์‰๋„์ž‰ ์—ฐ์Šต: Their Mood Isnโ€™t Your Responsibility. ๐Ÿ‘‰ IG:@robdialjr #selfdevelopment #selflove #motivation - ์˜์ƒ์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๊ธฐ

๋กœ๋”ฉ ์ค‘...
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Let me teach you something that'll free up a lot of your energy.
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Stop assuming that people are mad at you.
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Stop reading into their tone, their silence, their one-word texts, and making assumptions.
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You're not a mind reader, and it's not your job to manage somebody else's emotions anyways.
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Your job is to show up with honesty and with kindness.
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If something is wrong, it's their responsibility to say it, and if they don't, well then that's on them.
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Every time that you make up stories in your head, you abandon your own peace.
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So stop carrying what was never yours to hold.
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Let people be adults.
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And until they speak up, you need to live your own life.

์ด ๋น„๋””์˜ค๋กœ ๋ฐฐ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹ค๋ ฅ

์ด ๋น„๋””์˜ค๋Š” ์ž๊ธฐ ์ฃผ์žฅ๊ณผ ๊ฐ์ • ๊ด€๋ฆฌ์— ๊ด€ํ•œ ๋‚ด์šฉ์ด์ง€๋งŒ, ์˜์–ด ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹ค๋ ฅ์„ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ๋ฐ๋„ ์œ ์šฉํ•œ ๋‘ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๊ธฐ์ˆ ์„ ๋‹ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ฒซ์งธ, ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ตฌ์–ด์ฒด ํ‘œํ˜„์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "Stop assuming that people are mad at you"์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฌธ์žฅ์€ ์ผ์ƒ ๋Œ€ํ™”์—์„œ ํ”ํžˆ ์“ฐ์ด๋Š” ๊ตฌ์กฐ๋กœ, ๋ถ€์ • ๋ช…๋ น๋ฌธ๊ณผ ๋ช…์‚ฌ ์ ˆ์„ ๊ฒฐํ•ฉํ•ด ์ง์ ‘์ ์ธ ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋ฅผ ์ „๋‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋‘˜์งธ, ๊ฐ•์กฐ์™€ ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ์„ ํ†ตํ•ด ์˜๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ•ํ™”ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ™”์ž๋Š” "your job", "honesty", "kindness" ๋“ฑ์˜ ํ‚ค์›Œ๋“œ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ•์กฐํ•ด ์ฃผ์š” ๋ฉ”์‹œ์ง€๋ฅผ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ํ•˜๊ณ , ๋ฌธ์žฅ ๊ฐ„์˜ ์‰ผํ‘œ๋ฅผ ์ด์šฉํ•ด ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ์„ ์กฐ์ ˆํ•ด ๋“ฃ๋Š” ์ด๊ฐ€ ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ๋”ฐ๋ผ๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Š” IELTS ์Šคํ”ผํ‚น๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์€ ์‹œํ—˜์—์„œ๋„ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์š”์†Œ๋กœ, ํ‰๊ฐ€์ž์—๊ฒŒ ๋ช…ํ™•ํ•˜๊ณ  ์„ค๋“๋ ฅ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ฐœํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ฃผ๋Š” ๋ฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋“ฃ๊ณ  ์ฃผ๋ชฉํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋ฐœ์Œ ํŠน์ง•

์˜์–ด์˜ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ ๋ฐœ์Œ๊ณผ ์ถ•์•ฝํ˜•์€ ๊ตฌ์–ด์ฒด์—์„œ ์ž์ฃผ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚˜๋Š” ํ˜„์ƒ์œผ๋กœ, ์ด๋ฅผ ์ž˜ ์ธ์‹ํ•˜๊ณ  ๋”ฐ๋ผํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด native-likeํ•œ ๋ฐœ์Œ์„ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ๋Š” ํ•ต์‹ฌ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋น„๋””์˜ค์—์„œ๋„ ๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ํŠน์ง•์ ์ธ ์˜ˆ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, "Let me teach you"์—์„œ "me"์™€ "teach"๋Š” /miห/์™€ /tiหtสƒ/๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹Œ /miหtสƒ/๋กœ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ๋˜์–ด ๋ฐœ์Œ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ, "it's not your job"์—์„œ "it's not"์€ /ษชts nษ‘หt/๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ /ษชts nษ‘หt/์—์„œ /t/๊ฐ€ ์•ฝํ™”๋˜์–ด /ษชts nษ‘ห/๋กœ ๋ฐœ์Œ๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. "Stop reading into their tone"์—์„œ "reading into"๋Š” /riหdษชล‹ ษชntuห/๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹Œ /riหdษชล‹tuห/๋กœ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ๋˜์–ด ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ํ๋ฆ„์„ ๋งŒ๋“ญ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ ๋ฐœ์Œ์„ ์ธ์‹ํ•˜๋ฉด, shadowing practice๋ฅผ ํ•  ๋•Œ ๋” ์‰ฝ๊ฒŒ ์›์–ด๋ฏผ์˜ ๋ฐœ์Œ์„ ๋ชจ๋ฐฉํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์›์–ด๋ฏผ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•: ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ๊ณผ ๊ฐ•์กฐ

์˜์–ด์˜ ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ์€ ๊ฐ•์„ธ์™€ ์•ฝ์„ธ๊ฐ€ ๋ฒˆ๊ฐˆ์•„๊ฐ€๋ฉฐ ์ด๋ฃจ์–ด์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ํŠน์ง•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด ๋น„๋””์˜ค์˜ ํ™”์ž๋Š” ๋ฌธ์žฅ์—์„œ ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ๋‹ด๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋‹จ์–ด์— ๊ฐ•์„ธ๋ฅผ ๋‘์–ด ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ์„ ํ˜•์„ฑํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, "Your job is to show up with honesty and with kindness"์—์„œ "job", "show up", "honesty", "kindness"์— ๊ฐ•์„ธ๋ฅผ ์ฃผ์–ด ๋ฌธ์žฅ์˜ ์ค‘์‹ฌ์„ ๋ช…ํ™•ํžˆ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋˜ํ•œ, ๋ฌธ์žฅ์˜ ๋ ๋ถ€๋ถ„์—๋Š” ์ƒ์Šน intonation์ด ์•„๋‹Œ ํ•˜๊ฐ• intonation์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ด ํ™•์‹ ์„ ํ‘œํ˜„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ด๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” shadowing site๋ฅผ ์ด์šฉํ•ด ๋ฐ˜๋ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฐ์Šตํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ข‹์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. shadowspeak ๋˜๋Š” shadow speech์™€ ๊ฐ™์€ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ด ํ™”์ž์˜ ๋ฐœ์Œ, ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ, ๊ฐ•์กฐ๋ฅผ ์ •ํ™•ํžˆ ๋ชจ๋ฐฉํ•˜๋ฉด, ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์˜์–ด ๋ฐœ์Œ์„ ์ตํž ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํŠนํžˆ IELTS ์Šคํ”ผํ‚น ์ค€๋น„๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋Š” ํ•™์ƒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ์—ฐ์Šต์ด ๋ฐœ์Œ๊ณผ ์œ ์ฐฝ์„ฑ ์ ์ˆ˜๋ฅผ ๋†’์ด๋Š” ๋ฐ ํฐ ๋„์›€์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

์‰๋„์ž‰์ด๋ž€? ์˜์–ด ์‹ค๋ ฅ์„ ๋น ๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ํ‚ค์šฐ๋Š” ๊ณผํ•™์  ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•

์‰๋„์ž‰(Shadowing)์€ ์›๋ž˜ ์ „๋ฌธ ํ†ต์—ญ์‚ฌ ํ›ˆ๋ จ์„ ์œ„ํ•ด ๊ฐœ๋ฐœ๋œ ์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์Šต ๊ธฐ๋ฒ•์œผ๋กœ, ๋‹ค์–ธ์–ด ํ•™์ž์ธ Dr. Alexander Arguelles์— ์˜ํ•ด ๋Œ€์ค‘ํ™”๋œ ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ํ•ต์‹ฌ ์›๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ„๋‹จํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋งค์šฐ ๊ฐ•๋ ฅํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค: ์›์–ด๋ฏผ์˜ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ๋“ค์œผ๋ฉด์„œ 1~2์ดˆ์˜ ์งง์€ ์ง€์—ฐ์œผ๋กœ ์ฆ‰์‹œ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ ๋‚ด์–ด ๋”ฐ๋ผ ๋งํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒโ€”โ€”๋งˆ์น˜ '๊ทธ๋ฆผ์ž(shadow)'์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ํ™”์ž๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋ผ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋ฌธ๋ฒ• ๊ณต๋ถ€๋‚˜ ์ˆ˜๋™์ ์ธ ์ฒญ์ทจ์™€ ๋‹ฌ๋ฆฌ, ์‰๋„์ž‰์€ ๋‡Œ์™€ ์ž… ๊ทผ์œก์ด ๋™์‹œ์— ์‹ค์‹œ๊ฐ„์œผ๋กœ ์˜์–ด๋ฅผ ์ฒ˜๋ฆฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์žฌํ˜„ํ•˜๋„๋ก ํ›ˆ๋ จํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์— ๋”ฐ๋ฅด๋ฉด ์ด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์€ ๋ฐœ์Œ ์ •ํ™•๋„, ์–ต์–‘, ๋ฆฌ๋“ฌ, ์—ฐ์Œ, ์ฒญ์ทจ๋ ฅ, ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ ์ฐฝ์„ฑ์„ ํฌ๊ฒŒ ํ–ฅ์ƒ์‹œํ‚ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. IELTS ์Šคํ”ผํ‚น ์ค€๋น„์™€ ์ž์—ฐ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ์˜์–ด ์†Œํ†ต์„ ์›ํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ„๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ํŠนํžˆ ํšจ๊ณผ์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.