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I got this comment on these sentences made me stop and really think.
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I got this comment on these sentences made me stop and really think.
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You mentioned if you have one person to talk to that's a success.
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I have no one.
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In late 20s now, never been in a relationship,
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never had anyone love me.
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After work, I have no one to talk to deeply or at all.
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Friends I meet here and there, but they feel temporary.
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How am I ever meant to find anyone?
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I just stopped because I felt like I knew that feeling,
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maybe in a different way.
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It's not exactly sadness, it's just that empty kind of loneliness.
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I really think that we've all experienced this at some point, haven't we?
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Sitting in a quiet room,
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scrolling through your phone, not to connect but just to feel the silence.
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Feeling like you are on the outside of life, looking in.
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It's not a sharp pain, it's something that lingers.
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It's very quiet and low and subtle.
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Maybe that's why, even though I wanted to reply to the comment right away,
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it took me some time yeah my answer came late i'm sorry
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so this is the answer for
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that person who wrote the comment on for anyone who's ever felt
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that way i want to talk about how this state of having no one isn't the end
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but actually a meaningful maybe even necessary beginning hey welcome back to this episode of this season Let me be honest first.
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Feeling like you have no one is a deeply painful experience,
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especially in a world that everyone's constantly showing their relationships,
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friendships, and their perfect moments.
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Being alone can feel less like a choice and more like a failure.
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We are social beings by nature,
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and when that doesn't happen,
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we often fall into a trap.
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We start to believe that the solution to loneliness is simply meeting just anyone.
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And we look for someone to fill the emptiness.
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And then we start lowering our standards.
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We accept relationships that don't fully fulfill us.
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And we stay in rusted relationships that drain our energy.
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Simply because we don't want to be alone,
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we are scared of having nothing.
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but it's actually better to have nothing than a wrong thing or the wrong person in your life.
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Okay, I saw this phrase sandcastle life.
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A life built without deeply knowing who you are is a sandcastle.
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This sandcastle, it might look fine for a while and feel stable but eventually the wave of reality,
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a breakup, betrayal or unexpected moment of loneliness comes in and and washes everything away,
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leaves nothing but wet sand and you know, yeah, I'm alone again.
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Now we're constantly rebuilding, patching things up and fearing the next wave,
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like starting over again and again without even knowing what I really want
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and this is exactly where the most important thing begins.
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Because I think this emptiness isn't just I have no one simply but also the space that was created for you.
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So we have to like separate these two words that we often use like they're the same.
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Loneliness and solitude.
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Loneliness is something that happens without your choice.
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It's wanting connection but not having it.
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It's a lack.
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It's passive.
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But solitude on the other hand is a choice.
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It's intentional being with yourself.
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It's active.
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Choosing solitude doesn't mean that you're avoiding people.
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It means that you are turning toward yourself.
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The moment you stop seeing this time as something that you have to survive from,
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you have to run away from, you are not abandoned.
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You've been given the entire space for you.
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And now instead of building sand castles,
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this is your time to build whatever you want.
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And when you're sitting in the space,
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you have to ask the most uncomfortable question.
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Who am I when nobody is watching?
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When you don't have to perform for anyone,
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when you don't have to meet anyone's expectations, who are you?
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What do you like?
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What do you value?
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You can finally start having a real conversation with yourself.
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And actually, you know what?
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This is something that I've been thinking of and this is something that I've thought about when I just saw the comment.
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Someone might already love you,
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just you couldn't see it.
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Maybe that level of love or connection just isn't enough for you and that's okay.
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That's also one of the questions that you need to ask yourself.
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What is enough for you?
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First, you let go of what doesn't make you happy.
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Those rusted relationships, the ones that feel like obligations,
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the ones that drain you,
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you are not pushing people away.
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You're making space for the right ones to come in in the future.
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And then you start discovering your invisible value.
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We've been taught to measure ourselves by external things like jobs,
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titles, followers, relationship status, how we look.
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But this time you begin to see something you have in you that that doesn't shake and that doesn't go away.
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Yeah, yeah, take out a notebook and write down everything
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that you think that makes you valuable that has nothing to do with outside validation.
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Are you a good listener?
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Are you strong?
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Do you have your own unique sense of humor?
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That's your invisible value.
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You are not a half waiting for someone to complete you you are already a whole person.
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And when you do that,
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you're gonna know yourself, you're gonna understand yourself way better.
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And when someone you love enters your life in the future,
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you'll be able to introduce yourself more clearly.
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And if they are meant to stay in your life,
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they will not let you go.
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And finally, you become a person you actually want to be.
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You build a life that you love
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on your own for yourself and really honestly that's more attractive knowing
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that you are not looking for someone to complete you
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but someone who can add to your light
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so the best preparation for a good relationship is actually focusing on yourself right now yeah
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that means that you have to be a good person too
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so it means you need to look at yourself more seriously
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and as objectively as possible whether you are enough to be someone that others genuinely want to be around too.
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So the answer to how do I find someone is this.
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I hope that you become a version of yourself who is ready for connection.
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And when you're ready, you will see that the people who come into your life are not that to save you,
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but to enjoy your life with you.
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And even if a relationship doesn't work out,
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you still have a life you can return to your own self
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which is already okay
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that feeling of i have no one is actually a very important signal it's not prove
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that you're unlovable or something it's more an invitation to return to yourself
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so you will not be alone forever because you have yourself
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but the goal isn't to find just anyone that's not the goal it's to find right people This isn't easy
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but it's worth it.
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So I want to ask you,
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what was your experience with being alone?
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Yeah, share that in the comments.
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Like you can see that I always try to like get back to you
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because I always say I capture all the good questions and comments.
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Yes, thank you for the comments you guys.
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That really helps.
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And even this comment today really made me think.
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So I can see a lot of you guys genuinely leave the comment with like care.
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And I want to, I really want to give that back to you.
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I will try my best.
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So, anywho.
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So see you next time and thank you so much.
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Bye bye.
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I sometimes randomly want to do my nails on.
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I wanted to have like a dark red color
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but I don't have that color But I have black
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and I have red And I came up with this idea
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that I can mix these two One drop of black into the red color
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So I started making this specific color that I wanted on this plastic bag I'm not an expert,
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I'm just doing it for fun But I hate it But the problem is Moon moon well,
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I saddled up my shoes Headed out at dawn Yeah,
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I saddled up my shoes Headed out at dawn Ain't no place gonna hold me
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When the road keeps rolling on Left my baby crying Said you can't live that way Left my baby crying,
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says she can't live that way Told her love ain't chained down,
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it just comes and drifts away
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I saw the sun in the distance,
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looked like a burning coin.
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I saw the sun in the distance,
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looked like a burning coin.
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Lord, I don't need no preacher,
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just that dust throw the joint.
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- 외로움 (loneliness): 고립감이나 소외감을 느끼는 상태.
- 고독 (solitude): 자의적으로 선택한 혼자 있는 상태.
- 인간관계 (relationships): 다른 사람과의 감정적 유대.
- 끊임없는 재건 (constant rebuilding): 영혼이 지치게 하는 관계에서 벗어나는 과정.
- 기해줄 (to fulfill): 누군가의 필요를 충족시키는 것.
- 웨이브 (wave): 삶에서 불확실성을 의미하는 비유적 표현.
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