์‰๋„์ž‰ ์—ฐ์Šต: She Says Physical Touch Is EVERYTHING ๐Ÿ˜ณ - ์˜์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ธฐ

๋ ˆ์Šจ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š” ์ค‘...
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How important is intimacy in a relationship?
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Intimacy to me is very important in a relationship.
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I need my partner to want to have that intimate time with me
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and cuddle whenever we want to cuddle and be able to come back home after dinner and just love on each other.
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How often do you need intimate activities?
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I would say at least three or five times a week.
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Pretty often, I would say.
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So close to the daily mark?
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Yeah, probably daily.
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I love physical touch, so that's me.
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I love it.
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What are your love languages?
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Definitely physical touch.
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I would say physical touch and quality time.
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So, you know, I love going out on dates
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and then coming back home and cuddling on the couch watching our favorite show.
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And it'll turn into whatever it'll turn into.
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And then it might, something else might spice up.
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It might be spicy.
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What's the longest you'd be willing to go without intimacy in a relationship?
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I think that's a tough question.
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I would almost have to say maybe two months.
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That's a long time, but two months, I think it really depends on the relationship I have with that person.
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And we would have to communicate about that.
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But I think two months.
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If I'm going two months, they have to have some health problems going on.
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It's got to be heavily justified.
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Yeah.
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No, I agree.
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Something's got to be going on.
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Some really personal issues got to be going on.
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But that's why I think communication is important.
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Yeah, communication is key and I think that you have to communicate.
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I'm surprised with how many relationships I hear about where they do not communicate about those things
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and they just let time pass.
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Yeah, no, I agree.
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I know friends that have been together two years
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and they have problems with each other and they're not intimate with each other and I just think, you know, break up.
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I think it's very important to have that with the partner.
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And more than likely, they're probably not having any conversations wrapped around it.
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Yes.
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No, I think a lot of people are uncomfortable with a lot of those questions.
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And that's something that I'm very comfortable with.
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And I'm very open with my partner and stuff like that.

์ด ์ˆ˜์—…์— ๋Œ€ํ•˜์—ฌ

์ด๋ฒˆ ์ˆ˜์—…์—์„œ๋Š” ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ์˜ ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ๊ณผ ์‹ ์ฒด์  ์ ‘์ด‰์˜ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ฐฐ์šธ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ง„์†”ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ์—ฐ์ธ๊ณผ์˜ ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ต์„ ๊ฐ•ํ™”ํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ฐ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ๋˜๋Š”์ง€๋ฅผ ์ดํ•ดํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ธฐํšŒ๋ฅผ ์ œ๊ณตํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ, ์นœ๊ตฌ์™€์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๊ฐœ์„ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์˜ ์˜ˆ์‹œ๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ƒ๊ฐ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•๋„ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๋‚ด์šฉ์„ ๋ฐ”ํƒ•์œผ๋กœ ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋Šฅ๋ ฅ์„ ํ–ฅ์ƒ์‹œํ‚ฌ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์ฃผ์š” ์–ดํœ˜ ๋ฐ ํ‘œํ˜„

  • ์นœ๋ฐ€๊ฐ (Intimacy) - ๊ด€๊ณ„์—์„œ์˜ ๊ฐ์ •์  ๋ฐ ์‹ ์ฒด์  ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์‹ ์ฒด์  ์ ‘์ด‰ (Physical Touch) - ์„œ๋กœ์˜ ๋ชธ์„ ๋งŒ์ง€๋Š” ํ–‰์œ„๋กœ, ์• ์ • ํ‘œํ˜„์˜ ํ•œ ํ˜•ํƒœ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์˜์‚ฌ์†Œํ†ต (Communication) - ์„œ๋กœ์˜ ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด๋‚˜ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•˜๋Š” ๊ณผ์ •์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์˜ ์–ธ์–ด (Love Languages) - ๊ฐ ๊ฐœ์ธ์ด ์‚ฌ๋ž‘์„ ๋А๋ผ๊ณ  ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฐฉ์‹์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์†Œํ†ต (Connect) - ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•˜๊ณ  ์œ ์ง€ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ด€๋ จ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ์งˆ๊ฐ (Spicy) - ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ๊ฐ์ •์„ ๋” ์ƒ์ƒํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ์šฉ์–ด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
  • ๊ฐ€์ • (Home) - ์ผ์ƒ์ ์ธ ์ปดํฌํŠธ์กด์œผ๋กœ, ๊ฐ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ํŽธ์•ˆํ•จ์„ ๋А๋ผ๋Š” ์žฅ์†Œ๋ฅผ ๋œปํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์—ฐ์Šต ํŒ

์ด ์˜์ƒ์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋™์•ˆ shadowing ์—ฐ์Šต์„ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ง„ํ–‰ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋งค๋„๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋ฐœ์Œ๊ณผ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ์„ ์ตํžˆ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด, ์˜์ƒ์˜ ์†๋„์— ๋งž์ถฐ ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ค‘์š”ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. videos์˜ ์†๋„๋Š” ์ค‘๊ฐ„ ์ •๋„๋กœ ์„œ๋กœ ๋Œ€ํ™”ํ•˜๋Š” ์ƒํ™ฉ์„ ๋ฐ˜์˜ํ•˜๋ฏ€๋กœ, ์ฒ˜์Œ์—๋Š” ๋А๋ฆฌ๊ฒŒ ๋”ฐ๋ผ ํ•˜๋‹ค๊ฐ€ ์ ์ฐจ ์†๋„๋ฅผ ๋†’์—ฌ๋ณด์„ธ์š”. ๋˜ํ•œ, ์œ ํŠœ๋ธŒ ์˜์–ด ๊ณต๋ถ€๋ฅผ ํ†ตํ•ด ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ์ฃผ์ œ๋ฅผ ์ ‘ํ•˜๋ฉด์„œ ๊ด€๋ จ ์–ดํœ˜๋ฅผ ํ™•์žฅํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์˜์–ด ๋ฐœ์Œ ๊ต์ •์„ ์œ„ํ•ด, ๊ฐ ๋Œ€์‚ฌ๊ฐ€ ๋๋‚œ ํ›„ ์ž ์‹œ ๋ฉˆ์ถฐ์„œ ๋ฐœ์Œ์„ ํ™•์ธํ•˜๊ณ , ๋ฐœ์Œ์ด ์ž˜ ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ๋ถ€๋ถ„์€ ๋ฐ˜๋ณตํ•ด์„œ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•˜์„ธ์š”. shadowspeaks์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ์‹ค์Šต์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ๋ณด๋‹ค ์นœ์ˆ™ํ•œ ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์ฒด๋“ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์œผ๋ฉฐ, ์‹ค์ œ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ๋„ ์ž์‹  ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ์˜๊ฒฌ์„ ๋‚˜๋ˆŒ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์‹ ๋ขฐํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” shadow speech ์ž๋ฃŒ๋ฅผ ํ™œ์šฉํ•ด ์—ฐ์Šต์˜ ํšจ๊ณผ๋ฅผ ๋†’์ด์„ธ์š”.

์‰๋„์ž‰์ด๋ž€? ์˜์–ด ์‹ค๋ ฅ์„ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ๊ณผํ•™์  ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

์‰๋„์ž‰(Shadowing)์€ ์›๋ž˜ ์ „๋ฌธ ํ†ต์—ญ์‚ฌ ํ›ˆ๋ จ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฐœ๋ฐœ๋œ ์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์Šต ๊ธฐ๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ, ๋‹ค์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์ž์ธ Dr. Alexander Arguelles์— ์˜ํ•ด ๋Œ€์ค‘ํ™”๋œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์›๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋งค์šฐ ๊ฐ•๋ ฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค: ์›์–ด๋ฏผ์˜ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ๋“ค์œผ๋ฉด์„œ 1~2์ดˆ์˜ ์งง์€ ์ง€์—ฐ์œผ๋กœ ์ฆ‰์‹œ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ๋‚ด์–ด ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒโ€”โ€”๋งˆ์น˜ '๊ทธ๋ฆผ์ž(shadow)'์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ํ™”์ž๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌธ๋ฒ• ๊ณต๋ถ€๋‚˜ ์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ธ ์ฒญ์ทจ์™€ ๋‹ฌ๋ฆฌ, ์‰๋„์ž‰์€ ๋‡Œ์™€ ์ž… ๊ทผ์œก์ด ๋™์‹œ์— ์‹ค์‹œ๊ฐ„์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žฌํ˜„ํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ›ˆ๋ จํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด ์ด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ๋ฐœ์Œ ์ •ํ™•๋„, ์–ต์–‘, ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ, ์—ฐ์Œ, ์ฒญ์ทจ๋ ฅ, ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ ์ฐฝ์„ฑ์„ ํฌ๊ฒŒ ํ–ฅ์ƒ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. IELTS ์Šคํ”ผํ‚น ์ค€๋น„์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์˜์–ด ์†Œํ†ต์„ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ํŠนํžˆ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.