쉐도잉 연습: 18 Habits That *INSTANTLY* Make You More Attractive (beyond looks) - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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In this video, I'm going to share 18 tiny habits that instantly make you a more attractive person.
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And all of these have nothing to do with your physical appearance or your face.
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It's all in your energy and the way you show up.
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Hey friend, welcome back.
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So let's just get right on into it.
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Number one, actually listening to the other person talking instead of just waiting to speak.
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Although it looks the same from the outside, the energy is completely different.
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And you've probably felt it.
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When someone actually truly is listening to you, and you feel seen and heard, you like that person more.
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Some people are just waiting to speak because they just like to talk about themselves.
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Other people are waiting to speak and thinking about what they're going to say because they're anxious.
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But either way, when that happens, you lack presence.
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And presence is beautiful.
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Presence is attractive.
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Number two, being regulated emotionally and not reactive.
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Having calm, grounded energy is attractive.
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Whereas being reactive and being triggered by people who you can just tell have really regulated nervous systems,
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there is something so beautiful about that and you want to be around them.
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Having a regulated nervous system makes you more attractive because it completely shifts your energy and your entire aura.
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Number three, people who are attractive have hobbies and passions.
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They actually have things that they care about
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and they do in their life that have nothing to do with work
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and they don't turn every single hobby and every single passion into a monetizable skill.
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People who have their own lives outside of, you know, just going They have interests.
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They have creative endeavors.
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They have depth to them, and that makes them magnetic.
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Their passion makes them magnetic.
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And these people are also curious, right?
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People who naturally try new hobbies and have these passions, they're naturally curious people.
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And naturally curious people are interesting.
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They're attractive.
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Number four, have a life that feels alive.
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Okay?
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Go do things.
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Get off the couch sometimes and go do things.
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Go places.
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Try new things.
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Say yes to new experiences.
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small ones, go to that new coffee shop, go take that new little pottery class that they're offering at the community center.
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Just last week, I saw Ludovico Aynotti, and if you don't know who he is, he's a famous pianist and composer, and I've never been to a concert like that, and it was wonderful.
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It was beautiful.
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I thoroughly enjoyed it.
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Travel can be huge for this as well.
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You know, people who have stories, people who are engaged with the world, who actually live life, they're interesting,
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aura and it makes them magnetic.
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It makes them attractive.
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Number five, assume people like you.
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If you assume that you are an attractive person and that people like you, people are more likely to treat you that way.
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You show up in that way and people mirror that back to you.
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And if you assume people don't like you, the same is true in reverse.
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People start to subconsciously mirror that back to yourself.
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This is not being entitled or obnoxious.
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This is just being confident and confident energy rushing through everything.
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Rushing energy is anxious energy, but when you slow down and move in a softer way, in a more confident way, again, there's a presence to that.
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There's a confidence to that.
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There's a magnetic energy about that.
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Why isn't she rushing?
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Why is she so calm?
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What does she have figured out?
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What does she know that I don't?
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Again, it goes back to the regulated nervous system.
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People with regulated nervous systems tend to not rush so much.
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It all kind of comes back to without seeking validation.
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You don't need to ask everyone's opinions before you decide on something, and you don't need to over -explain why you decided what you decided.
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You do not have to over -explain your decisions, your actions, your feelings.
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When you over -explain, you're trying to justify it.
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You're trying to subconsciously get approval and get validation from the other person.
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So when it comes to what outfit you're going to wear
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when you go to dinner with your girlfriends or what job confident in your decision.
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That confidence completely shifts your energy and the way people see you.
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Even if they don't agree with the choices you made or they think your outfit that you chose is ugly, it doesn't matter.
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That confidence is magnetic.
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And number eight, attractive people that people want to be around.
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Those people are excited for life.
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Those people romanticize the life.
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They still celebrate all of the little holidays and they still get excited for a little date night
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make you attractive and people want to be around that kind of energy.
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So romanticize life.
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Be excited by the little things.
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Be excited to try that new coffee shop that just opened a few blocks from your apartment.
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Celebrate milestones.
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Celebrate birthdays.
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I love people who are excited by life.
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Almost everybody does because it feels good to be around them.
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Number nine, people who come off as attractive are able to respectfully disagree with people.
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Here's what I mean.
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Like think about the a certain value related to something, that's fine.
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That's great.
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Everyone can have their own opinions and their own values.
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But when you come across someone who disagrees with that opinion, or maybe has a different set of values, how do you react?
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The people who react by yelling and shaming the other person and getting all aggressive and being all triggered, that's unattractive.
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It is so unattractive.
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But when you can have grace during a disagreement, that is attractive.
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Whether that is grace with someone you disagree with on the internet, or having grace with a disagreement that you have with your partner,
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or having grace with the disagreement you have with a family member.
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But being able to have that grace and being able to say, we agree to disagree, that's okay.
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That shows that you have nothing to prove.
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Again, that you have a regulated nervous system.
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Being able to do that takes maturity and emotional intelligence.
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And not everyone has that.
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But if you do, that makes you way more attractive.
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Number 10, keep promises to yourself.
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Having discipline is a Attractive.
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Having self -commitment is attractive.
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Even if these promises to yourself are private and nobody knows about them, it still shifts your energy.
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It makes you a more powerful person and people can feel that.
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And next number 11, don't rush to fill awkward moments.
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Attractive people have this general ease within themselves and being able to be comfortable in silence, that shows ease within yourself.
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How do you react in that situation?
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Are you comfortable with it or are you resisting it?
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Are you calm in that or do you immediately get anxious?
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That difference in how you react and how you respond to awkward moments, any awkward moments, it reveals something about yourself.
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Number 12, remember small details about people.
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This instantly makes you more attractive.
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This is the kind of thing that people don't forget.
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Whether you remember the name of someone's dog or the fact
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that this person's daughter just started ballet and she told you about that last to take her daughter, her first daughter to ballet.
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Remembering that this person hates cheese.
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People love this, people will remember you.
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It's thoughtful, it's a kind thing to do, and it signals you care.
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And being a genuinely good person makes you a more attractive person.
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Number 13, speak with confidence and certainty, but not arrogance.
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And there is a difference.
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And even science has shown that people who speak with certainty are more well -liked.
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And this is really interesting.
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even if they were wrong, right?
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They spoke with certainty, but their diagnosis were wrong.
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Their patients actually liked those doctors more simply because they spoke with certainty.
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When you speak with confidence and certainty, it comes off as attractive.
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People like it.
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People gravitate to you more.
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Number 14, being able to laugh at yourself.
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Okay, embarrassment is a choice.
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Everybody makes mistakes.
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Everybody has weird moments.
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Everybody has awkward moments.
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That is a part It shows you're confident, you're emotionally secure, you're a playful person,
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all of that is attractive.
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Number 15, have goals and a sense of direction, even if those things change over time.
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They probably will change over time and that's okay.
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It's not about having it all figured out, it's about being in motion towards something, caring about something, being passionate about something,
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and caring about things is attractive.
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Number 16, give people your full attention.
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You can feel that.
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You like people more when they are present with you.
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When you are talking to them and they're actually looking at you, making eye contact, they're not looking out around the room and messing with their hair and messing with their clothes,
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or the worst, picking up their phone and texting someone and ignoring you.
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Give people your full attention.
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Real presence is becoming rare, but that's what makes it so powerful.
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That's what makes it so attractive.
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Number 17, you don't always need to win.
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You don't always have to prove your point.
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don't always have to be right.
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Not needing to win all the time and prove your point is one of the most underrated subtle forms of confidence.
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This is more than just being able to have grace with a disagreement.
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This is different.
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This is deeper than this.
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Sometimes that connection matters more than being right and it matters more than winning.
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But also sometimes we're wrong and that's okay.
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Sometimes the most attractive thing you can do is be like, oops, "My bad, I'm sorry." Or, "You know what?
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I see your point and that makes sense." Or even, "I know what's true for me and that's good enough." I don't need to win you over.
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And this leads me into my last point, number 18, being at ease with yourself and having radical self -acceptance.
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This has nothing to do with the way you look, but it will completely shift the way people see you.
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When you are at ease with yourself, when you are confident with yourself, when you think that you're beautiful, when you like who you are, when you're at peace with who you are,
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it radiates from your aura without you needing to do anything.
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And people who are comfortable in their own skin.
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It's undeniable.
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It's simple.
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Sometimes if you want people to perceive you as more attractive, you have to decide to see yourself as attractive first.
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This is where real beauty
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and real attractiveness starts are you at ease with yourself with how you are
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and how you look and all of your features
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or are you fighting yourself because the first is much more confident much more attractive
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and much more magnetic and
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that is why you need to go watch this video here
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the psychology of being hot it's all about how hot is a mindset
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and if you think that's delusional i highly recommend you watch this video first before you jump to conclusions
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so i'll see you over there
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or i'll just see you next time in my next video thank you so much for watching bye
이 수업에 대해
이번 수업에서는 매력적인 사람으로 거듭나기 위한 18가지 작은 습관에 대해 배울 것입니다. 이 습관들은 외모와는 관련이 없으며, 주로 우리의 에너지와 행동 방식에 관한 것입니다. 여러분은 실제로 사람들과 대화할 때 어떻게 더 매력적으로 보일 수 있는지를 이해하게 될 것입니다. 이 수업을 통해 적극적으로 듣고, 감정을 조절하며, 다양한 취미와 관심사를 가지는 것의 중요성을 익히게 됩니다. 이러한 요소들이 영어 발음 교정과 의사소통 능력에 어떻게 긍정적인 영향을 미치는지도 배울 것입니다.
핵심 어휘 및 구문
- presence (존재감): 타인과의 관계나 대화에서 느껴지는 존재감
- regulated nervous system (조절된 신경계): 감정이 고요하게 유지되는 상태
- passions (열정): 개인적 관심사나 취미
- magnetic (매력적인): 사람을 끌어당기는 성질
- shadow speech (쉐도우 스피치): 원어민의 말을 따라하며 발음을 연습하는 기법
- curious (호기심이 많은): 새로운 경험이나 지식에 대해 탐구하려는 자세
연습 팁
이 영상을 기반으로 shadow speak를 연습하는 것은 언어 능력을 향상시키는 데 큰 도움이 됩니다. 이번 영상은 발음이나 억양이 강조되지 않은 자연스러운 대화 스타일로 진행됩니다. 따라서, 속도에 적응하기 위해 여러 번 반복해서 듣는 것이 좋습니다. 특히 감정 조절과 주의 깊은 경청을 표현하는 음성을 따라할 때, 그 에너지를 느끼는 것이 중요합니다. 처음에는 느린 속도로 따라하고, 익숙해지면 점차 속도를 높여 보세요. 유튜브 영어 공부를 하는 과정에서 다양한 주제와 발음 스타일을 접하면 IELTS 스피킹 같은 시험 준비에도 도움이 될 수 있습니다. 중간중간 자신의 목소리로 복사하여 발음을 교정해 보세요. 이러한 연습은 영어 소통 능력과 발음을 개선하는 데 효과적일 것입니다.
쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법
쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.