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Transcriber: Abdulrahman Sallam Reviewer: Raúl Higareda (Applause) I’m going to ask you to participate in an experiment, which is that when you leave this room, when you go out into the world, today, tomorrow, or whenever you feel like it, I’d like you to ask and answer one question of someone who’s a stranger.
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Transcriber: Abdulrahman Sallam Reviewer: Raúl Higareda (Applause) I’m going to ask you to participate in an experiment, which is that when you leave this room, when you go out into the world, today, tomorrow, or whenever you feel like it, I’d like you to ask and answer one question of someone who’s a stranger.
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You might meet them on the bus or walking down the street.
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I’m going to show you the question I’m going to ask you to ask and answer.
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The question is, “When was the last time you cried in front of someone?” Now, just out of curiosity, how many of you are really excited about this experiment?
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No hands went up whatsoever. And that makes sense, right?
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Because there can be nothing that seems more intimidating or less fun than finding a stranger, asking them when they’ve cried in front of someone else, and then telling them about the time you cried in front of someone else.
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But I’m going to try and convince you that this experiment is not only worth doing, it’s worth doing whenever you can, because it will make your life better.
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To explain how I got to this, I’ve to tell you a little bit of a story about me and my wife.
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A few years ago, we got into this bad pattern.
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We’d been married for 20 years, but I’d come home from a long day at the office, I was a reporter at the New York Times at that point, and I’d start complaining about my day, about how I’m not appreciated enough.
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And my wife, very reasonably, would offer me some great advice.
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Like, “Why don’t you take your boss out to lunch?
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You guys can get to know each other better.” And instead of being able to hear her, I would get even more upset.
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And I would say things like, “Why aren’t you supporting me? You should be outraged on my behalf.” And she would get upset because I was attacking her for giving me good advice.
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This was not... Anyone ever had an experience like this?
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It was not a good situation.
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And so, I started talking to researchers who were studying communication.
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I asked them, “Why am I getting into this pattern?” They said, “Well, you’re making a mistake.” We’re living through this golden age of understanding communication, really for the first time, because of advances in neural imaging and data collection.
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They said one of the big things that we’ve learned Is that we tend to think of a discussion as being just one conversation.
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We’re talking about one thing: my day, or the kids’ grades, or what to have for dinner.
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But what they said is that actually, each discussion contains many different conversations.
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In general, these conversations tend to fall into one of three buckets.
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There’s these practical conversations, where we’re talking about what this is all about, what we’re really discussing.
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But then there’s emotional conversations, where we’re talking about how we feel, and my goal is to share with you my feelings, and I don’t want you to solve them, I want you to empathize.
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And then there’s social conversations about who we are, the social identities that are important to us, how we relate to each other and to society.
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And what the researchers said is that we’ve learned if people are having different conversations at the same moment, they can’t really hear each other.
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They can’t really connect.
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And this is exactly what was happening with me and my wife, right?
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I was coming home and having an emotional conversation.
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My wife was responding with a practical conversation.
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They are both legitimate conversations, but because we weren’t having the same conversation at the same moment, we weren’t really communicating with each other.
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And within neurology and psychology, this insight has become so important that it’s become known as the matching principle, which says that successful communication requires recognizing what kind of conversation is occurring and then matching each other.
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But how do we do that?
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Well, in schools, they’ve actually taught teachers to do this.
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If you are a school teacher, you’ll probably learn at some point that If a student comes to you with a problem or something to talk about, you should ask them, “Do you want to be helped?” which is a practical conversation.
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“Do you want to be hugged?” which is an emotional conversation.
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Or “Do you want to be heard?” which is a social conversation.
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And it seems to work.
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It seems like if you ask students what they need, they’ll tell you.
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But of course, that is hard to do in real life, right?
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If you go up and ask someone at work if they want a hug, the HR might get involved, so you might not want to do that.
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But luckily, there is another way of doing this for all of us normal people, which is to ask questions and in particular, to ask a certain type of question, a special question known as a deep question.
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A deep question is something that invites us to talk about our values or our beliefs or our experiences.
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And that can sound a little intimidating, but it’s actually much easier than it sounds.
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For instance, instead of asking someone, “Where do you work?” you could ask them, “What do you love about your job?” Instead of asking someone, “Where did you go to high school?” you could say, “What was high school like?
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What did you learn there? What changed you there?” Put differently, instead of asking about the facts of someone’s life, we should ask them how they feel about their life.
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Because when we do, they tend to reveal to us who they really are.
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They tend to tell us what they want, not only out of this conversation, but how they hope that we’ll see them and how they want to see us, what matters to them most.
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In fact, what studies show us is that this is so powerful because these kinds of questions allow us to be vulnerable, and vulnerability and reciprocal vulnerability, when we hear vulnerability and we become vulnerable in return, is the key to allowing us to connect with other people.
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To explain how this works, I want to tell you a story about this guy, Doctor Behfar Ehdaie.
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Dr. Ehdaie is a cancer surgeon in New York City.
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He specializes in prostate cancer, removing prostate tumors...
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Removing cancer tumors from prostates.
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And he has this kind of interesting job, because every single day a patient will come into his office asking, he thinks, for medical advice, and what he will tell them is, “You should not get surgery.” The prostate is located so close to the to the nerves that control urination and sexual function that it’s a relatively risky surgery.
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And what's more, most prostate tumors, they grow very, very slowly.
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It’s actually one of the slowest growing forms of cancer in existence.
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There’s a saying among doctors that if you have an old patient with prostate cancer, he’s going to die of old age before the cancer kills him.
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And so Dr. Ehdaie would’ve these patients come in and he’d tell them, “Look, I don’t think you should do anything.
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I think you should do active surveillance.
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What we’re going to do is take a blood sample every 6 months, we’re going to do a biopsy every 2 years, and if the tumor seems to change, we’ll do an MRI, and if we’ve to, we can do the surgery, but otherwise, no radiation, no surgery, it’s going to be okay.” And these patients would listen to him, and then they’d go home and they’d discuss it with their spouse, and then they’d walk in the next day and they’d insist on having the surgery.
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They’d say, “I want you to cut me open, take the tumor out as fast as possible.” And for Dr. Ehdaie, this was bewildering, right?
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He thought these would be the easiest conversations of his life.
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He’s telling people that they don’t have to have surgery, and he’s a surgeon.
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He told me that when this happens again and again and again, you start to realize this isn’t a problem with my patients.
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This is a problem with me. I’m doing something wrong.
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And so he goes to these professors at the Harvard Business School, and he asks them for advice on what to do differently.
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And they said, “Well look, your biggest mistake is you are starting this conversation all wrong.
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You are starting by assuming that the patient walks into your exam room looking for advice and looking for medical solutions.
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But you don’t know if that’s true, you’re not asking them any questions.
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What you need to do is you need to start asking deep questions.” So two weeks later, after having this conversation, a 62-year-old man comes into Dr. Ehdaie’s office for the first time.
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He had just gotten his diagnosis of having prostate cancer.
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And Dr Ehdaie, instead of giving him advice, instead of telling him what to do, he asks the question, “What does this cancer diagnosis mean to you?” And the man starts talking.
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And he starts talking about how his father had died when he was 17 years old.
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And this had just been so hard for him, and it had been so hard for his mom.
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And then he starts talking about how at work he’s worried that the younger employees, if they find out that he has cancer, they’ll look at him differently.
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They’re going to be already writing him into the grave, even though he’s got 20 or 30 years left on his career.
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And then he starts talking about his grandchildren and his fears for the world they’re inheriting, with climate change and everything else that’s going on.
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Dr. Ehdaie had expected this guy to at least bring up cancer, to at least mention mortality or pain, but it never came up.
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And at that moment, Dr. Ehdaie realized, because he had asked this deep question, that this man wanted to have an emotional conversation.
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He wanted to talk about how do we feel.
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He needed to be hugged.
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So Dr. Ehdaie didn’t actually hug him, but he did the verbal equivalent.
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He started talking about how he understood that his own father had gotten sick and that it had been terrifying for them, but it had also brought them together in these ways that he didn’t actually anticipate.
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And they talk about this for eight minutes, just eight minutes.
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And then Dr. Ehdaie says, “Look, do you mind?
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There’s some medical options I’d like to talk over with you.
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Is that okay?” And they move into a practical conversation together.
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And within seven more minutes, the man decides to do active surveillance and never looks back.
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Dr. Ehdaie’s patients overwhelmingly now opt for active surveillance, his advice, because of this approach.
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And the thing is, we can do this in any conversation.
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It doesn’t have to be an important conversation or life or death.
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We can always connect more and better, and in a really profound way, with the person that we’re speaking to, if we want to.
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Which brings me back to that experiment.
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So just to remind you what you’re supposed to do: walk out of the room, find a stranger, ask them, “When was the last time you cried in front of someone?” And then as soon as they answer, you answer the question yourself, and you tell them when you last cried.
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Let me just say, this experiment has been done thousands of times, most notably by a guy named Nick Epley at the University of Chicago.
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People hate this experiment.
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Nobody who participates comes in and is like, “I’m really looking... This is going to be a great time.” Instead, what they say is, “I do not want to do this. This sounds terrible.” But they’re in an experiment and they basically have to do it.
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They get paired with a partner, they go and ask the question, ask and answer, and then Nick Epley afterwards asks them, “What was that like?” And what people say are things like, “Oh, my gosh, I felt so connected to that person, more connected than I’ve been to people in other conversations in a while.
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I felt more caring towards them, and I felt like they were really caring about me.
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I felt like they listened so attentively, and it was really easy for me to listen to what they were saying.” Ultimately, almost everyone says this is one of the best conversations that they’ve had in the last week, the last month, the last year...
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And they say things like, “I’m so glad I got paired with that person, because they were exactly right for me.” When in truth, the only thing that was right is that they were a stranger and they had the right question, the right kind of question to ask.
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So why? Why is this so powerful?
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Why is asking this question, why does it help us connect so well?
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Because it’s a deep question. It allows us to say something real.
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And when we ask deep questions, we figure out which of the three conversations we’re in, what we’re talking about, what everyone really wants out of this dialogue.
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And that is how we connect with each other.
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We are living through a time of polarization and division.
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We have forgotten how to have conversations.
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But there's a science to it.
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There are these folks who are known as super communicators, who are not special, they’re not more charismatic, or they’re not more outgoing than anyone else.
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They’ve just learned skills that allow us to connect with others.
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And they’re skills that all of us can learn.
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And that feeling you get after a wonderful conversation, that glow that you experience, our brains have evolved to give us that, to crave connection.
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So I hope you go out, I hope you find a stranger, and I hope you tell them all about the last time you cried in front of another person.
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And then tell me how it went.
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Thanks. (Applause)
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このレッスンでは、他者とのコミュニケーションを深めるために必要なスキルを練習します。具体的には、会話が持つさまざまな側面や、質問を通じてより良いコミュニケーションを図る方法について学びます。実際の会話における深い質問の重要性を理解し、それを実践することで、英語スピーキング能力の向上を目指します。特に、感情を共有し合うことで、相手との絆を深める方法を体験できるでしょう。
重要な語彙とフレーズ
- 実践的な会話 - 問題を話し合う際の具体的な内容を含む会話。
- 感情的な会話 - 自分の感情を共有し、相手に共感を求める会話。
- 社会的な会話 - 自分と社会との関係性を探る会話。
- 深い質問 - 価値観や信念、経験について話すことを促す質問。
- マッチング原則 - 効果的なコミュニケーションのためには、会話の種類を一致させる必要があること。
- 脆弱性 - 他者とのつながりを深めるために、自分の弱さを見せること。
練習のコツ
このビデオのスピードとトーンを意識しながらシャドーイングを行うことで、リスニング力とスピーキング力の向上が図れます。例えば、話し手が感情的な話をする際の抑揚やペースを真似することで、より自然な会話が可能になります。また、相手が何を求めているのかを察知し、適切な質問を投げかける練習も重要です。具体的には、相手に「最近感動したエピソードは何ですか？」といった深い質問をすることで、会話を一層豊かにすることができます。このように、深い質問を取り入れた夏好引の練習を行うことで、【英語シャドーイング】や【shadowspeaks】のスキルが確実に向上するでしょう。自分のペースで、シャドーイングサイトを活用してみてください。
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シャドーイング（Shadowing）は、もともとプロの通訳者養成プログラムで開発された言語学習法で、多言語習得者として知られるDr. Alexander Arguelles によって広く普及されました。方法はシンプルですが非常に効果的：ネイティブスピーカーの英語を聞きながら、1〜2秒の遅延で声に出してすぐに繰り返す——まるで「影（shadow）」のように話者を追いかけます。文法ドリルや受動的なリスニングと異なり、シャドーイングは脳と口の筋肉が同時にリアルタイムで英語を処理・再現することを強制します。研究により、発音精度、抑揚、リズム、連音、リスニング力、そして会話の流暢さが大幅に向上することが確認されています。IELTSスピーキング対策や自然な英語コミュニケーションを目指す方に特におすすめです。