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Englishly Podcast.
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From Speak English with Class.
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Hey, Anna.
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I have brought something that will solve every problem in your life.
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Is it money?
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No!
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Then please lower your expectations.
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It is a positivity jar.
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That sounds dangerous.
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Dangerous?
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Yes.
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People put very confident advice inside little jars.
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These are positive messages.
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Give me one.
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All right.
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Here.
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Everything happens for a reason.
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Yesterday, I dropped an entire bowl of soup on the kitchen floor.
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Perhaps the floor was hungry.
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I already dislike this jar.
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We're only just started.
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Good.
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Let's start the episode before I accidentally dropped the jar, too.
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Hey, English learners!
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Welcome back to the English Leap Podcast, your cozy little place to learn easy English through real, everyday conversations.
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I'm Anna.
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And I'm Jake.
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Today, Anna is testing my positivity and possibly my patience.
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You brought a jar full of motivational messages.
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You accepted the risk.
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I thought it would be a cheerful way to talk about how to stay positive every day.
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It could be, but I want to know whether these messages actually help when life becomes difficult.
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So we're putting positivity on trial?
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Yes, you can be the lawyer for the jar. And you?
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I'll ask the uncomfortable questions.
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You are very good at that.
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Thank you.
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That wasn't completely a compliment.
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I'll take it anyway.
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Before we choose another message, what does staying positive mean to you?
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It doesn't mean feeling happy every minute.
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Good, because I failed at that before breakfast.
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What happened?
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We'll get to that.
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Staying positive means responding to an imperfect day without immediately deciding that everything is terrible.
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That sounds much more realistic.
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Let's see if your jar agrees.
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I'll choose the next message.
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Don't search for a good one.
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I'm not searching.
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Your hand has been inside the jar for a suspiciously long time.
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Fine.
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This one.
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Read it.
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Choose happiness.
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There it is.
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What?
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The kind of advice that sounds lovely until you actually need it.
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You don't believe we can choose happiness?
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Not whenever we want.
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Imagine that you call me after a horrible day.
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All right.
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You tell me your train was canceled, you lost an important document, and someone was rude to you at work.
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That sounds like a terrible day.
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Then I smile and say, Jake, choose happiness.
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I would choose a different friend.
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That's the problem.
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The message may be well -intentioned, but it can make people feel responsible for every difficult emotion.
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As if being sad means they're doing something wrong.
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Yes.
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Sometimes you're sad because something sad happened.
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Sometimes you're worried because the situation is uncertain.
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You cannot always change that feeling immediately.
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Then what can we choose?
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Perhaps not the first feeling, but sometimes we can choose our next response.
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That happened to me this morning.
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Is this the breakfast failure you mentioned?
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Partly.
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I woke up late, put my shirt on inside out, and burned my toast.
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A powerful beginning.
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Then I couldn't find my keys.
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Where were they?
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In my hand.
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You were holding them?
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Yes, but I was looking for them with the other hand.
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How long did this continue?
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Longer than I would like to admit.
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I wish I'd seen it.
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I'm glad you didn't.
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By that point, I had completely lost my composure.
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Your calm self -control?
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Gone, because of burnt toast, an inside -out shirt, and a set of keys I was already holding.
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A very powerful morning.
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Then I looked at the time and thought, this whole day is going to be awful.
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One difficult morning suddenly became a terrible whole day?
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Yes.
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My mind took three small problems and magnified them.
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It made them feel much bigger than they really were.
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Much bigger.
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Burnt toast became proof that nothing was going to work.
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What did you do next?
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I nearly opened social media.
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That would have helped.
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I heard the sarcasm.
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Good.
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Instead, I put my phone down and asked, what would make the next five minutes easier?
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That is a much better question than how can I become happy immediately.
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I changed my shirt, opened the window, and made fresh toast.
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Did you feel wonderful?
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No, but I felt less chaotic.
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And sometimes that is enough.
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We put too much pressure on ourselves to make a complete emotional transformation.
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Yes.
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If I'm in a bad mood, I think I have to become cheerful immediately.
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You don't.
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You may only need to become calm enough to choose what happens next.
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So, moving from miserable to happy isn't the only successful change.
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No. You can move from overwhelmed to slightly calmer, from stuck to moving, from confused to a little clearer.
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Then, choose happiness is leaving the jar.
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What are you writing instead?
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I'm writing, choose one helpful next step.
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Much better.
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There.
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Our first repaired message.
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Your handwriting still needs repairing.
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One problem at a time, Anna.
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Fair enough.
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Although I'm surprised you don't like Choose Happiness.
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You always seem naturally positive. Do I?
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Yes.
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You're usually the calm person.
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People probably come to you when they're having a difficult day.
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They do.
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And that can create a different problem.
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What kind of problem?
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Sometimes when everyone thinks you're the positive one, you begin to believe you're not allowed to have a difficult day yourself.
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Do you feel that way?
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Sometimes.
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Friends call me when they're worried.
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Family members tell me their problems.
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I usually listen and try to help.
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That sounds like you.
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But sometimes I'm tired too.
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Sometimes I don't have a calm answer.
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I probably forget that when I bring my problems to you.
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You're not the only one.
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What do you do when you don't have the energy to be reassuring?
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Usually I try to sound reassuring anyway.
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Even when you're struggling?
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Yes.
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A few weeks ago, I had several things on my mind.
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Nothing dramatic, but I felt emotionally tired.
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Did you tell anyone?
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Not at first.
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A friend called because she was worried about a decision.
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I listened for almost an hour.
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You stayed on the call for an hour?
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Yes, but honestly, I didn't have the energy for that conversation.
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Then why didn't you say something?
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I didn't want to disappoint her.
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What happened afterward?
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I sat quietly and felt annoyed.
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With your friend?
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At first, yes.
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Then I realized she didn't know I needed support because I hadn't told her.
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You were waiting for her to notice something you were actively hiding.
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Yes.
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It wasn't very fair to either of us.
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What did you say when you called her back?
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I said, I'm glad you talked to me, but I was having a difficult day, too.
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How did she respond?
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She said, Why didn't you tell me?
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Fair question.
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Very fair.
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I had been trying so hard to remain the calm, positive friend that I wasn't being honest.
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That reminds me of another message in this jar. Which one?
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I saw it near the top.
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Wait, here it is.
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Good vibes only.
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That sounds very different after hearing your story.
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Yes, because where are the difficult feelings supposed to go?
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Apparently, they must wait outside.
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Then I'll be outside with them.
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You're rejecting the good vibes?
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No, I'm rejecting the word only.
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That makes sense.
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There's nothing wrong with enjoying positive energy.
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But when we say good vibes only, we may accidentally tell people that sadness, worry, and disappointment are not welcome.
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So they pretend?
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Perhaps.
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They smile, change the subject, or say, I'm fine, even when they aren't.
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Have you ever known that someone wasn't fine, even though they said they were? Of course.
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Sometimes the words say one thing, but everything else says something different.
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Their voice becomes quieter.
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They stop making eye contact.
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Or they say, I'm fine, much too quickly.
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Yes.
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But we also have to be careful.
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We shouldn't force someone to explain their feelings before they're ready.
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What could we say?
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You don't have to talk about it, but I'm here if you want to.
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That is gentle.
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It gives the person a choice.
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Support should feel like an open door, not an interview.
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Then let's replace good vibes only.
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Right.
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All honest feelings are welcome.
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There.
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That feels warmer.
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It allows people to bring their real feelings into a conversation.
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But when someone does bring us a difficult feeling, we often panic.
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We do.
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We think we need to say something wise immediately.
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And when we cannot think of anything wise, we reach for one of these.
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A jar message?
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Look on the bright side.
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Everything will be fine.
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Other people have it worse.
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I have definitely said all three.
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Did they help?
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I'm beginning to think you already know the answer.
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I want to hear it from you.
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Alright.
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I once gave a friend some very well -intentioned but very unhelpful positive advice.
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What happened?
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He applied for a job he really wanted.
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He prepared for weeks, reached the final interview, and then received a rejection.
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Oh, no. He sounded completely deflated.
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As though all his confidence and excitement had suddenly disappeared?
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Yes.
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He had put so much hope into that opportunity.
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What did you say to him?
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I immediately said, Don't worry.
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A better job is waiting for you.
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You couldn't possibly know that.
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I know.
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He became very quiet and then asked, Can I be disappointed for one evening?
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Oh, that must have stopped you for a moment.
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It did.
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What did you say?
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Yes.
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Good recovery.
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We ordered food and complained about the interview process.
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Was the complaining helpful?
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For that evening, yes.
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He didn't want a plan.
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He didn't want advice.
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He wanted someone to understand why he was upset.
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And what happened the following day?
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We looked at other opportunities.
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That's important.
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Positivity does not always need to arrive first.
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Sometimes disappointment needs a little room before hope can enter.
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That belongs in your jar.
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I'll need a larger piece of paper.
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It also shows that complaining is not always negative.
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You believe complaining can be helpful?
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Sometimes.
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If you say, that meeting was exhausting, I need a short break, you are recognizing how you feel.
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But if I describe every annoying moment from the meeting for the next three hours… You may be keeping yourself inside it.
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So, how do I know whether talking is helping?
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Ask yourself, do I need comfort, a solution, or simply someone to listen?
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What if I don't know?
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You can say that, too.
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I'm upset, and I'm not sure what I need yet.
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That sounds honest.
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Honest language is often more helpful than positive advice.
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I understand that now.
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With my friend, I was trying to rush him toward a positive ending because his disappointment made me uncomfortable.
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And you were giving him a future that you couldn't promise.
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Which brings us back to the first message you pulled from the jar.
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Everything happens for a reason.
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Do you still dislike it?
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I don't always dislike it.
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I just think we often say it too early.
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Before the person has even had time to understand what happened.
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Or before they've had time to admit that it hurt.
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Do you believe difficult experiences can teach us something? Of course.
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But that doesn't mean we must immediately turn every painful experience into a lesson.
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Why not?
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Because sometimes we're still experiencing it.
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Imagine that a plan I cared about has just failed.
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You'd be disappointed.
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And you immediately ask, what did this teach you?
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Too soon?
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Much too soon.
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At that moment, the honest answer might be, it taught me that I'm upset.
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Then when should we look for the lesson?
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When we're ready.
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A lesson discovered naturally can help us.
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A lesson forced too early can feel like pressure.
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Have you ever understood something only much later?
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Yes.
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Years ago, I applied for an opportunity I wanted very badly.
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Did you get it?
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No. At the time, people told me, it wasn't meant for you, and something better will come.
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But you had only just been rejected.
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Did those comments comfort you?
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Not then.
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Something better did eventually come, but that wasn't what I needed to hear in that moment.
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What did you need?
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Someone to say, I know you worked hard for this.
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It makes sense that you're disappointed.
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And what did you learn later?
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That I had connected one result with my entire sense of progress.
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I thought one rejection proved that I wasn't good enough.
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But you couldn't see that while it was happening.
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No. I needed distance.
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Then perhaps the new message should be, you don't have to understand this today.
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I like that.
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It leaves the future open without inventing a reason.
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It also removes the pressure to feel grateful for something that still hurts.
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There.
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Another repaired message.
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Are jars becoming much more sensible?
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And much less cheerful.
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Honest positivity can still be hopeful.
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It just doesn't rush.
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Right.
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It gives us space to feel something before we decide what it means.
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Space before giving advice.
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Space before trying to fix everything.
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Although creating that kind of space is becoming difficult.
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Because we fill every quiet moment?
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Often with this.
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My phone?
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It has been waiting beside your hand throughout this entire conversation.
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That felt strangely personal.
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It was meant to.
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I'm not using it.
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You checked it twice.
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I checked the time.
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There is a clock on the wall.
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I don't trust that clock.
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We often reach for our phones without even deciding to, especially when we feel uncomfortable or bored.
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Or first thing in the morning. That too.
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You don't check your phone in the morning?
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I try not to.
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The word try sounds important.
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It is very important.
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What do you do instead?
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Nothing impressive.
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I open the curtains, drink some water, and stand near the window for two quiet minutes.
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Only two minutes?
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I'm not trying to transform my life before breakfast.
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I'm allowing myself to enter the day before the world enters my mind.
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No journal?
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No. No exercise?
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No. No green drink?
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Why is the drink always green?
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Apparently, positivity has a color.
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Those two minutes don't make me wildly happy.
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They give me something quieter.
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What would you call it?
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Contentment.
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That feeling that, for this small moment, I don't need anything else.
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No exciting achievement?
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Just water, an open curtain, and two peaceful minutes.
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Maybe positivity is sometimes closer to contentment than excitement.
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I think it often is.
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Happiness can feel bright and energetic.
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Contentment feels quiet and settled.
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I like that.
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You don't need a perfect morning routine.
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You only need to notice which small habits leave you feeling clearer.
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Mine could be making coffee without taking my phone into the kitchen.
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Could you manage that?
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The phone would only be a few meters away.
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Again, that wasn't my question.
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I could try.
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Good.
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And if I keep trying but nothing changes, perhaps effort isn't the real problem.
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Perhaps the plan needs to change.
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That sounds like a warning for another message in the jar. Which one?
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Never give up.
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Oh.
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That reaction was different.
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Because I used to believe that message completely.
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You?
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I thought you were going to criticize it immediately.
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A few years ago, I joined an online course because I wanted to improve a skill for work.
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What was the course like?
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Long recorded lessons, pages of notes, and difficult exercises at the end of every section.
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Did you enjoy it?
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Not at all.
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And you still stayed with it?
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For nearly three months.
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Why?
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Because I had paid for it, and because stopping felt like failure.
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Were you learning?
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A little.
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But mostly, I was opening the course, staring at the lesson, and feeling guilty.
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So the course was becoming another source of pressure.
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It was.
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But every time I thought about leaving, I heard the same message in my head.
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Never give up.
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You continued with a method that wasn't working because you wanted to prove that you could continue.
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Yes.
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I cared more about not looking like a quitter than I cared about actually learning.
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What changed?
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A colleague asked what I had learned from the course.
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What did you say?
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I gave a very long answer that contained almost no information.
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That is a special skill.
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It became obvious that I needed a different approach.
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What did you do?
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I stopped the course.
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You actually stopped?
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Yes!
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It felt uncomfortable at first.
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Then I found a smaller class where I could ask questions and practice with other people.
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And that worked better?
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Much better.
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Then you didn't abandon the goal, you changed the method.
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Right.
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That required adaptability.
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The ability to change your approach when the old one isn't working.
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Adaptability is not the same as giving up.
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No, it means you care more about making progress than proving that your first plan was perfect.
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So, changing the path is not abandoning the destination.
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I wish someone had told me that three months earlier.
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We can put it in the jar now.
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Know when to continue and when to change your approach.
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I'm writing it.
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How is the handwriting?
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Adaptable.
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That is not how handwriting works.
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Mine has learned to change.
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Of course it has.
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Which message are you taking home?
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All honest feelings are welcome.
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Because of the conversation with your friend?
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Yes.
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I don't want positivity to become another performance.
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I'm taking choose one helpful next step.
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Because of your morning?
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Tomorrow, if something goes wrong, I'll try not to turn it into a prediction about the whole day.
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That sounds sensible.
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And if I burn my toast?
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Make another piece.
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And if I lose my keys?
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Check your hands first.
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Very helpful.
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You can burn your toast without allowing it to predict the future.
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I knew the toast story had a purpose.
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Perhaps everything happens for a reason.
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Really?
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No, I just wanted to see your face.
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That was cruel.
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But you kept your composure.
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Barely.
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And now that we've repaired your positivity jar… We can slow down some of the useful words that appeared along the way.
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Yes, it's time for Word Tour!
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Yes, it's time for Word Tour, where we slow down useful words from today's conversation.
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Our first word is composure.
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Com -po -sure.
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Composure.
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Composure means the ability to stay calm and in control of your emotions.
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Or, in my case, the calm control I lost while looking for the keys in my own hand.
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You could say, I took a slow breath and tried to regain my composure.
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Regain my composure.
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That means become calm again after feeling worried, angry, or confused.
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You could also say, she maintained her composure during a very difficult conversation.
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Strong sentence.
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She may have felt emotional, but she remained calm on the outside.
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Our next word is magnify.
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Mag -ni -fy.
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Magnify.
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Magnify means to make something appear bigger than it really is.
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We can magnify a small problem by thinking about it again and again.
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You could say, my anxious thoughts magnified a small mistake.
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Very useful.
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The mistake did not become bigger, but it felt bigger inside your mind.
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Another example, try not to magnify one difficult moment into a terrible day.
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That sentence could have saved my breakfast.
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Our next word is deflated.
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Deflated means suddenly feeling less confident, hopeful, or excited.
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Like my friend after he didn't get the job he wanted.
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You could say, I felt completely deflated after receiving the rejection.
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Honest sentence.
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You had hope before, and then the hope suddenly dropped.
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Another example.
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Her negative comment left me feeling a little deflated.
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Not destroyed, not completely hopeless, just lower in confidence and energy than before.
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Our next word is contentment.
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Contentment.
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Contentment.
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Contentment is a quiet feeling of happiness and satisfaction.
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It is not wild excitement, it is the peaceful feeling that for this moment you have enough.
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You could say, I felt a sense of contentment while sitting quietly by the window.
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That fits today's conversation perfectly.
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Another example, she found contentment in a simple daily routine.
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Nice.
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Nothing dramatic happened.
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She simply felt peaceful and satisfied with the moment.
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Our final word is adaptability.
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Adaptability.
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Adaptability.
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Adaptability means the ability to change your approach when a situation changes or your original plan does not work.
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Like leaving an ineffective course and finding a learning method that suits you better.
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You could say, Adaptability helped me find a better way to reach my goal.
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Strong sentence.
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You did not abandon the goal.
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You changed the way you were moving towards it.
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Another example, Adaptability is important when life does not follow your original plan.
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Because continuing with the wrong plan is not always a sign of strength.
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So today's words are composure, magnify, deflated, contentment, and adaptability.
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Five words that show different parts of realistic positivity.
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Keeping your composure when a moment becomes difficult.
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Not magnifying a small problem.
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Recognizing when disappointment leaves you deflated.
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Finding contentment in an ordinary moment.
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And using adaptability when your first approach is not working.
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But understanding these words is only the first step.
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Now let's use them to express real thoughts and experiences more naturally.
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We're going to take some clear but basic sentences about positivity.
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We're making them sound more precise, believable, and emotionally honest.
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This is Say It Better.
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First sentence.
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I got very upset over a small problem.
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The meaning is clear, but we can describe the emotional moment more precisely.
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Say it better.
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I lost my composure over something quite small.
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That sounds much natural.
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Yes.
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I lost my composure means I could no longer remain calm or control my reaction.
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And something quite small shows that you now see the situation more clearly.
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Like looking for the keys that are already in your hand?
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We will remember that story for a long time.
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Next sentence.
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I made the problem bigger in my head.
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Very common experience.
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The sentence is already understandable, but we can make it shorter and stronger.
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Say it better.
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I magnified the problem in my mind.
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That is more precise.
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You are not saying the real problem became bigger?
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You're saying your thoughts made it feel more serious than it really was.
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One burnt piece of toast became evidence that my entire day was ruined.
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A perfect example of magnifying a problem.
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Next sentence.
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I felt very sad after I didn't get the opportunity.
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Sad works, but it doesn't fully describe that sudden loss of confidence and excitement.
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Say it better.
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I felt completely deflated after I was turned down.
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That sounds more expressive.
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Turned down means rejected or not accepted.
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And deflated describes the emotional drop that sometimes follows rejection.
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You were excited before, then the energy seemed to disappear.
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Next sentence.
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I feel happy with simple things.
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A lovely idea, but happy is quite general.
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Say it better.
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I find contentment in small, ordinary moments.
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That sounds calm and mature.
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Yes.
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Find contentment suggests a quiet and peaceful kind of happiness.
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Not jumping around the room with excitement.
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No. Perhaps drinking tea, opening the curtains, or sitting silently for a moment.
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Happiness does not always need to be loud.
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Next sentence.
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I changed my plan because it wasn't working.
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Clear sentence.
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But we can make it show the positive quality behind that decision.
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Say it better.
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I showed adaptability by changing my approach.
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That sounds more confident.
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Yes.
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You are not presenting the change as a failure.
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You are recognizing that adjusting your method can be a strength.
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The destination can remain the same even when the path changes.
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Final sentence.
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I need to be positive even when I feel bad.
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That sentence puts a lot of pressure on you.
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It also suggests that an uncomfortable feeling must be removed immediately.
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Say it better.
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I can acknowledge how I feel without letting it control my next step.
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That is a strong upgrade.
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Acknowledge means recognize and accept that the feeling is there.
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You are not pretending to be happy.
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But you are also not handing the entire day over to one difficult emotion.
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The feeling gets a voice.
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It does not get every decision.
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I like that.
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Good.
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Let's leave that one in the jar.
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I thought you said we didn't need the jar anymore.
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We don't, but you carried it all the way here, so it should feel useful.
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Thank you.
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That means a lot to the jar.
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Before you go, write one honest message you would put inside your own positivity jar.
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Keep it short, kind, and believable.
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And if you enjoyed today's conversation, please like the episode and subscribe to the channel.
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Thank you for spending this time with us.
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Take care, keep learning, and keep speaking.
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We'll see you in the next episode.
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Bye for now.
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Your progress doesn't end here.
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