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There's this one book that literally tells you to do the opposite of what every self-help book and influencer advises, that you're not special, you should embrace suffering,
هناك كتاب واحد يخبرك حرفياً بأن تفعل العكس مما تنصح به كل كتب المساعدة الذاتية والمؤثرين، بأنك لست مميزاً، وعليك أن تتقبل المعاناة.
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and that you need to care less.
وأنك بحاجة لأن تقلق أقل.
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And it is exactly that counterintuitive idea of caring less about what others think
وهي بالضبط تلك الفكرة المخالفة للبديهة المتمثلة في تقليل الاهتمام بما يفكر فيه الآخرون
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that will make you more magnetic and more successful.
هذا سيجعلك أكثر جاذبية وأكثر نجاحاً.
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Welcome back to the A-Girl Playbook.
أهلاً بكم مجدداً في دليل A-Girl Playbook.
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Today, we will be exploring the book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson.
اليوم، سنستكشف كتاب "الفن الدقيق لعدم الاكتراث" لمارك مانسون.
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If you're someone who cares too much about everything and you want to master the art of detachment to become more confident, feel more happy, and live more freely,
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then this episode is for you.
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That said, let's explore some of the most valuable lessons from the book.
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The first lesson, choose your fucks wisely.
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If you're trying to care about everything, what everyone thinks of you, every problem in the world, every little thing that goes wrong,
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you're going to burn out you're going to feel exhausted or worse, you're going to lose sight of what actually matters to you.
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Think about Nina from The Black Swan.
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She spent her entire life trying to be perfect, trying to please the director, her mother, everyone watching her.
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She cared so much about meeting everyone else's expectation that she literally lost herself and it drove her into madness.
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Mark Manson puts it simply, not giving a fuck doesn't mean being indifferent to everything.
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It's not about not caring.
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It's about being selective about what you do care about.
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You're being selective about what actually deserves your energy and what doesn't.
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Because right now, you're obsessing over what this celebrity said at that random award show.
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You're making a secret account to see what your ex is doing.
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You're replaying a conversation you had with a stranger from two weeks ago.
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You're worried about pleasing someone that doesn't even treat you well.
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And then you wonder why you don't have the energy to do what you need to do
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and why you aren't where you want to be in life.
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Everyone only has so much time, energy, and mental capacity in a given day and
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so the only way to improve the quality of your life
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is to start being selective with what you give a fuck about.
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So take an audit of what truly matters to you and definitely not what you've been told matters.
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Your goals, your joy, and the things that genuinely fulfill you, those are the things that deserve your attention and those are the things that are worth giving a fuck about.
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Lesson number two, the feedback loop from hell.
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You know when you're anxious and then you get anxious about being anxious or you're upset that you're upset?
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That's what the author calls the feedback loop from hell.
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It's when you have a negative emotion and then you feel bad about having
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that emotion which makes you feel worse and then it just spirals.
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Like when you're nervous about a date, an exam, or a big presentation that you have to give, then you're like, why am I so nervous?
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I shouldn't be this nervous.
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What is wrong with me?
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And now you're not just nervous, you're nervous and you're beating yourself up for it.
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This is something so many of us do, especially for those who tend to overthink.
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The author says that the solution isn't to try to stop feeling these negative emotions, it's to simply accept them.
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Just let yourself be anxious, let yourself be sad or angry or insecure without making it mean
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that something is broken or that something is wrong with you.
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I remember there was a date that I went on.
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I was a bit nervous and so I just accepted it and even brought it up.
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My date thought it was kind of cute
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and went the extra effort to make me feel more comfortable and before you know it, I was having a good time.
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Because the problem isn't the emotion itself, it's all the extra layers of judgment and shame that we pile on top of it.
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One thing that has personally really helped me is journaling.
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Sometimes a lot of us don't accept our emotions
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because we aren't used to it and because we tend to fear what we do not know, we make it the enemy.
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And so if that is something that you struggle with also, having a personal outlet can really help you feel those emotions without the fear of someone judging you,
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without taking it out on other people, or worse, taking it out on yourself.
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Lesson number three, the importance of saying no. This one is huge, especially if you struggle with people-pleasing.
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Saying no is actually one of the most powerful things that you can do.
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It's how you uphold your boundaries, it's how you protect your time, your energy, your peace, and your mental capacity to focus on creating the life that you want to live.
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A lot of us are afraid of saying no because we're afraid of disappointing others, but the irony is that when you master the art of saying no, you actually become more successful,
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you get more in life, people respect you more, and honestly, it makes you more attractive.
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This was actually a core lesson from the book Why Men Love Bitches, where the author says that in order to be the dream girl, you have to stop being a doormat.
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I remember a friend was telling me about her date.
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The guy mentioned how he really loved nature and how great it would be to go hiking for a date.
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She likes to dress up and so there was no way
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that she was walking through a trail in her dress and in heels.
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So she told him that, wow, that sounds great.
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You have fun though.
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And when he asked, what do you mean?
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She just replied, I'm not into hiking, but if that is important to you, I totally understand.
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She held her ground and guess what?
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He was eager to suggest an alternative date idea, which was a show and a dinner afterwards, and they had a great time.
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People value your time because you value your time.
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And when you're selective about what you say yes to and you aren't afraid of saying no, they know that you're not someone people can walk all over.
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You don't have to be mean or rude, you simply have to be someone who cares about your needs too,
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and especially someone who doesn't prioritize everyone else's needs over your own.
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And here's the ironic part.
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Because you're less available, your time and your energy becomes more valuable.
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You value yourself and therefore others value you.
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And that's the whole point of this book.
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Caring less about what other people think makes you more attractive and more successful.
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Respect is a very attractive trait and people respect those with standards.
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So get some.
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Lesson number four, commitment and rejection go hand in hand.
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We just talked about saying no and how that makes you more attractive and earns you more respect from others.
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This lesson is a bit different in the sense that saying no actually liberates you.
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It frees you from being overwhelmed and anxious so you can stop wondering and actually start building something meaningful.
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When you commit to something, you automatically reject everything else.
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For example, you commit to one person in a relationship, you're not just saying yes to that person, you're also saying no to everyone else.
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When you commit to a career path, to a goal, you're putting all your focus towards building that, towards achieving that one thing.
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The author outlines the reason why so many of us struggle with commitment is because we're terrified of missing out,
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otherwise known as FOMO, the fear of missing out.
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What if there's something better?
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What if I'm making the wrong choice?
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What if I regret this?
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But here's the counterintuitive part that the author talks about.
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True freedom actually comes from choosing your limitations.
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You've probably heard of that common advice to not put all your eggs in one basket, but there's also that saying that when you try to catch two bunnies at once,
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you catch none.
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So, which is it?
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Before this channel, I was juggling at least a dozen different projects.
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I felt like I needed to diversify in case one idea failed or another just randomly took off,
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but nothing worked out and I lost so much money that I had to focus on just this channel.
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And funnily enough, that's when I had the most fun, I felt the most productive,
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and I wasn't exhausting myself with these crazy schedules from trying to juggle a dozen different projects.
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When you commit, when you choose,
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you stop being paralyzed by infinite possibilities or spreading yourself so thin trying to do everything that you end up doing nothing.
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You can finally move forward and make progress.
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So ask yourself, are you actually happy with all your options or are you just anxious and exhausted?
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Because commitment isn't limiting.
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It can be liberating because once you choose, you can stop wondering and just start making progress.
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Lesson number five, the paradox of choice.
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We just talked about the internal struggle with commitment, the fear of missing out or making the wrong choice.
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But there's also an external factor that makes commitment so hard.
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We live in a world designed to give us what feels like infinite options.
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You can swipe through hundreds of guys on a dating app, you can pursue 15 different career paths, You can live anywhere.
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You can be anything.
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You can do anything.
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And that sounds amazing in theory, right?
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Freedom.
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So many different possibilities.
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But in reality, it's paralyzing.
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When you have too many choices, you cannot choose.
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You're constantly second-guessing, wondering if there's something better out there.
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You're anxious about making the wrong choice because there are so many, quote-unquote, right ones.
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This is an extreme example, but I think it proves this point really well.
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I remember watching this interview with Yeonmi Park, who escaped North Korea, where everything from what she could say,
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what she can wear, and what she can do was decided for her.
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And when she finally made it to America, she suddenly had, you know, complete freedom over her time, who she could date, who she can marry, what she could say, and what she could do and wear.
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But she talked about how overwhelming all of that freedom was how having
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so many options was actually quite difficult to navigate from someone who never had to think about all this.
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Yes, freedom is a privilege and a luxury that we should definitely value and take advantage of, but too much freedom isn't actually freedom.
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It's just another form of paralysis.
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So what exactly is the solution?
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Research actually shows that having constraints and limitations can make us happier.
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When you have fewer options, you can commit yourself more fully to what you choose because when you narrow down your choices,
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you can actually enjoy what you've chosen instead of constantly second-guessing yourself.
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I can now thoroughly enjoy the very few friends that I have
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because I have decided that quality and depth matters more than quantity.
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I can now relax and just dedicate myself to this channel and to this one career that I chose for myself.
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So if you're struggling to commit to anything right now, whether it be a person, a job, or a goal, it might not necessarily be that you don't know what you want.
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It might be because you're drowning in possibilities.
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Sometimes the best thing that you can do for yourself is to narrow down your options on purpose.
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Lesson number six, the do something principle.
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This one is a game changer if you're someone who waits to feel motivated before you do anything.
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We usually think it works like this.
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You feel motivated, then you take action, then you get results, right?
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Wrong.
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The other says that the opposite is true.
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Action creates motivation, not the other way around, and here's why.
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Motivation is just a feeling, and feelings follow action.
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When you do something, anything, you create evidence for yourself that you are capable.
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Your brain sees you moving forward and responds by giving you more energy, more ideas, and more momentum.
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When you wait around for motivation, your brain has no reason to give it to you because you're not proving that you'll actually use it.
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And so if you're sitting around waiting to feel confident before you start that goal
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or waiting to feel motivated before you go to the gym to have a difficult conversation to start studying
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or whatever it is that you need to get done, you're going to be waiting forever.
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You have to do something first, even if it's something small, even if it's something imperfect, because once you start moving, once you take that first step, motivation follows.
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You will build momentum and you will start to feel capable.
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Whenever I'm in a rut or when I'm just really not feeling the best about myself, I used to find myself scrolling through motivational quotes,
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watching different variations of the same productivity videos, and then complaining about how nothing works.
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But now I just make the effort to get up and make my bed.
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Accomplishing this one little thing that motivates me to clean my room.
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One thing leads to another and before I know it.
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I feel like a winner and now I'm doing the very thing I've been putting off for days.
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And so if you're someone like me who's stuck in their head, you're constantly overthinking about everything or you're just waiting for that perfect moment or the perfect feeling, stop waiting.
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Just do something.
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Again, it doesn't have to be big.
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Maybe it's sending out that one email.
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Maybe it's just one section.
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Write one paragraph, go to the gym, even if it's for five minutes or simply make your bed.
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Just move, just do something, and the rest will follow.
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Lesson number seven, kill your heroes slash you're wrong about everything.
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You're wrong about a lot of things, and so am I, and so is everyone else.
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That is not an insult.
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It's just a reality because we're all operating from incomplete information.
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We have our own biases and a limited perspective from the little community
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and the limited people that we surround ourselves with growing up.
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The things you're absolutely certain about right now in five years when you're looking back, you're probably going to cringe and that's okay because we're all unlearning bad habits,
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we're all learning from bad decisions, and taking lessons from mistakes even if it isn't our own.
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That is growth.
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The problem is when we tie our entire identity to being right.
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When we cannot admit that we were wrong because it can feel like we're admitting that we're stupid or a failure.
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This is how people find themselves staying in relationships,
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staying in career paths, or even staying in entire life paths that clearly are not a good fit.
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And so the author's point is this, be okay with being wrong.
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Be open to changing your mind.
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Don't hold on to beliefs or opinions just because you've held them for a long time.
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This is especially important with the people that we tend to idolize, whether it be our heroes, influencers, our parents, or just people that we look up to.
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Because as much as we don't like to question ourselves, we especially don't question the people we put on a pedestal.
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I remember when I was going through my One Direction phase
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and one of the members was afraid of spoons and before you know it, I was eating soup with a fork.
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I did not question it, I just blindly followed someone that I idolized and clearly I was not right.
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Learning to question even the people you love, you admire, and respect, it doesn't mean that you don't value them, it just means that you're thinking for yourself
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and you can decide what is best for you
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and yet you might end up being wrong and if
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that is the case then so be it you might feel unsure
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but how exciting is that because certainty is the enemy of growth the moment you think
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that you have it all figured out you stop learning
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so be humble be curious be willing to be wrong that's how you get less wrong over time
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and our last lesson embrace the struggle here's the truth your problems are never going away.
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You're always going to have problems.
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Always.
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The difference is, as you grow and evolve, you get better problems.
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When I was overweight, I was struggling with my own insecurities on how I looked and how I felt.
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After I got healthier and lost weight, my problem then became that none of my pants fit.
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What an amazing problem to have.
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Back when I was broke, my problem was figuring out how I was going to pay rent.
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Now that my income is a bit more stable, my problem now looks like trying to figure out how I can expand this.
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Different levels but still problems.
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The author says that happiness, it doesn't come from having no problems.
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It comes from solving problems that you actually care about.
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So stop waiting for life to get easy.
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Stop thinking I'll be happy when everything's figured out because that day just doesn't exist.
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Instead, choose your struggles.
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This is actually an episode we've done before with Woon Young's mindset where she lives by the principle that yes, winning is hard, but losing is harder.
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It's the same idea here.
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Both paths have struggles, so pick the struggle that gets you somewhere that you want to be.
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You want an amazing body.
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Cool.
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Are you willing to struggle through working out and eating better?
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Want better grades?
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Great.
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Are you willing to struggle through working later and studying harder?
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Do you want a successful career or business?
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Amazing.
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Are you willing to struggle through failures and rejection?
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Whichever path you choose, no matter where you are in life, you're always going to have problems.
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You're always going to face challenges and
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so you might as well suffer for something that matters to you and you might as well make it count.
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There's so many valuable lessons that I got from this book that truly transformed my life, but feel free to take whichever lesson resonated with you.
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Ultimately, the core takeaway I want to leave with you today is this stop giving so many fucks, save them for what truly matters,
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and your life will thank you for it.
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That's it for today.
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Thank you for tuning in.
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Be sure to check out the Acre newsletter for episode recaps to join in on their conversation
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and to help decide on what to explore next.
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I hope to see you in our next episode, and in the meantime, as always, stay hot.
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Bye!
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المفردات وملاحظات التحدث لهذا الدرس
هذا الدرس في المحادثة بمستوى B2 مبني على الفيديو “The subtle art of not giving a f*ck”. يحتوي هذا الفيديو على 236 جملة و3224 كلمة للتدرب على الترديد. مدة الكلام 17:16. يتكلم المتحدث بسرعة، نحو 187 كلمة في الدقيقة، لذا ستسمع كثيرًا من وصل الكلمات واختزال الأصوات. 87% من الكلمات ضمن أكثر 3,000 كلمة شيوعًا في الإنجليزية، فالمفردات سهلة المتابعة.
أهم المفردات في هذا الفيديو
أصعب 15 كلمة في الفيديو، مع النطق والمعنى:
| الكلمة | النطق | المعنى |
|---|---|---|
| anxious صفة | /ˈæŋkʃəs/ | قَلِق, قَلِقَة |
| emotion اسم | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | عَاطِفَة, عَوَاطِف |
| motivate فعل | /ˈmoʊ.tɪ.veɪt/ | حَثَّ |
| selective صفة | /səˈlɛktɪv/ | اِنْتِقَائِيّ |
| exhaust فعل | /ɪɡˈzɔst/ | اِسْتَهْلَكَ, اِسْتَنْفَدَ |
| idolize فعل | /ˈaɪdəlaɪz/ | أَلَه |
| influencer اسم | /ˈɪnflu.ənsə(ɹ)/ | مُؤَثِّر |
| liberate فعل | /ˈlɪbəˌɹeɪt/ | حَرَّرَ |
| overwhelm فعل | /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/ | اِسْتَبَدَّ |
| paralyze فعل | /ˈpæɹəˌlaɪz/ | أَشَلَّ |
| rejection اسم | /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/ | رَفْض, إِبَاء |
| momentum اسم | /ˌmə(ʊ)ˈmɛntəm/ | زَخَم حَرَكَة |
| embrace فعل | /ɛmˈbɹes/ | اِحْتَضَنَ, عَانَقَ |
| constraint اسم | /kənˈstɹeɪnt/ | متطلب |
| juggling اسم | /ˈd͡ʒʌɡəlɪŋ/ | أَلْعَاب الْخِفَّة |
الأفعال المركبة التي ستسمعها
| الكلمة | المعنى |
|---|---|
| get up فعل | قَامَ, نَهَضَ |
| go away فعل | اِبْتَعَدَ |
| grow up فعل | كَبُرَ, ْنَشَأ |
| look back فعل | اِلْتَفَتَ, اِسْتَدَارَ |
| take off فعل | خَلَعَ |
جمل تستحق التكرار
جمل قصيرة وكاملة من الفيديو يمكنك استخدامها في الحديث اليومي:
- What is wrong with me?
- What if I'm making the wrong choice?
- What if I regret this?
- Do you want a successful career or business?
- Are you willing to struggle through failures and rejection?
القواعد في هذا الفيديو
أكثر التراكيب التي يستخدمها المتحدث، مع العبارات نفسها من الفيديو:
| التركيب | في الفيديو |
|---|---|
| جمل الوصل who / which + جملة — معلومة إضافية عن شخص أو شيء | someone who cares · emotion which makes · those who tend |
| المضارع التام have/has + اسم المفعول — حدث ماضٍ ما زال له أثر الآن | you've been told · has personally really helped · You've probably heard |
| المبني للمجهول be + اسم المفعول — التركيز على ما يحدث لا على من يفعله | you've been told · is broken · being overwhelmed |
نطق يحتاج إلى انتباه
يستخدم المتحدث 91 من الصيغ المختصرة، مثل you're, doesn't, don't. انطقها بصيغتها القصيرة كما تسمعها.
- أصوات “sh” و“zh”: anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/, rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, expectation /ˌɛk.spɛkˈteɪ.ʃən/
- الكلمات الطويلة — انتبه لموضع النبر: counterintuitive /ˌkaʊntəɹɪnˈtuɪtɪv/, influencer /ˈɪnflu.ənsə(ɹ)/, limitation /lɪmɪˈteɪʃən/, momentum /ˌmə(ʊ)ˈmɛntəm/, diversify /daɪˈvɝ.sə.faɪ/
أصوات يجدها متحدثو العربية صعبة:
- /p/ — ليس /b/: انطقه مع نفخة هواء: paralyze /ˈpæɹəˌlaɪz/, imperfect /ɪmˈpɜː(ɹ)fɪkt/, paralysis /pəˈɹæləsəs/, pedestal /ˈpɛdɪstəl/, prioritize /pɹaɪˈɒɹ.ə.taɪz/
- /v/ — ليس /f/: مع اهتزاز الأوتار الصوتية: motivate /ˈmoʊ.tɪ.veɪt/, selective /səˈlɛktɪv/, counterintuitive /ˌkaʊntəɹɪnˈtuɪtɪv/, overwhelm /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/, whichever /wɪt͡ʃˈɛvɚ/
- تتابع الصوامت — لا تضف حركة بينها: anxious /ˈæŋkʃəs/, exhaust /ɪɡˈzɔst/, influencer /ˈɪnflu.ənsə(ɹ)/, overwhelm /ˌoʊ.vɚˈwɛlm/, embrace /ɛmˈbɹes/
كيف تتدرب بهذا الفيديو
- استمع إلى الفيديو كاملًا مرة واحدة دون أن تتكلم، ودوّن الكلمات التي لا تعرفها.
- ابدأ بسرعة 0.75×، وردّد جملة جملة، ثم عُد إلى السرعة العادية عندما يصبح الأمر سهلًا.
- سجّل صوتك وقارنه بالأصل، مع الانتباه إلى كلمات مثل anxious, emotion, motivate.
ما هي تقنية التظليل الصوتي؟
التظليل الصوتي (Shadowing) تقنية تعلم لغة مدعومة علمياً، طُورت أصلاً لتدريب المترجمين الفوريين المحترفين. الطريقة بسيطة لكنها قوية: تستمع لصوت إنجليزي أصلي وتكرره فوراً بصوت عالٍ — كظل يتبع المتحدث بتأخير 1-2 ثانية. تُظهر الأبحاث تحسناً كبيراً في دقة النطق والتنغيم والإيقاع وربط الأصوات والاستماع والطلاقة.