跟读练习: Unseen BEAUTY of Everyday LOVE - 通过视频学习英语口语
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Well, what is love?
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What is love Antony? What is love?
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This is about as good as it gets.
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And it seems to get better as we get older.
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But there will probably be a tipping point where we don’t know what’s going to happen and we’ll just have to be willing to slide together down some slippery slope.
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When we got married we worked out a series of vows which we wrote out and we said to each other.
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I can’t really remember what they were except that it was something like that we hope one day we will sit here in our old age still together and just enjoy this life that we’ve been given.
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Maybe we do need to renew our vows so that we remember what we said.
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But the one that stands out quite strongly which I feel we’re embodying now is, ‘May our home be a place where people can accept themselves.’ Which, when we drew that up, was a beautiful intention and I feel like we’re really living that.
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The other was that we don’t hide behind each other.
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That we have our own identity and are at one with ourselves.
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That we’re not hiding behind another person or expecting them to fulfil what is important to us.
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What is often hard to accept when you live so much inside yourself is that the person in front of you is very different to you.
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I think in a marriage that’s the hardest thing...
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to realise that some of the differences that you fell in love with in the beginning are the things that bug you later.
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I’ve seen that in myself and with others.
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So those are the little daily things that need to be communicated and sat down and made a compromise.
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I see that if I leave the butter out after I make toast that my wife is furious... daily.
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Then I think the one way I can show a commitment to the relationship is to either not have toast at all, or to have toast without butter, or to put the butter away.
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And I don’t have to talk to her about it, I don’t have to be analytical about it, you know, one picks it up.
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And of course there are things I do that will infuriate her that I don’t pick up.
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She’ll tell me...
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she’s not scared of me in that way.
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If I look back, there are stages in a married life.
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There’s the initial excitement of being together.
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And then of course the utter astonishment of having children.
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That was just wonderful, beyond measure.
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Sometimes it was really hard work.
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We had to earn a living.
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I had to travel to work.
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There were times we had to be apart, times we came together.
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And we didn’t resist it or complain... we just did it.
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And in retrospect that doing of it was a wonderful cementing of the relationship.
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Since then I’ve stopped travelling.
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We spend all our time together now, pretty much.
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We sleep together, we eat together, we drink together.
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And it’s wonderful and there’s a whole new adjustment that happens.
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And I think that’s really precious.
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People talk about it’s difficult when your children leave home...
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of course our children have left home long ago...
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but for us it’s been wonderful.
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We’ve had time on our own and we make as much use of it as we can.
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I think it’s very important to find something when your children leave home, that the two of you do together that is meaningful and nourishing to both of you.
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When I look around at my family and my friends, that’s often when couples go different ways.
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Then one feels that you’re living two separate lives.
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And it’s very difficult to find a place of connection because your priorities have been work, or children, or both.
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And now none of those are something that you share anymore.
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I never give advice...
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I wouldn’t take it anyway.
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But for us, what’s really helped was having, as Margie says, not only a common direction in our life but a sense that we actually deliberately do things together that are meaningful to us.
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Every night we gather around sunset and we watch the sun go down.
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In a sense, ritual in that way was always a part of our life.
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So we always have watched the sun go down.
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It was always important for us.
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And when the children were younger they would join us.
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And now that they’re not here we sit together and we talk about them all the time.
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Not all the time darling.
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But it’s quite a deliberate, ritualised part of the day.
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So we make it precious, I think that’s what we try and do.
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And it does become precious.
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Not so much because we set out to make something precious but we decided how we wanted to spend that time together.
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And it turned out to be precious, which is wonderful.
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I feel quite strongly, growing older, that however much I look back to a more romantic postcard version of what life could be that something fantastically, wonderfully ordinary has taken its place.
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Ordinary is extraordinary.
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If you think of your life, it’s the little things, the ordinary little things, that are very meaningful and you don’t forget them.
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Little kindnesses, little actions that you don’t expect to happen, are the ordinary.
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And I think one of the most ordinary things that we humans are made to do is to be present and listen to each other.
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And I think it’s only when we stop that we see the extraordinary in the ordinary, when we really stop and feel and hear.
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In the same way that the leaves change in spring and fall in autumn and that certain birds appear at certain times of the year and the sun comes and the wind goes...
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all of that is part of my life.
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And she is absolutely, intimately as much a part of it as all of that.
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I live in the veld (nature) and my wife.
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That’s how it feels.
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I’m so pleased you live in me.
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I’d like to think that she feels something of the same.
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There’s a sense of almost the inevitability of looking around and finding you here next to me in the same way that I lift the blind in the morning and see the sun come up.
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That has been a discovery for me that I did not anticipate.
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And I wish it for everybody.
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And I think if one gives oneself a chance it will appear all by itself.
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If I look over one day and she’s not there, it will be heartbreaking.
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That’s absolutely true.
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I will then as best I can honour the life that we’ve had together.
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She is my life and my life will continue.
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Saying ‘she is my life’ doesn’t mean that I have no life without her.
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Saying ‘she is my life’ means that when she’s with me, it’s full of her.
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It means that when she dies and I’m still around that my life will consist of whatever there is around me.
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And that almost my duty to her would be to live that life as best as I can.
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As she mentioned, we undertook not to hide behind each other, that I only live through you.
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I live through you, but that’s just the beginning, it’s not the end.
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So that when you die I’ll weep, I’ll build you a fantastic grave overlooking the hills, and we’ll have sirens and choirs of angels all over the place.
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And then I’ll play music with the angels.
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That’s how it feels to me.
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And I’m not looking forward to it.
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It sounds like you are... the choir of angels.
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Shall I bring them on now?
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I think the way I would honour her would be to get on with the life that is left for me.
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That’s what she would wish for me, more than anything.
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She would want me to see the sun come up, to dig in the garden, to look after visitors, to make the bed properly at last.
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But I think that she would trust me that however sad it was that sadness would become my life and would be manure for whatever last days are left which are probably not going to be very many.
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But that would be a huge event for me.
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I’ve got a little poem that I’d like to recite if I may?
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I’ll try and remember it.
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I shaved my head for the children of Palestine.
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I swept up the leaves in the Jewish cemetery.
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My wife wrapped presents for the old ladies in the frail care home.
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My daughter washed the dishes after lunch.
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The Buddha of Compassion has 84 000 hands.
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Which of those are yours?
背景与情境
在这段视频中，讲述者深入探讨了爱情的本质，以及伴侣之间的沟通、理解与共同成长的重要性。他们分享了自己的婚姻经历，包括如何在日常生活中保持彼此的身份、相互支持，并享受与对方共同度过的每一个时刻。讲述者强调了在伴侣关系中，面对彼此的差异以及如何共同克服生活中的挑战，如何通过彼此沟通来巩固关系，并在生活中找到平衡。
日常沟通的五个短语
- 我们需要重申誓言。 - 这个短语可以用来表达对关系的重视与承诺。
- 我们的家应该是一个让人接受自己的地方。 - 这强调了接纳的重要性，有助于创建亲密的氛围。
- 我会注意我的行为对你的影响。 - 这个短语展现了彼此之间的关心与体贴。
- 孩子离家后，我们需要找到共同做的事情。 - 这是在生活变化时维护亲密关系的好方法。
- 重要的是，我们共同做一些有意义且滋养彼此的事情。 - 强调了共同活动对亲密关系的重要性。
逐步影子跟读指南
要有效提升您的英语口语练习，尤其是针对这段视频所讨论的内容，您可以按照以下步骤进行影子跟读（shadow speak）：
- 理解内容：首先，仔细聆听视频，理解讲述者对于爱情与沟通的深刻见解。注意他们的语气和表达。
- 逐句跟读：选择视频中的短语，进行逐句跟读。这不仅可以帮助您熟悉发音，还能够提高语调的把握。
- 模仿语调：在影子跟读的过程中，注意模仿讲述者的语调和情感表达，这是学习英语影子跟读的关键一步。
- 重复练习：多次重复听和跟读，直到您能自然地表达这些短语，提升您的口语流利度。
- 应用于真实场景：尝试在日常对话中运用这些短语，尤其是在雅思口语练习中，可以增加您表达的深度和情感。
通过以上步骤，您可以有效提高自己的口语能力，深入理解爱情和沟通背后的深意，同时掌握实用的表达方式。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。