Shadowing-Übung: Kim Kardashian's Life Fell Apart Before It Opened Up - Englisch Sprechen Lernen mit Video
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When was the last time you went somewhere where someone didn't know who you were?
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Or actually, was there a moment where someone said to you, who are you?
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What do you do?
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Like, when was the last time you had an interaction like that?
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You know what?
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In Japan, it's like that.
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You know, everyone's really respectful.
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Even if they might recognize you, they don't ask for photos.
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And it's a really amazing experience.
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I think it's important, you know, just to listen.
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I love my life.
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I love everything that comes along with it.
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I am not complaining.
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But a little glimpse of that, I think, especially for the little ones is so good.
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Yeah, no, that's definitely a beautiful experience.
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I think it's nice for everyone to feel wanted and loved and then also feel unseen.
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Yeah.
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Like we almost crave both of those.
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I was thinking about it today.
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You're always surrounded by film crews and, you know, you have like 352 million people that follow you on Instagram.
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I wonder, do you ever, do you prioritize time alone?
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Do you get time alone?
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And what does that look like?
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I do.
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I get up really early.
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My morning workout really is my, I don't want to say therapy session because it's not like I'm really communicating things, but even if I'm quiet and I'm in my zone,
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that's my mental health check.
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Every morning, I love my workout.
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It keeps me sane.
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I can't say that enough.
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That's my time in the morning.
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Then as soon as everyone starts to get up for school, the madness happens and it's about two hours of madness from getting four kids ready in the morning,
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fed out the door to school.
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I drop off school every day.
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And then I have a little bit of time, I'd say about 20 minutes driving back where I just blast my music.
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I don't take any calls.
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That's my alone time.
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I love it.
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And then I get to the house and I start my full work day and I'm committed and focused.
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And then the madness of bath time, bedtime, dinner time, and once four babies are asleep.
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And I just cherish that time at night when everyone's asleep
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and I can watch whatever show I want and just have some alone time.
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So I do take the time for myself.
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I think it's really important.
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I feel family is the cause for so much stress for people.
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It's the cause for so much anxiety for people.
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And as you said, it's hard.
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How have you continued to lean in to compassion and care, even when it's easier to compare and criticize
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and complain well with family i mean i was always raised
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like no matter what blood is thicker than water there's no other options
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so we definitely go through our things as sisters there's no
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other options like we will work it out like we are family we are sisters we will figure it out
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and i think you just have to i think also more compassion comes with age
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and the more things that you've been through.
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And especially I think my heart has opened up so much in that space,
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just spending time, even with people behind bars that I'm fighting for.
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And I might not have even had the slightest idea of what someone's gone through,
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or even understood taking the time to listen to people more than maybe speaking
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and making it about yourself and my compassion has just grown and my empathy has grown on another level.
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You can't really judge people for their pace on
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when they choose to really want to dig deep into their own compassion
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and empathy and when people choose to grow and evolve.
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But it's so nice to have people that support that journey
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and grow with you because once you realize
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that this life really isn't about you and it's about helping as many people as you can, all these like doors open up for you
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and your mind just opens up and it's a really great place to be when you feel like you have enough,
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when you would chase things for so long and when you just feel content, it's such a good place to be and it's such an,
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like allows for so much more compassion.
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There's nothing worse when someone is like so woke
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and they're on this therapy journey and they expect you to be right there with them.
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But it's a beautiful thing to sit back and watch people make mistakes,
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learn from their mistakes, grow and evolve and just be there to hold their hand and support them.
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I think that's what anyone would want.
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I've seen so many people on these like self -help journeys that just aren't as happy, you know?
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And I think you just have to like sit back
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and do what works for you and move at your own pace
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and understand that it's okay that you're not at the same level as someone else.
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Self -work can just be so different for so many people, you know, like my morning workouts, I swear that's my self -work.
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There's no like right method of what works for everyone.
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You know, it's like whatever works for you, good for you.
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Yeah, yeah, absolutely, absolutely.
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And I feel like when people see you and even now as you're talking, you have so much trust in yourself or trust in your inner voice.
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That doesn't mean I don't believe you're saying I always get it right or this is the only way.
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What you're actually saying is I've learned to trust my voice.
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And I wonder, was there a time when you didn't trust that voice?
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Or can you remember the first time where you started to hear it?
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Like, I remember the first time I really started to hear my voice deeply was probably when I was 14 years old.
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And that's when I could hear this voice inside of myself that was like, Jay, this is who you are.
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This is what you care about.
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This is what matters to you.
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You don't need to be this or be that or do it this way.
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And I remember I started listening to it then.
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And now that inner voice is really loud.
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It's always there.
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I wish I listened to my inner voice at 14.
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Do you remember when you first started like, because when I'm speaking here during you now, you're just like, yeah, like I'm very comfortable with people being themselves and I'm comfortable being who I am, which is beautiful.
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But when did that, I feel so many people want to live that way, but that's the thing we all struggle with.
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It definitely didn't come right away.
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You know, I was a people pleaser and I would make decisions based off of other people's happiness for so long.
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And I would say, honestly, in the last few years, definitely at 40, you know, I figured it out of just following my happiness,
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which was really, I think an important place for me to get to
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because I always put other people's happiness over my own.
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And it doesn't mean you disregard other people's feelings and it doesn't mean you don't care and you don't love them,
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but it is a great place to be when you finally put yourself first.
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And I will say that took a long time.
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And that was like relying on other people for confidence in business decisions
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and it's great to have your team and to always like bounce ideas
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and make sure that you're collectively picking the right choice
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and work thing for you
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but true confidence where you feel you're making the right decisions
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you know you got it you are thinking about yourself first
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and not just in a selfish way but like in a protecting your heart way, it feels really good.
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And I might not have gotten there until I was literally 40.
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And what do you think it was about the last few years where you had to turn towards that, that pushed you there?
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I've never been an unhappy person.
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I'm always really happy with my surroundings.
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I don't need people to make me happy.
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I'm not really ever searching for something.
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I'm really content.
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My babies make me happy, my family, my life, you know, experiences make me happy.
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But when you just look around and when there's like tension and stress that is just not necessary from work,
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from relationships, from friendships, and you just decide to be still and not try to please everyone,
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it becomes just really clear.
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And you realize that you just want to be happy
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and you want to share this life
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and these experiences with your group of people that you trust and you love and who are super loyal.
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Like life is always gonna be stressful and you can't control half of it.
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But if you can control what you put out
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and how you react to all of life's stresses
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and your response to all of that and realizing
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that you could eliminate a lot of those stresses with making yourself happy first and choosing yourself, then you know you're on the right path.
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And once I did that, And once I chose to choose myself and be happy, so many opportunities just opened up.
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Things that I never thought in a million years would come my way.
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It seemed like clear as day that the universe was rewarding me for choosing myself and like elevating,
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like getting to the next level in the video game like I had to get here
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and I was always like here just in my growth process.
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And once I chose myself, it was like, oh my God, the whole, the universe is opening up for you.
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And all these opportunities are coming my way.
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Wait a minute.
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I'm trying to make everyone happy.
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I'm doing all this stuff for everyone else, but myself, let me just like pull back a second, focus on myself.
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And then it seemed like everyone else was happier because everything was just falling into place.
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And that was like, I saw it clear as day and
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that would like push me and motivate me to continue to just be happy
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and do what I wanted to do instead of what other people wanted to do.
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And that was like, it was like a good feeling.
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It really like showed me that I was making the right decisions.
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I wonder with what you were saying, one of the big things that comes out as you were talking about family and people in your life, and you talked about your life as chat,
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like there's this loyalty is such a big value for you across your life, it seems.
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What have you learned about people that you wish you learned sooner?
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Was there something that you started to learn and recognize patterns in people and that has made you better now, but you wish like, oh, if I learned this a couple of years sooner,
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then it could have saved me a lot of the stress and challenges that came up.
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Don't take anything personally.
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I've been really blessed to have really great, solid relationships.
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I have the same group of best friends.
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We went to preschool together.
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We talk every single day.
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My best friend is my best friend since the day I grow up, you know, when I was born, the people I work with,
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my family, my sisters, but my best friend's sisters also, you know, and everyone I trust a hundred percent.
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Everyone is so loyal a hundred percent.
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You can't come up to me and tell me something about one of my friends.
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If like someone were to say, oh, this person said this about you and they're in my circle, I would be like, absolutely not.
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Like I would trust that a hundred percent.
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And I think that's so rare or what I've seen is so rare.
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And I just feel so lucky to just love everyone around you, trust everyone around you.
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They trust you.
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My friends know they can call me any hour.
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I'll be the first one to pick up and help.
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All of my friends would drop everything to help me in a situation and to have that real support and love,
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I think is everything in life to have loyal, supportive people around you.
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And I think you can also tell so much about a person that has really longstanding relationships.
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That's stability.
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When I look to hire people, I look at their previous jobs and how long they've had those relationships for.
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And think about it.
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If there's someone that's bouncing from job to job, obviously there could be other situations that come into place.
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But I value people that have these long standing relationships with people, whether it's their employer or family.
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And that's super important to me to have all my friends have really important relationships in their life.
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I think that says a lot about you and the family, because I wonder what it takes to hold on to a relationship like that when you're on a rocket ship.
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Then there's those friends that you don't have to talk to every day.
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I mean, thank God for group chats where you can chime in and heart something really quick, you know, but like your real best friends will also support you.
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And it takes, but it's, it takes that mutual respect because what my friends are doing, if they have something that's important to them,
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it's just as important for me to show up for them as it is for them to show up for me.
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I might have a more colorful life and a bigger event that I'm asking them to show up to, but it doesn't mean that theirs isn't just is important.
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So I think just having that mutual respect, treating people with respect is just a given.
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I truly think someone is such a solid person when they have really grounded relationships,
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grounded in love and, and relationships can be different things.
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You know, sometimes you have your group of girlfriends that you love to go on vacation with.
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And then sometimes you have, you know, your other friends that you work really well with.
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Every relationship can be different.
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if you have just a mutual respect around the, across the board, that's, I think the number one thing.
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Yeah.
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It takes two.
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You talked about earlier about parenting and you brought it up a few times and I wonder how you view.
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You don't have kids, do you?
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Not yet.
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Not yet.
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Okay.
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We'll have this conversation again when you do.
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Yes, absolutely.
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That's what I'm asking.
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That's what I'm asking parenting questions.
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What was your vision like for what you thought parenting was going to be like versus what it actually is?
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Everyone says the days are long and the years are short and that couldn't be like a more true statement.
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So like when you're in it, I mean, especially when they're babies and you're feeding and you're, there's madness going on.
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It's like full madness.
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It's the best chaos though.
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Like my mornings, you have no idea what's going on.
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I'd say parenting is the thing that has taught me the most about myself.
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it has been the most challenging thing there are nights I
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cry myself to sleep like what just happened you know with all the moods
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and the personalities and sometimes they're fighting
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and there's no one there like it's it's me to play good cop
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and bad cop so like that is definitely a challenge
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when you know something I'm working on is being a little bit firmer you know.
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There is nothing that can prepare you.
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Anyone, any person that says, oh, we're waiting to have X amount of money in the bank.
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Oh, we're waiting to have a home before we have kids.
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Oh, I'm waiting for this job to come in before we have kids.
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I don't care how long you wait.
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I don't care what you're waiting for.
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You are never prepared, but you will figure it out and it will make you so proud of yourself
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that you figured it out and that you got through the day.
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And sometimes it's nights where it's just, we are going hour by hour to see if we're going to survive night by night.
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If a tantrum comes in, oh my God, your life is completely upside down,
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but it teaches you so much more about yourself than I think anyone,
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any parent could have ever anticipated.
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I mean, there is nights when you don't wash your hair for days as a mom
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and you have spit up all over you and you're wearing the same pajamas, you know, and there's just nothing that can prepare you for this experience.
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It is the most challenging, rewarding job on this planet.
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When was the moment when you were looking into your baby's faces and...
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Said, I want to run away.
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I need to hide for a night.
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Every night.
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I'm just kidding.
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No, yeah, no, thank you.
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I mean, it's honest.
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I think there's a little bit of truth in that feeling that a lot of parents have.
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What's the hardest, when you look into their faces and you had one of these moments where you were learning these lessons,
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what was the hardest lesson you had to learn about yourself that made you go, whoa, I didn't see that before.
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If it wasn't for that kid, I wouldn't have seen that.
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Yeah, it happens all the time.
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I always think everything in life comes our way to really teach us something.
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And it's a really hard task when you have four kids
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and they all want to be put to bed at the same time by the same person.
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And they all want to do it individually and have that experience.
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And no one wants to wait.
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And I'm locked in a room with kids banging outside of the door because they want me to put them to bed.
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And I'm like, I can't cut myself in four pieces.
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So we're going to have to schedule this out.
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And we're coming up with a schedule and none of them want to listen to the schedule.
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And then they all start crying.
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And that's like a typical night.
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So much respect to parents.
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So much respect to people also that aren't parents that want to live their free life.
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Enjoy it while you can.
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I was at Easter on Palm Springs and I looked at my mom's house
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and she had her table set for all of her kids, all of her grandkids.
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And we're all staying in her house.
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and I was like, it's, it's a forever thing.
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It's not like, Hey, okay, you're 18 and you're on your own.
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It's a forever thing.
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And we're in our forties and we're still coming at her and fighting and asking my mom to resolve everything.
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And I look at her and I'm like, how did you do it?
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I personally can't wait for my kids to get a little bit older.
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Everyone like is so afraid of the teenage phase.
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I'm so excited for it.
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Play this back for me when they're teenagers.
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but I see the relationship I have with my mom
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and I knew the relationship I had with my dad
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and how comfortable we were talking to them about all of our problems
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and all of our friend stuff and all of the drama and all of the high school stuff.
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And even the stuff I talked to my mom about now
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and how open I am about life and relationships and how close we are, even if we didn't get it as a kid, I can look at her now and say, I get it.
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As a mom now, as an adult now, I know why you made those decisions.
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And I love having that relationship.
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And that is why I wanted to have four kids.
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I saw my mom, you know, and my dad had four together before she had my two little sisters and I loved the big family.
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And I always knew I wanted to have four kids.
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And I just love so much our relationship with her and my grandma.
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And I just can't wait to have that with my kids.
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I can't wait till they're old enough to understand so much
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that I can never explain to them now that they'll get one day and we can laugh about it.
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That's so beautiful.
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Yeah.
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You reminded me of a beautiful old saying that says, the day you realize your parents were right,
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your kids are telling you that you're wrong. So true.
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I have like contracts with my sons.
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I'm like, you're never going to leave me.
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We always have to be besties.
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You're never going to be too cool for me.
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And they always say yes.
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I'm like, you can live with me in your 20s, your 30s, never move out.
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They said okay.
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They've signed the contract.
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Yeah.
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And they have no idea.
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They'll breach it.
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Yeah.
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It'll be okay.
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Yeah, you won't sue them.
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Yeah.
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But I wonder how in your position, like.. you know, what you just described is what so many people go through.
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And like you said, it's so hard for them to experience that.
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But when you're explaining things like the paparazzi, or like you were saying that when you're in Japan, like you didn't have that experience.
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And that was so nice for the kids.
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Like, how do you walk them through the nuances of the life that you lead?
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And I'm guessing a lot of their friends also have similar lives, but I'm sure they have some friends who don't have parents like yourselves.
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And so how do you help them reconcile?
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Or what are the kinds of things that you talk about with them?
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Or what can they understand at this age?
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And what are you like, well, that's just going to have to wait?
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I'll talk to my kids about anything they want to ask me about.
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I am so open and honest with my kids.
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I think that's the only way to be.
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And it could be things that they might not understand.
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And I'll wait to find the appropriate time to talk about it.
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I think they grew up seeing the cameras and they grew up seeing that even as babies, you know, we'd walk out and there'd be paparazzi.
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So it's not really something that they acknowledge a lot.
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And that's why I love that my sisters
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and I all had babies at the same time so they can be with each other and have these experiences together.
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Absolutely.
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When I'm, you know, there's all the words that come out from you are like togetherness, loyalty.
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It's incredible to see it in family.
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But I think what you've then done, which when I saw you do this, it really moved me when I saw you kind of move into
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that direction of justice for and using your voice
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and training to be a lawyer to make these changes in the world out there, because I find that, you know,
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there's a natural sense of survival as a family.
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But then when you start taking into account the survival of others, there's an extension of love and, you know, what goes out to the world.
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And I think it was really special to see that.
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And this podcast is called On Purpose for a Reason, because I think everyone's searching for their purpose.
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Would you say that that was a expression of purpose or?
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Absolutely.
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I mean, I think that's one of those moments, like by chance, I happen to be looking on social media and seeing a case that I just didn't understand.
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And I'm always a really curious person.
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So I'll never let something go
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if it's weighing on my heart to not at least try to figure out how it happened.
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I've always been really interested in crime stuff and solving things and figuring things out.
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So when I saw a case of a woman that just didn't make sense to me, I was really curious.
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And I sent this little video that popped up on my Twitter to attorneys
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that I knew really well that could answer questions for me.
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And then when it seemed like I couldn't just sit there, it was really weighing on my heart when I felt like it was so unfair.
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I didn't know that there was like thousands of cases that were so unfair.
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I just thought, oh wow, like I have to help this person.
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And then when I was successful in doing that, on my journey, I realized like, wait, there's so many more people like this.
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Like I can't not do something.
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And I think that
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that also goes with whatever's meant to come to you at
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your own pace for your own learning levels is what's meant to be because that came to me.
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I wasn't like searching for that.
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And that changed my life and it changed who I am.
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I just can't sit around and see this happen to other people that aren't deserving of their freedom.
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I think just everyone's on their own path
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and things will come to you when you need to be like elevated to that growth level.
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And I'm really grateful for those experiences is because I definitely think that that's my purpose.
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What internal changes did you see in yourself that maybe you didn't see before when you started doing this work?
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Like what did you have to grapple with internally?
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Was there anything that you had to break through inside?
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Yeah.
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What were those things?
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I would say I always felt like I was a compassionate person and a caring person.
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And I always cared about people's feelings.
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But my level of empathy was at a completely different level when I started.
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I might have been way more judgmental.
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And I would think that someone that was behind bars, especially for a really lengthy or a serious crime,
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that they probably were absolutely guilty.
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I had no compassion.
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I was just really judgmental.
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And then when I started to hear about these cases
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and people's backstories and their histories and realized that
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so many people really didn't have the opportunities to be better and didn't know better.
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It really changed my whole life.
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And like my level of empathy is just so different than what it was years ago.
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And I think that's why I fight
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so hard for people to get second chances because people make really bad choices and really bad mistakes,
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some way, way worse than other people, but if you're never given the chance.
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to change, that's really sad.
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Especially if you make a really bad decision as a teenager,
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and then you're in your forties and you're given no shot to change when you really already maybe have so much.
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It was really important to me to express that and help people that have made those changes.
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I used to judge people and like their relationships and how people lived their lives.
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And now I'm like, whatever makes you happy, why should we judge?
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Who are we to say how people should live their lives?
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My judgment is just, I don't know if it comes with age or experience or just going through so many things, but just be happy.
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Isn't that what life is about?
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Experiences, making people feel heard and seen and appreciated
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and just having gratitude for the things in life that we're so blessed to have and work for.
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And if we're surrounded by the people we love, we are, that's real success.
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Yeah.
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I agree.
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And I feel that a lot of people start getting better at that with the judgment outside.
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But one of the things that people struggle to deal with the most is the judgment in their head.
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And I wonder, do you find that you ever catch yourself judging yourself
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and being hard on yourself and being heavy and harsh on yourself.
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Yeah.
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You've been able to give that up.
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I'll be like competitive with myself.
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I think I'm a really competitive person, but I'm pretty, I'm pretty easy on myself.
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Wow.
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That's incredible.
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I was always like really calm, really easygoing.
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That's a real achievement.
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Yeah.
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And I'm sure you see people judging themselves all the time.
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Yeah.
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Honestly, I really haven't experienced that much.
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that's fantastic yeah that's amazing and I love hearing that
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because I think it is so true that you can curate
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and create a community around you that has similar values I think something
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that I've learned maybe the hard way
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because I feel like I'm at a really good place now
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where the people in my life I feel really solid I
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think this is the first time in my life obviously I've had really long relationships with my girlfriends
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and friends since elementary school but But something I learned is
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that you cannot help people that don't want the help and don't,
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you can't force your beliefs and project that on someone that thinks something totally different.
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And it's okay to have those different views.
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That's why the world goes round, you know, but if you don't align in the same values and morals and things at your core,
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then it's okay to realize that this life is so short
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and you should go and find the people that do align with what you really believe in.
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Those are some of the lessons that I would teach my kids when they're looking for friends and partners and relationships.
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Yeah.
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You can't really force things upon other people.
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You can't expect them to be where you're at at your level.
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And sometimes that could really coexist really well, but then sometimes it really can't.
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You have to let go of the idea of molding people into what you want.
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Think about if there's something about yourself that you really want to change.
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The expectations of going into something and thinking you're going to get a different result
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or thinking you have the power to change someone is so selfish and so crazy and everyone does it
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and everyone has to learn on their own.
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And that's something that I've always like sat back, helped friends, given them advice, but never really pushed because even if I were to say,
431
hey, don't walk down that path, trust me, I've been there, you don't wanna go there.
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And they say, okay, and they follow you
433
and they go on a different path they'll never learn
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that lesson they have no clue what i'm talking about you
435
know i could say parenting stuff to you all day long
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with all due respect you have no clue until you've been through it i welcome people's journeys
437
and their lessons and i'll always be there to the people
438
that i love to help them through that
439
but they got to go through
440
that in order to grow on their own what's the biggest lesson you learned from your mom
441
that you're trying to pass on to the kids i think just how she makes people feel really heard and welcomed.
442
She really is the most warm, welcoming person.
443
And it's just like her overall, it seems superficial, but it's not like her party planning skills.
444
It's not even that it's just the welcomingness of, I don't even know if these are words I'm saying,
445
but like just her ability to be so warm and to make everyone feel like they were invited here.
446
I'm going to create this like special Easter.
447
dinner with like the things on the table, you know, that she had when we were growing up at my dad's house.
448
Like she just has all this like really special nostalgic stuff around all the time
449
and always tries to make everyone feel so special, but with like a gathering so that everyone feels comfortable and can hang around.
450
Like she just loves people in her space and loves to create these memories.
451
And I think that we all got that from her and we will all, if I can just pass that on to my kids, just the experiences that we have as a family,
452
whether we're just sitting in our pajamas and hanging out, we make the time to be together.
453
And I hope that my kids want to make the time to be together
454
when they grow up with their cousins and their aunts and just the whole family.
455
I'm sure they will.
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Yeah, I think they will too.
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Yeah, I think you've managed to hold on to it in your entire generation
458
and so yeah they see that i think kids mirror
459
so much of yeah what they see around them and i think
460
when your kids see the love that you have for your sisters
461
and your cousins and your aunts and uncles and now
462
if only all my kids can love their siblings
463
that would be amazing they're in a fighting phase yeah yeah did you
464
and you guys went through
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that phase i'm sure yeah oh my god it's still going on yeah still going on never ending.
466
That's never going to stop.
467
I know a lot of people in my life feel a lot of mom guilt and moms carry it with them.
468
Have you experienced that with your friends, your family?
469
Absolutely.
470
Mom guilt is probably the hardest thing.
471
I think that you have to also separate though and understand that you need your own bit of sanity.
472
So you have to do what makes you happy.
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You have to, if working for me, I love working.
474
So that makes me happy.
475
Anytime I think something's really hard, I dive into work and, or if there's challenges, like I love to dive into my work
476
and that's like a bit of my therapy and my routine to keep me going.
477
But I think, you know, I have chats with my girlfriends when our kids are having tantrums and there could be things going on
478
that we don't even know about.
479
And you feel like you're the worst mom if something's going on and you can't fix it.
480
You have no idea how to change it.
481
Your kids are fighting, whatever it is.
482
And my friends and I will text each other and be like in tears, literally locking ourselves in the room,
483
like away from a kid having a tantrum when that's not what you should do.
484
You should go and lean into them.
485
And, but sometimes it's so overwhelming.
486
That was probably the only time I'd be hard on myself is, am I a good mom?
487
I try to do everything.
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And I think how to balance work with that is when you're home being really present.
489
Kids, all they want is time.
490
They just want your time.
491
You can give them all these amazing big experiences and they'll remember them and they're great, but they'll always remember you being present.
492
And I think that's just the most important thing in all of your relationships.
493
Think about what a kid wants.
494
A kid just wants your time.
495
So why wouldn't everyone else?
496
You have to kind of treat everyone like that.
497
If you want these like meaningful relationships in your life
498
and you have to be present
499
and it's okay to feel like you are not a hundred percent at being the best mom.
500
I say this all the time we there's no manual they
501
do not come with the manual everyone's doing the best
502
that they can and I just feel so lucky
503
that I have a good group of girlfriends
504
and all of our kids are experiencing different things from I mean imagine all the things
505
that they a divorce everything
506
that they have to go through we're okay they will be okay
507
and they will feel the love and support
508
and that's all you can do it'll be okay
509
and i'm sure that's hard for you because you were saying
510
that you're so competitive with yourself you want to be the best at everything yeah
511
but i feel like being the best mom must be the hardest hardest thing to ever live up to absolutely
512
and i'm very confident so every year i write each one of my kids about a four
513
or five page letter about on their birthday about what the year was like who their friends are silly words they're saying,
514
their favorite foods, all the silly things that they do and a little journey of what the year is like.
515
And it's so fun to see from the first year now, you know, one of them almost 10 years old and just to,
516
I know that they'll appreciate this.
517
I know that they'll appreciate everything that they might've thought I was being a little harsh on me protecting them.
518
I know that they'll, they'll get it because I got it with my mom and I know they'll get it with me.
519
What I find genuinely inspiring
520
about you and the way you think and focus is
521
that you want to be this incredible mom
522
but you also want to show the kids what a passionate purpose driven person looks like yeah
523
and I think we forget that that's also parenting like I'm not a parent but I can honestly say it that
524
when I saw my mom working late at night
525
and waking up early in the morning I look back at my mom
526
and I think my mom is a superwoman yeah
527
and I look back at that as inspiration I hope my kids think
528
that of me one day they will they will because they'll see
529
that and i think same with my dad like i saw my dad
530
and how much he had to work yeah and
531
and there was something powerful about
532
that i think i always like to show them like i drop my kids off at school
533
and then i have two or three hours of of law school
534
so i gotta go i'm on time because i have my school
535
and they have been on the journey with me they saw
536
me take the bar exam they saw me open my results and not pass multiple times.
537
They saw me open up the results and pass
538
and I was crying and they felt my hard work and it paid off.
539
I want to show them that finding a passion and working to me is something I love to do.
540
And there's so much joy in that for me.
541
And I want them to feel that positive experience.
542
And I encourage that from them.
543
Like I want to just show them as many positive experiences as I can and show them that, you know, you can work hard and you can love it.
544
And I just try to live my life and be a good example for them.
545
I think it comes through.
546
And I do believe that, like when I look back at my parents, all I can do is appreciate my mom.
547
All I can do.
548
I hope they do.
549
Sometimes they tell me I'm the meanest mom in the world because I won't buy them Roblox every day.
550
You know, it's like, I'm like, it's okay.
551
I can be the meanest mom in the world.
552
Yeah.
553
I think that's what moms do.
554
Moms are willing to be anything their kids need them to be, even if it's that for a short period of time.
555
Kim, you've been so gracious and kind with your time today.
556
We end every On Purpose episode with a final five.
557
The first question is, what is the best advice you've ever received or heard?
558
Something that I've learned about time is just that we never have enough of time.
559
So really be present and make the most of your relationships because we're not here very long and we have one life.
560
Was there a moment that made you realize that or something that happened that made you realize that?
561
I mean, I think when you lose a parent, you're always really mindful of time.
562
And my mom talks about it all the time.
563
I think she's like probably the one thing in life she's scared about, you know, and, and keeps her up at night sometimes.
564
So just making sure that you make the most of everything because it'll go by so fast.
565
Second question, what is the worst life advice you've ever received or heard?
566
I think maybe the worst advice could be almost too much advice or too many opinions.
567
So sometimes just do what you want to do and not take in all of the advice is really healthy.
568
I think that's great.
569
And don't ask for it in the first place.
570
Yeah.
571
Yeah.
572
I know.
573
We all have that one friend who messages like 25 people with the same question.
574
Totally.
575
Yeah, definitely.
576
Good answer.
577
All right.
578
Question number three.
579
If tomorrow not wishing there's no intentions, no energy towards this, but if tomorrow you had to restart, what would you do?
580
If tomorrow everything went away and you had to restart, what would you do business -wise like how would
581
that shift I think I would probably be a lawyer
582
and just focus on that and go to law school
583
and focus on being an attorney full -time
584
because I just think the feeling of being able to help people is really powerful
585
and necessary and I would just focus on
586
that that's such a heartfelt answer I love
587
that we were talking about this idea about how we often think
588
that our experiences make us who we are or is it
589
that you are just going to be who you are anyway
590
because that's who you were meant to be i think it's
591
both yeah think about it you can be the most talented person but if you don't have that determination
592
and drive then what will become of it you know it's not just going to magically happen
593
because you're talented of course so i think
594
so much of it is the effort and what you do with
595
that and figuring that out and who you are and what you want to put out in the world.
596
I guess my point is that I think you have that energy of wanting to be the best, of wanting to do things really well, of wanting to do things with that quality.
597
And whatever you ended up doing with it, it would have been that.
598
And it is that already.
599
And I think in life, you have to, no matter, even if this isn't the job that you want, no matter what it is that you're doing.
600
You have to be fully your best.
601
You have to put in 200%.
602
You have no idea who's paying attention.
603
You're at that place exactly where you're supposed to be at that time.
604
There's nothing worse than someone that doesn't want to give it their all, no matter what it is.
605
And it could be, that's like, you know, business advice that I heard that always stuck with me and always was, even when I was working at a clothing store,
606
I was so happy to be there.
607
Organizing.
608
I did my, yeah, I did my absolute best that I could selling everything and steaming everything and hanging everything.
609
And I think those experiences just show you what you want to do in your life, show other people really what you're made of.
610
I'm just like a, I'm a really competitive person.
611
So no matter what it is that I'm doing, I want to be the best at that.
612
I want to learn everything about it.
613
And I'm just a super curious person.
614
Beautiful.
615
Question number four, things we've been talking about values what's something
616
that you used to value
617
that you no longer feel you value anymore definitely material designer things I used to value I mean
618
stuff I live in an area where there would be fires a lot
619
and there was probably four times we had to fully pack up the house, everything out, houses catching on fire,
620
property caught on fire, like really close to losing everything.
621
First time packed up my entire shoe and bag closet.
622
And a lot of them, cause they were memory stuff from my dad, stuff in high school, but all designer stuff.
623
Also videos, photos, whatever, digitized everything, put everything important somewhere else.
624
Second, pack up the designer stuff, but leave some, leave some of the clothes.
625
You know, I don't really need all the clothes, but I packed a hotel for months, bags, and every designer thing that I had, had to come.
626
Third time, leave all the bags and shoes.
627
I don't, I don't need them.
628
We got all the, we got all the photos.
629
We got all the, my little blankie when I was little, you know the kids stuff fourth time leave everything me
630
and my babies that's all I need you know I have
631
all my photos digitized I have everything digital we got our passports we're good
632
yeah and that like evolution of like they had to go in
633
and get all my designer stuff
634
or I'm not leaving my house you know it's going to catch on fire and now I'm like
635
nothing is worth it nothing is important and i think that comes from life experiences
636
scary experiences things shaking you to your core to make you realize
637
that nothing is important you can't i know everyone says this
638
but like you can't take it with you none of it is important yeah there's a beautiful islamic proverb that says
639
detachment doesn't mean that you own nothing.
640
It means that nothing owns you.
641
And I feel so often we become owned by our dreams, our desires, our pursuits, our things.
642
It doesn't mean that we have to give them all away or we don't have those things.
643
It's just if and when we have to let go, are we willing, are we able to let go?
644
Totally.
645
Even with work stuff, I mean, it doesn't just have to be the material things.
646
Like you said, like your dreams and it's okay to be able to let go, but work so hard to like the opposites are okay.
647
Contradicting yourself a little bit in those ways.
648
You know, it's like in, in relationships, you can love a person, miss a person so much,
649
but still have the wisdom to know they're not your person and you're better off not together,
650
that like opposite connection with everything, I think is really important to have that awareness in everything in life,
651
relationships, material things, all of that.
652
It's okay to feel a protection of a person,
653
but then also protecting yourself and realizing when you have to and when it's time.
654
And it's okay to feel all of the opposite emotions.
655
I think as long as you're really well aware and go through the motions and feel things and don't hold things in, it's so important.
656
I've always been someone like, okay, my dad died.
657
Why is this happening?
658
What was his purpose here?
659
And how are we going to grow and learn from this experience?
660
And I always said that like right when he passed and I felt it and super emotional about it and
661
you know cry all the time when great things happen
662
that I wish he was here
663
but also I had a wisdom at like a younger age to understand
664
that this is like a part of our journey and a part of our like evolution and This happens.
665
And this is why you have to hold on to relationships even more precious.
666
But don't let things destroy you at the same time.
667
If that makes sense.
668
Yeah, it does make sense.
669
I can tell just from your energy, like I just want everyone to know who's listening and watching.
670
Often people can say something, but the time I've spent with you, even today, I can tell from your energy that you are content and you are at peace and you are,
671
I can feel that just, yeah, peace.
672
Like that's what I'm with you.
673
I sense peace.
674
A lot of the time people try to find people when they're not at peace, hoping that someone else will put their pieces back together.
675
You are at peace.
676
Do you ever feel like you want to be in love again?
677
Do you, do you long for that?
678
Or are you so at peace that that isn't a consideration?
679
I think I'll always be a hopeless romantic
680
and always want to be in love and definitely love sharing my life with someone and love creating a life with someone.
681
I definitely will take my time.
682
And I think there's so many factors, especially when you have kids and being mindful of people that enter in your life.
683
And if I can look at everything that I did wrong
684
and try to not make the same mistakes and really take my time, but I'll always believe in love and I'll always want that.
685
And I think that's such a magical part of life.
686
But I think I'm so comfortable taking my time to not rush it there's so much going on that I'm not lonely.
687
And I think that that is really important.
688
And I believe, like I always believe, you know, and I think that, um, whatever's meant to be, will be.
689
Fifth and final question of the whole interview.
690
If you could create one law that everyone in the world had to follow, what would it be?
691
Take your time.
692
That's a good one.
693
Just second chances and fairness.
694
I think it could be something as simple as just whether it's in our system or judgment in life,
695
just making sure that everyone had like a basic human right to what's fair,
696
I think would change a lot in the system, would change a lot in life and allow for everyone to be kind.
697
It's that simple.
698
You think about like, all I want to do is raise kind, thoughtful, grateful, mindful human beings.
699
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Wortschatz und Sprechhinweise zu dieser Lektion
Diese Sprechübung basiert auf dem Video „Kim Kardashian's Life Fell Apart Before It Opened Up“. Dieses Video enthält 701 Sätze und 8537 Wörter zum Nachsprechen. Der gesprochene Teil dauert 47:52. Der Sprecher spricht in natürlichem Tempo, etwa 178 Wörter pro Minute, ähnlich wie im Alltagsgespräch. 89 % der Wörter gehören zu den 3.000 häufigsten im Englischen, der Wortschatz ist also leicht zu verfolgen.
Wichtiger Wortschatz in diesem Video
15 lernenswerte Wörter aus dem Video, mit Aussprache und Bedeutung:
| Wort | Aussprache | Bedeutung |
|---|---|---|
| lesson Substantiv | /ˈlɛs.ən/ | Lehrstunde, Stunde |
| compassion Substantiv | /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/ | Mitleid, Erbarmen |
| designer Substantiv | /dɪˈzaɪnɚ/ | Designer, Designerin |
| madness Substantiv | /ˈmæd.nəs/ | Wahnsinn, Verrücktheit |
| judgment Substantiv | /ˈd͡ʒʌd͡ʒ.mənt/ | Urteil |
| empathy Substantiv | /ˈɛmpəθi/ | Empathie, Einfühlung |
| curious Adjektiv | /ˈkjʊɹ.i.əs/ | neugierig |
| happiness Substantiv | /ˈhæpinɪs/ | Glück, Glücklichkeit |
| pace Substantiv | /peɪs/ | Schritt |
| mutual Adjektiv | /ˈmjuːt͡ʃuəl/ | wechselseitig, gegenseitig |
| loyal Adjektiv | /ˈlɔɪəl/ | loyal, treu |
| cousin Substantiv | /ˈkʌz(ə)n/ | entfernter Verwandter, entfernte Verwandte |
| evolution Substantiv | /ˌiːvəˈluːʃ(ə)n/ | Evolution |
| silly Adjektiv | /ˈsɪl.i/ | doof, dumm |
| survival Substantiv | /sɚˈvaɪ.vəl/ | Überleben |
Phrasal Verbs, die du hören wirst
| Wort | Aussprache | Bedeutung |
|---|---|---|
| open up Verb | öffnen | |
| grow up Verb | aufwachsen, erwachsen werden | |
| sit back Verb | sich zurücklehnen | |
| break through Verb | Durchbruch | |
| come out Verb | /ˌkʌm ˈaʊt/ | herauskommen |
| come up Verb | erscheinen | |
| come up with Verb | ausdenken | |
| drop off Verb | wegtreten, wegdämmern |
Sätze zum Wiederholen
Kurze, vollständige Sätze aus dem Video, die du im Alltag wiederverwenden kannst:
- What do you do?
- Do you get time alone?
- You don't have kids, do you?
- Have you experienced that with your friends, your family?
- Do you, do you long for that?
Grammatik in diesem Video
Die Strukturen, die der Sprecher am häufigsten verwendet, mit den genauen Worten aus dem Video:
| Struktur | Im Video |
|---|---|
| „Used to“ used to + Verb – eine frühere Gewohnheit oder ein Zustand, der nicht mehr gilt | used to judge · used to value |
| Present Perfect have/has + Partizip Perfekt – eine vergangene Handlung, die jetzt noch wichtig ist | you've been · has opened · has just grown |
| Passiv be + Partizip Perfekt – wichtig ist, was geschieht, nicht wer es tut | was always raised · I've been really blessed · was born |
| Relativsätze who / which + Satz – eine Zusatzinformation über eine Person oder Sache | friends who don · friend who messages |
Aussprache, auf die du achten solltest
Der Sprecher verwendet 264 Kurzformen und abgeschwächte Formen, zum Beispiel I'm, you're, don't. Sprich sie in der kurzen Form, so wie du sie hörst.
- Die „th“-Laute: empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/, clothing /ˈkloʊðɪŋ/, bath /bɑːθ/, gather /ˈɡæðɚ/, theirs /ðɛɚz/
- Die Laute „sh“ und „zh“: compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, evolution /ˌiːvəˈluːʃ(ə)n/, harsh /ˈhɑɹʃ/, selfish /ˈsɛlf.ɪʃ/, rush /ɹʌʃ/
- Lange Wörter – auf die Betonung achten: evolution /ˌiːvəˈluːʃ(ə)n/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, inspiration /ˌɪn.spɪˈɹeɪ.ʃən/, elementary /ˌɛləˈmɛntəɹi/, stability /stəˈbɪlɪti/
Laute, die Deutschsprachigen schwerfallen:
- /w/ — mit runden Lippen, nicht wie das deutsche „w“ (/v/): reward /ɹɪˈwɔɹd/, wisdom /ˈwɪzdəm/, workout /ˈwɝk.aʊ̯t/, weigh /weɪ/, awareness /əˈwɛɹ.nəs/
- Stimmhafter Auslaut — /b/, /d/, /g/, /z/, /v/ am Wortende nicht verhärten: reward /ɹɪˈwɔɹd/, talented /ˈtæləntɪd/, dive /daɪv/, evolve /ɪˈvɑlv/, surround /səˈɹaʊnd/
- /æ/ — offener als „ä“: compassion /kəmˈpæʃ.ən/, madness /ˈmæd.nəs/, happiness /ˈhæpinɪs/, manual /ˈmæn.j(u)əl/, talented /ˈtæləntɪd/
So übst du mit diesem Video
- Höre dir das ganze Video einmal an, ohne zu sprechen, und notiere die Wörter, die du nicht kennst.
- Beginne mit 0,75-facher Geschwindigkeit, sprich Satz für Satz nach und wechsle zur normalen Geschwindigkeit, sobald es leichtfällt.
- Nimm dich auf und vergleiche mit dem Original; achte dabei auf Wörter wie lesson, compassion, designer.
Was ist die Shadowing-Technik?
Shadowing ist eine wissenschaftlich fundierte Sprachlerntechnik, die ursprünglich für die professionelle Dolmetscherausbildung entwickelt und durch den Polyglotten Dr. Alexander Arguelles populär gemacht wurde. Die Methode ist einfach aber wirkungsvoll: Du hörst englisches Audio von Muttersprachlern und wiederholst es sofort laut — wie ein Schatten, der dem Sprecher mit nur 1–2 Sekunden Verzögerung folgt. Anders als passives Hören oder Grammatikübungen zwingt Shadowing dein Gehirn und deine Mundmuskulatur, gleichzeitig echte Sprachmuster zu verarbeiten und zu reproduzieren. Studien zeigen, dass es Aussprachegenauigkeit, Intonation, Rhythmus, verbundene Sprache, Hörverständnis und Sprechflüssigkeit signifikant verbessert — was es zu einer der effektivsten Methoden für die IELTS Speaking-Vorbereitung und reale englische Kommunikation macht.