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Hello everyone and welcome back to Mr. English Channel,
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where learning English is easy and fun.
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I'm Emily.
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Hi Emily!
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Hey everyone, it is so great to be here with you today.
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We have a really important topic to talk about.
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We do.
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Today we are talking about how a simple conversation can change everything.
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It can even save a life.
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Yeah, that sounds like a heavy topic,
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but it is actually a beautiful thing to think about.
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Totally.
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It is about connection.
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It is about how we talk to each other every day.
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So, Emily, let me ask you something.
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How many times today did someone ask you, how are you?
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Oh, probably four or five times already.
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It's just automatic, right?
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Exactly.
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And what did you say every single time?
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I said, I'm fine, thanks.
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Even if I was feeling tired.
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Right.
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We all do that.
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In English, we use how are you like a simple hello.
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We really do.
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We do not usually expect a long answer.
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We just say we are fine and keep moving.
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But sometimes people are not fine.
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Sometimes they're hiding a lot of pain.
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That is so true, Paul.
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People often hide their pain behind big smiles.
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Why do you think we do that?
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Why do we hide how we really feel?
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I mean, nobody wants to be a problem.
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We don't want to bother our friends.
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Yeah, I know that feeling.
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You think, my friend is busy.
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I shouldn't complain.
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Exactly.
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We think we have to be strong all the time,
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but keeping it inside is really hard.
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It is exhausting.
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And that is why one conversation is so powerful.
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Absolutely.
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Just one person taking the time to really ask, are you okay?
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And not just the automatic,
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how are you, but a real, slow, honest question.
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Right.
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Like saying, you seem a little quiet today.
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Is everything all right?
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Yes.
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That is a great phrase for our listeners to learn.
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You seem a little quiet today.
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It shows that you are paying attention.
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You notice them.
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And noticing someone can make them feel so loved.
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It makes them feel visible.
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Totally.
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Sometimes people feel invisible when they are sad.
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They really do.
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And, you know, you do not have to fix their problems.
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That's a huge point, Paul.
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Can we talk about that for a second? For sure.
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I think we always want to fix things when our friends are sad.
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Yes.
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If my friend says she's stressed,
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I immediately want to give her a plan.
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I do the exact same thing.
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I become a life coach immediately.
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But most of the time,
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they don't need a life coach.
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They just need a friend.
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Right.
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They just need someone to listen.
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True listening is a rare gift.
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It really is.
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Just sitting with someone and saying, I am so sorry.
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That sounds really hard.
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That phrase is perfect.
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That sounds really hard.
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It validates their feelings.
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Yes.
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It tells them that their pain is real.
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And it is okay to feel it.
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So, what happens when we listen like that?
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What changes?
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It takes the weight off their shoulders.
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They do not feel alone anymore.
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Exactly.
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When you share a heavy bag with someone, it becomes lighter.
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That is a beautiful way to say it, Paul.
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And sometimes that lightness is what helps them keep going.
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Yeah.
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When people are in deep pain,
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sometimes they want to give up.
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is the hardest part.
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The idea of giving up means losing hope completely.
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But a simple message or a phone call can interrupt that dark moment.
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It brings a little light into the room.
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It reminds them that someone cares.
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So let's talk about reaching out.
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How do we do it naturally?
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Good question.
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What is a simple way to check on a friend?
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A text message is a great start.
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It's low pressure for the other person.
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Totally.
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You can just text, Hey,
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I was just thinking about you.
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I love that message.
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It's so simple, but it feels so good to receive.
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It does.
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It means, out of nowhere,
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you were on someone's mind.
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And you do not even have to ask them how they are doing.
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Just let them know you are there.
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Right.
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You can say, hope you are having a good week.
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No need to reply.
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No need to reply is the best phrase ever.
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It removes all the stress.
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Exactly.
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The person feels loved, but they don't feel forced to have a long talk.
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But sometimes a text is not enough.
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Sometimes a phone call is better.
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When do you decide to call instead of text?
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I think if I know my friend is really struggling,
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hearing a voice is different.
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It is.
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A voice has emotion.
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You can hear their warmth.
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Yeah, and they can hear your sincerity.
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They can hear that you really care.
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Even if the phone call is short,
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just five minutes can change their whole day.
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Absolutely.
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You can say, Hey, I only have a minute,
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but I wanted to hear your voice.
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That is beautiful.
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I wanted to hear your voice.
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It makes people feel so special.
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And if they do want to talk, you are right there.
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You created a safe space.
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What do you mean by a safe space in English?
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It means an environment where you will not be judged.
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You can be honest.
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I love that.
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We all need a safe space.
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We all need that one safe friend.
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Hey, speaking of friends, let's take a quick moment to thank our amazing listeners.
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Yes!
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If you are enjoying this conversation,
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please take a second to like this video.
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And do not forget to subscribe to the channel so you never miss an episode.
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Also, share this video with a friend who is learning English.
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Maybe it will be the conversation they need today.
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And let us know in the comments who's the person you call when you need a safe space.
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Oh, that is a great question for the comments.
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I cannot wait to read them.
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Me too.
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Okay, let's get back to the topic.
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Let's talk about body language.
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Body language is huge.
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Sometimes people say, I'm fine,
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but their body says the opposite.
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Right.
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Like when someone avoids eye contact,
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they look down a lot.
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Or if they are sighing a lot.
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A heavy sigh usually means heavy thoughts.
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Exactly.
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Or maybe they're just cancelling plans all the time.
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Oh, that is a big sign.
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When someone stops doing things they usually love.
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Yeah.
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If your friend always loves movies,
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but suddenly never wants to go, pay attention.
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That is when you need to reach out.
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Not to pressure them, but to check in.
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You could say, Hey, I noticed you haven't been coming out lately.
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Are you okay?
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That is a very kind way to say it.
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I noticed.
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It shows you care.
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And if they say they are fine,
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but you know they are not, what do you do?
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That is tricky.
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You don't want to force them to talk, right?
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Exactly.
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You cannot force vulnerability.
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They have to be ready.
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So, I usually say, OK,
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well, I'm always here if you want to talk later.
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That is perfect.
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You leave the door open.
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They know you are available.
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And sometimes they will text you two days later and say,
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actually, I do need to talk.
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Yes, because they remembered that you left the door open for them.
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Have you ever had a moment like that,
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Paul, where a small message helped you?
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Oh, definitely.
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A few years ago, I was going through a really hard time.
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I remember that.
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You were working so much and feeling completely burned out.
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Yeah, I felt completely overwhelmed and I was just hiding it from everyone.
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You did a good job hiding it.
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You were always smiling at work.
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But inside, I was just exhausted.
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And then a friend sent me a random text.
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Really?
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What did the text say?
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It just said hey man you've been working hard i'm proud of you oh wow
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that is incredibly sweet how did it make you feel honestly i cried a little bit
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it just hit me at the exact right moment it is amazing how
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that works that friend had no idea how much you needed to hear that.
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Exactly.
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He just sent a quick message,
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but for me, it changed my whole week.
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It gave you energy.
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It reminded you that your hard work was seen.
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Totally.
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And that's why I believe so strongly that one conversation can save a person.
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It is true.
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Because pain grows when we are isolated.
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Connection stops the pain.
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Right.
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Isolation is the real enemy.
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When we feel alone, problems look huge.
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But when we talk about them, the problems shrink.
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They become manageable.
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That is a great word for our students, manageable.
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It means you can handle it.
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Exactly.
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With a friend, everything is more manageable.
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So, how can we practice being that kind of friend in English?
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Well, learning the vocabulary of empathy is really important.
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Empathy.
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The ability to understand and share the feelings of another person.
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Yes.
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We need to learn phrases like,
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I am here for you, or take your time.
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Take your time is a great one.
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It removes the rush from the conversation.
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And if you want to practice using these phrases,
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we have an amazing tool for you.
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We sure do.
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You guys should definitely try practicing with Mr. English AI.
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Yes, Mr. English AI is our smart assistant designed specifically for you.
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You can practice all the phrases from today's episode with it.
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It is so easy to use.
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It is a safe space to make mistakes and improve your English conversation skills.
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You can chat with it anytime, anywhere.
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It helps you get comfortable with real conversations.
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Exactly.
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The link is right down there in the video description.
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Go check it out.
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It is a game changer for your learning.
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Seriously, you will love it.
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Alright, so getting back to our topic,
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what if we are the person who is struggling?
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Oh, that is the other side of the coin.
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It is hard to ask for help.
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It is the hardest thing in the world.
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Saying, I am not okay,
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takes a lot of courage.
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It really does.
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We feel like we are failing if we admit we are sad.
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But admitting it is actually a sign of strength.
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It means you're fighting back.
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I love that perspective, Emily.
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Reaching out for help is an act of bravery.
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It is.
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So how do you do it?
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How do you tell a friend you are hurting?
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You can keep it simple.
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You can say, hey, I'm having a rough day.
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A rough day.
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That is very natural English.
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It means a hard or difficult day.
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Right.
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And you can add, do you have some time to chat later?
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That is a perfect way to ask.
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It respects your friend's schedule, but shows your need.
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And most friends will say,
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of course, let's talk right now.
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True friends will drop everything to help you out.
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They really will.
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People are generally very kind when given the chance.
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We just have to give them the chance.
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We have to let them see our real faces.
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Exactly.
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Drop the fake smile. Be real.
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Have you ever told someone you were fine and they didn't believe you?
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Oh, my mom.
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She always knows.
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She has a radar for it.
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Moms always know.
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You cannot hide anything from a mom.
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You really can't.
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She will just look at me and say,
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no, you are not fine.
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Talk to me.
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That is because she knows your baseline.
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She knows your normal behavior.
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Right.
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And that is what good friends do, too.
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They learn your normal.
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So when you act differently, they notice immediately.
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Which is why spending time with people is so important.
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You have to build that history.
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Absolutely.
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You cannot read someone's body language if you never see them.
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So, invite your friends for a coffee.
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Go for a walk together.
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Yes!
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A walk is the best time to talk about deep things.
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Really?
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Why do you think a walk is better than sitting at a table?
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Because you are not making direct eye contact the whole time.
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It is less intimidating.
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Oh, that is so true.
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You are looking at the trees, walking forward.
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It feels easier to talk.
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Exactly.
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It's a natural movement, so the conversation flows naturally too.
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I also think driving in a car is a great place for hard conversations.
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Yes!
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The car is a magical place for honesty.
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Same reason, no direct eye contact.
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You just look at the road,
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play some soft music, and talk.
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Those are the moments where real connection happens, where healing starts.
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What about humor?
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Can laughing together help someone who is in pain?
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Oh, absolutely.
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Laughter is a release of tension.
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It is very healing.
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I agree.
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Sometimes you do not need to talk about the sad thing.
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You just need to laugh.
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Yes.
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You just need your friend to remind you that joy still exists.
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Exactly.
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A good friend can bring a little bit of joy into a dark room.
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But, again, you have to be careful.
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You should not make fun of their pain.
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Never.
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The humor has to be gentle.
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It has to come from a place of love.
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Like sharing a funny memory or telling a silly story about your own day.
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Yeah, like the time I spilled coffee all over my shirt before a big meeting.
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I remember that.
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You had to wear a jacket all day in the summer.
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It was terrible, but telling that story always makes people smile.
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It shows that life is still messy and funny,
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even when things are hard.
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And that is the message we want to give to someone who is struggling.
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We want to say, life is hard right now,
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but we will get through this.
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We, not you.
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That is an important difference in English.
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Yes.
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We will get through this means you are not doing it alone.
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I am with you.
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It is a promise of teamwork, a promise of friendship.
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Do you think technology has made us more connected or less connected?
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That is a deep question.
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I think we are more connected to information,
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but maybe less to each other.
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I agree.
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We see everyone's pictures, so we think we know how they are doing.
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But a picture is not a conversation.
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A like on a photo is not a phone call.
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Exactly.
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We need to go past the screen.
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We need to hear their voice.
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So, the challenge for everyone listening today is simple.
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Yes.
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Think of one person in your life who has been a little quiet lately.
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Just one person.
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And today, send them a message or give them a call.
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You don't have to be a hero.
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You just have to be a friend.
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Just say, hey, I'm thinking of you.
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Hope you're okay.
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It might seem like a small thing to you,
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but to them, it could be everything.
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It could literally be the reason they decide to keep going today.
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That is the power of our words.
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Let's use them to build people up.
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I love that, Emily.
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This has been such a wonderful conversation.
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It really has.
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I feel so lucky that we get to talk about these important things.
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Me too.
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And we're so glad that all of you are here learning with us.
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Learning English is not just about grammar and vocabulary.
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Right.
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It is about connecting with other human beings around the world.
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It is about sharing our stories and supporting each other.
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Exactly.
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And you guys are doing an amazing job.
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Keep practicing.
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Yes!
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Thank you all so much for watching and listening today.
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Do not forget to subscribe,
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leave a comment, and drop a like on the video.
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We will see you in the next episode of Mr. English Channel.
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Bye everyone!
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Take care everyone!
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See you next time!
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