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A problem that a lot of people have with their career is that it can actually be a source of stress.

Because, you know, as human beings, we like the idea of certainty, but not knowing what actually we want to do with our career

or whether we're really going to enjoy it can actually be profoundly uncertain.

And even if you know what you want to do and what you enjoy, there's actually no guarantee that you're going to be able to turn that into a well-paying and successful career, which again, adds to the stress.

And so that translates into this career anxiety that a lot of us can feel, a lot of worries and apprehensions

and self-doubts about whether we're actually on the right path and whether we're actually truly fulfilled in our current jobs.

Now, a little while back, I spoke to a professor of behavioral science, Grace Lorden, who has written a book all about how to find and succeed in a career that you actually enjoy.

And so in this video, we're going to talk about seven evidence-based techniques that you can use to move more towards a career that you actually enjoy.

Tip one, task over title.

I've noticed a lot of times when I talk to people about careers, they're attached to a label.

So they want to be a trader or an investment banker, or they want to be a doctor, or they're attached to a lifestyle.

So they want to be able to go on a particular vacation or buy a particular car.

And the kind of Think Big Journey is really thinking about if I were to be a doctor, if I were to be a trader, what would be the tasks that I would be doing on a day-to-day basis?

And would I ultimately end up enjoying those tasks?

So the activities that I'm going to spend the time in.

Now, there's so many studies from the field of psychology

that show that a lot of your success in a career actually comes down to your happiness in that particular job.

And what Professor Lorden is saying is that if you focus too much on the title of the job, you can actually forget about what the day-to-day of the thing actually involves.

Now, this might sound super boring and obvious, but actually I've seen so many people

and I used to fall into this trap myself as well of thinking

that like the career title of life would be cool to be a neurosurgeon.

It would be cool to be a plastic surgeon.

But it was only after I started doing some research into this career stuff that I realized, hang on, instead of worrying about the title, I should actually be thinking about what will my day to day job involve as a neurosurgeon?

Is it actually as glamorous as the thing potentially sounds?

And this relates to an idea from Tim Urban called Pixel Theory, which is the idea that life is a picture, but we live in an individual pixel of that picture.

So basically what that means is that we might think of our life as being this broad brushstroke, beautiful painting of like, you know, what's our job title?

What are we doing for fun?

What are our kids?

Like this big kind of high level thing.

But actually a lot of your happiness is governed by the day to day.

Like what does your calendar look like on a given day?

And so when it comes to finding a job that you actually love, finding a career that you actually love, thinking about the day to day nature of the tasks rather

than the broad abstract nature of the job title is potentially one way to help with that.

Tip number two, visualize your me plus.

Now, this was actually one of my favorite ideas from the book.

The idea that you should visualize what me plus is going to look like.

And me plus is basically me or you, but it's like the plus version of you, kind of the version that you aspire to be.

And this is the exercise

that she's got in the book on how you can visualize what your me plus is going to be doing.

And so you can fill these questions out for yourself.

And I've actually written them in the video description.

So you can just have a look there if you feel like it.

But we're asking, you know, the overall big thinking goal for me plus is dot, dot, dot.

What is me plus's job title? which industry will Mi Plus be working in?

What's the company that Mi Plus is gonna be working for?

It might be your own.

Mi Plus will be running or working in a company that has the following characteristics.

And you can add in what sort of responsibilities you would want your Mi Plus role to have.

And then on the following page, we've got a few examples of what sort of tasks you might want your Mi Plus to actually be doing.

And then I've gone through and I've highlighted some of the stuff that's most relevant to me.

Like I want to be disrupting how people think about things, providing consultation advice to others, coaching and developing others, solving problems, updating and drawing on relevant knowledge, teaching and training, performing for the public,

creating and selling art, all of these different things

that I like the idea of being in a career where I'm doing these sorts of activities.

And so really the point here is that on this first page, when you're defining this me plus thing, you are kind of thinking about what's your job title

and what kind of what's the big picture of what you're going to be doing in this career that you really enjoy.

But then on the next page, you're kind of drilling more down into what are the specific tasks that you personally enjoy doing.

And once you know that, then you can start taking small steps towards achieving that particular thing and hopefully work towards the career that you actually enjoy.

A lot of the jobs that look exciting, they look exciting because on TV they're glamorized.

I mean, law always is one that comes into my mind.

And I think I would be a terrible lawyer

because the commitment to a day-to-day that's like six in the morning to eight in the evening is absolutely something

that you still need today, sadly.

But people don't know about that before they go in.

And I think when it comes to your Think Big journey, it's about what would the tasks that I would be doing in 10 years time?

How would I spend my Monday morning?

How would I spend my Tuesday morning?

Tip number three, audit your time.

Now, again, this is a pretty simple strategy that you can use to move more towards a career that you actually enjoy.

And it involves auditing your time.

During the week, writing down what you're actually doing, which you probably do already, but writing down whether or not you actually enjoy doing them.

Did you feel firstly a sense of purpose, that it was kind of leading you to a better place in five years time, or did you feel fun in the moment?

Okay, so how does this actually work in practice?

Okay, so what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna screenshot my calendar

and then I can use the screenshot to audit how I feel about how I'm spending my time.

And so if something on my calendar is really taking me towards me plus, I can do a double plus on there.

Then if something's taking me somewhat towards me plus, I can put a plus.

If something doesn't really help me get closer to me plus, then I can write plus minus.

And if there's something that's actively taking me away from the thing that I want, then I can do minus minus for that.

And so what Grace says in the book is that once you've figured out what these, in particular, what these minus minus things are, these are the things you actively wanna avoid.

These are the time sinkers.

I'm pretty lucky because I have built a career for myself that I actually enjoy.

And so I basically have zero minus minuses on my calendar.

But back when I was at university, back when I was working as a doctor, a lot of my stuff on the calendar would have been minus minus.

And I've slowly worked to kind of eliminate those things that drain my energy, that don't actually get me towards a career that I actually enjoy.

Tip number four, 13 minutes a day.

And so the other side of the coin here is

that we also want to be investing in activities that take us closer towards me plus, i.e. closer towards this career that we actually enjoy.

And when it comes to thinking about this, Professor Lorden talks a lot about the idea of compounding.

So when people are choosing to invest, we accept compounding very, very easily, right?

So we accept the idea actually that, you know, if we leave money in for a very long period of time, it's going to compound, so we're probably going to be okay in our pensions.

And it's exactly the same here when it comes to your career, like those very small things that you're going to do today.

And I asked for a commitment of 90 minutes a week, which for most people, regardless of how pressurized you feel, is very, very possible.

And when you do the maths, this is actually very doable.

90 minutes a week is just 13 minutes a day.

We can all invest 13 minutes a day in trying to invest in skills

or abilities that are going to help us develop a career that we actually enjoy.

And so, for example, if for you, part of building towards this career you enjoy is, for example, learning how to code, you can probably find 13 minutes a day to learn how to code.

Yes, you probably can't become absolutely pro in just 13 minutes a day, but it's definitely a skill that compounds over time.

Now, recently I also had the chance to interview Cal Newport who is a professor of computer science

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and who's written a bunch of books called Including Deep Work

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and So Good They Can't Ignore You about this sort of like study skills, productivity type stuff.

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And he talks a lot about career capital theory.

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Basically the idea is that if you want a career that you actually enjoy, It's not just something that's gonna fall into your lap.

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It's something that you have to earn.

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And the way you earn it is by developing career capital.

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And the way you develop career capital is by developing rare and valuable skills.

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And this ties into this idea of like, if you genuinely want a career that you enjoy, you've got to actually have the skills for the job.

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And so if you can invest this 13 minutes a day into the development of your skills, then you're gonna be winning on that front.

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Tip number five, you probably don't need to go back to university.

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For people who do not know what they want to do, I would avoid committing to a four-year degree or an expensive master's program

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and really use the resources that are out there that are either cheap or free.

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Because there's so many things that we can actually learn now without having to set foot into a traditional classroom.

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Now, I found this point pretty surprising given that Professor Lorden is a university professor and is therefore at least somewhat, you know, biased towards in favour of university education.

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But to be honest, these days, you know, university is not completely worthless.

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I've massively benefited from a uni degree and I generally do recommend

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that people go to college or university or whatever that is.

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At least it gives you backup options.

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But especially when people are like a little bit further on in their career, It's often like a very easy thing to be like, oh, I need to do the thing.

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Therefore, I'm going to go back to uni I'm going to get a degree in the thing.

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I don't know at least from people I know who are

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recruiting for jobs like getting an MBA people with an MBA

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are actually looked down less favorably than people who have actually had some Real entrepreneurial experience.

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So don't necessarily default to thinking let me let me get a traditional qualification in the particular thing

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Because you can learn almost anything on the internet and through books and libraries and stuff these days.

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Tip number six embrace U-turns Okay So at this point, we know what tasks we might want to do on a

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day to day basis to get towards this level of me plus or this career that we actually enjoy.

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And we know what kind of skills we need to get there.

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And therefore, we're going to develop those skills and compound them over time.

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But even once you've nailed those things, you might still want to make some changes to your career.

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Like we as humans are generally pretty bad at estimating what our preferences

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and our values are necessarily going to be in the future.

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For example, when I was 16, I decided I wanted to be a doctor.

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Ten years later, I was like, I'm not really sure this medicine thing is for me.

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And this relates to an idea in psychology called the end of history illusion.

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And this is psychologist Dan Gilbert explaining the end of history illusion.

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We asked thousands of people, we asked half of them to predict for us how much their values would change in the next 10 years,

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and the other is to tell us how much their values had changed in the last 10 years.

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And this enabled us to do a really interesting kind of analysis, because it allowed us to compare the predictions of people,

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say, 18 years old, to the reports of people who were 28, and to do that kind of analysis throughout the lifespan.

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Here's what we found.

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First of all, you're right change does slow down as we age.

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But second, you're wrong because it doesn't slow nearly as much as we think.

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At every age from 18 to 68 in our dataset,

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people vastly underestimated how much change they would experience over the next 10 years.

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We call this the end of history illusion.

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So firstly, we're quite bad at predicting how things are gonna change for us.

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But secondly, we're also weirdly averse to the idea of a U-turn.

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There is this idea that if you change your mind, that means you're not being consistent and you're not being like integrity, or whatever the thing is people use to describe this.

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But one of my key takeaways from the conversation with Professor Laudan is that when it comes to careers, U-turns are actually probably a good thing.

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One of the problems in society today is that we think that good citizens, good leaders should never change their mind.

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And I think in COVID, that was to the detriment of many countries because it took a lot for some leaders to come out and say, look, actually, this isn't the right strategy.

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I'm going to now change, I'm now going to change my mind.

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So if I was to think about leaders of the future, actually, their ability to stand up and say, I don't know, I got it wrong or I've changed my mind.

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Those three things are really in the forefront of my mind because when you're navigating through uncertainty, you're going to get it wrong sometimes and that's okay.

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But it's the deliberate part.

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Have you sat down and deliberately now changed your mind?

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And tip number seven, the grid search mindset.

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And this is again, something that she talks about in the book, where the idea is that even

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if you don't quite have a clear vision for exactly what kind of career you would actually enjoy, what you can do is you can almost use this grid search technique to figure out what activities you enjoy

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and then see whether the actions you're taking are moving you closer to this kind of dream career.

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So for example, if I'd done this a few years ago, then I might have written that the things that I enjoy are, I think, teaching and medicine and creative stuff and entrepreneur stuff,

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just based on kind of my history over the last like several years.

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And so for me, for example, kind of my, I guess, career of teaching started around age 13, 14, 15, where I was teaching Kumon at this math study center.

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That then transitioned into combining teaching with medicine for my company, SixMed.

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And then at age 23, I started directly teaching medical students and doing these presentations

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and like using my creative skills and to make nice PowerPoints and stuff like that.

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And now that's transitioned into this YouTube stuff where I get to do another bit of teaching, a little bit of creative stuff, a little bit of entrepreneurship.

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There's not much medicine in there these days, but hey, you know, it's totally okay to change your mind.

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And it's easy enough now to connect the dots looking back being like, oh yeah, I found a career that I really enjoy.

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I love this YouTube thing.

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I love giving talks and this kind of stuff.

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And it's easy to connect the dots and think, oh yeah, I was super into teaching back when I was like 12 years old.

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But I think this is a quote from Steve Jobs or something that it's famously easy to connect the dots looking back, but it's really hard to connect the dots looking forward.

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And so if you're in a position where you're not yet fully enjoying what you're doing for work, what your career is, then don't worry.

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As long as you're continuing to, I guess, think big, define that future for yourself, and then taking small steps towards working towards this career that you enjoy,

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at some point you'll get there and then you'll find that, oh crap, firstly, this is not a destination because trying to find a career you enjoy is like a long-term process, but you'll be able to connect the dots looking back

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and everything along this circuitous path with U-turns and everything will have then made sense in hindsight.

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And so as Professor Lorden says, this isn't really about kind of taking U-turns randomly.

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It's about taking small steps in a particular direction, gathering data, seeing how you feel about that data that you've gathered, and then using that to change course.

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They get new data, they update their decision-making based on the data, and and they're willing to go backwards or they're willing to go left

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and they're willing to go right and always having that openness to a change of direction.

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If you like this video, you might like to check out the full episode with Professor

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Grace Lorden over on my deep dive podcast that'll be linked over there.

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That podcast, along with all the other episodes I've done, is available on any kind of podcast platform, including Apple and Google and Spotify, all that fun stuff.

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Anyway, thank you so much for watching.

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Do please drop a like on the video for the YouTube algorithm

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if you enjoyed the video so far and I'll see you hopefully in the next one.

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Bye-bye.

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

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