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Hello, this is Sandra Hart and today I'm going to give you 10 mistakes that you should never make and 10 mistakes.
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Hello, this is Sandra Hart and today I'm going to give you 10 mistakes that you should never make and 10 mistakes.
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Secret tips for a better life.
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Hello and welcome.
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This is Sandra Hart.
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I'm going to go ahead and get a look at the next one.
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you Hello and welcome to Life Over 60 with Sandra.
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So happy to see you here again with me today and welcome to all of my new subscribers.
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I just love having you along with me and with all of us on this journey.
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Today we're going to be talking about, wow, things never ever to do.
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And you may have your own list.
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So after this video is finished and in the comments section, I want you to put down maybe some extra things that you can do.
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We...
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As humans, we as women should never, ever do.
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Now, the first one I'm going to start off and tell you is...
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Don't Wish your life away.
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And what do I mean by that?
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Don't spend your days wishing, "Oh, I wish I could have more money.
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Oh, I wish I could travel." Oh, I wish this COVID would go away.
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Oh, I wish when I was younger I should have made a different decision in my life.
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All of those things are true and all of those things we can do, and I'm sure most of us do them, but it's a waste of time.
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Don't wish your life away.
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If you want If you have a dream and you want to do something, Do it.
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Act on it.
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Don't just sit there wishing, "Oh, if I only could have,
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if I would have, if I should have." That really is such a waste of your energy.
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And at this stage in our lives...
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We shouldn't be wasting energy or time at all.
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So that's the number one thing.
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The second thing is Don't make promises you can't fulfill.
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Now, I know we have all done this.
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I have done this so many times.
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In my heart, my intentions are good, but sometimes I speak to Asuna, I say, sure, I can do that.
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But in reality, maybe I can't, or maybe I resent doing it because I really didn't want to do it.
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. So...
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If you are faced with something and someone asks something of you And you say, oh, yes, you know, I can do that.
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I promise that, you know, I will take that trip with you or I promise I will.
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Whatever it is, you know, there's so many things we can promise in life.
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I'll promise I'll give you that loan.
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Don't ever do that.
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I mean when somebody comes to you and asks you a favor or asks you to do something
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and it's not in your wheelhouse and you're very hesitant about it, just use your gut instinct.
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And if you have you know if you hesitate just for a minute that means don't do it do not
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take on a responsibility or an obligation that you cannot and you don't feel like fulfilling.
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And we do that so often, and it's so, so easy, because if you have a good heart, and you're kind, and you love people around you, you more than likely want to say yes,
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but you really just can't.
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And the third one is something that I've spoken about before, I think in a couple of videos ago.
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Don't hide your love.
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Do not just take it for granted that they know that you love them.
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You know, just say, oh, well, I don't have to tell them.
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You know, I do so many things with them.
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They know that I love them.
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Not necessarily so.
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Everybody needs a pat on the back.
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Everybody.
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one needs to be wanted and loved that is just our nature, human nature, even babies.
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that are not held and fondled and cradled, they wither away.
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It's just a basic human need that we all have. So, don't...
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wait till it's too late to tell those around you that you love.
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Even your dog.
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I tell Sophie every day and I don't know whether she knows what I'm talking about or not, but I tell...
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My Sophie every day, I love you Sophie.
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And she looks at me with those big eyes, you know.
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I said, well, I hope she understands what I'm saying.
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So don't wait.
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to tell someone that you love them.
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And this is one I really have to tell my husband all the time.
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Don't hold on to bitter feelings.
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He was in partnership with an attorney in.. in New York,
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and it wound up this attorney did some really terrible things to all arthur
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and his business and it really was dastardly to be honest with you But Arthur won't let go.
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He, and this was 20 years ago, he cannot find it in his heart to forgive this man.
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And he talks about it constantly.
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And do you know what that's doing?
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All that is doing is simmering and seething and eating away at him.
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He won't let it go.
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And he would be much happier and have a better life, even though he is almost 94.
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But he would have a much better life.
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If he focused it on something positive and he would let go,
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of his partner who was not exactly honest.
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But to this day, he still resents him.
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And it's, you know, part of him, I think, that really is eating him away emotionally inside still.
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And no matter how much I try to counsel him and say, you don't let it go, Arthur, let it go, he won't let it go.
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But I want you to be able to not hold on to grudges not hold on to the Thank you.
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bitter feelings that you have.
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toward life toward your circumstances, toward you anything.
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Always try to find something positive in your mind that is detached and will erase those.
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Feelings.
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Thank you.
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And another thing that Number five, don't ignore your intuition.
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How many times have we done videos?
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I've done videos.
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We've had conversations about, this, your intuition is so strong.
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It really is.
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Your first instinct about something.
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is what you listen to because your instinct usually 99 .99 % is right and will guide you in the right direction.
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Whenever I have ignored my intuition, Thank you.
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I've made mistakes.
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Thank you every single time.
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So throughout the years, I have tried to hone my ability to really be aware when my
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gut instinct and my intuition kicks in because then I know probably whatever it is that I'm feeling. is right.
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So please do not ignore the that god -given intuition that you have Another thing Okay.
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We have lived long enough to have had a lot of experiences and a lot of things in our lives.
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We've met people, we've done things, we've had a lot of different experiences, maybe different jobs.
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And there might be something in your life.
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Thank you.
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that you regret.
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Thank you.
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We all have regrets, but do you know what?
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Do not hang on to them.
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It's the same way with bitter feelings.
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Hanging on to something in the past is not going to help you in the future at all.
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I probably have told you about the time that...
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Ethel Merman's manager let me practice and vocalize up in his apartment
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because we lived in the same apartment building in New York.
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And he came down.
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And I suspected that he had ulterior motives for me.
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" But he didn't, and I know he didn't because I was so young and I you know, was fearful.
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And I regret that I didn't take on his recommendation that he would like to manage me.
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- Thank you.
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But I was a young girl from Ohio and I was innocent and I was scared, I guess.
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I just was scared because I don't think, who me?
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Does he really think I have that much talent?
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And I didn't believe in myself.
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So that is one of the big regrets that I have.
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but I wouldn't have had the life that I have today.
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I wouldn't have my children.
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I wouldn't have had, you know, Arthur.
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I wouldn't have had...
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this wonderful life that I had, I would
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be somewhere else probably out in Hollywood
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or still singing you know 80 year old woman in some cabaret somewhere I has been so
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don't hang on to regrets because when you do that anything
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that you hang on to it really puts a rope around your neck
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and keeps you from going forward and opening that door to the future.
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So that is one that I don't.
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I know that you really shouldn't do.
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Then another one is, And Where you are right now, is not where you have to be for the rest of your life.
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So don't get stuck.
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If you are happy where you are and you are leading a full life
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and everything is just a -okay with you, - Thank you.
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You're really lucky.
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But if you are in a point in your life where you don't like your job, you're unhappy with where you live,
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you're unhappy in a relationship, you can't seem to...
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really make a lot of friends, whatever it is, if you've lost a partner, or a spouse.
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Whatever it is where you are right now, "Don't get stuck, please don't get stuck, "because tomorrow is another day,
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And don't lose your hope of being able to change things.
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Because nothing in our life is static.
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Absolutely nothing.
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When you look back on your life from the very beginning to where you are now, look how many different chapters you've had.
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Look how many different circumstances and things have happened in your life that has propelled you to where you are today.
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But if where you are today, you're really unhappy about it, don't get stuck.
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And don't use all of that energy saying, oh, I'm so stuck.
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I'm hopeless.
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You know, there's nothing that's ever going to happen to me.
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Good.
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I'm not going to be able to do it.
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Do you know what?
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That's a lot of energy you're expelling.
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Isn't it?
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You're wasting all that energy when that stuck energy should be on something positive and sit down and make a list of
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Things that you can do realistically things that you can do right now to change that
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stuck place where you are in right now.
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That energy to propel you forward instead of sucking you in and pulling you back into your misery. is not healthy.
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So use that energy, that to make a list, do what you have to do to propel your So forward and get those wheels.
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from spinning in the mud and get out of there.
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if you are very happy with where you are.
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Yes.
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Another thing that I think is really important, and you don't have to go to school for this, But don't stop educating yourself.
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Don't stop.
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opening your mind to things,
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whether it's reading more, having a more open mind about situations that are going on around you learning to a new skill,
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learning a new language, maybe taking some online courses like purposeful gathering.
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But, you know, expand Always keep expanding your life.
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Keep expanding your mind and your horizon.
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It doesn't have to be big things.
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As I said, it could be just maybe reading a book about how to do something, reading a biography about someone else's life,
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and that has expanded your knowledge.
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Now, last night I had a very interesting, I watched PBS, and it was a really interesting documentary on St. Augustine here in Florida.
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and I knew it was you know the oldest city in Florida
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but i didn't know the history of it and it was absolutely
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so fascinating about the indians that were here
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and how it was a multicultural acceptance colony
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when it came here they had people from africa
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but they were not slaves they were free to own property and to not have to worry about being in slavery.
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So I just, the whole story and the whole history of St. Augustine was
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so interesting and something that I learned that was new.
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So be open.
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to all avenues of expression, art, theater.
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Now with the internet, we can just go online and we can listen to podcasts.
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We have everything at our fingertips, so there's no excuse to not broaden and educate your mind.
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Another thing that I think is really important And I guess, you know, I talked about this a lot, so you may be tired of hearing me say it, but...
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Don't lose your individuality.
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Don't be a part of the herd.
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When we are born, We all have different genetics, different genomes, and different mixes,
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even if we have part of the same DNA as our parents and our cousins and our siblings.
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We are unique.
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There is no one...
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in the universe who is like us.
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So embrace your your individuality.
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Embrace your imperfections.
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None of us have perfect bodies, faces, minds, living situations, lives, none of us have those things that are perfect.
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But Embrace your uniqueness.
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It really is so important to your happiness because Everyone else has taken, as I said before.
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There's no one like you.
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So why not love you and embrace yourself? everything about you
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because you are so special and unique
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and don't ever ever ever let anyone else tell you all
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that you are less than one wonderful and your own unique self.
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And number 10, this is for parents out there, including me.
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This is for all of us that have had children
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and raised children and children sent them on the way out of the nest.
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Thank you.
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Always be supportive of your children.
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But don't ever, ever, ever Expect them.
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to give back to you.
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what you gave to them.
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Those are our expectations that we should not impose upon our children.
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and the We expect them to do something with their lives.
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That's different.
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But don't expect them to pay us back.
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for what we have done for them.
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because if we lose those expectations and we untie that not, you know, that attaches us to them and say,
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oh, you know, I did this for you and you owe me.
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Why aren't you doing this for me?
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Whenever you...
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and your children don't feel that burden of expectation on their shoulders.
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You know what?
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It makes them want to do more for you.
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That's just human nature.
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If someone You know you love cakes and maybe sweets or whatever, potato chips, and you're a little overweight.
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And your husband or partner or somebody said, don't eat that.
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You're getting fat.
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Oh, you better not eat that.
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You're getting fat.
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What do you do?
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You stuff it in faster.
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- Thank you because that burden of criticism and expectations of who you should be.
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is thrown back at you. But
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If nobody monitors what you eat and what you say and you are your own
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in charge of your own life and what you eat
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You can look in the mirror and get on the scale and say, you know what, I'm about 10 pounds heavier.
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I'd better kind of drop those pounds and I have to watch what I eat.
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And you're willing to do it because it was your choice.
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When your children have...
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a choice.
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of theirs to give back to you.
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It's a very beautiful thing, and it usually happens If you do not Expect.
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anything back.
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from your children.
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You have raised them with love, and only want happiness for them.
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Thank you.
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So, those are my 10 tips of putting burdens that we put on ourselves,
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things that we shouldn't do if we want to live a full and free life life.
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So So if you have some suggestions of your own that you want to put in the comment, I really would love to read them.
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And I want to say I your comments.
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are so heartfelt and open and honest that it just absolutely touches me to the core.
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I just want to tell you that I am
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so grateful for each and every one of you that are coming along with me.
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and the rest of this community on our journey to find the very best life After 40 years.
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50 60 and beyond.
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Thank you again.
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And today you deserve to do something really wonderful for yourself.
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And as I said in one of my points, Don't forget to Share your love with someone today.
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that you really care about.
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And of course, Share the love. with everyone.
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Thank you.
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And I'm also on Instagram and I'd love to have you join me on Instagram as Sandra's heart.
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I'll put the link below because we have a lot of fun on Instagram too.
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- Right.
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Have a great day and thank you again for coming and I hope to see you in my next video.
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