Shadowing-Übung: I Have No Friends - Englisch Sprechen Lernen mit Video

It's Saturday at 6 p.m

and I'm sitting alone in my apartment at

my desk staring at my computer like 99.999% of every other Saturday.

And I went to get a pizza, because I still don't know how to eat right,

and, you know, Dartmouth is graduated or graduating,

and this always happens when I drive in on the weekend to get my unhealthy food

that I eat alone in my apartment, and I see all of them.

all of the Dartmouth students in their really cute outfits, walking around downtown, holding hands,

walking down to the river to swim, walking to their apartment, sitting out on the green with friends,

stuff to do, or going back to their dorm so they can probably do stuff later because it's a Saturday,

and I get my pizza and I go back to my apartment because I don't have any friends.

And honestly, I don't think I've ever had friends, not like real friends.

I mean, obviously, I had like friends in high school and college, but it was the most superficial level.

if I was in class, I would have people to talk to.

People liked me.

I don't think I was a totally unlikable person.

And I would do after school activities and people would talk to me.

And I had people that I was close to.

But we never did anything besides that.

I never did anything after school in high school.

If I did, it was it was rare.

Like the times, like prom, mom had to ask a friend's son to ask me,

and then he left early with another girl, which at the time I thought was hilarious.

Because I could tell a story to my friends, and maybe that would be interesting.

I haven't spoken to any of them in person

I'll see them on Instagram but we've never hung out with any of my friends from high school

same thing with college I mean, I started senior year but the second people started doing stuff on the weekends

I was always alone in my dorm room watching all the other kids walk to the parties.

I've never had a friend that I would just spend time with and tell everything to.

I really thought I got close with Caitlin and Molly and Katrina and Aaron.

And I've- it's been two years, I haven't made a single friend, and there was a girl who went on Bumble,

but I never went anywhere and she moved.

And you know what?

It's my fault.

Because, you know, I complain about not having anyone,

but the minute anyone does come to my life and I have a chance, I do nothing with it.

she made me over to her apartment and we ate.

I couldn't talk to her, but every time she texted me, I would wait like a day to respond, and when we made plans, I would always feel awkward about it,

because all I wanted to do was be back in my apartment, but then I'm in my apartment, I'm alone.

So it's like, what the fuck is wrong with me that I complain about this,

and then I make no effort to try to change it.

I mean, ever since I started applying to grad school, I gave up and tried to make friends here.

And it's noticeable my landlord, Elaine, keeps commenting on how all of her past tenants do things on the weekends,

basically calling me like a friendless loser, which is true, but like to hear her just say that to me was really hard.

And that's why I feel like, you know, I mentioned earlier that I'm about to enter my mid-20s

and I feel like I have no experiences or social skills.

it's not just that I don't have no it's that I feel like I'm delayed

by the time I do make friends it's just gonna be so late for me

I don't even get into relationships I mean that's the same story but I feel like that's a

whole fucking other mess you know everyone tells me I'm young and I have time But it's still hard. So gross.

I'm sorry.

I didn't...

I knew I was emotional.

I didn't get crying like this.

I just don't know what's wrong with me.

That I can't make it work.

That I'm just lazy when it comes to making friends.

I just want it to be easy, you know?

When you just find that person that you're with all the time.

And again, I'm not talking romantically.

And it's been hard, especially with mom and dad, because before I would just talk to them because I had no one else.

But now with all the divorce stuff, there's stuff I can't talk to them about and I have no one-

and Travis and Kyle are too emotional and I can't talk to anyone.

I just look at myself and I don't know.

I'm wasting all these days.

I just feel so lonely.

I'm just so lonely.

All the time.

But I'm also terrified of it.

And I also want to be alone.

Maybe I'm just meant to be alone.

Maybe some people are meant to just be alone.

And I just feel like I'm expected to have people.

Like when I picture my future, I see what I want.

But when I think what's actually gonna happen, I see myself being that woman.

in her 40s who never found anybody

so I like I don't know like I adopt a kid or like get like IVF or something like I don't

there's anything wrong with that but like I don't see myself meeting anyone and having the kids and friends

I'd like those things but I don't think I'm gonna get it and Travis and Kyle will I know they will

and I'll be the older sister who's getting constantly lapped in life

by her younger siblings and I'm so happy for them and I'm not I'm not resentful.

I'm happy.

They deserve to be happy, but...

You're supposed to look up to your older sibling.

And I genuinely don't know what they have to look up to me for.

They made more friends.

They had more relationships.

Travis is already in a better, higher paying job.

They've traveled more.

They've done more.

They've experienced more.

What do they have to look up to me for?

Now I'm just pitying myself.

It looks so fucking depressing.

I feel like stuff has to change, but I don't know.

Once I move back to Hampton, how to change it?

How do we make friends?

I don't know how to make friends, but I'm scared.

I just want to run into somebody.

100

I hate meeting people online.

101

It's so awkward.

102

And you put all this into a conversation, but when you meet someone, you don't have that I feel like I need to meet people.

103

I need to meet people, but I don't know how and I don't think it's possible as an adult to just run into people.

104

And I'm just gonna be sitting at home like I did all through high school.

105

I think I'm a good person.

106

I think I have a lot to offer.

107

I just...

108

I don't know how to make myself try.

109

I don't know how to make myself more invested.

110

I want someone text to text back immediately and to just be excited about plans of their last minute

111

and to not say oh i want my alone time

112

when i'm alone all the time i think this is why it made me drink a lot on the weekends

113

because i'm not drinking tonight i had a coke when i went to get a pizza

114

really look at me I don't know why I'm talking Wow,

115

this has been so great.

116

People keep saying it'll happen.

117

You know, when I was in middle school, they said high school and high school.

118

They said college and college and real life and how I'm here.

119

I think people are running out of excuses to tell me about why I'm stuck in this place.

120

And there's no one to be mad at by myself.

121

I can't be mad at other people.

122

I can't be mad at the world.

123

I'm mad at myself.

124

Because I don't try.

125

I really don't.

126

And then I get so mad.

127

It's like I'm just so terrified.

128

It's the same thing with work.

129

I'm so terrified that I'll fuck it up, then I don't do anything at all.

130

And then, of course, if you don't do anything at all, then it happens.

131

So it's like trying to avoid that fear.

132

I'm just ensuring that the fear will happen.

133

I mean, when I move back to Hampton, I really I gotta, I really gotta step it up.

134

I gotta join all those student organizations at Simmons.

135

I gotta get a job and talk to the people.

136

I gotta be on Bumble BFF.

137

I gotta join groups.

138

I have to do, I have to try.

139

and I feel like that's really going to be the test.

140

I think the past couple years have been hard,

141

but I think that if I don't fix it in the next year when I'm back in Hampton,

142

I think that's just going to be who I am because, I don't know.

143

I just feel like, like I said before, 20 to 23, early 20s,

144

24 to 26 or mid-20s, 27 to 29 or late 20s.

145

I'm about to enter my mid-20s without ever having a solid friend.

146

And that needs to fucking change.

147

Either that, either that needs to change or I need to just be okay with it.

148

I either need to start making friends or just accept the fact that I'm

149

gonna be this alone person

150

and just come to terms with being like the cool aunt the way Janie is to Ellen

151

and all and you know Kelly and Ryan and Connor

152

that I'll just be the cool aunt for Travis

153

and Kyle like I either have to change my habits

154

or just accept the habits I already have

155

and I think I'm gonna give it another year of the first option and then after that we'll talk about acceptance.

156

In the meantime, I'm just going to sit here the rest of the night,

157

watch some reaction videos on Patreon, or do more of my Wikipedia rabbit hole research.

158

That is for nothing more than my own boredom and curiosity.

159

And then I'll get up tomorrow and continue to pack up my apartment.

160

Yay me!

✨ Empfohlenes Video

243 Sätze

Homebody in New York | An introvert's ideal way of recharging after a busy week is eating alone

Business EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students

122 Sätze

I don’t understand what we’re living for

Daily ConversationUniversity StudentsWorking Adults

38 Sätze

Speak Out B2. Unit 1D. BBC Street Interview. 3rd edition

Business EnglishInterview EnglishDaily Conversation

141 Sätze

I’m sorry

Interview EnglishDaily ConversationUniversity Students

Was du lernen wirst

Dieses Video hilft dir, zwei wichtige Sprechfertigkeiten zu entwickeln: Zum einen, natürliche Emotionen in der Sprache auszudrücken – der Sprecher teilt tiefe Gefühle wie Isolation und Selbstzweifel, was dir zeigt, wie Tonfall und Pausen Emotionen verstärken. Zum anderen, umgangssprachliche Sätze zu strukturieren: Phrasen wie "I mean" oder "you know" sind typisch für informelle Gespräche und helfen dir, dein Englisch weniger steif zu klingen. Diese Fähigkeiten sind perfekt fürs Englisch lernen mit YouTube, da du sie direkt in einem realen Kontext erkennst.

Höre nach diesen Klängen

Aufmerksame Hörer werden merken, dass der Sprecher oft Wörter miteinander verbindet – ein typisches Merkmal der verbundenen Sprache im Englischen. Zum Beispiel: "I don't know how to eat right" wird zu "I don't know howta eat right" (Reduktion von "to" zu "ta"). Oder "because I could tell a story" klingt wie "because I could tellastory" (Verbindung von "tell" und "a"). Diese Reduktionen machen das Englisch flüssiger und sind entscheidend, um Englische Aussprache zu verbessern. Achte auch auf die schwachen Formen von Verben wie "I'm" statt "I am" oder "it's" statt "it is" – sie tragen dazu bei, den Rhythmus natürlicher zu gestalten.

Sag es wie ein Native

Um den Rhythmus und die Betonung des Sprechers zu imitieren, probiere Englisch Shadowing (auch "shadowspeak" genannt): Höre einen kurzen Abschnitt des Videos, pausiere und wiederhole ihn sofort, so nah wie möglich an Tonfall und Tempo. Der Sprecher betont Wörter wie "alone", "superficial" oder "hard", um Emotionen zu betonen – folge diesem Muster, um deine Sätze aussagekräftiger zu machen. Achte auch auf die Pausen: Nach Sätzen wie "So it's like, what the fuck is wrong with me" macht der Sprecher eine kurze Pause, um die Überraschung oder Frustration zu betonen. Indem du diese Pausen nachvollziehst, lernst du, wie Rhythmus Gespräche lebendiger macht. Übe regelmäßig – so wirst du merken, dass dein Englisch allmählich flüssiger und natürlicher klingt.

Grammatik in diesem Video

Die Strukturen, die der Sprecher am häufigsten verwendet, mit den genauen Worten aus dem Video:

Struktur	Im Video
Present Perfect have/has + Partizip Perfekt – eine vergangene Handlung, die jetzt noch wichtig ist	haven't spoken · we've never hung · haven't made
Passiv be + Partizip Perfekt – wichtig ist, was geschieht, nicht wer es tut	is graduated · are meant
Verb + -ing enjoy, keep, stop … + -ing – Verben, auf die die -ing-Form folgt	started applying · keeps commenting · hate meeting
Zukunft mit „going to“ be going to + Verb – ein Plan oder etwas, das sich abzeichnet	gonna be · gonna happen · gonna get

Was ist die Shadowing-Technik?

Shadowing ist eine wissenschaftlich fundierte Sprachlerntechnik, die ursprünglich für die professionelle Dolmetscherausbildung entwickelt und durch den Polyglotten Dr. Alexander Arguelles populär gemacht wurde. Die Methode ist einfach aber wirkungsvoll: Du hörst englisches Audio von Muttersprachlern und wiederholst es sofort laut — wie ein Schatten, der dem Sprecher mit nur 1–2 Sekunden Verzögerung folgt. Anders als passives Hören oder Grammatikübungen zwingt Shadowing dein Gehirn und deine Mundmuskulatur, gleichzeitig echte Sprachmuster zu verarbeiten und zu reproduzieren. Studien zeigen, dass es Aussprachegenauigkeit, Intonation, Rhythmus, verbundene Sprache, Hörverständnis und Sprechflüssigkeit signifikant verbessert — was es zu einer der effektivsten Methoden für die IELTS Speaking-Vorbereitung und reale englische Kommunikation macht.

Shadowing-Technik: die vollständige Schritt-für-Schritt-Anleitung lesen →

Shadowing-Übung: I Have No Friends - Englisch Sprechen Lernen mit Video

Why You Have No Best Friend? | Peaceful & Slow English Podcast

E3 - Review 5-8

The Underrated Ones from Season 8 | Friends

I should have... – B1+ English Listening Test

If you never had a girlfriend, this video is for you

Almost Left Him | English Audiobook | Graded Reader Level 3

Is He My Boyfriend or Just a Friend With Benefits?

15 Minutes English Conversation Practice: Boost Your Listening Skills