Pratique du Shadowing: The secret to self control | Jonathan Bricker | TEDxRainier - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec YouTube
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Translator: Emanuele Rossi Reviewer: TED Translators admin Let me tell you about my mom.
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Translator: Emanuele Rossi Reviewer: TED Translators admin Let me tell you about my mom.
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My mom was 42 years old when I was born, and she started exercising for the first time in her life.
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She started by running around the block, and then she started doing 5K races, and then she started doing 10K races.
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And after that, she ran a marathon, and after that, my mom did a triathlon.
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By the time she was 57 years old, my mom was trekking uphill to the base camp of Mt. Everest.
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(Laughter) And let me tell you about my dad.
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(Laughter) When I was a kid, my dad used to take me to science classes.
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He was also my calculus teacher in high school.
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(Laughter) I wanted to crawl under the desk.
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(Laughter) I learned something important from my mom: The value of health.
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And I learned something important from my dad: the value of science.
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And these two values have guided me on my trek through life, and they've helped me appreciate an epidemic that we are all facing.
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And it's not Ebola.
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Instead, it is the epidemic of unhealthy living.
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A half billion people worldwide are obese.
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And you would think that 50 years after the first U.S. Surgeon General's report on the dangers of tobacco was published we'd be beyond the problem of smoking.
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Today, a billion people worldwide use tobacco.
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Tobacco and obesity are two of the most preventable causes of premature death.
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Solving these problems is like trying to solve a jigsaw puzzle.
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We engage in unhealthy behaviors because of our genetics, because of brain neurotransmitters, because of environmental influences such as peers and the media.
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Each of those pieces of the puzzle are not things that you and I can solve on our own.
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But there is one piece of this puzzle that may hold the key: Our choices about what we do with our cravings to engage in addictive behaviors like smoking or overeating.
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Our choices.
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There is a new science of self-control that may hold the key to reversing these epidemics.
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It's called willingness.
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Willingness means allowing your cravings to come and to go, while not acting on them by smoking or eating unhealthy.
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But actually, I'm not talking about willpower, and I'm not talking about "power through your cravings." Instead, I'm talking about a different notion of cravings that looks like this: dropping the struggle with your cravings.
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Opening up to them, letting them be there, and making peace with them.
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Now at this point you may be very skeptical.
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(Laughter) I was when I first heard about it years ago.
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A friend of mine came to me with a book on willingness.
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He said, "Jonathan, this book will change your life forever!" And I said "Oh, OK... Yeah... yeah, I'll check it out." So I went through it and thought, "Nah, this is a bunch of psycho-babble," and tossed it aside.
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Until some years later when my wife brought me to a workshop on willingness at the University of Washington, and I was blown away.
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So then I read the book, and then I read a lot of books on willingness, and I got trained in it, and what I learned was that willingness is part of acceptance in the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy approach to behavior change.
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It's a broad approach to behavior change that's being used to help people with anxiety disorders, with addictions even some innovative companies are now using it to help improve their employees' performance and reduce their stress.
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Now, to understand why I was blown away, you have to understand the world I live in.
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In my research world, a common way you help people quit smoking and lose weight is you teach them to avoid their cravings.
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Avoid thinking about smoking, distract yourself from food cravings.
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There's a song from a Broadway show that captures this perfectly.
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It goes like this: (Singing) When you start to get confused because of thoughts in your head, don't feel those feelings, hold them in instead.
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Turn it off like a light switch just go click.
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We do it all the time when you're feeling certain feelings that just don't seem right.
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Treat those pesky feelings like a reading light and turn them off.
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(Laughter) (Applause) We all live in this world, where the song we keep hearing is "turn off the bad feelings." Now, let's take a look at these cookies.
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(Laughter) They just came out of the oven ooh, they are so good!
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Ah, they're so delicious.
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Mm-mm, just feel that craving to eat those cookies.
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Ooh, they're lovely, they're so good.
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Now, turn it off!
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(Laughter) Turn it off!
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You want those cookies even more now, right?
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You see the futility of trying to turn it off.
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You can't turn it off!
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And maybe you don't have to.
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Maybe, you can leave the light on.
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Here is how: My research lab at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center, here in Seattle, is conducting randomized clinical trials to see if showing people how to be willing to have their cravings is effective for quitting smoking.
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We are conducting trials and face-to-face interventions and a telephone quit smoking hotline and a website called webquit.org and in an app called SmartQuit.
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These technologies have the potential to reach millions of people with interventions that could save their lives.
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That's pretty amazing.
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And let me tell you about the data.
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When you pool together the results from six clinical trials, all six that have been published to date, including trials conducted by our colleagues, what we see is that for the people who were assigned to the avoidance approach - avoiding your cravings —- some of them quit smoking, and it varied depending on the study.
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However, for the people who were randomly assigned to the willingness condition, twice as many quit smoking.
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Very, very encouraging.
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Now, of course, the data only tell us one small part of the story.
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So, to help you see willingness in action, I'm going to weave together experiences I've had in counseling people for quitting smoking.
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And I'll together refer to them as one person that we'll just call Jane.
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So, as is typical of people who come in to want help for quitting smoking, Jane was a 45-year-old person who started smoking when she was a teenager.
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She tried to quit smoking several times and was not successful.
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So, she was very skeptical that anything "new" was going to be helpful to her for quitting, and yet she was really hopeful that this time would be different.
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So, the first thing that I showed Jane was to be willing, that is to be aware, of her cravings in her body.
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So to notice where she felt cravings in her body.
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And what I did was I asked her to journal that, and just to track the intensity over time, and to see if she'd smoke afterwards.
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So in the middle of explaining this, she stops me and says, "What are you talking about? I don't have cravings, I just smoke!" So I said, "Well, why don't you try it, and we'll see what happens, and if it doesn't work, we'll try something else." So she came back a week later and she said, "You know, I've been tracking my cravings, I've been tracking them all the time.
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And now I can't stop thinking about smoking!
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(Laughter) What am I supposed to do?" Well, before I tell you my answer, let'’s look behind the scenes.
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Now, what was probably going on here was that Jane was having cravings all along, and like a lot of us, she was living on autopilot.
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(Laughter) You wake up in the morning, you smoke a cigarette, you have a cup of coffee, you smoke a cigarette, you get in the car, you smoke a cigarette.
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We're often just not aware of what we think, what we feel before we act.
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So, my answer to Jane was to be willing, and one of the ways I showed her to do that was with an exercise called "I am having the thought".
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So, one of Jane's thoughts before she had a cigarette was, "I'm feeling a lot of stress right now, I really need a cigarette." So I asked her to add the phrase "I'm having the thought" like this.
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"I'm having the thought that I'm feeling a lot of stress right now I really need a cigarette." Then I asked her to add the phrase "I'm noticing I'm having the thought," so "I'm noticing that I'm having the thought that I'm feeling a lot of stress right now, I really need a cigarette." Now, we can all do an exercise like this when we have any kind of negative thought.
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Like for my thought that "I'm boring all of you with my talk" (Laughter) and I'm having the thought that I'm boring all of you with my talk.
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So, what this exercise did is it gave me a little bit of space between me and my thoughts.
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And it's in that space that I can choose not to run off the stage in front of 1,500 people.
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(Laughter) And the fact is we don't act on every thought we have, because if we did, we'd all be in a whole lot of trouble.
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(Laughter) So, this was helpful to Jane, but there was something else that was really difficult for Jane.
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I felt a lot of compassion for her about it.
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That was the judgment that she felt from people when she would be outside smoking a cigarette.
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The criticism from her husband for being a smoker, and the self-loathing that she developed about smoking.
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And she dealt with this shame by having a cigarette, which gave her relief temporarily until the shame came back.
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So, I said to Jane, "What would it be like if we tried to honor this feeling of shame as part of the human experience?
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If you had a close friend who is feeling shame about smoking,” I said to Jane, “what would you offer this friend as words of caring and kindness, and could you then offer those words to yourself, Jane?" And she looked up, and she had this look of this temporary respite from the shame, which made it just a little bit easier next time not to act on the craving.
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So, here is the secret to self-control: the secret to self-control is to give up control.
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Because otherwise, we get into a tug-of-war with a monster, a craving monster.
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And the craving monster says, "Come on, smoke a cigarette. Come on, have that cookie. Come on!" And you're on the other side saying, "No craving monster, I'm going to distract myself from you, I'm going to ignore you, no, no, no, no." And the craving monster says, "No, no, come on, you know you want it!" And you're just back here and you're going back and forth and back and forth and pretty soon the craving monster overpowers you — you have that cookie, you have that cigarette, until the craving monster comes back.
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And then you're in the tug-of-war again doing what we've learned how to do.
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Unless - unless you drop the rope.
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And what you discover is that if you just allow the monster to be, to occupy a space in your body, you discover in a few minutes that the craving monster is not as threatening as he appears.
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And sometimes, he even goes away.
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As we break for lunch, we're going to have choices of what to eat.
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(Laughter) When you see them, try to be aware of the cravings in your body, try to be willing to have those cravings.
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See if they pass on their own.
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Whatever choice you make, try to bring a spirit of caring and kindness to yourself, for that is the mountain that we are all climbing.
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Thank you very much.
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Context & Background
In the TEDx talk "The secret to self control," Jonathan Bricker shares personal anecdotes about his parents that connect to broader themes of health and self-control. He highlights the importance of making conscious choices in the face of cravings and unhealthy behaviors, arguing against traditional methods that involve suppressing these feelings. Instead, he introduces a concept known as "willingness," which is about accepting cravings without acting on them. His insights draw on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and provide a new perspective on personal health and behavior change.
Top 5 Phrases for Daily Communication
- "Let me tell you about my mom." - A personal introduction that engages listeners.
- "The value of health." - An affirmation of health's importance in life.
- "Our choices about what we do with our cravings." - Emphasizes personal responsibility.
- "I was blown away." - An expression of surprise or realization.
- "Make peace with them." - Suggests a reconciliatory approach to challenges.
Step-by-step Shadowing Guide
Using the concept of shadowing can be an effective way to engage with Jonathan Bricker's presentation and improve your English speaking practice. Follow these steps to enhance your practice and pronunciation:
- Listen Actively: Play the video and listen carefully to Bricker's speech. Focus on his intonation, rhythm, and pronunciation.
- Pause and Imitate: After each sentence or phrase, pause the video and attempt to repeat what you heard. Aim to emulate his delivery style. This is known as shadowspeaks, as you are mirroring his words in real-time.
- Analyze Vocabulary: Take note of key phrases and vocabulary such as "willingness" and "choices." Make flashcards with these terms to help improve your English vocabulary.
- Practice Regularly: Dedicate scheduled time each week to engage with this shadow speaking method. Consistent practice can significantly improve English pronunciation and comfort when speaking.
- Reflect on Your Progress: After each session, take a moment to assess how your shadow speaks are improving. Consider recording yourself to track changes over time.
By following the above shadowing guide, you'll not only develop your speaking skills but also connect with the deeper messages in Bricker's talk, enhancing your overall understanding of self-control and personal growth.
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.
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