Pratique du Shadowing: When Stress Stops Helping You (And Starts Hurting You) - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec YouTube
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There's a fine line between when stress stops helping you and when it starts hurting you.
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There's a fine line between when stress stops helping you and when it starts hurting you.
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And as much as high achievers don't like to admit it,
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pressure has its limits.
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Most high performers believe three things about stress that works against them.
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They believe that stress can't hurt them because they do so well under pressure.
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They would know when stress is becoming harmful.
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And they think pressure always leads to more growth.
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I've touched this personally as well.
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My name is Charlotte Stebbink-Mills.
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I've worked in stress, wellbeing and performance since 2005,
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supported over 8,000 people and spent over two decades helping high capacity change makers
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and leaders spot pressure patterns that reduce performance and impact before they create full burnout.
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I've also hosted over 250 podcast episodes and built my work around what actually changes capacity in real life,
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not just in theory.
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By the end of this,
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you'll know how to tell whether your stress is still serving your performance or whether it's quietly started working against you.
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This is for high performing impact driven people who are doing meaningful work,
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carrying responsibility well and still showing up strongly but are starting to feel that something is costing more than it should.
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So maybe you're wondering if your stress is helping you or how would you know if it isn't?
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That's what we're going to answer today because the danger isn't stress.
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The danger is not noticing when it changes because pressure has limits.
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So stress can start costing you before you start noticing it inside your daily life.
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And this is where capable people get caught out.
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They assume that because they're still performing well, stress isn't affecting them.
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But one thing I've noticed working with so many leaders is
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that stress often starts costing them long before it costs them anything visible on the outside.
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They're still hitting deadlines and still leading well in the room
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and still getting praised for good work as well but underneath
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that i usually see a few shifts happening their decision making gets heavier their recovery gets neglected
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and their emotional range just starts to get a lot narrower this is
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because performance is not the same as capacity you can still
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produce with a stressed out system for quite a long time especially
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if you're a conscientious driven and used to carrying a lot kind of leader right
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but when stress stays switched on your body starts using more energy to maintain your normal standards.
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And that means that the same level of output starts costing you more internally.
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In the stress performance pyramid that I use with clients,
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this is where it becomes really,
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really visible and less confusing about functioning really well.
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If this is you, you may notice that you're still competent in public,
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but less patient in private.
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You still get things done,
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but simple decisions feel strangely expensive and costly to you.
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The risk isn't losing performance and impact, right?
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A lot of PI performers believe that when they slow down or when they recover,
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they're going to lose something.
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It's actually about how much it's costing you to maintain it.
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If you're recognising yourself in this
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and you want to understand what your stress patterns may already be costing you
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when it comes to your performance and impact
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and your just daily general life then you can apply for
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a private exploration call below where we'll look at your patterns your capacity
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and whether there is a real opportunity to change what's driving it
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so the second mistake is assuming
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that harmful stress is going to announce itself clearly i've seen what stress looks like
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when it's productive and i've seen what it looks like when the same drive starts reducing our judgment,
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it shrinks our capacity, and it starts leaking into our health,
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our relationship, and our long-term impact.
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After two decades in this work,
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I can tell you that unhealthy stress rarely starts with this big dramatic crash.
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More often than not, it begins with a change in texture, right?
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It starts to just show up very,
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very differently and very subtly sometimes.
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So thinking starts to get maybe a bit foggier,
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perhaps sleep gets lighter, the body stays tense,
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or you replay conversations over and over.
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Maybe you push through and then crash.
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Often it can feel like a bracing that's happening.
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I had one client describe it perfectly to me, actually.
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I remember she said, it feels like I'm always preparing for something bad to happen,
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even when nothing's wrong.
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This is the shift from acute stress into chronic stress, right?
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Acute stress is that short-term rise to a challenge that then settles.
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this is typically where the healthy stress lives
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and then we have chronic stress
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which is different there's no real off switch to it
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so there's not necessarily a full return to baseline
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when we're in chronic stress see burnout sits further down
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that line as more of a cumulative effect of unresolved chronic stress
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and then we have trauma that sits even deeper still
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when kind of stress overwhelms the system and never really gets properly integrated
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so no healthy stress and unhealthy stress do not feel obvious.
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The unhealthy version often just feels normal because you've adapted to it.
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Ask yourself honestly, when was the last time you felt fully settled?
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Not distracted, not wired, not recovering from the week,
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but genuinely settled inside your body?
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Because the most dangerous stress is often the stress that started to feel familiar and we don't notice.
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So take a moment to notice for yourself right now.
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So the belief that pressure always leads to more growth is very,
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very, very common, right?
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But this is usually a real significant turning point because a lot of high performers still believe that the same pressure,
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the ones sharpened them, will keep making them stronger.
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But that belief works early, right?
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But it often doesn't help later on.
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See, pressure can sharpen focus and mobilize us into action and stretch us beyond our comfort zones and build confidence.
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That's all healthy stress, right?
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Psychologists call this eustress.
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But the pattern changes when challenge stops being followed up by recovery.
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I see this especially in people who are doing meaningful work, right?
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They're not careless.
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they actually care deeply about what it is they're doing often being a perhaps a parent
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or a community member or a leader in the workplace they really do care
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but they just keep on adding load without recalibrating themselves
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and this is where the sweet spot matters most the yorks dodson law shows
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that performance improves with stress up until a point too much and you get reactive and rigid or overloaded.
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Too little, we feel flat, perhaps even bored.
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In the middle is the optimum zone,
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right, between calm and chaos.
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This is where focus, flow and sustainable performance live.
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The issue isn't how much stress you have,
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it's about how well you're processing it.
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So even if pressure has led to growth and success previously,
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over time that's not the case.
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It's really really important to to bring yourself back into
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that middle way so you can sustain performance over time think of it like a bow
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and arrow a certain amount of tension creates power keep pulling without release
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and eventually you're going to create more force you are only creating strain
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so we need to let go stress can absolutely support growth but pressure without recovery does not create expansion or growth.
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It creates a sense of distortion,
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which a lot of high performers miss.
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If you feel like you might be missing some of this and you want to understand what's really driving your performance patterns,
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then check out the private exploration call below.
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And if it's a good fit for us to perhaps work together,
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we can talk about next steps.
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If not, you'll simply leave with a lot more clarity and understanding of what's actually happening for you.
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So the real work is not eliminating stress.
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It's actually learning to recognize which kind of stress you're carrying that needs to happen.
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So let me make this practical and share with you an example of a client that I've been working with.
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So she's somebody who had been managing back to back product launches,
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stepping into a much larger leadership role,
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and she was planning her wedding all at the same time.
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So for her, this was all good news.
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It was everything that she wanted.
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Right.
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But behind the scenes, she wasn't recovering well.
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her sleep was really fragmented she felt
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that she had like stomach knots from time to time
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and she started snapping at her team and her fiance right
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and she would then feel like super guilty about it
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so there was nothing wrong though externally
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so she couldn't quite put a finger on what was going
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on internally she was just living under this constant pressure this
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is what unhealthy stress often starts to look like in high performers not chaos but internal tension
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because the body never really kind of stands down the mind never fully closes off
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and closes the loops you know she was laying in bed
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every night thinking about this wedding plan did she get back to
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that person did she tell this person that
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or reply to this email this was all going on all the time
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so she was never fully closing the loops in her head
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and her system as a result was then staying alert
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and stimulated because the thing is her identity and sense of responsibility
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and her actual like bias to perfectionism had also started to feed off of the same state as well.
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So when stress is healthy,
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you can then stretch and kind of like recover over time.
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When stress is unhealthy, you stay switched on and start to call that normal.
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And that's exactly what she was doing.
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So she had to switch between the two by adding in a lot more recovery.
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So have a little moment
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and reflect for yourself is your stress still helping you is
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it is a challenge leaving you sharper than you were before
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or is stress hurting you
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and is success starting to come with some kind of hidden
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drain you don't need less ambition you just need more recovery it's as simple as
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that when it comes to to early stress better regulation
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and the ability to stop carry impression that longer serves you is the outcome
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that you then get the sweet spot between calm and chaos is not passive.
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It's actually where your best performance actually lives.
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This is where you can think clearly,
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lead well and recover properly.
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And you can create an impact without losing yourself in the process.
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So if stress keeps helping you to rise, fantastic.
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But if you feel like it's pulling you under,
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then the real skill is learning to recognize when it changes,
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not waiting until you collapse.
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If this video has helped,
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check out the next video,
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because everything we've talked about here becomes far more useful
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when you know how stress shows up in your body before performance drops.
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Watch that next.
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Context & Background
In this insightful video, Charlotte Stebbink-Mills delves into the critical relationship between stress and performance, particularly among high achievers. With over two decades of experience in the field, she highlights a common misconception: many individuals believe they can thrive under pressure without experiencing negative effects. However, Charlotte warns that stress can be detrimental long before it manifests visibly. Her extensive work, supporting over 8,000 individuals, has equipped her with the expertise to decode the patterns of pressure that can inhibit performance. This video serves as a pivotal resource for those seeking to evaluate their stress levels and ensure they do not inadvertently compromise their well-being.
Top 5 Phrases for Daily Communication
- When Stress Stops Helping You: A phrase applicable in discussing stress management and its impact on performance.
- Pressure Has Its Limits: This highlights the importance of recognizing boundaries when dealing with stress.
- Costing You Internally: Refers to the unseen toll that relentless pressure can take on an individual.
- Emotional Range Gets Narrower: Captures how stress affects one's emotional responses in private versus public settings.
- Understanding Stress Patterns: A vital phrase for those aiming to analyze their emotional and operational responses to stress.
Step-by-step Shadowing Guide
To effectively improve your English pronunciation and comprehension using the shadowing technique, follow these steps while watching the video:
- Choose Your Segment: Start with a manageable segment of the video, ideally a few minutes long, focusing on Charlotte's key points about stress management.
- Listen Actively: Play the chosen segment and listen carefully. Pay attention to the intonation, pauses, and emotional cues in Charlotte's speech.
- Practice Shadow Speech: Immediately repeat what you hear, mimicking Charlotte's pronunciation and rhythm. This technique helps internalize the sounds of English.
- Record and Compare: Use a recording device to capture your shadowing attempts. Compare your pronunciation with the original to identify areas for improvement.
- Review and Reflect: After completing your shadowing practice, reflect on the phrases that challenged you. Continuous reflection helps enhance your learning process.
By consistently applying this shadowing technique, you can effectively improve English pronunciation while gaining insight into nuanced discussions about stress and performance. Utilize this shadowing site to explore more content and refine your communication skills!
Qu'est-ce que la technique du Shadowing ?
Le Shadowing est une technique d'apprentissage des langues fondée sur la science, développée à l'origine pour la formation des interprètes professionnels. Le principe est simple mais puissant : vous écoutez de l'anglais natif et le répétez immédiatement à voix haute — comme une ombre suivant le locuteur avec un décalage de 1 à 2 secondes. Les recherches montrent une amélioration significative de la précision de la prononciation, de l'intonation, du rythme, des liaisons, de la compréhension orale et de la fluidité.
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