope you enjoyed this video, and if you did, don't forget to click the like button and share it with your real friends.
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As always, thanks for watching.

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Cette leçon d’expression orale de niveau B1 s’appuie sur la vidéo « 6 Signs You Have Toxic Friends, NOT Real Friends ». Les mots qui reviennent le plus souvent : toxic, friendship, genuine, unhappy, sign. Cette vidéo contient 96 phrases et 1192 mots à répéter en shadowing. La partie parlée dure 6:05. Le locuteur parle vite, environ 196 mots par minute : attendez-vous à des liaisons et à des sons réduits. 86 % des mots font partie des 3 000 mots les plus courants en anglais ; le reste mérite d’être vu avant de commencer. 18 de ses 96 phrases sont des questions : un bon entraînement pour l’intonation interrogative et les réponses courtes.

Vocabulaire clé de cette vidéo

Les 15 mots les plus avancés de la vidéo, avec leur prononciation et leur sens :

MotPrononciationSens
toxic adjectif/ˈtɒk.sɪk/toxique
unhappy adjectif/ʌnˈhæpi/malheureux, triste
apologize verbe/əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/s'excuser, faire l'apologie de
grudge nom/ɡɹʌd͡ʒ/rancune
insecure adjectif/ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/insécurisé
constructive adjectif/kənˈstɹʌktɪv/constructif
accountability nom/əˌkaʊn.təˈbɪl.ə.ti/responsabilité, obligation de rendre compte
harmful adjectif/ˈhɑɹmfl̩/dangereux, nuisible
escalate verbe/ˈɛs.kə.leɪt/intensifier
ferret nom/ˈfɛɹɪt/furet
humiliate verbe/hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/humilier
joyful adjectif/ˈd͡ʒɔɪfl̩/allègre, joyeux
scoreboard nomtableau d'affichage
wrongdoing nom/ˈɹɒŋˌduːɪŋ/malfaisance
sneaky adjectif/ˈsniːki/furtif, insaisissable

Les verbes à particule que vous entendrez

MotSens
bring up verbeélever
give back verberendre
go through verbetraverser
pile up verbeamonceler, empiler

Des phrases à répéter

Des phrases courtes et complètes de la vidéo, à réutiliser dans la conversation de tous les jours :

  • "What do you mean by real?" you may ask.
  • Do they ask you how your day was?
  • Does your friend say sorry when they're wrong?
  • Does your friend hold a grudge?
  • Do you hold a grudge towards them?

La grammaire de cette vidéo

Les structures que le locuteur utilise le plus, avec les mots exacts de la vidéo :

StructureDans la vidéo
Phrases conditionnelles if + proposition, will/would + verbe — une condition et son résultatif you have something to say, they'll be · If they still won't listen · If your pal is toxic, they'll probably
Present perfect have/has + participe passé — une action passée qui compte encore maintenantyou've had · haven't been · they've done
Voix passive be + participe passé — l’accent est mis sur ce qui arrive, pas sur qui le faitare done · is filled · should be met
Propositions relatives who / which + proposition — une précision sur une personne ou une chosefriend who has · friend who is

Prononciation à surveiller

Le locuteur utilise 49 contractions et formes réduites, comme they're, don't, they'll. Prononcez-les sous leur forme courte, telles que vous les entendez.

  • Les sons « sh » et « zh »: notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/, dish /dɪʃ/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/
  • Mots longs — placez bien l’accent: apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, accountability /əˌkaʊn.təˈbɪl.ə.ti/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/, notification /ˌnoʊtɪfɪˈkeɪʃn̩/, disappointment /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪntmənt/

Les sons difficiles pour les francophones :

  • /h/ — il se souffle, il n’est pas muet: unhappy /ʌnˈhæpi/, harmful /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/, humiliate /hjuːˈmɪliˌeɪt/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/
  • /tʃ/ et /dʒ/ — à ne pas adoucir en « ch » et « j »: apologize /əˈpɑləˌd͡ʒaɪz/, grudge /ɡɹʌd͡ʒ/, joyful /ˈd͡ʒɔɪfl̩/, discourage /dɪsˈkɝɪd͡ʒ/, apology /əˈpɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/
  • /r/ anglais — langue recourbée, sans frotter la gorge: grudge /ɡɹʌd͡ʒ/, insecure /ɪnsəˈkjʊɹ/, constructive /kənˈstɹʌktɪv/, harmful /ˈhɑɹmfl̩/, ferret /ˈfɛɹɪt/

Comment s’entraîner avec cette vidéo

  1. Écoutez la vidéo en entier une fois sans parler et notez les mots que vous ne connaissez pas.
  2. Commencez à la vitesse 0,75×, répétez phrase par phrase, puis revenez à la vitesse normale quand cela devient facile.
  3. Enregistrez-vous et comparez avec l’original, en faisant attention à des mots comme toxic, unhappy, apologize.

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