शैडोइंग अभ्यास: English Learning Podcast for Easy Daily Life Conversation | Accept People as They Are - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें
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English Goal Podcast.
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Listen, learn, and speak English with confidence.
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Hey, English learners.
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Welcome back to the English Goal Podcast.
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I'm Kevin.
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And I'm Rachel.
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It's great to have you here with us today.
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Today we're talking about something that sounds simple, but honestly, it can be quite difficult sometimes.
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Yes, we're talking about accepting people as they are.
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You know, sometimes we care about someone, but we still wish they were a little different.
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A little more organized, a little more patient, a little more punctual.
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Or maybe a little less dramatic.
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Oh, Kevin.
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What?
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I'm just giving examples.
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Of course you are.
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But seriously, we all do this sometimes.
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We have an idea in our minds about how another person should behave.
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And when they don't behave that way, we can become frustrated.
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This episode is perfect for B1 and B2 English learners.
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And if you're a strong A2 learner, don't worry.
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You can listen to this episode, too, and learn from the conversation at your own pace.
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And if you are listening while walking, while traveling, while having your morning coffee, while doing some housework, or simply relaxing at home,
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just listen and enjoy the conversation.
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You don't need to understand every single word.
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Just focus on the general meaning, listen to how we speak, and notice some useful English expressions along the way.
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And if you hear a word or phrase you don't know, don't worry.
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You can come back to it later.
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The important thing is to keep listening and keep practicing.
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So, relax, enjoy this English lesson, and let's talk about accepting people as they are.
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Let's begin.
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Rachel, let me ask you something.
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Do you think we sometimes try too hard to change other people?
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Oh, definitely.
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I think we do it more often than we realize.
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Why do you think that happens?
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I think it's because we have expectations.
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When we become close to someone, we start imagining how they should behave.
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Hmm.
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So instead of seeing the person as they really are, we sometimes see the person we want them to be.
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Exactly. And
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that can create problems can you give me an example sure imagine you have a friend who is always late I
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already know where this is going you might invite them to meet you at 7 o 'clock
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and they arrive at 720 20 minutes late maybe 30 Rachel I'm just making the example worse fair enough
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so you get annoyed you think why can't this person just be on time.
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And then you give them advice.
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Yes, you need to leave earlier, you need to plan better, you need to set an alarm.
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And perhaps you said the same thing ten times.
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Exactly.
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But after a while, you realize something.
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What?
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This person might simply be different from you.
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That's an interesting point.
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Maybe you love planning everything.
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You like being early.
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You feel relaxed when everything is organized.
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And the other person might be more spontaneous.
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Right.
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They might not see being 10 minutes late as a serious problem.
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So accepting them doesn't necessarily mean saying being late is wonderful.
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No, not at all.
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That's important.
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Accepting someone as they are doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they do.
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It means understanding that this is who they are right now.
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Exactly.
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You can disagree with someone's behavior and still respect them as a person.
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I think that's where people sometimes get confused.
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How so?
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They think acceptance means allowing people to do anything they want.
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Yes, but that's not what we're talking about.
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For example, if someone constantly speaks to you disrespectfully, you don't have to accept that behavior.
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Absolutely.
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You can say, I care about you, but I don't want to be spoken to like that.
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That's a boundary.
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Exactly.
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And having boundaries is healthy.
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So perhaps acceptance and boundaries can exist together.
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Definitely.
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You can accept that someone has a certain personality, while also deciding what behavior you will and won't accept in your own life.
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Hmm.
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I really like that distinction.
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Me too.
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Let's talk about family, because I think this happens a lot with family members.
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Oh, yes.
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Family can be a big one.
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Maybe you have a parent who worries about everything.
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Or a brother who never answers his phone.
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Or a sister who talks for 20 minutes before getting to the point.
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I know someone like that.
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You?
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No comment.
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Fair enough.
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But seriously, with family, we often have strong expectations because we've known these people for years.
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And sometimes we think, after all these years, shouldn't they understand me?
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That's a very common thought.
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We expect people close to us to think like us.
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But they don't, and they never will completely.
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Because they're different people.
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Exactly.
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They have different experiences, different personalities, different fears, and different ways of seeing the world.
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And that's actually what makes relationships interesting.
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It can be, yes.
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Although sometimes it's also exhausting.
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Very true.
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I think another problem is that we sometimes take people's behavior personally.
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Give me an example.
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Imagine you send a message to a friend and they don't reply for several hours.
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And immediately you think, they're ignoring me.
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Exactly.
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Or they're angry with me.
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Or I've done something wrong.
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But perhaps they're busy.
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Maybe their phone is in another room.
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Maybe they're working.
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Maybe they're having a difficult day.
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Or maybe they simply don't check their messages very often.
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Right.
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So we're creating a story in our heads without knowing the full situation.
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That's the problem.
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We make assumptions.
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And assumptions can create unnecessary stress.
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Absolutely.
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Sometimes it's better to pause and ask yourself, do I actually know what's happening?
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That's a powerful question.
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You know what else I think we need to accept?
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What's that?
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People change.
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Yes
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and sometimes they change in ways we don't expect that's true
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maybe you have a friend you used to see every weekend then they get a new job start a family
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or become interested in something completely different
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and suddenly the friendship feels different you might think why aren't things like they used to be
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but people grow and growing means changing exactly we can't expect people to stay exactly the same just
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because we liked the way they were before.
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That's difficult, though.
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It is.
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Especially when you miss the old version of the relationship.
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Yes.
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Sometimes acceptance means letting go of the idea that things have to stay the same.
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That's a hard lesson.
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But an important one.
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I also think social media makes this more difficult.
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How?
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We see people showing the best parts of their lives, perfect holidays, perfect relationships, perfect homes.
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And we start comparing.
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Yes.
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Then we expect ourselves and other people to behave like those people online.
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But we're not seeing the whole story.
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Exactly.
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And sometimes we even expect ourselves to be perfect.
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That's true.
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We think, I should be more patient.
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I should be more confident.
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I should be more productive.
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And when we can't meet those expectations, we become frustrated with ourselves.
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So accepting people as they are also includes accepting ourselves as we are.
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That's an important point.
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You can want to improve without constantly telling yourself that you're not good enough.
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I like that.
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So, Rachel, if someone listening today is thinking, I have someone in my life who really annoys me, what could they do?
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First, I would say pause.
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Just pause?
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Yes.
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Before reacting, ask yourself, what exactly is bothering me?
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Good question.
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Is the person actually doing something harmful, or are they simply doing something differently from you?
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Ah, that's a big difference.
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It is.
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Maybe they aren't wrong.
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Maybe they're just different. And then?
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Try to understand their perspective.
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Instead of immediately judging them.
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Exactly.
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Ask questions.
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Listen.
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Give them a chance to explain.
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And perhaps we should also ask ourselves, would I want someone to accept me even though I have habits they don't like?
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Absolutely.
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Because we're all difficult sometimes.
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That's very true.
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Even you, Rachel?
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Especially me.
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I appreciate the honesty.
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But there's another side to this.
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What's that?
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Sometimes we spend too much energy trying to change someone who doesn't want to change.
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Yes.
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We give advice, we explain, we complain, we argue.
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And nothing changes.
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Exactly.
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At some point, you have to decide whether you can accept the person as they are.
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Or whether you need some distance.
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Right.
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Because you can't control another person's choices.
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You can communicate.
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You can explain how you feel.
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You can set boundaries.
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But you can't control them.
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And trying to control people can be exhausting.
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Sometimes the person you need to change isn't the other person.
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It's your own response.
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Hmm.
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That's something worth thinking about.
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And acceptance can actually make relationships easier.
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Because you stop expecting people to be someone they're not.
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Yes.
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You become more relaxed.
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You listen more.
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You argue less about small things.
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And you appreciate the things you like about that person.
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Exactly.
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Instead of thinking, I wish you were different, you can think, this is who you are.
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What can I appreciate about you?
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That's a much healthier question.
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Of course, acceptance doesn't happen overnight.
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No. Sometimes you have to remind yourself again and again.
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Especially when someone does the same annoying thing for the hundredth time.
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Yes.
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Take a deep breath.
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Count to ten.
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And remember, different doesn't always mean wrong.
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I think that's a great sentence to remember.
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Word walk.
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Before we finish, let's take a quick word walk
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and look at five useful expressions from today's conversation the first
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one is accept someone for who they are it means accepting
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a person without expecting them to become someone else for example I don't agree with everything my brother does
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but I accept him for who he is the second expression is come to terms with this means accepting something
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that may be difficult or disappointing for example I had to come to terms with the fact
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that our friendship had changed the third expression is let go
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of it means to stop holding on to an idea feeling expectation
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or situation for example sometimes you need to let go of
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unrealistic expectations the fourth expression is see things from someone's perspective this means trying to understand how another person sees
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or experiences a situation for example try to see things from her perspective before you judge her
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and the fifth expression is set boundaries this means clearly deciding what behavior you will
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and won't accept from other people for example it's important to
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set boundaries in healthy relationships these are five useful expressions you can take from today's conversation.
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Try using one of them today.
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Maybe write a sentence in the comments.
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So, Rachel, what's the biggest lesson for you from today's conversation?
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I think it's this.
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People don't have to be like us to be good people.
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I like that.
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We can have different personalities, different habits, different opinions, and different ways of living.
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And we don't have to agree on everything.
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Exactly.
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We just need to learn when to accept differences, when to communicate, and when to set boundaries.
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And perhaps we should spend less time trying to change other people.
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And more time understanding them.
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And understanding ourselves.
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That's a good place to end.
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Thank you for spending some of your valuable time with us today.
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We hope this conversation gave you some useful ideas, but more importantly, we hope you enjoyed practicing English with us.
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Keep learning, keep practicing, and remember to accept people as they are while giving yourself permission to grow, too.
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I'm Rachel.
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And I'm Kevin.
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And remember, your English goal and your life goal are both closer than you think.
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See you in the next episode.
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आप क्या सीखेंगे
इस वीडियो में, आप कुछ महत्वपूर्ण बातचीत कौशल विकसित करेंगे जो आपकी अंग्रेजी बोलने की क्षमता को बढ़ाएंगे। सबसे पहले, आप यह समझेंगे कि दूसरों को स्वीकार करना कैसे संवाद में ह्यूमन कनेक्शन को मजबूत करता है। इसके अलावा, आप अपने विचारों को स्पष्टता से व्यक्त करने का अभ्यास करेंगे, खासकर जब आप किसी की आदतों या व्यवहार के बारे में बात कर रहे हों। अंत में, आप सुनने की तकनीक का उपयोग करके खुद को और अधिक आत्मविश्वास से संवाद करने के लिए प्रेरित महसूस करेंगे।
इन ध्वनियों पर ध्यान दें
वीडियो में कुछ महत्वपूर्ण ध्वनि तत्वों को ध्यान में रखना आवश्यक है। आप सुनेंगे कि कैसे बोलने वाले एक दूसरे से जुड़े हुए वाक्यों में उच्चारण करते हैं। उदाहरण के लिए, 'want to' अक्सर 'wanna' में बदल जाता है। ऐसे कई उदाहरण हैं जहाँ शब्दों को मिलाकर बोला जाता है, जिसे हम संयुक्त भाषण कहते हैं। यह सुनने की तकनीक आपके अंग्रेजी उच्चारण में सुधार में मदद करेगी। ध्यान दें कि कुछ शब्दों का उच्चारण कैसे हल्का होता है और आप जैसे-जैसे सुनते हैं, अपने उच्चारण को उनके साथ मिलाने की कोशिश करें।
जैसे एक स्थानीय बोलें
जब आप वीडियो में संवाद सुनते हैं, तो उनके बोलने के रीतिमान और तनाव को नकल करना महत्वपूर्ण है। स्थानीय रूप से बोलने वालों की तरह बोलने के लिए, आप उनके बोलने की गति और लय का अनुकरण कर सकते हैं। उदाहरण के लिए, जब वे किसी मित्र के बारे में बात करते हैं, तो उनकी आवाज़ में जो भावनात्मक तनाव होता है, उसे पकड़ने की कोशिश करें। यह आपको अंग्रेजी बोलने का अभ्यास करने में मदद करेगा। जब आप उनके साथ बोलने की कोशिश करेंगे, तो यह न केवल आपकी फ्लुएंसी को बढ़ावा देगा, बल्कि आपको बातचीत में अधिक सहज महसूस करने में भी मदद करेगा।
याद रखें, शैडो स्पीच तकनीक का उपयोग करें, यानी सुनें और तुरंत बोलने की कोशिश करें। इससे आपको सही शब्दों और वाक्य संरचना को आत्मसात करने में मदद मिलेगी। जब आप इस तरह से अभ्यास करते हैं, तो आप अपने संवाद कौशल को तेजी से सुधार सकते हैं।
शैडोइंग तकनीक क्या है?
शैडोइंग (Shadowing) एक विज्ञान-समर्थित भाषा सीखने की तकनीक है जो मूल रूप से पेशेवर दुभाषिया प्रशिक्षण के लिए विकसित की गई थी। विधि सरल लेकिन शक्तिशाली है: आप मूल अंग्रेज़ी ऑडियो सुनते हैं और तुरंत इसे ज़ोर से दोहराते हैं — जैसे वक्ता की छाया 1-2 सेकंड की देरी से। शोध से पता चलता है कि यह उच्चारण सटीकता, स्वर, लय, जुड़ी हुई ध्वनियाँ, सुनने की समझ और बोलने की प्रवाहशीलता में काफ़ी सुधार करता है।