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If you don't know what you want in life, I actually really don't think you should start off by asking yourself What do I want?
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If you don't know what you want in life, I actually really don't think you should start off by asking yourself What do I want?
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Even though that question is so simple when you're already feeling overwhelmed confused Lost
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or like dissatisfied with where you are that question can just feel way too big Like what do I want in life?
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And then your brain goes Excellent question.
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We have no idea and then you're just spiraling because everyone online Seems to have it all figured out.
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Everyone seems to have a personal brand a vision board a five-year plan know their purpose, like everything.
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And you're just like, I actually don't know what I want for dinner.
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How do you expect me to know what I want to do with my entire existence?
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But here's what people usually get wrong.
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They start off by asking the hardest questions first.
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Like, what do I want?
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What is my purpose?
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What is my dream life?
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What do I want to do with my life?
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And when you're already feeling lost, those questions really don't bring you a lot of clarity.
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Sometimes they just make you feel more behind because now you're not only confused, you're judging yourself for the fact that you're confused.
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So in this video I want to give you a much simpler starting point
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because maybe you don't know exactly what you want but I bet you know what you don't want.
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You probably already know what drains you, what makes you feel trapped, what makes you feel heavy and the good news is all of that is not just unnecessary negativity,
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it's actually useful information because what you don't want is often the clearest doorway into what you do want.
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So instead of trying to magically discover your purpose out of thin air, we're going to do something much more practical.
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the reverse clarity method.
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Okay.
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Basically we're going to take the things you don't want, the things you complain about, the things that frustrate you or the things that just feel wrong.
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And we're going to play the opposites game.
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And I know that sounds really simple, but that's exactly why it works.
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I'm going to share a few different tools and practices just because I wanted to give you some options.
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So you can obviously do all of these if you want like maximum clarity, or you can just pick the one that feels best for you because we're all different.
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Something that works for me is not going to work for you.
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So I wanted to give you some options and as per usual, I'm going to have timestamps so you can easily find everything.
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But if you're new to my channel, hi, I'm Nika.
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Welcome.
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I make videos all about self-improvement, but I like to make them very actionable.
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Like here are the tips, the tricks, the actual like step-by-step guide.
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So you can make a difference that you're actually going to notice.
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So if that works for you, I'd love for you to stick around and subscribe, or you can also check out my Instagram for more content over there.
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I'm gonna have all of that linked down below and now without any further unnecessary yapping let's get into it.
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Okay so the first one is probably gonna be very obvious
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if you listen to that whole intro but it's basically to write a list of things you don't want.
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Please do this with a specific area of your life
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that you're confused about so maybe for you that's your career
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or your job
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or maybe it's romantic relationships you don't want to focus on your entire life at once
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because that's going to be so overwhelming
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so you're going to write a whole list
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and make this as long as you need it to be
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and then you're going to play the game of opposites
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so next to each item
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that you don't want you're going to write what you do want
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and sometimes that opposite might not be so obvious
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so let me give you an example with relationships maybe i wrote that I don't want to be yelled at.
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So the opposite for me might be, I want to feel or I want to be respected.
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For you, it might be I want to feel nurtured or I want to feel cared for.
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I want to feel valued.
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It might not be so obvious.
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Okay.
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Another example, when it comes to, let's say, career, like maybe you wrote, I don't want to be micromanaged.
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So the opposite of that for you might be, I want to be trusted or I want to feel valued or I want to have a sense of freedom.
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It's really simple.
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It just has to be true to you and to what you want.
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And also focus on the essence or like the feeling, not so much like the nitty gritty detail of what you don't want.
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So instead of writing like, I don't want Jack to say X, Y, Z to me in that tone, write like, I don't want to be micromanaged.
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I don't want to be judged.
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I don't want to be, you know, like the essence, the vibe, the feeling, because then the opposite of that is going to make a lot more sense.
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And it's going to be a lot more simple and clear.
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And that's going to give you the most like valuable information.
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And a really valuable add on to this exercise is to get really detailed about why these things bother you.
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Like, why does it bother me so much to be micromanaged?
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That is going to be such an amazing insight again into what you do want, but also what you really, really value, what is really, really important to you.
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So, for example, with my notion planners, if I'm launching a new planner, I don't want to just post it on social media once and like hope the algorithm is feeling generous.
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I want to collect emails, let people know when it's coming, send updates, follow up after launch, and actually stay connected to the people that are interested.
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And what I really love about it is that it has a very generous free plan.
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So you can send up to 300 emails a day.
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And their pricing is based on the number of emails you send, not the size of your contact list, which just makes it so much more predictable as you grow.
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Thank you so much to Brevo for sponsoring.
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And now let's get back to our reverse clarity method.
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Okay.
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The second exercise is kind of similar, but it might work better for you depending on just how you work.
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And that is to play a little game where you're improving the things you don't want.
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So the first thing you write is what you don't want.
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Then next to that, you ask yourself, what would be better?
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And you write that down.
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And then next to that, you ask yourself, what would be even better than that?
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And you write that down and you just follow
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that process until you get to kind of like the best possible scenario for you.
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And that is what you really want.
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So here's an example, what I don't want.
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I don't want to be micromanaged.
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Then I ask myself, what would be better?
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Maybe for me, that would be, I want to be able to do my work and for people to trust that I'll do a good job.
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And then what would be even better than that?
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Maybe that's, I want to be invaluable in my career and just follow that until you get to what again, feels like the best possible scenario for you.
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With this next one, we're not going to look at what we don't want necessarily.
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We're going to look at something
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that a lot of us don't really want to think about because it feels negative and icky, but it holds so much information.
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And that is to look at jealousy and envy.
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So when do you feel it and who do you feel it towards?
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Usually we're jealous of, or we envy people who have what we want, but we feel like we can't have that thing,
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you know, or it's like so difficult for us and they just seem to have it so easy and have it already.
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So again, it's going to give you
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so much info into what you want another version of this where you don't have to focus on jealousy
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or envy if that just feels too icky for you is to ask yourself who are the people
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that seem like they're just the happiest to you really good indication of what you want
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because i actually did this for myself so this is my list
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so the people who look happiest to me um are the people who have a lot of freedom
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they have their own thing
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that you can tell they're really passionate about they live in accordance to what feels best for them without
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so many limitations or like fears or other people's opinions.
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They don't let fear or insecurity stop them.
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They're social, outgoing, charming, confident.
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They own their past and who they are, like the good and the not so good.
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Even the parts that our society deems as like unacceptable or shameful.
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They just own it all.
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Like they're authentically themselves.
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They're really unapologetic about who they are.
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A few other things.
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They're very active.
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They're full of energy.
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They have a lot of humor and play and fun, like a lightness to them.
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Those are just like some of the things that I wrote down.
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So then taking that list, I can write like the values that are clearly important to me or the values that I would like to live by.
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So that list would be from just like the first few points that I wrote.
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I value freedom.
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I value autonomy, authenticity, and integrity,
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intuition, like doing something because it feels right, growth, self-expression.
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That is just a few examples of the things
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that are really important to me and the things
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that I do value just from looking at the people who seem the happiest
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or even the people that I'm sometimes jealous of or I envy, you know, when I'm feeling insecure.
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And then from there, when you're choosing what you want, make sure it's aligned with these values, with these things that are super important to you.
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Think of those as like your highest priority and like your biggest commitment.
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And just start today with living in alignment with these values.
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When you're making any sort of decision, ask yourself, is this aligned with what I deeply, deeply value?
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What is deeply important to me?
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And that's going to be a life of so much authenticity.
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That's going to be a life that actually feels good for you because that is what you want.
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Okay.
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And then this last one is really going to bring all of this together.
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And that is to think of the negative consequences that you're going to have to accept by choosing whatever you choose.
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And I know this sounds counterintuitive.
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You're like, what the hell?
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But I feel like this is so important because so many of us
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have this belief that when we choose something that's really for us, it's not going to have any negative consequences.
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Like it's just going to be easy, breezy, beautiful, like nothing bad.
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It's all positive.
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And that is really not the case because every decision you make, every single thing you choose has a negative consequence.
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It obviously has benefits, but it also has negative consequences.
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And this is going to help you determine what you actually really,
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really want and what you maybe want just because it seems good and like the result is nice and you know, other people have it.
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And when you see it, you're like, Oh, that's really cool.
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I might want that.
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It's going to make it so incredibly simple and like crystal clear.
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So you're not like a headless chicken running around doing all these different things, trying to figure out what you actually want.
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There's nothing wrong with like trying to figure it out and trying new things Like that is often how you learn, but you also use a lot of your energy and time.
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And when you do that all the time, it gets exhausting.
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Like I know this because I've been there.
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Like if you guys have followed me for a long time, you know this, like I've tried so many things
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and I feel like I would have made my life so much easier if I just did this.
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And I would have had more time to do the things that I actually know I want to do now, you know?
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So yes, there are negative consequences to everything you choose, but the thing that is right for you, the thing that you really, really want, that price is worth it.
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It doesn't mean that it's not there.
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It doesn't mean that the negative consequences are out of picture.
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It just means that you want it so much that those things are there, but it's not the end of the world.
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It's worth it.
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So when you start to figure out what you like and you're choosing what you want to do, ask yourself, what are the negative consequences?
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And really be so upfront and honest about that.
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That's going to help you determine what is really for you and what just looks nice.
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For example, like I used to have this idea that I would have a really, really cute cafe with like a Pilates studio above it just
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because I felt like there wasn't anything like that in the style that I like where I live.
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And that was like a cute little dream and it looked so nice.
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I love interior design.
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I would have so many like good meals, you know, the things that I like to eat, like really good coffee matcha, like all of that.
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I would be able to take really cute pictures of it.
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I would feel really good when people would come in and really like the place.
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So obviously there were so many little benefits I was really excited about
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and it looked so cute and amazing and I was, you know, ready to do it all.
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And then I thought of the negative consequences and the actual process of having a cafe, a Pilates studio, whatever.
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And I was like, oh, I would be miserable, actually.
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Like when you think about the nitty gritty of like, you know, you have to prepare all of the food, obviously, like the drinks, you have to serve people,
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which totally fine, as long as they're not assholes, you have to deal with those assholes, you have to do all the buying,
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you have to deal with the employees once you have them with cleaning it with different like inspections, like there's so many things.
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And I was like, that is not worth it to me at all.
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Like sure.
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It seems so nice.
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And when I see other people do it, I'm like, I want this so bad, but the negative consequences are not worth it to me.
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So if I didn't know this, I might start doing this.
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And then in the middle, I would be like, I hate this process.
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I hate my day to day of actually doing this thing.
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You know what I mean?
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Like it seems great on paper is just not it for me.
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So doing this really is invaluable.
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If you're someone who's like going in so many different directions and you're like, I want so many things.
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Like there's so many things that I might like.
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What do I choose?
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How do I make that decision?
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This is perfect.
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Also, it gives you so much inner power when you're like, okay, this is going to be the negative consequences.
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I am willing to deal with it.
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I'm accepting it.
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And here's what I'm going to do about them.
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Once they like start to come up when I'm actually in the process of doing this.
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And it's just so worth it to me because I want it
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so much like I'm fine dealing with this that just gives you
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so much inner power and just like confirmation
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that this is right for you I know we all know this
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but it's not about the finish line it's about the process to get to the finish line
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and also once you kind of start doing what you want you realize
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that the finish line keeps moving you know
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because there's new things you want to do there's new goals
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there's you know stepping stones to where you want to get to
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and so the process is really the important part
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and you want your values to be a part of
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that process you want your strengths to be a part of
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it you want to actually enjoy as much of the process
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that you can obviously there's going to be things you don't like
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and those negative consequences but it has to be so important
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that you're willing to pay that price over
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and over again it's just like yeah I'm fine with
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that whatever I want it so bad
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and the last thing I want to say is obviously doing all these exercises gives you
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so much clarity but you have nothing without the action
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and a lot of the time
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when you you know take whatever step you can take right now it gets the energy flowing
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which is so nice when you're feeling confused
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and stuck like just doing something gets the energy to move
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which we want and it also teaches you what you want what you like what you don't like
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so take action start doing things but most importantly take inspired action like
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when you get that nudge that's like oh I really want to do this
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and there's so much energy behind it do it like get up
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and do it as soon as possible
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that is what really successful people do all the time they follow those nudges
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and they go with the energy so when it like pops up
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if you can obviously I know we have lives we have things to do
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but if you can follow it get up do it like
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that is gonna make the biggest difference truly
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and you're gonna learn to really listen to your intuition
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and to you know where you're being guided that is gonna bring you
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so much more insight than any like exercise any video could alrighty guys
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if you want to keep going with this topic you can
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watch this video next it's going to give you a lot of like practical tools
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and really cool ideas to kind of level up
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and glow up mentally and energetically so your vibes are in the right place
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when you start whatever you want to start
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So thank you guys so so much for watching and I'll see you over there
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在学习英语的过程中，口语表达是非常重要的一环。这个视频提供了一个独特的自我反思机会，鼓励学习者思考自己的需求和目标。通过练习思考和表达“我不想要什么”，学习者可以逐步清晰地识别出自己的愿望和方向。这种“反向清晰法”不仅帮助理清心思，更能通过一种轻松的方式提升英语交流能力。在进行英语影子跟读时，学习者能够更好地理解自己的情绪与想法，同时增强口语自信心。通过模拟视频中的对话，学习者可以提高英语口语练习的效率。
语法与表达在上下文中的分析
视频中使用了多种富有启发性的表达，我们在此分析3-5个关键结构：
- 疑问句: “What do I want?” 这一句强调了内心的困惑，通过提问推动思考，可以让学习者在口语练习中学会如何提出自己关心的问题。
- 反义词游戏: 讲述者提到“play the opposites game”，这个概念不仅有趣，且能激发学习者联想和创造，从而在口语表达中应用对立的概念。
- 强调感受: “What drains you?” 通过这种直接的提问，讨论个人感受，引导学习者用英语表达自己的情感和观点，更贴近生活。
常见发音陷阱
在视频中，有几个单词和语调可能会对学习者造成挑战：
- overwhelmed : 这个词在快速对话中常会变得模糊，学习者需要注意发音的清晰度。
- clarity : 注意第一个音节的发音，加强练习可以帮助提高口语流利度。
- feeling trapped : 这个短语在上下文中非常形象，理解它的语气与情感可以影响学习者的表达方式。
通过shadow speak练习，学习者可以模仿视频中的语音，帮助克服这些发音障碍，提升口语表达的流畅性。在日常交流中，多加练习将带来更大的自信与进步。
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