शैडोइंग अभ्यास: You Need to Act Like a Winner Before You Become One - Alex Hormozi - वीडियो के साथ अंग्रेजी बोलना सीखें

You're going to lose sleep.

You'll doubt whether it'll work.

You'll stress to make ends meet.

You won't finish your to-do list.

You'll wonder whether you made the right call and have no way to know for years.

This is what hard feels like, and that's okay.

Everything worth doing is hard.

And the more worth doing it is, the harder it is.

The greater the payoff, the greater the hardship.

If it's hard, good.

It means no one else will do it.

More for you.

I think a lot of entrepreneurship and even personal growth is training yourself on how you respond to hard.

Because in the early days, hard was, ooh, stop.

This isn't good.

I should, I should, this is a warning sign.

This is a red flag.

I should slow down or I should stop, you know, I should pivot.

But the more I think about it as a competitive landscape, as I'm clear on what this path is supposed to look like.

And these rocks and these dragons are things that I'm going to have to slay along the way.

to get the princess or get the treasure, I get happier about the harder it is because I know that no one else will follow.

It's a selection effect.

And I think if you can shift from this is hard to no one else will be able to do this, then it flips from being this thing that you're like, oh, poor me to oh,

poor everyone else who's going to have to fucking try.

And I think that is so much more motivating as a frame for the exact same circumstance.

Yeah, that's awesome.

I was thinking a lot about the lonely chapter that we talked about the last time.

That was the best, most powerful idea I think that we came up with.

And if you see there basically being no shortcuts toward getting the thing that you want, there are ways to be more and less efficient.

And there are ways to do things with more and less of a positive disposition, which can actually make the journey feel an awful lot easier.

but ultimately if you assume that largely everyone needs to go through the same challenges that you're going through

every single difficult thing that you do is kind of like a massive wall

that you need to get over and you go wow fuck I'm

so glad that I've got over that wall

and think about how many people are going to be selected out it's like the Hunger Games

think about how many other people are going to fall at that wall there

people only root for people who don't need it like the amount of times when I was on my lonely path,

where I was too different from the friends that I had, but not successful enough to be friends with the people that I wanted to be friends with.

That's when you want people to root for you.

That's when you want people to support you.

Once you've already won, people are like, he's amazing.

He's so good.

But like, that's the time when you need it the least.

And so you always have to be the person who roots for you before everyone else does.

And it's usually a single clap in the auditorium for a very long period of time.

It is a slow clap that's just you rooting for you.

And that visual I think is one that you can kind of take

because it It is people struggle to do things alone.

And the path of the exceptional person is one of an exception, which means that you are not with other people.

And rather than fighting that or bemoaning it, see it as an indicator that you're on the right path.

Because if everyone else were cheering you on, then it means you're not in the right place

because it means you're just like everyone else and that's not where you want to be.

It's an interesting paradox

that the energy it requires to start doing something is way more than the energy required to continue doing the thing.

And that the beginning of doing anything results in the lowest amount of reward, both internal and external, than when you've been doing it for ages.

So I think about this a lot with the show that there was this stat that Spotify told us.

85% of the listeners of this show found this in 2023 right

and I thought at the end of 2022 remembering at

that point I'd been on Rogan we were at like 650k

we've got you know we've been doing 550 600 episodes deep

yeah like I'm I've got it I've done the thing like this is this is me doing

if this isn't fucking doing the thing I've moved to Austin

Texas I've got an 01 visa I've got like the all

the rest of the stuff Jordan Peterson's been on twice you've been on

and yet the what everything up until

that point is two months of growth yeah i mean we

made we made more money for just from a revenue perspective we made more money

and more subs in one month december of last year than we did in the entire first three

and a half years of the show.

So it's this odd paradox.

And one of the things that you need to ensure, I've had this idea about protect your passion at all costs, because if you, if you begin to hate the thing that you do,

you negatively change your trajectory.

And that means that at the time when you can benefit the most by every single unit of work, which is the later that you go, presuming that you continue to hit that upper trajectory.

If you've completely killed any passion or desire to do the work in the early stages because you've not protected it appropriately.

That can be by focusing on the wrong things, by not rewarding yourself, by not building it with people that care about you, by just not celebrating when you hit milestones,

all of the things that actually help to keep you going.

By being a character.

By the time you get to the stage where each unit of effort allows you to gain a thousand

or a million of each of the things that it would have done at the very beginning, you've inverted the passion equation.

It takes way more energy to start a thing than to continue doing a thing.

And yet in the beginning, the rewards are way lower than they are at the end.

But if you don't protect your passion, your motivation is at its lowest

when you are at your highest amount of efficiency in terms of returning your time put in.

I think a hopeful message that anyone can think about who's in

that hard period or in that start period is that it won't get harder.

Like this is the hardest part.

And so if you can just make it through this, everything else is downhill.

It's not that the things that you're, the dragons are going to slay, aren't going to get bigger.

They are, but you become so much more equipped to slay them back.

And you have so many more allies.

You have people in the stands cheering for you.

You have the audience, you have all of these other things that are behind you.

But in the beginning, it's just you with a stick against a bear.

And arguably that fight is a harder fight to win than beating a dragon

when you have a nuclear bomb and six nations behind you.

And so it's not even like the size of the hardship.

It's just also the resources and how few of them you have

and how so much of the beginning is literally burning the one thing you have, which is time, because you have no leverage.

You don't have the money to pay other people to help you.

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You don't have the resources is to go like get someone to, no one can learn it for you.

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It's like, there's a lot of the things that we care about a lot.

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Like no one can work out for you.

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It doesn't matter how much money you have.

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No one can learn skills for you.

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And so in the early days, like it feels so painful because you're like, you look around to see who can help you.

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And then you're like, fuck, it's me again.

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And I think getting comfortable with the idea that each of these things, kind of like Slumdog Millionaire, if you've seen that movie where he, I'll give you the TLDR.

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He goes through his entire life of randomness and he gets on the who wants to be a millionaire version in India.

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And it has 12 questions to make a million dollars.

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And from only 12 random experiences in his life that seemed meaningless at the time, was he able to answer all of the questions and then ultimately win.

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The skills that you develop along the way, like Steve Jobs learning calligraphy that then became Apple fonts that transformed how we type.

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Those early days, that little trench winning in the weeds oftentimes gives you these huge advantages later on

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because you have more context than anyone else.

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And so rather than lament them and hate the fact that you're going through it, remembering that these will be arrows that you put in the quiver

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that you're going to be using to slay the future bigger dragons.

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And so expecting it to be easy is what makes it much harder than it ever is

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i've always loved earning my stripes with the things

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that i've done whether it was with nightlife or running the podcast

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or doing whatever and i think there's like a degree of nobility to it

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but functionally that's kind of that's just like it's a nothing like what's the where's the what is the nobility?

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But I think the reason that you can feel noble about it

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and the reason that it gives you a positive reward is you know

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that you understand every single inch of the things and that if you want to hold a conversation,

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we went out for dinner with our new CFO and accounts people on Saturday and they said, you ask a lot of questions.

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Most people don't ask very many questions

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and i also don't care at all about accounts really like i'm not doing this for money

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but they said you ask a lot of questions is

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that well i don't ever really want to walk into a room

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and not be able to hold my own at least just competently

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if it's to do with something that i care about

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and the same thing goes for this like i understood i started to learn about focal lengths

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and frame rates and negative fill reverse contrast lighting and then sure enough two years after we started doing it, a bunch of different...

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I sent you the Instagram thing.

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This really awesome film Instagram

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that I've been following for ages picked us up for what we were doing and gave us

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props independent of the talky thing, which is fundamentally what we're here for.

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And we created this entire new industry of cinematic podcasting, which was recognized by, as far as I'm aware, the best cinematic...

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It's called Film Lights, at Film Lights, people can go and see it on Instagram, like the best decoder and analyzer of cinematography.

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And two years ago, when we started, I remember thinking, fuck, like, I love the way that they've broken down what happens in Ad Astra.

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Oh my God, the whole thing was shot on 35 mil.

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Each different scene's got two pairings of colors and stuff like that.

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And then, but the reason that we were able to get there, at least in some part is I can have a conversation with people.

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So each of the things that you do when you not only win in the weeds, but live in the weeds, then allows you downstream from that to see the things that other people aren't seeing.

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There's a quote that I love from Dr. Cash.

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I'll probably butcher it, but experts have more ways to win than beginners do.

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And so if an expert goes into any setting that they're expert in,

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they have so many faster feedback loops that reward them in the moment before the ultimate outcome.

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So if you're a master video editor, there's so many things that you can do that while editing, you make one change and then it looks right.

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You have a positive feedback loop.

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And so I think when you're on the start path, you can't look at the outcome as the only positive because you will never make it.

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And so the positive frame that I've always used is sure you can have the external ones of like, I like thinking about my first videos had like 13 views.

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And I'm like, well, if I had an audience of 13 people, I used to spend years pitching, you know, weight loss stuff to rims of 13 and that was fine.

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And so thinking about that way was helpful, but the, the most helpful frame was thinking about who I was becoming as the asset that I was building.

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So in real time, whenever I finished a long day's work, I was becoming more like the type of person who could work for five years without reward.

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And that would be part of the story I would someday tell.

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And so some of the biggest reinforcers I've had in my life has been future casting the story

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that I would tell about the shitty period that I was in.

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Like, I remember when I was sleeping on the floor at my gym, cause I didn't have enough money for two rents.

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And I was like, I will fucking tell this story.

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And when I lost everything for the first time, I like, I have the screenshot of the bank account.

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Like when I show it, people are like, Oh, look, there's that thing.

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But they forget that there was a person who screenshotted it to be like, this won't fucking happen again.

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And I think having a larger narrative of where you're ultimately going, one gives you the vision of where you're like,

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knows where he's going, but it allows the dragons that you have to slay along the way,

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the hard things that you have to overcome to feed into the larger narrative of the story that you'll someday tell.

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And so like no one ever tells stories about the hero who made it all happen immediately and had no hardships.

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No one cares.

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Like, okay, you were born to a billionaire.

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Is there a story there?

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Not really.

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But everyone loves the story because we can see ourselves in the character and how much we hope to be like them.

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And it's the being like them, not the having what they have that we usually like.

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And so reframing ourselves as the hero of that narrative in my harder times was what really got me through that

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and thinking I will tell this story someday.

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Have you heard Rogan talk about the be the hero of your own story thing?

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Oh dude it's as old now I think this is maybe maybe even 10 years old maybe 10 years old

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and he's in one of his old he's in the LA podcast studio

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and he says imagine that you're in a movie

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and imagine the movie begins now

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and you're the hero of the movie yeah what would

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that guy do yeah what would that guy do right now yeah

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because you are I just got into business um

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so actually I just made the investment in school um and I was talking to Sam the founder

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and I said what sim sam sim what's sim sim that's the way he says his oh yeah um

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and I was and I was talking to him

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and I said I want to give you the single easiest razor to predict my behavior

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and I said whatever will be the most epic story is the thing that I will most likely do

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and so oftentimes the most epic story is not the shortest outcome to victory it's the long saga

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that results in this big thing later eventually.

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And I was like, if you ever want to know, if you're like, I'm not sure what he's going to do in this situation, just wonder what the most epic story to tell would be.

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And that's usually what I will do.

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And I don't know if that's self-aggrandizing, but that's, that's genuinely my razor for even making the,

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just like the big decisions about, okay, I'm going to sell gym launch.

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I'm going to, I'm going to marry Layla.

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I'm going to slum it and live at the gym.

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I'm going to fly around and do turnarounds.

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I'm going to start this whole idea of a media company that just gives exclusively.

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Like, how do I put all these together?

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It's like, well, what would be the most epic story?

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And I thought of this idea of just like, when I think about who that story I want to tell is,

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is this billionaire that documented the entire thing the whole way and just gave, because I always thought, I was like,

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I wish that Elon Musk and Warren Buffett and all these guys would have liked, and Jeff Bezos, like, would have just like, I would love to have seen 1997 Amazon content.

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And a lot of the content in terms of like, it's getting five views.

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It's like, it's okay because when we make it, they're going to come back and watch this.

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So I don't need them to watch it today.

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I want them to know that it's here when I do.

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And I think that got me out of the loop of it.

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I have to win right now.

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and then every one of them is just dropping a kernel or a breadcrum for future me to refer back to.

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