쉐도잉 연습: Why Does Jealousy Reveal Things We Don't Admit About Ourselves? | B1 English Shadowing - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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Have you ever felt jealous of someone and then felt bad about it?
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Maybe your friend gets a better job, someone you know starts a happy relationship,
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or a person your age buys a house while you are still trying to understand what you want in life.
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You may smile and say, I'm happy for you.
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And maybe you really are.
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But inside, another feeling may appear.
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You may think, why do they have that?
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Why don't I have it?
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Then you may feel guilty for thinking that way.
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We often think jealousy is a bad feeling, so we try to hide it.
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But jealousy can tell us something important.
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Sometimes it shows us something we want.
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Sometimes it shows us something we are afraid of.
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And sometimes It shows us a part of our life that we do not want to look at.
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This does not mean jealousy is always correct.
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It does not mean we should copy other people or try to get everything they have.
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But when jealousy appears, it can be useful to stop and ask one simple question, why does this bother me so much?
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The answer may tell us more about ourselves than about the other person.
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Imagine that your friend gets a new job.
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It is a good job, and the salary is much higher than yours.
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You say congratulations, but later, you start thinking about it again.
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You think about your own job.
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You think about how much you work.
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Then you start feeling unhappy.
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You may think you are jealous because your friend has more money.
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But maybe money is not the real reason.
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Maybe you want to feel successful too.
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Maybe you want people to respect your work.
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Maybe you are tired of doing the same job every day and want to change.
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Your friend's success may simply make you notice something about your own life.
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This can happen in many situations.
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You may feel jealous when someone travels because you also want to travel.
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You may feel jealous when someone speaks English very well because you wish you could speak with more confidence.
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You may feel jealous when someone starts a new business because you have had a similar dream for a long time.
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In these moments, jealousy can be like a small sign.
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It can say, look at this.
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This is important to you.
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Of course, not everything we feel jealous about is something we really want.
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Sometimes we only want it because other people think it is important.
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But sometimes jealousy helps us see a real wish that we have been ignoring.
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Maybe we have been too busy, too afraid, or too tired to think about it.
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Then we see someone else doing it, and suddenly that wish comes back.
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Jealousy can also come from a simple fear, the fear that other people are moving forward while we're staying in the same place.
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Think about two friends who are the same age.
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One gets married, buys a home, and gets a good job.
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The other is still looking for the right job and is not sure what to do next.
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The second friend may look at the first friend and think, everyone is moving forward except me.
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This feeling can become jealousy, but underneath it may be worry.
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We often have an idea in our mind about where we should be at a certain age.
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We think we should have a good job by this age, a house by that age, or a family by another age.
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Then we look at other people and compare their lives with ours.
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The problem is that life does not happen at the same speed for everyone.
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One person may find a good job at 25.
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Another may find it at 35.
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One person may know what they want early.
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Another person may need more time.
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When we compare ourselves with someone who is doing well, we may forget everything about our own story.
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We only see where they are now.
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We do not see their difficult years, their mistakes, or the things they worry about.
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We also forget that our own path is different.
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Someone else's progress does not mean we are failing.
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But when we are unhappy with our own situation, their success can make that feeling stronger.
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So sometimes jealousy is not saying, I want their life.
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It is saying, I am worried about my own life.
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And that is a very different problem.
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Not all jealousy is about money, jobs, or success.
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Sometimes it appears in relationships.
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Imagine that you have a close friend, and one day, they make a new friend.
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They start talking to that person more often.
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They laugh together, make plans together, and spend a lot of time together.
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You may feel jealous.
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You may think, maybe they like this person more than me.
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You may even become quiet or angry, although your friend has done nothing wrong.
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What is happening?
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Maybe you are afraid of losing your place in the relationship.
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You may not really dislike the new person.
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You may simply be afraid that you are not important anymore.
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The same thing can happen in romantic relationships.
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Your partner talks to someone at work and suddenly you feel worried.
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You may start asking questions or imagining problems that are not there.
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Sometimes the real fear is not they're talking to someone else.
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The real fear is what if they leave me?
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This is why jealousy can tell us about our own fears.
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We may be afraid of being forgotten, replaced, or not being good enough.
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These fears can make small situations feel much bigger.
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The important thing is to notice the difference between what is happening and what we are afraid might happen.
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Your friend can have another friend and still care about you.
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Your partner can talk to another person and still love you.
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Someone else getting attention does not always mean you are losing attention.
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When we understand this, we can deal with jealousy more calmly instead of letting it control what we say or do.
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So, what can you do when you feel jealous?
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First, do not attack yourself for having the feeling.
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Feelings can appear before we have time to choose them.
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You may feel jealous, but you can still choose how you act.
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Instead of saying, I am a terrible person for feeling this, try asking, what is making me feel this way?
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Maybe you want something that person has.
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Maybe you are afraid that you are falling behind.
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Maybe you are afraid of losing someone.
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Or maybe you are simply having a difficult time with your own life.
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Once you understand the reason, you can decide what to do.
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If you really want something, you can take a small step toward it.
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If you want to improve your English, practice for 15 minutes.
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If you want a better job, learn one new skill.
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If you want to travel, start saving a little money.
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You do not need to become the other person.
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You only need to work on your own life.
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And if your jealousy comes from fear, you may need something different.
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You may need to talk to someone, build more trust, or remind yourself that another person's success does not make you less important.
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Sometimes the best answer to jealousy is not getting what another person has.
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It is becoming more comfortable with your own life.
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You can be happy for someone and still want more for yourself.
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You can admire someone without trying to become them.
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And you can notice jealousy without letting it decide how you treat people.
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Jealousy is not always a sign that something is wrong with you.
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Sometimes it is simply a feeling that points to something important.
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It may show you a dream you have forgotten, a fear you have not talked about, or a part of your life that you want to change.
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The next time you feel jealous, try not to ask only, Why do they have what I want?
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Ask yourself, What does this feeling tell me about my own life?
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Maybe the answer will not be easy, but it may be honest. And sometimes,
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an honest answer is the first step toward making a change
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You do not need someone else's life to feel good about your own You only need to understand what you truly want,
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what you truly fear, and what small step you can take next You made it to the end Keep listening,
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keep speaking, and keep practicing You do not need perfect English.
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You just need to keep going one sentence at a time.
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