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Today I'm going to tell you the story of when I got ghosted.
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Today I'm going to tell you the story of when I got ghosted.
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If you don't know what ghosting is,
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it's basically when you have some sort of a relationship with someone and then they just vanish from your life.
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So-called ghosting.
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So this is from a few years back.
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I know you're going to want to judge me after I tell you the story.
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Keep in mind I was quite young,
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at least younger than I am now.
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But even so, we all suffer from a lack of judgment from time to time.
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The reason I'm telling this story is because it's slightly entertaining,
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I hope, but also because at the time when I was going through this,
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I was desperately seeking for other people who shared similar stories because I was feeling very alone and very confused.
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So let's go back to the day when I met this guy.
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We met online, we chatted for a bit,
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and then we met up.
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When we met up, It was an instant spark.
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I immediately knew that I was going to be romantically interested in this person if we were to continue seeing each other.
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You know when you meet someone and it just clicks?
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The conversations flow naturally, you immediately feel relaxed,
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while also having the very feel-good butterflies in your stomach.
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And so I was intrigued.
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And after that first date,
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we kept on going out.
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And for each time that we went out,
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I felt more and more,
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I don't want to say in love,
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that sounds very serious, but my romantic interest for this person definitely increased for each time that we met each other.
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And I had the impression that he was feeling the same way.
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Why else would he want to continue seeing me and continue taking me on very fun,
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very adventurous dates?
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We kept seeing each other.
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We did not have any conversations really about where we were standing in terms of our relationship,
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if there was a label.
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We just kept seeing each other.
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Again went on numerous dates.
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But then I started feeling like,
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okay, I am starting to really be into this guy romantically.
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And we still have now had the conversation of,
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are we seeing other people?
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Should we be exclusive?
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What's really going on here?
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And at the time, as I mentioned,
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I was a bit younger and so I wasn't as confident as I am today in sort of asking those questions.
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I was still, unfortunately, very much in that mindset of not wanting to scare someone off,
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being afraid of being too much,
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being scared of losing this person.
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And so I held back on the questions that I actually really wanted answers to,
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and I kept seeing him.
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Now here is where I will admit.
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You know, even when you are young and quite naive,
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at least compared to how you've typically develop when you get older,
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I still knew that this wasn't actually going to turn into a serious, long-term, committed relationship.
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And now why?
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Why did I know that?
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Well, firstly, and this answer is going to suck,
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you just kind of know from how a person speaks,
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from what they say, from how they talk about their future,
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from their mannerism, from the communication style,
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all of these things build up the impression
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that you get from a person in terms of kind of where they are in life,
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what they seem to be looking for.
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So I did very much get the impression that this was not going to exactly lead somewhere serious.
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And now you might think,
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so why do you keep seeing him?
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I'll answer that question.
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First, I want to clarify that ever since I started dating very young,
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I always sought out something serious.
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I've always looked for long-term relationships.
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I've never been interested in casual dating.
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I've never been interested in short-term dating.
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My intention for going into something has always been the long-term,
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or for the long run.
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With that being said, I did sort of push those feelings aside slightly because being with this person felt so good.
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And because, again, I will blame this on the naivety of youth,
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I did still have a tiny bit of hope that maybe,
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maybe I was wrong.
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Maybe we could actually lead to something serious and something long term.
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Because who knows?
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Those stories happen all the time.
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Where people say, I met someone,
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we went out, it wasn't that serious,
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I didn't think it was going to lead to anything,
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but then here we are, married, five kids later.
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And So why couldn't that happen to us?
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I mean, my gut knew it wasn't happening,
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but I could be wrong.
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Is how I reasoned at the time.
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There were tons of butterflies.
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And as we all know now, what do we know?
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Butterflies are not necessarily a good thing.
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So say it with me,
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butterflies are not necessarily a good thing.
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Actually, butterflies could be your nervous system telling you to run the hell away.
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It's a warning sign, because as I've learned based on what I've read
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and what I've heard other people say is that true,
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genuine, authentic love is supposed to feel like a warm hug.
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It's supposed to feel calming,
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like a slow fireplace burning in a lovely manner,
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instead of a firecracker where it's just like feeling like this all the time
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that feeling is very addicting it is feeling that intense sense of i'm
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so into this person they're
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so into me we're having a great time together it's a very strong emotion
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and it can be very misleading
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and i think even as far as people can fall victim to
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that emotion now a few months go by we still really haven't had any conversation regarding where we're standing
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and what's really going on,
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we have said that we like each other and we have said
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that we would not be happy with either of us seeing someone else.
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Now before I get to the day that he ghosted me,
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let me give you, well actually no,
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let me start with the day he ghosted me.
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And then, I'll give you some of the red flags that I saw along the way,
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but that I kind of ignored.
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So we had a date planned.
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We were going to go out but during the day he was going to be out of town.
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He had something with his friends.
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And so he goes away and we agree to catch up later in the day to go on our date.
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And so the time goes by,
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hours go by, you know,
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the date that we have scheduled is nearing and so I think,
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strange, He hasn't reached out,
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so why don't I reach out?
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So I text him.
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I say, hey, when are you coming back?
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Our date is supposed to be in,
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what was it, an hour?
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And he doesn't reply.
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And so I call him,
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because I'm standing there already for our date.
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And so I call him, and he does reply.
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And he apologizes, and he says that he's going to be back in town soon.
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and he will call me.
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I ask him why he hasn't replied,
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because we're supposed to have our date.
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He doesn't really have a reason.
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He's just apologetic and says he's going to give me a call.
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Fast forward, more time goes by,
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an hour goes by, I obsessively,
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naturally, check my phone, nothing.
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Radio silence.
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A few hours go by,
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the whole day goes by.
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A few days go by, weeks, months go by.
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Nothing.
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He didn't call.
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He didn't text.
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I quickly realized after doing some google searches,
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watching some youtube videos, that I had been ghosted.
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A term I believe I hadn't even heard at the time.
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But yeah, he had gone completely ghost.
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Now, I'll admit, it was a quite painful experience because it was very strange.
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And how much, no matter how much I went back and forth,
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thought about it, talked about it with my friends,
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I couldn't at all comprehend how someone could ghost another person.
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After you have been seeing them for months.
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I was sad, I was confused,
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couldn't understand, felt like I needed closure,
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realized that I was going to have to give the closure to myself.
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And so after a few months,
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he did actually reach out and I did not reply.
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And that was the end of our little love story.
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Now, okay, if you are situation where you are seeing someone and you're afraid this might happen.
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I've heard of people ghosting each other after being in long-term relationships,
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so I don't think anyone is safe from being ghosted, unfortunately.
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But I can share with you some of the signs I saw of this clearly not working out as we were dating.
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Judge me all you want.
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I'm going to give you full honesty because I think that can be helpful.
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So, I'll take it.
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Sign number one.
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He could sometimes disappear for hours,
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or maybe like a day, and not respond.
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And he would always have a reason or an excuse for not doing that.
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So whether that was losing his phone,
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losing track of time, working,
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whatever the reason was,
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because it wasn't unusual for many or sometimes even a day to go by with him not reaching out or not replying.
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Secondly, there were, again, no real conversations about the future.
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That's something that I, after this experience,
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always established very early on.
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I'm not interested in trying to figure out what someone's intentions are,
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or waiting to have those important conversations.
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I'll have them immediately.
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And I think that should be the norm.
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Because what's the point of wasting each other's time,
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and what is the point of getting into something if the intentions of each person doesn't align?
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Another red flag that I saw was that you would sometimes get calls or messages from girls that I didn't know.
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And again, at the time,
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being younger, being more insecure and not as confident,
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I would never ask, I would just ignore
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and kind of talk myself into just trusting that it's fine and I shouldn't be insecure.
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It's not insecure to ask the person you are dating who they're texting.
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I really want to put that out there.
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So if you are dating someone,
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or if you're in a relationship,
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and they get a text from a name that you don't know,
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I don't think it's insecure to ask, who is X?
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What kind of relationship do you have with X?
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You're not coming at it out of jealousy,
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or spite, or anger at all.
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I just think it's fair to let your partner know kind of who is in your circle,
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and who do you tend to stay in touch with.
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because eventually your lives do kind of come together and
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so you are eventually going to probably meet each other's friends
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and families and so rather than wondering
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and maybe building up resentment always ask another sign was that we clearly had very different values overall in life You know,
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the way that we viewed work,
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the way that we viewed everyday life was just very different.
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We had very different ways of not only viewing life, but living life.
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I mean, there was very little alignment.
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So for some reason, you know,
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personality wise, we aligned because we laughed a lot.
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It was never really awkward.
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We had a lot to talk about and,
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you know, it was a good time.
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But when it came to the things that are very important,
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like your values, the way you view the future,
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the way you go about your routines and your days,
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the things that have to align if you're going to share a life with someone,
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those things didn't align.
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Very little did they align.
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Now, I'm sure there were other signs and other things.
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I also don't want to get too much into it.
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I definitely want to respect this person's privacy and life.
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There are no bad feelings or anything at all.
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I'm just sharing this mostly for entertainment,
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but also because it might be valuable for someone,
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because it can be quite a stressful thing to go through.
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I hope I didn't miss anything,
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but let me know if you liked this much more relaxed,
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laid-back type of video that I almost never do and if you would like to see more storytelling.
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- 「It just clicks」 - カジュアルな言い回しで、何かが自然にうまくいく様子を表現します。
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- 「vanish」 - 発音の際に「v」と「n」の音をはっきりさせることが, 正確さを保つポイントです。
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