Shadowing Practice: A Simple Habit That (Sort of) Fixed My Social Skills for Good. - Learn English Speaking with Video
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You suck at talking to people.
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That's what I told myself when I realized just how important it was.
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I thought that my people skills were absolutely fine.
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Still, no one listened to me and I was always anxious.
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Finally, when I tried to actually fix my people skills, they somehow got worse.
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Well, luckily, I found a trick that will solve this problem.
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And with enough practice, I turned it into a habit
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that planted the seed for social improvement and made me really stick out.
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And the best part, it's really straightforward.
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Like, seriously, let me show you.
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Oh lord, it's good to be here with you, Mr. O 'Brien.
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I'm in my chair.
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I'm sitting down.
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I'm sitting down.
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In high school, I always felt extremely lonely.
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I can remember a time where I said hi to my crush, and she just looked at me.
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It was really bad, and it wasn't like I had no friends.
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It was just I sucked at talking to people, so I had about two friends.
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So I did what any sane person would do, and I looked up advice on the internet.
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And when I saw it, I went...
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Nice.
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It said stuff like smile more and ask more questions be humble
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and for a moment it worked
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But it just made me fake granted most of it was valid advice
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But it was just too much
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and I tried to do it all at once like most people
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and that made it even worse
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So one day I was playing chess with my dad and it made me realize something really important and
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That was that I am shit at chess That left me wondering why why am I shit at chess?
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I mean, I watched a few 10 -minute videos about chess.
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Why am I no better?
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If I read a 10 -page book about chess in, say, 15 minutes, will I become a grandmaster?
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No. I thought to myself, of course not.
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That's stupid.
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So why would a 10 -minute video about social skills do the same?
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Well, it wouldn't.
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I realized that this wasn't the way.
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I realized people aren't computers.
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I mean, I can't just download a program, and then that program makes me become whatever I want in just one day.
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And that's when I realized that information alone is kind of useless.
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Memorization doesn't mean knowledge, and knowledge doesn't mean skill.
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It just means you know something.
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So I thought of a brilliant little idea about how to make everything I learn appliable to every single social situation.
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Now, in this video, I'm going to show you how to do it.
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But first, I'm going to tell you what it did to me, and how it improved my social skills forever.
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That's right.
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I'm not bullfitting you.
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I said forever.
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When I implemented this little habit into my life, I made all sorts of improvements.
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I started talking loud enough so people could hear me.
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I used to talk like a mouse.
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I started speaking more articulately because before I used to just trip over my words.
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And probably the best part was I became a much better listener who rarely ran out of things to say.
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And it might shock you because it's so simple.
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I'll explain afterwards.
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All I was doing was thinking more often in silence.
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How could such a simple thing have such amazing results?
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Well, it doesn't have amazing results.
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Unless you do it like this.
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I call it the pre -conversational thought habit or just the good habit
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and here's three steps on how to do it with the last one being the best one.
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First of all, we as human beings don't have the memory of elephants.
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I could watch a really short video but without action it wouldn't do anything.
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So at first I had to remember to do it consistently before it became a habit
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that came along naturally and this was done with a few simple approaches.
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Well one, I told myself every morning or I made it a daily goal.
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But by far one of the biggest changes I made was practicing something called diaphragmatic breathing.
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I actually encourage you look into this yourself because it made me personally feel a lot more present and relaxed.
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Okay, so now I remember to do it, but what do I have to do now?
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Well, I have to do it properly.
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I noticed quickly that just thinking for a small amount of time wasn't going to cut it.
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I was worrying about what I was going to say to the other person before they were even finished talking.
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This is stupid.
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Why on earth, I thought to myself, was I thinking of a response before the other person even finished talking?
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It's ridiculous.
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It's me making assumptions.
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So I need to think after they're finished talking.
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A quote in my rulebook is withhold evaluation until comprehension is complete.
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Then once the other person was finished, all I had to do was simply stop, think for a moment in silence and then talk.
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This did a couple of things for me.
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Well, first of all, I got a lot more articulate it.
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I started speaking really clearly straight off the bat.
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Another thing it did is I think it showed people just how much I cared
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because I took the time to really hear them out and formulate a proper answer.
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And people could really see that.
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Now the final step, this is the juiciest step.
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The reason I did the last two was so I could focus on the good stuff.
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Now, every single time I would go to talk to someone, I would remember that I'm trying to improve my social skills. And
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so I could focus on one thing at a time this
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could be being more authentic being kinder talking louder it could be anything
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and at the moment for me it's trying to be more authentic
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so now wherever i go and whoever i talk to i will always remember
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that i need to lock in
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and focus about being better at talking to people i'm going
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to be uploading a little bit less frequently than i have in the past, but you'll still see some stuff from me in the future.
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¿Qué es la Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing es una técnica de aprendizaje de idiomas respaldada por la ciencia, desarrollada originalmente para la formación de intérpretes profesionales y popularizada por el políglota Dr. Alexander Arguelles. El método es simple pero poderoso: escuchas audio en inglés nativo y lo repites en voz alta de inmediato, como una sombra que sigue al hablante con solo 1-2 segundos de retraso. A diferencia de la escucha pasiva o los ejercicios de gramática, el shadowing obliga a tu cerebro y músculos de la boca a procesar y reproducir simultáneamente patrones de habla reales. Las investigaciones muestran que mejora significativamente la precisión de la pronunciación, la entonación, el ritmo, el habla conectada, la comprensión auditiva y la fluidez al hablar, convirtiéndola en una de las metodologías más efectivas para la preparación del IELTS Speaking y la comunicación en inglés en el mundo real.