쉐도잉 연습: The Japanese System for Breaking Bad Habits & Addiction | Kaizen & Ikigai Philosophy - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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There was a
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man who smoked for 20 years.
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He tried everything to quit.
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Nicotine patches, therapy, medication, even hypnosis.
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He spent thousands of dollars and years of his life fighting this habit.
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Then he traveled to Japan for work and met an old monk who taught him something that changed everything.
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Within three months, he quit smoking completely and not through force or willpower.
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The monk showed him a completely different way, a way that felt almost too easy to be true.
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What if everything you know about breaking bad habits is backwards?
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What if the very act of fighting against your habits is what gives them power.
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What if there was a way to let habits fade away naturally without the exhausting battle,
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without needing constant willpower and without the endless cycle of trying and failing.
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The Japanese have understood something about human nature that we in the west are only beginning to discover.
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They don't see habits as enemies to defeat.
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They don't believe in using force against yourself.
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Instead, they have developed a gentle system that works with your mind, not against it.
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And the results speak for themselves.
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The problem with force.
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We see this pattern everywhere in Western approaches to change.
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We join gyms in January with intense workout plans, only to give up by February.
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We delete social media apps in a big show of a digital detox only to reinstall them days later.
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We make grand promises and set impossible standards, then feel shame when we not surprisingly fall short.
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The Japanese approach starts from a completely different idea.
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Instead of viewing habits as enemies to defeat, they see them as patterns that once had a purpose.
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Every habit, even the destructive ones, began as a solution to some problem.
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The smoker who reaches for a cigarette during stress once found comfort there.
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The overeater who binges at night once found comfort in food.
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Understanding this changes everything.
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There was once a Japanese monk who struggled with anger.
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Every day small irritations would build until he exploded at his students.
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He tried everything to control his temper.
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He meditated for hours, repeated mantras, even fasted for days.
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Nothing worked.
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The harder he fought his anger, the stronger it seemed to become.
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Then an older monk told him something that changed his life.
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Stop trying to get rid of your anger, he said.
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Instead, become curious about it.
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Watch it like you would watch a cloud passing through the sky.
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Notice when it arrives, how it feels in your body, what thoughts come with it.
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But do not judge it or fight it.
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Simply observe.
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The young monk doubted this would work but tried this approach.
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When anger arose, instead of pushing it down, he would quietly note to himself, anger is here.
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He would feel where it lived in his body, usually as heat in his chest and tension in his jaw.
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He would notice the thoughts that fuelled it, often stories about how things should be different.
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Within weeks, something surprising happened.
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The anger began to lose its power.
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By observing it without judgement, he had created space between himself and the emotion.
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He could feel anger without being controlled by it.
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Eventually, the anger visited less often and when it did come, it passed through quickly like a summer storm.
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Understanding impermanence, this principle forms the foundation of the Japanese approach to breaking habits.
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They understand that nothing lasts forever, including cravings and urges.
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When you really understand this, it changes everything.
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That desperate need for a cigarette will pass.
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That overwhelming urge to check your phone will fade.
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That craving for alcohol will come and go like a wave.
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Consider how most people handle cravings.
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When someone trying to quit sugar feels the urge for dessert, they either give in right away or try to distract themselves.
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Both approaches treat the craving as an emergency that must be resolved.
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The Japanese method suggests a third way.
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Acknowledge the craving, feel it fully, but do not act on it.
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Sit with the discomfort like you would sit with a friend who is upset.
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Be present with it, but do not try to fix it.
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A businessman in Tokyo used this method to quit his 20-year smoking habit.
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Instead of throwing away his cigarettes, he kept them on his desk.
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When the urge to smoke arose, he would pick up a cigarette, hold it, smell it and fully experience the craving.
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Then he would set a timer for 10 minutes and tell himself he could smoke when it rang.
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During those 10 minutes, he did not distract himself or fight the urge.
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He simply sat with it, observing how it moved through his body like a wave.
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He noticed it would get strongest around 3 minutes, then gradually fade away.
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By the time 10 minutes passed, the intensity had usually decreased enough that he could choose not to smoke.
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This was not about willpower.
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It was about understanding the nature of cravings.
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They feel permanent in the moment, but they are actually quite brief.
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Most cravings last between 3 and 5 minutes at their strongest.
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If you can surf that wave without being pulled under, you discover something powerful.
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You are not your cravings.
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You are the awareness that observes them.
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The art of Kaizen.
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The Japanese have another concept called Kaizen, which means continuous small improvement.
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Western culture loves dramatic transformations.
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We want to go from couch potato to marathon runner overnight.
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We want to quit all our bad habits at once and become completely different people by next Monday.
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This all or nothing thinking sets us up for failure.
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Kaizen takes the opposite approach.
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Instead of trying to change everything at once, you change 1% at a time.
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If you want to break a habit of watching 4 hours of television each night, you do not suddenly go cold turkey.
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You reduce it by 5 minutes.
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That's it.
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5 minutes less today than yesterday.
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This seems almost insultingly small to the western mind.
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We want big changes and we want them now.
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But this misunderstands how the brain actually changes.
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The brain pathways that support habits were built over years or decades.
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They cannot be demolished overnight.
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They must be gradually rewired.
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And this happens through small, consistent actions.
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A woman in Kyoto used Kaizen to break her shopping addiction.
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She did not cut up her credit cards or promise to stop shopping forever.
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She started by waiting one day before making any online purchase.
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If she still wanted the item after 24 hours, she could buy it.
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This tiny change began to break the habit of needing it right away.
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After a month, she extended the waiting period to two days, then three.
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Within six months, she was waiting a full week before any purchase
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and by then she found she rarely still wanted the items.
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This gradual approach works because it does not trigger the brain's alarm system.
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When you make dramatic changes, your nervous system sees this as danger and activates resistance.
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You experience this as overwhelming cravings, anxiety and an almost impossible urge to return to the familiar pattern.
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But tiny changes slip under the radar.
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The brain does not register them as threats so there is no massive resistance.
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The power of replacement.
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There is also the concept of Ikigai, your reason for being.
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Many habits stick around because they fill an empty space in our lives.
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We smoke because we are stressed.
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We overeat because we are lonely.
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We scroll social media because we are bored.
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Unless we address the real, underlying need, breaking the habit leaves an empty space that demands to be filled.
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The Japanese approach says to find what truly gives your life meaning
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and gradually replace the destructive habit with something that matches your Ikigai.
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This isn't just about swapping one thing for another.
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It is about discovering what you are really seeking through the habit and finding a genuine way to meet that need.
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A programmer who drank heavily every evening discovered through reflection that he was not addicted to alcohol itself.
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He was addicted to the transition it provided from work stress to personal time.
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Alcohol was his ritual for shifting gears.
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Once he understood this, he developed a new transition ritual.
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He would change into comfortable clothes, make tea and spend 10 minutes sketching something he had loved as a child but hadn't used in years.
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This was not just replacing one habit with another.
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It was understanding the deeper need and meeting it in a way that aligned with his true values.
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The sketching reconnected him with a creative part of himself.
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As this positive pattern strengthened, the pull of alcohol naturally weakened.
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The practice of self-compassion The Japanese also understand something crucial about shame and self-criticism.
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In the West, we often try to motivate ourselves through harsh self-talk.
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We call ourselves weak when we slip up.
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We use shame as a whip to drive ourselves forward.
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But shame does not create lasting change.
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It creates a cycle of rebellion and self-sabotage.
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When you shame yourself for a habit, you create an inner split.
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Part of you becomes the harsh critic and part becomes the rebellious child.
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These parts war against each other, wasting enormous energy that could be used for actual change.
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The Japanese approach emphasizes self-compassion.
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When you slip up, you treat yourself like you would treat a good friend who was struggling,
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with kindness, understanding and gentle encouragement to try again.
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This is not about making excuses or avoiding responsibility.
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It is about recognizing that lasting change comes from self-acceptance, not self-hatred.
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You cannot hate yourself into becoming someone you love.
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You can only grow from a foundation of basic self-respect and compassion.
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A teacher who struggled with emotional eating discovered this principle after years of failed diets.
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Every time she ate something bad, she would punish herself with harsh words.
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This only made her feel worse, which triggered more emotional eating.
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It was an endless cycle.
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She learned to practice a new kind of self-acceptance.
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When she overate, instead of launching into criticism, she would simply note what happened without judgment.
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I ate more than my body needed.
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That is a fact, not a moral failing.
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Then she would get curious.
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What was she feeling before she ate?
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What need was she trying to meet?
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This gentle inquiry, from shame allowed her to start recognizing patterns.
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She overate when she felt unappreciated at work, when she felt lonely on weekends, when she was anxious about money.
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With this awareness, she could start addressing the real issues instead of just fighting the symptom.
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Building new paths The Japanese system also recognizes that breaking a habit is not actually about breaking anything.
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It is about building something new.
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You do Do not destroy an old pattern so much as you grow beyond it.
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Like a tree that grows around a fence until the fence becomes irrelevant, you develop new patterns that make the old ones unnecessary.
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This is why the Japanese focus on creating positive routines rather than just eliminating negative ones.
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They understand that nature hates a vacuum.
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If you simply remove a habit without replacing it with something meaningful, you create an unstable situation.
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The old pattern will likely return because it serves some function even
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if that function is just filling time or providing familiar comfort.
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Think of habits like well-worn paths through a forest.
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You have walked the same route so many times that the path is clear and easy to follow.
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Even if the path leads somewhere you no longer want to go, your feet naturally follow it because it is the path of least resistance.
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You cannot simply erase the path but you can create a new one.
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At first the new path is difficult.
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You have to push through branches, step carefully over unfamiliar ground.
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It requires conscious effort and attention.
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But each time you walk the new path, it becomes a little easier.
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The grass gets trampled down, the root becomes clearer.
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Meanwhile, the old path, unused, begins to grow over.
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Eventually, The new path becomes the natural, easy choice.
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This is exactly how brain pathways work.
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The more you use certain connections, the stronger they become.
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The less you use others, the weaker they grow.
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Change is not about willpower.
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It is about repetition.
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It is about patiently walking the new path again and again until it becomes automatic.
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A man struggling with social media addiction applied this principle in a really smart way.
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Instead of deleting all his apps and relying on willpower, he created a new morning routine.
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He placed a book next to his bed where his phone usually sat.
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In the morning, instead of immediately reaching for his phone, he would read one page.
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This seemed almost too simple to work.
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But that was exactly why it did work.
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Reading one page was so easy that he never felt resistance to it.
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And once he read one page, he often felt like reading more.
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Within a month, he was reading for 30 minutes each morning.
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The phone scrolling had not been eliminated through force.
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It had been replaced by something more satisfying.
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The path forward.
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The Japanese understand that lasting change happens in harmony with your nature, not in opposition to it.
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You are not conquering yourself.
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You are not defeating your weaknesses.
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You are growing into a fuller version of who you already are.
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The habit you want to break is not your enemy.
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It is a teacher showing you where you are out of alignment with your true self.
이 수업에 대하여
이번 수업에서는 일본의 "카이젠"과 "이키가이" 철학을 통해 나쁜 습관을 극복하는 방법을 배웁니다. 나쁜 습관이나 중독을 심리적으로 대하는 방식을 바꿔 자연스럽게 해결하는 방법에 대해 이야기하며, 이는 언어 학습에도 적용할 수 있는 원리입니다. 심리적 요소를 고려하며, 습관을 적대시하기보다는 관찰하고 이해하려는 접근을 통해 영어 스피킹 능력을 향상시켜 나갈 것입니다.
핵심 어휘 및 표현
- 습관 (habit): 반복적인 행동이나 방식.
- 감정 (emotion): 인간의 심리적 반응.
- 관찰하다 (observe): 주의 깊게 살펴보는 행동.
- 경험 (experience): 어떤 일을 통해 얻는 지식이나 감각.
- 자연스럽게 (naturally): 강요하지 않고 발생하는 방식.
- 불안 (anxiety): 불안정한 상태나 감정.
- 불확실성 (uncertainty): 확실하지 않은 상태.
- 해결 (solution): 문제를 해결하는 방법.
연습 팁
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또한, 유튜브 영어 공부를 통해 실제 대화를 자연스럽게 익히는 것이 중요합니다. 자신이 느끼는 감정을 영어로 표현해보고, 이를 통해 자신의 감정과 습관을 관찰하는 연습을 해보세요. 이 과정에서 IELTS 스피킹 시험과 관련된 표현도 응용할 수 있습니다.
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