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I almost stayed stuck.
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I almost stayed stuck.
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Not because I didn't have dreams,
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but because I didn't understand what was blocking me.
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Then I read a book that gave it a name,
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The Upper Limit Problem.
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It explained everything.
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Why I kept self-sabotaging.
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Why I could never seem to break through no matter how hard I worked.
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This book didn't just inspire me, it saved me.
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And today I want to show you why.
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Now, I know some of you are thinking,
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just tell me the book already.
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And I get it.
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We will get there in a minute.
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But I want to give you a bit of context first,
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because where I was in my life when I found this book is the reason that it hit me so hard.
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Without that backstory, it won't really land in the same way.
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At the time, I almost didn't notice how stuck I'd become,
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because on paper, everything looked fine.
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I was working full-time as a family doctor.
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I had two healthy boys,
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eight and 13 at the time.
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A house, a routine, a life that looked completely respectable from the outside.
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But inside, I felt like I was slowly disappearing.
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Every day, I went to the clinic,
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sat in that same small exam room,
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and saw patients one after another,
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15 minutes at a time.
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Each interaction felt like a quick fix,
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patch them up, write the prescription,
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send them back out, knowing that they would probably be back in a few weeks with the same problem.
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And I remember thinking, this can't be it.
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This can't be all I'm here to do,
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handing out band-aids while ignoring the deeper wound underneath.
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The staff meetings at my clinic were even worse.
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Everyone else seemed energized and passionate and in their element.
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Meanwhile, I sat there quietly wondering why I felt like I was in the wrong room,
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like I'd wandered into someone else's life and just decided to stay.
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At home, I was barely keeping my head above water.
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I was that mom making school lunches at 6am,
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answering work emails with peanut butter on my hands,
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letting way more things fall through the cracks than I care to admit.
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The house was a mess,
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my energy was tanked, and every day felt like just surviving,
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lurching through life instead of living it.
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And yet the craziest part is,
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I didn't hate my life,
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I just couldn't feel it anymore.
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So in a small act of rebellion,
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I started taking lunchtime walks.
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Even though I always had a ton of charting and paperwork waiting for me,
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I would force myself outside no matter the weather,
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just to breathe, to get a little space from the noise.
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I'd pop in my earbuds and listen to podcasts,
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anything that made me feel alive or curious again.
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And one day on one of those walks,
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I heard someone mention a book called The Big Leap by Gay Hendrix.
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I don't know why, but something in me just knew I needed it.
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So I downloaded it that afternoon on Audible and that walk changed everything.
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If you've ever had that quiet suspicion that you're living the wrong version of your life,
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you might wanna stick around for this because what I learned from
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that book helped me to understand why I was stuck and how to finally get out of my own way.
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And by the way, if you want the full story of how I eventually left medicine,
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I will link that video right here.
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But for now, let's talk about the concept that started it all.
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So in The Big Leap,
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Gay Hendricks talks about something called the upper limit problem.
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And honestly, it explained so much about my life that I felt personally called out.
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He says we all have this internal thermostat.
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It's a kind of invisible ceiling for how much success,
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love, and happiness we'll allow ourselves to experience.
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And when life starts going too well,
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we subconsciously find ways to turn the temperature back down.
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At first I thought, okay sure,
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but that is probably for people with actual success problems like Oprah.
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Then I started recognizing myself on every page.
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So here's how it shows up.
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You land a big opportunity and suddenly you're convinced that you're an imposter.
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Or you finally get some momentum with your goals and you immediately reward yourself by taking your foot off the gas.
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Or maybe you have a great week
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and then pick a fight with your partner over something ridiculous like how they load the dishwasher.
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Not that I've ever done that.
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The point is, when we start to experience more joy or freedom than our nervous system is used to,
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part of us panics.
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Because good feels unfamiliar, and what's unfamiliar often feels unsafe.
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In 1978 psychologists coined a name for this self-handicapping behavior.
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It's a defense mechanism.
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Basically our brains would rather create a familiar problem than face the unknown of success.
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So we trip ourselves up just enough to stay inside what feels normal.
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And the wild thing is I could see this everywhere once I knew what to look for.
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Like for me, every time something started to flow in my side hustle,
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the business that I was building,
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I would suddenly get this urge to overhaul everything.
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New website, new niche, new business plan.
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It was disguised as being productive,
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but really I was afraid of what would happen if I just let things work.
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Or, and this one stung a bit,
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I would get physically sick right after a big milestone, like clockwork.
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Gay Hendricks actually calls that upper limiting through illness.
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It's your body's way of saying,
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this is too much happiness.
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Let's create a small disaster to balance things out.
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My immune system really understood the assignment.
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The truth is, it's not self-sabotage because we're lazy or broken.
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It's our mind trying to keep us safe.
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But that safety is also the prison.
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Once I understood the upper limit problem,
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I started seeing it everywhere in my life and not in an abstract way,
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in a wow, that is embarrassingly specific kind of way.
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At the time I was still working full time as a doctor,
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but as I mentioned I was trying to build my side hustle,
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creating wellness content and coaching and blogging and writing
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and then dabbling in YouTube and then switching to podcasting and then back to YouTube again.
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Basically, I was in perpetual beta mode.
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Always tweaking, never arriving.
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Every time I saw someone else rising in the coaching world,
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someone who looked confident and polished and like they'd figured it all out,
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I would immediately start doubting everything that I was doing.
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I would scrap my plans,
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rebrand, rewrite, rebuild, and start again from scratch.
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It looked like strategy.
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It was was actually fear wearing a productivity disguise.
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Then whenever things did start to pick up,
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a few new clients or a bit more visibility,
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something would knock me back down.
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Sometimes it was just one tiny comment from my kids like,
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You forgot to sign the permission slip again.
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Or you're always working.
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Instant shutdown.
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I would convince myself that I was being selfish,
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that I was failing as a mom,
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and I would hit pause on everything.
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No more clients, no more projects, no more momentum.
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I would retreat into the comfort of not trying too hard.
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And here's where it really got me.
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There came a time when I was starting to get some traction outside of medicine.
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I had been invited to speak at a few community events
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and people were starting to see me as a voice in wellness.
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And I remember thinking, maybe this is it.
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Maybe this is the direction that I'm supposed to go.
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And then I got offered a promotion.
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The clinic asked me to become the lead physician.
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It was flattering.
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It felt safe.
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And those little gremlins in my head started whispering, you're a doctor.
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That's who you are.
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This other stuff, this coaching,
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this YouTube videos, that's just dabbling.
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Be serious.
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Stay where you belong.
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So I did what a responsible,
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rational adult does when faced with a calling and a comfort zone.
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I chose the comfort zone.
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I said yes to the lead physician role and no to the speaking gigs.
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I told myself I didn't have the time anyway.
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But really, I was afraid of outgrowing the version of me that everyone else expected me to be.
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And that's the cruel irony of the upper limit problem.
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It doesn't show up as fear.
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It shows up as logic,
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as good decisions, as responsibility.
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And before you know it,
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you have traded your expansion for belonging.
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That's the moment that I realized the ceiling wasn't coming from the world around me.
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It was coming from inside me.
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So why do we do this?
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Why do smart, capable people,
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people who want to grow,
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why do we pull the emergency brake right when things start to work?
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Well, psychology has a few answers.
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For starters, our brains are wired to prefer the familiar over the fulfilling.
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It's called homeostasis.
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Your body and your brain's built-in drive to keep things stable.
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Even if stable means mildly miserable.
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When you start doing something new,
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building a business or writing a book or speaking up more,
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your brain doesn't recognize that as good.
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It recognizes it as different.
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And different feels like danger.
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There's research from Harvard psychologist Robert Keegan showing that most adults unconsciously resist change,
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not because they don't want to grow,
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but because the change threatens their sense of identity.
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In other words, we're not just afraid of failing at something new.
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We're afraid of losing who we've always been.
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And that ties straight into Carol Dweck's work on mindset.
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Now, if you've spent your life building an identity around being the reliable one or the high achiever,
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stepping into something uncertain, creative,
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public, or self-expressive, it can feel like breaking your own rules.
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Because if your value comes from being competent,
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then growth, which by definition requires being bad at things for a while,
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that can feel like an existential threat.
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And here's where the brain chemistry adds insult to injury.
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Every time you take a bold step,
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your amygdala, that's the part of your brain that's responsible for threat detection,
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it lights up like, whoa, who authorized this?
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It floods your system with stress hormones and your logical brain goes,
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aha, yes, see, proof that this is not safe.
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Your brain is basically that overprotective friend who means well but keeps you from doing anything remotely interesting.
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But the good news is awareness interrupts the pattern.
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Once you understand that discomfort is not danger,
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it's growth, then you can start to expand your internal thermostat.
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And that's exactly what I started experimenting with next.
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Once I understood what the upper limit problem actually was,
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I started treating it like an experiment.
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Because it's one thing to know that you're self-sabotaging
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and another thing to stop doing it when your entire nervous system is screaming at you to retreat to safety.
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So I started small, tiny,
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almost invisible shifts that helped me to expand what I could tolerate,
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not just in terms of success,
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but in terms of goodness.
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And there were three things that made the biggest difference.
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Number one, I started naming it in real time.
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Whenever I caught myself spiraling,
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overanalyzing an email, second guessing a decision,
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or randomly reorganizing my sock drawer instead of writing,
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I would literally stop and say, ah, upper limit moment.
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That tiny label created just enough distance for me to see what was happening instead of just automatically believing it.
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There's actually research showing that naming an emotion,
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what psychologists call affect labeling,
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it calms activity in the amygdala,
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that fear center of the brain.
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So every time I said it out loud,
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I was retraining my brain to see discomfort as data, not danger.
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And that awareness alone started to give me a little breathing room.
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A few seconds between the feeling and the reaction.
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Which, by the way, is where every transformation begins.
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Number two, I practiced expanding my capacity for good.
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This one surprised me because I thought that growth was about effort.
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Turns out it's also about allowing.
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When something good happened, a compliment,
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a breakthrough, a moment of ease,
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I noticed my reflex to immediately downplay it or move on.
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So instead, I started pausing and saying,
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what if I just let this feel good for 10 seconds longer?
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It sounds small, but it's actually rewiring your baseline.
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There's research from Rick Hansen,
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who is a neuroscientist who studies neuroplasticity,
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and his research shows that
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when you deliberately savor positive experiences even for a few extra breaths you literally strengthen the neural pathways for joy
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and confidence so i started practicing
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that letting myself feel good things fully instead of bracing for the crash
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and slowly life started to feel less like survival
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and more like expansion number three i began rewriting the story of who i was this was the hardest part
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because i had spent decades defining myself as a doctor.
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That identity was so tightly woven into my sense of worth that letting it stretch felt terrifying.
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But I started asking a new question.
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Who do I need to become to believe that I'm allowed this life?
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Instead of asking how can I achieve more,
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I asked who do I need to be to stop sabotaging what's already working?
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And that's when I started to see that identity wasn't fixed.
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It was flexible, like software I could update.
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Each time I showed up differently,
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took a risk, said yes to something aligned,
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I was quietly raising that internal thermostat.
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And one day, I looked around and realized that the ceiling I'd been living under wasn't even real.
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That realization changed everything.
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Because once you understand that the ceiling is self-imposed,
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you start asking much bigger questions about what is possible.
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Once I started recognizing those upper limit moments,
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my life didn't change all at once.
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It shifted slowly, in conversations,
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in small choices, in the way that I responded to opportunities.
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I started saying no to things that just didn't feel aligned,
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and yes to things that did,
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even if they scared me a little.
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I began seeing discomfort as information,
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not intimidation, and that shift quietly started changing everything.
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I remember the exact moment that I decided to resign from medicine.
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It wasn't dramatic.
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It wasn't angry or burned out.
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done.
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It was at the end of an ordinary clinic day.
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I was sitting at my desk,
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finishing up my chart notes,
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cup of tea beside me, fluorescent lights humming overhead.
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And as I looked back on the day,
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all the quick visits and the prescriptions and the rushing,
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something inside me just said, nope, that's it.
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I'm done.
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It was so clear.
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And honestly, it felt like relief.
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Like I'd finally stopped bargaining with myself.
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For years I had been waiting for permission.
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Permission to step outside the identity everyone else recognized,
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to want something beyond stability,
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to believe that fulfillment wasn't something you had to earn by suffering first.
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And in that moment I realized permission was never coming.
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I had to give it to myself.
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So I resigned.
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Not as an act of rebellion,
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but as an act of alignment.
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And for the first time I wasn't running away from something,
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I was moving towards something that felt more me.
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Of course it wasn't easy,
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people questioned it, I questioned it.
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But once you raise your upper limit, you can't unsee it.
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You can't go back to pretending that you're satisfied being smaller than you actually are.
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And what's incredible is, once I made that leap,
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everything I had been chasing started to meet me halfway.
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My business grew, my creativity came back,
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my energy, the thing that I thought I had lost forever,
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it started to return.
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And I realized that the big leap hadn't just changed how I thought about success.
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It changed how I thought about identity.
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Because the book isn't really about career or achievement.
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It's about expanding your capacity to live in alignment with who you truly are,
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without guilt, without apology, without waiting for permission.
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And that was my big leap,
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and it really did save me from wasting my life.
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If you're watching this and you have been feeling stuck,
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maybe not miserable, just underwhelmed by your own life,
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I want you to know something.
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You're not broken.
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You're probably just bumping up against your upper limit.
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That invisible ceiling that we all carry.
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It's built out of old stories about who we're allowed to be.
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Stories that say, you're too old to start over.
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You should be grateful for what you have.
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Who do you think you are to want more?
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But the truth is, you're allowed to evolve.
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You're allowed to outgrow a version of yourself that no longer fits.
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You're allowed to want more because you're ready for more.
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And if that idea makes you nervous,
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that's actually a good sign because it means that you're standing right at the edge of your next expansion.
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So if this video spoke to you,
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if you are ready to stop shrinking your life to match your comfort zone,
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I have created something to help you to take that first step.
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It's called the reset a free five-day challenge designed to help you to clear the noise
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and reset your focus and start expanding what's possible again.
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You'll get short daily emails,
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a printable tracker, and a few of the exact tools that I used when I started making my own leap.
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You can find the link below this video.
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And if you enjoyed this video,
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I think that you are going to love the video that I am linking on the next screen.
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It's called Three Habits That Quietly Stole 10 Years of My Life.
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It's the perfect companion to this one because those habits were the ones keeping my upper limit firmly in place.
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And I will see you there.
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I can't!
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The battery died as I said the very last word.
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that's ridiculous pretty sure i manifested that
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- Upper Limit Problem: 상한선 문제
- self-sabotaging: 자기 파괴적 행동
- patch them up: 치료하다, 수리하다
- deeper wound: 더 깊은 상처
- surviving: 생존하는 것
- rebellion: 반란
- energy tanked: 에너지가 바닥난
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