Hey Aubrey, I have a question for you. Oh, let's  hear it. When is the last time that you saw the spelling of something and it was actually very  different from what you expected. Okay, this has happened to me a couple of times recently. The  first was um you said in a recent episode Peshi and I was just checking the transcripts to make  sure it was spelled correctly and I looked up um the name and it was spelled so differently.  [laughter] I was really surprised. That's funny.

How did you even look that up? Like how did you  like I saw the name it was just P e s hi and so then I searched it was like peshi tennis something  and I and it all came up right it was like French tennis player Giovani Peshi Pikar but the Peshi  is spelled M P ts hi which is very surprising it doesn't sound like that right when people say it.  So, I was surprised. And then another one I just saw a couple of days ago was um AI had transcribed  something and it said everyone's going to get past it in a couple days, which would should be spelled  get and then past p a s t, but it wasn't. It had been spelled p a s e d, which sounds exactly the  same when you're speaking, but doesn't make sense, would mean something totally different. And then  it also inspired this episode cuz I was like, "Oh, that's interesting. Get past it." and  other phrases for getting over something, right? Can we get past the mistakes that  AI makes, right? We have to be aware.

We have to. We have to. AI is still making  mistakes, guys. It's not perfect. Be aware if you are learning English with AI, you're pro  you may be learning mistakes. Yes, absolutely.

If you just are getting AI transcripts somewhere,  I guarantee you they're full of mistakes. Yeah, for sure. Unfortunately. And by the way, a peshi,  just so our listeners have some context, is where you turn, if you're a tennis player, if you  if you can do this, it's very advanced skill.

You turn around and you hit the ball between  your legs. So that's why it's such a fun term and everyone loves it. And such a fun move. If  ever somebody pulls it off, we're very impressed.

Very impressed. But yeah, so today's episode then  is really all about moving past things like um what would be another way of saying that,  Aubrey? Yeah, [clears throat] get over it. We are going to share a few today. We have five  different ways that we say this in English.

So, let's dive into the first one here. But  of course, if all of this sounded unfamiliar, if you missed that conversation about the peshy,  you might not be following the podcast. You might be missing great episodes. So, hit follow wherever  you listen. Yeah, guys, hit that follow button right now. I mean, it's, you know, so it depends  on what happens here in terms of how quickly we're able to get over something, right? Are we  talking about like the end of a relationship?

Um, you know, that's a good point. For years  and years, or are we talking about a small disappointment that happened? Maybe we couldn't  get ice cream. We expected to have ice cream after dinner and we couldn't have it. I mean, would like  to hope you'd get over that more quickly, right?

How long we dwell on something definitely depends  on how serious the offense is or how serious the the issue the situation was. Yeah. So, again,  the first phrase we could use is get past it.

Um, to move beyond that problem. What are some  other examples here, Aubrey? Yeah. Dwelling on the argument won't help. You need to get past it. I  think we've all said this to friends who are still mad about something after a while and then the  advice might be at some point you got to get past it. Yeah. I mean, some people, I think, tend to  hold on to things a bit more than others. Aubrey, are you someone that holds on to things or are you  able to Not too bad. Sometimes I will. There'll be something that I'm upset about after a while, but  for the most part, I let things go pretty well.

I think I can get past things. What about you?  Yeah, pretty much. There's [clears throat] almost not enough time to, you know, remember things  like that. You have to move on. Ain't nobody got time for that. [laughter] That's right. That's  kind of a fun expression in English we use with poor grammar. She's like, "We don't have time to  work. We don't have time. We don't have time." Um, here's another example. I know the mistake  was embarrassing, but you need to get past it and focus on the game. Yeah. I mean, if you're  an athlete, you have to be present. Tennis is one of those games that requires total  mental presence. It's very mental. Um, yes, a lot of sports are that I'm coaching basketball  right now and this will happen if a girl misses a shot or trips and falls in front of people and  they're embarrassed and they get in their heads and they start playing really terribly and a coach  might say this like you've just got to get past it and focus on the game. That's forget about it  for sure. Or the coach might say, well, would the coach say you need to get over it? That one's  a little more harsh. This is a little more harsh, right? It means to get over you recover from  disappointment or sadness, some kind of obstacle.

Um, but it is a little more harsh. It's a  little less understanding of the emotion, right? So, for example, it took him a  while to get over it after losing the game, right? Or, I'm going to have a hard time getting  over this breakup. So, those are ways like that to actually to say something to someone, get over  it, is kind of mean. You're sort of giving no understanding for them going through something  that's difficult. But these where we're saying it about ourselves like, "Oh, it takes a while  to get over. That's different." Yeah. Exactly.

Who's delivering the message and with what tone  of voice and what context? Moving on. Right. Move on. Right. To move on. Moving on. Let's talk  about move on. [laughter] There you go. Right.

So to emotionally or mentally leave a past event  behind and focus on the present or future. So it is interesting how we just talk about this with  no emotion involved like let's move on to the next topic. But we also talk about it for emotional  things. For example, after the project failed, the team decided to move on and start fresh or  she couldn't forgive him at first, but eventually she moved on. And we kind of have both examples.  The first one is sort of unemotional. At work, we're moving to the next thing. And the second  one, to move on, is like to let the emotion of it go. Yeah. I like it when a word has a literal  meaning and a figurative meaning in a way.

Yeah. It's kind of fun. Let go again would be  the next one. to release negative feelings, resentment or attachment to something that's  holding you back. I mean, I study Buddhism and we talk about letting go a lot. It's a huge  theme within meditation and Buddhist practice, right? Absolutely. We've all had things that we  need to let go. We feel it holding us back. If it's a resentment or something that we're dwelling  on, for example, he had to let go of his anger toward his former boss. Like maybe you're still  seeing each other at conferences or at events and if there's lingering angry feelings that  could keep you from networking connections, it could be having dire consequences. Yeah, for  sure. Or sometimes you need to let go. You just need to let go in order to move on again. Yeah.  Yeah. Yeah. This is kind of a chunk we use to say you just need to let go in order to move  on, right? We're sort of saying you need to leave something in the past or you won't be able  to move forward. Or we could put it behind us, right? put it behind you. This is again to stop  thinking about stop stop dwelling on something, right? Exactly. Like it's time to put it behind  you and focus on the future. So this could be maybe you don't get a job you want or you're  not accepted to a university you want. Instead of dwelling on that, put it behind you. Move on  to the next opportunity. Yeah. Aubrey, do you have any strategies to do this? If there there's  something that you just can't seem to get past, um like any techniques of how you kind of do that?  facilitate the process. What do you talk it out?

For me, I have to talk it out whether it's with  a person that I have some kind of resentment with or if it's with a therapist, I cannot just like  think it through in my own head. And if it's not something I want to talk out with another person  if I feel that might just make it worse or if I am not ready to talk to that person, then  I think a mental health expert is a great person to talk it out with. And this might not  be a solution for everyone, but I personally often need to talk something out before I can  put it behind me. Yeah, you're a verbal. I mean, you're a podcaster. It makes sense, right? I'm  a verbal [laughter] person. Very true. Teacher, a podcaster. We're verbal people. I'm similar. I  need to talk through stuff. And then maybe also for me, if it's a breakup, I remember back in  my dating days, you know, there were breakups.

And for me, it was like um reentering on  my own life. So, talking through it first, but then reentering on why my life is great and  like all the great things going on. maybe starting a new hobby and a bit of a distraction, but like  adding just reentering on what's going on on my side, not so much thinking about the person,  right? That has interesting. It's sort of like a healthy rebound. Instead of rebounding with a  different person, you're creating this rebound of a hobby or activity, something to distract you.  That's a healthy way to cope. Yeah, for sure. Hey, quick question. Do you want to feel more confident  when you speak English? If so, we made a free guide for you. It'll help you avoid those common  mistakes and start speaking more naturally in real conversations. Go grab it in the description  below. [music] And if this is helpful for you, make sure that you like and subscribe. We are  here five times a week to help you connect in [music] English. All right, we are back  from break. Let's do a role play, Aubrey. So, here we are friends talking um after you  just had a difficult breakup and I just went through a breakup. So, this has been at  least 20 years. Oh jeez. I know. I know those are [laughter] tough days, right? Dating the  dating days were tough. I think we don't envy anyone out there who's still going through it.  I I remember how rough that was. Yeah, for sure.

Hey, Aubrey, how have you been feeling since the  breakup? Honestly, I'm still kind of upset. I'm having a really hard time getting over it. I get  it. Breakups are tough. It might take some time, but you'll be able to get past it. I know. I  really need to move on, but it's tough to let go of the resentment. Maybe a new hobby to distract  yourself would help you put it behind you.

That's not a bad idea. I've been wanting to learn  to play the guitar. No time like the present.

That's so funny. I didn't even read our roleplay,  but basically I know, but you're right. I mean, it just makes sense, right? This is a great way  to move past something to have something else to occupy your time and your thoughts because  otherwise if you're just sitting around, you're going to dwell on it. Exactly. Exactly. So,  I asked you how you're feeling, how you've been feeling since the breakup. You said, "Honestly,  I'm still kind of upset. I'm having a hard time getting over it." Right. Getting over it. Yep.  And then you said, "Yeah, breakups are tough, but you'll be able to get past it." it. So, this  is a great connection skill to use these phrases to encourage. You're giving someone hope. Like, I  know you're struggling. You're going through it, but like you will be able to get past it. Yeah.  And then you said, "I know. I really need to move on, but it's tough to let go of the resentment."  Yes. Yeah. So, we got both of those, right? Need to move on. Having a hard time letting go of  those angry feelings. And then you said maybe a new hobby would help you put it behind you. Good  advice. Yes. Love it. So, good. Yeah. I mean, this is very human. I mean, that's why this  is a connection episode, guys. Everyone is, you know, at some point in life has to get over  something, whether it's a big breakup or whether it's maybe you didn't get the job you wanted or so  many scenarios, Aubrey, right? Absolutely. And it could be more like a sadness, heartache, something  tragic happens, the death of a loved one. There are so many things that you will eventually have  to heal from. However, each person does that very differently in order to get past it, heal from  it, and move on. Yeah. So, bringing this up with a friend, checking in like I did at the beginning  of the roleplay is a really nice connection skill and then bringing in this vocabulary. Um, Aubrey,  what's another episode to check out? Yes, if you missed it, go check out 2612 right here on the  Allers English podcast. I'm up for it if you are.

How to recruit your friends to join you  at social events. That's a really fun one, so don't miss it. Yeah, good stuff. Aubrey,  we'll see you next time. You have a good rest of your day. And guys, don't forget to hit follow  on the podcast. Awesome. See you next time. Bye.