Pratique du Shadowing: Stop Telling Single People to Get Married | Peter McGraw | TED - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec YouTube

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My not so subtle request: stop telling single people to get married.
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My not so subtle request: stop telling single people to get married.
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(Laughter) Twenty years ago, I threw myself a bachelor party as a new professor at CU Boulder.
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Backs were slapped, stories were shared, glasses clinked.
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But there was a hitch.
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I wasn't getting hitched.
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My rationale, without a wedding in sight, why do married folks get to have all the fun?
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Unbeknownst to me, that night I joined a movement, the solo movement, where being single isn't just tolerated, it's celebrated.
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Not less than, not better, just a different path filled with opportunities to live remarkably.
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In 1960, 90 percent of adults in the United States would go on to get married.
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Today, 50 percent of adults in the US are unmarried.
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Twenty-five percent of millennials are projected to never marry.
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And don't get me started on what's happening with Gen Z.
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(Laughter) Yet we still live in a world built for two.
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Married people have access to over 1,000 legal advantages unavailable to singles.
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Tax breaks, social security benefits.
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Singles invest heavily in marital milestones.
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This made sense when everyone got married, but for us lifelong singles, we have to buy our own crock pots.
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(Laughter) And then there’s Aunt Sally, who keeps asking, "So, is there anyone special?" How many of us have an Aunt Sally?
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Lately, a chorus of media voices have traded Aunt Sally's question for a prescription.
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Get married.
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You don't believe me?
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There's a book called "Get Married." And it came out, of course, on Valentine's Day.
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The “get married” advocates like to point to data that show that married people report higher life satisfaction than single people.
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Their conclusion?
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Get married and get happy.
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Your bonus, you get to save civilization.
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(Laughter) Now you might be wondering, and the answer is no, I'm not anti-marriage.
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I've even had a couple near misses.
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(Laughter) But I am against overprescribing marriage based on correlational data that the “get married” crowd is a little too wedded to.
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Any serious scientist who looks at these data comes to the same conclusion.
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That is that people who get married are already slightly happier to begin with.
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But there is a happiness effect in the data.
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There's a wedding-day bump, but it fades fast.
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(Laughter) For 30K a pop, the average US wedding, at that cost, you can take 15 vacations.
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Without your in-laws.
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(Laughter) But here's the real puzzle, and it’s one that the “get married” crowd can’t answer.
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And that is this.
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If getting married makes you happy, why is it that the happiest places on Earth feature the most people going solo?
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This is especially the case in Scandinavia.
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I say, rather than treating the rise of singles as a bug, let's treat it as a feature.
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A feature of progress, especially for women.
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The arranged marriage was invented 4,400 years ago in order to form business alliances during harsh agrarian times.
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Women were treated more like property than partners, with the husband receiving "ownership" from the father at the altar.
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Thankfully, today, marriage is more about love, and it's increasingly optional.
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The story of the rise of singles is the story of the rise of women.
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And it really got rolling with the invention of the spinning wheel.
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The spinsters who used it could earn their own money and escape being owned by a husband or a father.
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With the invention of birth control and greater access to education and economic opportunities, "I do" is becoming "do I?" (Laughter and applause) The spinsters of yesterday and the cat ladies of today -- (Cheers and applause) Are not old maids.
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They're trailblazers.
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Pioneers of independence.
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Urbanization, apartments and the home appliances that were invented for housewives are spurring a huge increase in people living alone, especially in cities like Stockholm.
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Intrigued by these happy Scandinavians, I swapped out my Stetson for an Indiana-Jones-style fedora and headed to Sweden, a global leader in gender equality.
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And I found lots of one-bedroom apartments filled with singles, some by choice, some by chance.
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But living rich, interconnected, remarkable lives.
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So let's dispense with the calls to get married.
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They're either already preaching to the choir or shouting into the wind.
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There are the someday singles, they're looking for their person, sometimes waiting hopelessly.
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The just-may singles are open to possibilities, the hopeless romantics.
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But of single adults in the United States, half have other priorities.
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They're not looking for love or lust, whether for now or forever.
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And they're channeling their time and their energy and intention into education, building businesses, creating art.
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For many singles, they live meaningful lives.
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Singles give more time, they're more likely to care for elderly parents and disabled friends, more so than their non-single counterparts.
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So what should we tell single people rather than "get married?" Let's start by expanding the concept of significant other.
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It originally included family and deep friendships, including family of choice.
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Indeed, science shows that social connections broadly predict life satisfaction.
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I've never put a ring on a finger, but I have significant others.
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They are my brothers and sisters in the solo community around the world.
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There's my brother from another mother, Darwin, who's taught me more about unconditional love than any lover has.
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And here tonight is my soul sister, Julie, who was at my bachelor party 20 years ago.
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I love you, Julie.
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(Applause) Next, let's advocate for policies that support a family of one.
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Sweden's social safety net is given to all citizens individually.
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Universal health care, free or low-cost education, affordable child care and elder care.
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No spouse required.
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Amen. (Applause) And lastly, let's elevate single living to be on par with married living.
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Not better, not worse, just a different path filled with opportunities to live remarkably.
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I always thought that there was something wrong with me for not wanting to get married.
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The prospect of it felt like I would be wearing an ill-fitting suit, or worse, a straight jacket.
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Now, don't get me wrong, I have plenty of problems.
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There's a lot of things wrong with me.
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But putting a ring on it is not going to solve my problems.
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And as I was nursing a broken heart after one of my near misses, it hit me.
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I'm not half waiting for a whole.
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I'm wholehearted.
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I'm complete.
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I'm healthy, I'm financially stable, I do meaningful work, I have a wide and deep connected group of friends.
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I feel wholehearted, and I hope you do too.
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In the end, there is no one remarkable life.
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There are remarkable lives.
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And no amount of pearl clutching or calls to get married are going to drag us back to the good old days, which, to be honest, weren't that good to begin with.
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Someday, single living and married living will stand side by side, equal.
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In the meantime, the solo movement has a big tent.
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Never married?
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Divorced? Separated?
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Widowed? Welcome.
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We celebrate you and our married allies.
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The future is about options, not prescriptions.
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So let's toast to a world that honors both the choice to settle down or go solo.
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Cheers. (Cheers and applause)

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In this lesson, learners will practice English listening and speaking skills using a TED talk by Peter McGraw that challenges societal norms surrounding marriage and singleness. By engaging with this content, you will enhance your vocabulary, improve your speaking fluency, and develop a deeper understanding of conversation dynamics on contemporary social issues. Additionally, you can utilize this lesson for IELTS speaking practice, as you will be encouraged to express your views on related themes.

Key Vocabulary & Phrases

  • bachelor party: a celebration held for a man who is about to be married; here, it emphasizes the enjoyment of being single.
  • solo movement: a cultural shift that celebrates being single as a valid and fulfilling lifestyle choice.
  • legal advantages: benefits provided by law that can apply differently to married and single individuals, such as tax breaks.
  • overprescribing marriage: the tendency to recommend marriage as a solution for happiness without considering individual circumstances.
  • happiness effect: the idea that certain events, like marriage, can provide temporary increases in happiness.
  • trailblazers: individuals who are pioneers in a particular field or lifestyle, often breaking societal norms.
  • independence: the state of being self-reliant and not dependent on others, a theme explored in the talk.

Practice Tips

To improve your speaking skills effectively, consider using a shadowing app to practice alongside the video. Focus on Peter McGraw's delivery, paying attention to his speed, tone, and intonation. Since he speaks at a moderate pace, this offers an excellent opportunity for shadow speech practice. Start by listening to short segments; after each segment, pause and repeat what you heard. This technique will help you gain confidence in your pronunciation and rhythm.

Additionally, think about the ideas he presents regarding marriage and independence. After shadowing, try to formulate your thoughts on the subject and speak about your perspective. This approach will not only help you learn English with YouTube but also prepare you for discussions in the IELTS speaking practice section. Engaging with the material this way allows you to practice articulation of personal opinions while increasing your vocabulary. Remember, successful shadowing involves mimicking not just the words, but the emotional undertones and emphatic points made in the video, ensuring your own speech becomes more expressive and persuasive.

Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?

Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.

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