Shadowing Practice: develop the ego of a villain - Learn English Speaking with Video
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This is possibly the most important lesson I've ever made on this channel.
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I'm going to teach you how to become egotistical whilst also remaining completely self -aware.
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Because most people fall into one of three categories when it comes to their ego.
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A lot of people are far too humble to ever succeed.
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They believe in being liked more than they believe in what's inside their soul and what they truly want to become.
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They believe more in the approval of others.
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The problem is, in order to ever become truly great, to become the most
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that you can be you must break the rules you must
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risk being hated to ever be truly loved i'm going to teach you exactly how to do
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that you see people fall into one of three categories no
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ego at all very very humble this is your common man
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holier than thou inside him he knows he has something
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but he feels a little bit too scared to ever go
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for it kind of like going for it is wrong right
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like going for it makes other people feel smaller around him like going for it would upset the people
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that he admires or likes and so he remains small
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but the problem with this person the humble person is usually
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that inside of them they wanted something more
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but they didn't go for it and it creates the worst type of person
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because then they become angry because then they see greatness in other people
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and they can't appreciate it and they can't love it
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and anyone who's had success knows that you must first appreciate other people's success
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you must first see the good in other people you must
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first see the righteousness in greatness in order to achieve it
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because your mind won't let you achieve things that you internally hate
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and this person gets filled with jealousy the humble man i'm
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fine doing this this is fine for my life i'm gonna live the normal path
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and they've come up with all these reasons why
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that was correct for them
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but internally they hate other people there's an inner turmoil occasionally
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there's not some people are just chill i'm doing my thing fantastic
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but don't trick yourself right because the majority of people want to pretend
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that they're that person but if we could actually see inside we know
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that they want more that pang of jealousy when they see the money
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or the ferrari or the car or the person with the girl
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and they have to tear it down they know
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that comes from somewhere then there is the man
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that is all ego I've kind of skirted the line between
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being all ego I've never been all humble as you can probably notice just looking at me
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I kind of give the impression of from my outer persona arrogant prick straight off the bat
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that's fine with me because I know fundamentally I'm actually not
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but I don't need you to believe me
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but there is the man that's all ego I have been
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that at times where you just drink your own kool -aid you believe
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so much so egotistically in your own vision
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that you are not humble in your execution this is where a lot of men
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that are kind of dreamers get caught because the thing about dreams is
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that they're wonderful in your mind and in reality they're much harder
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so it's very easy to also be all ego
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and say well one day I'm going to be great
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but I need these circumstances and to do this thing
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and I'm kind of not willing to eat shit I'm not willing to do this kind of hard work
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or eat shit in the middle because I'm bigger and better than
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that that's a really dangerous place to be as well because
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that is like
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if you say you're going to be a millionaire businessman well
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a lot of the time like for me for example I
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had to start with a nine -to -five in sales
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that i really didn't like doing cold calls and then i saved
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that money and then i had to leave the security of
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that money i moved on a one -way ticket alone to thailand to forge myself
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solo with no income coming in
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or very little income coming in on my savings had to take this risk
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and leave the ego of having a good job
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or making some money in order to forge something greater than myself
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and to have an element of risk but also be humble in the fact
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that when I first make videos they're going to be shit people are going to make fun of me
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but I'm willing to do that work
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because my internal guidance my internal ego is what I'm listening
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to I'm not listening to an ego about what people think about me I'm listening to what's inside of me
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which is very important and the one that we want to achieve is
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that you are entirely egotistical in your vision
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and your dream for the future but you're also incredibly self -aware
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and you are humble in your execution willing to eat shit knowing
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that your internal compass internally your personality internally your essence is greatness therefore the opinions of others doesn't matter
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What you have to do to get there doesn't particularly matter.
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And you are willing to be a beginner.
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You're willing to learn.
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You're willing to step down a step in order to rise up is what we want to build inside of ourselves.
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And inside of all of this, you must understand that in order to become the greatest you can possibly be,
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you will skirt the line between hero and villain on a tightrope.
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They're kind of one or the same
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because in every ounce of greatness there is some darkness in the darkest of dark there is some greatness
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and the yin and yang philosophy is combining that how we must combine
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that and that's exactly what we're doing here to bring the kind of humble side together
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but also at the same time the egotistical the villain look
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at any hero you look at spider -man i know these are just
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typical um superheroes
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but it relates to real life it really does look at
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spider -man look at Superman look at Batman in a way
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the world can sometimes paint them as villains they have to
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be vigilantes even though they're doing what is right they're very close on the line between love and hate
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and you have to be willing to become the greatest version
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of you you really have to be willing to risk being hated
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and for that to not bother you for you to not need
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that it's only once you let go of who you are
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you can become who you might be this is kind of what I did
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when I moved to Thailand and I've done it many times since you have to face your ego not off of
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what you have what you earn who you are on an internal level
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and the discipline you keep with yourself the way you look after yourself
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and the way you commit to what you say
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that is where an ego must be truly born through the
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solving of problems for yourself without the opinions of others i
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could have all the shit in the world right i could have the best cars the best houses
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but i could fundamentally be a piece of shit
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if i don't keep that word to myself
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and at the same time you could be the greatest man on earth with no belongings
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and have that innate confidence in yourself you do not need things
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and your ego should not be based on things it should
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be based on who you are the problems you can solve
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and your belief in yourself and your vision and what you do
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and what you believe is right that's where the ego should
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come from you have to let go of a lot of
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that stuff on the outside your job right now you might be making 10k a month at a job
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that you hate but you like the fact
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that you're in the corporate world and you have some status
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and you make this money you must burn
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that in order to become the man you want to be
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if that's a multi -millionaire or a creative endeavor
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or your own business you must be willing to destroy
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that that's the trade of in order to become great you
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must let go of everything you feel you have become
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so far number two let me help you reverse analyze some
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of this stuff on why it can feel difficult to believe
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in yourself the praise reward trap from a very young age most people you have been raised to believe that
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if you do what other people say then you get love
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words of affirmation built up right your parents say you follow
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the rules you do this do your homework on time do
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this nothing wrong with this style of parenting right it's normal
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but for a young mind it shapes you because you think
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that breaking the rules leads to hate or not being loved you break the rules with your parents
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and they take away their kindness or their love
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and you follow the rules and they give you kindness
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and the love and the belief
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so you start to base your feelings of self -worth on
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the opinion of somebody else this then happens through school for
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by design this happens through school you follow the rules in
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school you do things on time you don't question the book
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and you are filled with ego you become higher status in
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that school in that model you break the rules
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or you disagree with the rules and you become lower status
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and any ego from other people is taken away
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so inherently inside of you from a very young age your ego becomes tied to what other people think of you
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rather than what you think of yourself and
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that is what we must change because in order to become something extraordinary you must break the common rules.
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I don't mean breaking the law, I don't mean being horrible to other people, I just very simply mean not following the common trap.
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The entire system that most people are born into is designed to make a worker that follows rules.
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An entrepreneur or somebody who builds greatness in their life cannot follow
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that same model so you must be comfortable with having this bulletproof ego inside of yourself
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that believes I can do anything and I do not need the approval of others but at the same time
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This is very important.
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You must become radically self -aware.
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You must understand why you are doing things.
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You must understand how it impacts other people.
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You must have an implicit understanding of your driving forces inside of yourself.
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Otherwise, you become the villain.
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You have to be radically self -aware.
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You have to notice tendencies in your personality.
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You also have to be radically self -aware about other people.
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I find it very difficult to dislike anybody.
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or to blame anybody and i think that's a good thing
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and you can have it too you can't dislike anybody
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when you understand yourself or when you understand other people
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because you understand people's motives and why they do things
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and usually it's just because they're less self -developed than you for example
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if somebody's if somebody helps you right let's imagine this is very common
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your boss helps you become very good at your job
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and after two years working for
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that guy making him a load of money you decide well
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i've become very good at this now i'm going to go out
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and do it on my own a radically self -aware man
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and somebody who is incredibly enlightened and probably a hero the boss would encourage
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that because he knows that your continued greatness
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feeds him that that's the greatest thing you can do is inspire
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and grow somebody else change somebody's life people don't understand how fundamentally changing that is to a person and how much respect,
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honor, and love they have for you when you allow them to go that way.
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But the egotistical man, the egotistical boss, without self -awareness, believes he is the greatest thing on earth.
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He has made you.
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He believes he has made you.
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So when you start to go and do your own thing, he then hates you.
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He believes you are taking from him, but that's not how it is.
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He has grown and watered a seed.
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It doesn't mean that he made the tree, okay?
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he has grown and watered that seed and it has become great and it wants to be something bigger
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and the man who is self -aware can understand
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that this is a great thing that i've done to push
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that person on the egotistical man without self -awareness he will then try
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and destroy that he tries to hate you he goes no you can't become
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that you are fucking me over i made you i built you i gave you all of this
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and now you're taking it away from me you can't think
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that way and when you become self -aware of why as humans we do these things
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because inside why would the boss do that because inside he feels insecure
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because inside he requires other people's praise and attention in order to feel powerful
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so as soon as he starts to let something go
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that was giving his outsized results from the outside as soon
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as that's taken away his ego is damaged the ego cannot be
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that fragile it cannot be tied to things like that
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because then you start making bad choices start making bad decisions
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you start treating people wrong it all comes from an element
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of fear fear must be destroyed early on fear is destroyed by relying solely on yourself
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feeling love for yourself feeling love internally for who you are not for your results on the outside
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and certainly not for what other people think of you and
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that leads us on to the destruction of hate you destroy
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your own vision with hate your vision is immune to doubt
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if you don't give doubt power you must let go of hate
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and operate from a place of love you cannot let what other people say about your vision affect your vision
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if other people's hate can affect you it will destroy your vision
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but your vision is immune to hate and it's immune to doubt
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if only you do not doubt it yourself and this all comes from
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that self -awareness if you have a fantastic vision for your life why would somebody try
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and tear that down we can ask ourselves that question
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so you have this great vision for your life you tell it to your mom
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or your dad right i'm going to become this this great thing
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and they go oh that that won't work don't do
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that that's a terrible idea and
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and a lot of people will give weight importance to
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that opinion to that decision of their parents
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and they let it deter them from their path but
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if you actually think about it they are not doing
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that to tear you down they just don't understand that's all it is
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and as soon as you view people's hate
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or people's doubt in you as a non -understanding rather than
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an attack it loses all its power your mother will not
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want you to become the greatest thing you can become she
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wants you to become the safest thing you can become
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because inherently she loves you she doesn't want to see your hopes diminished.
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She doesn't want to see you mentally or physically hurt in the things that you do.
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If we understand ourselves, we understand people.
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We can see that in our mother.
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And you can say to her when she doesn't believe your vision, she doesn't want you to do it.
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She doesn't believe in you.
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You say, don't worry, mum.
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it's okay it's what i've got to do but i i understand where you're coming from
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you become very powerful in that place whereas a lot of people then take
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that hate my mom doesn't fucking even believe in me why
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does my mom believe in me no it's not it's nothing to do with
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that it's just how some people are people don't mean to
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tear down your vision a lot of people will tear down vision simply
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because the vision is bigger than anything they could ever imagine
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because they're stuck in a cycle of fear a bubble of fear
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and hate for themselves because they had a vision once something
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that they wanted to go for and they decided to be humble
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and they didn't have an ego and they didn't go after what they wanted
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and they feel it's unfair that other people can you must understand
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that this is how the game works
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that you must have an innate belief in your own vision
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and you must prove it to yourself on a daily basis with small disciplined action
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and that what other people say to you is of little consequence on your vision
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and that it can be treated with kindness that all people can be when you understand someone and you understand yourself.
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And another area, just a final bonus tip, this is something that I struggle with, is taking advice.
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I've become quite egotistical or quite high in my belief in my own vision, especially when you've kind of built something for yourself.
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you this will stop you from learning i have to battle this
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if you're somebody
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that hasn't achieved what you want to achieve gives you advice you're probably right to take your own advice instead
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if you've achieved more if somebody has achieved far more than you in the area
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that you want to achieve something it does you a lot
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of good to forget your ego to become a student again
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and listen to that person if they have better results and the life that you desire.
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I have to watch out for this one.
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I can sometimes think that my idea is the greatest.
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Occasionally it is.
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Other times I would be much better listening to the advice of those above me.
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So I work on that.
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And I see this a lot.
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We obviously run a very high -level entrepreneurs network, New Elite, and we teach how to build freedom in your life through personal brand.
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And we often see sometimes when guys come through, that they have such a big ego
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that they will not follow my advice even though they have not built anything yet
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and they might not they might do their own thing for six months
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and then they come back
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and they say okay I've eaten shit now I saw my idea wasn't great what's your path Jack
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and they finally listen and they get the result happens to me happens to our students
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if somebody's done more than you
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and they live the life you want to live it makes sense to heed their advice
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but there you go personally I think that's one of the most important videos could possibly make on this channel.
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You're probably too humble to succeed or too egotistical to succeed.
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You must find yourself somewhere in the middle between the yin and the yang.
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See you on the next one.
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Wat je zult leren
Dit filmpje helpt je om twee cruciale spreekvaardigheden te ontwikkelen: het expressief communiceren van sterke overtuigingen en het hanteren van subtiele intonatie om emotie en intentie te brengen. Daarnaast leer je hoe je complexe zinnen structuur geeft zonder je te herhalen, wat ideaal is voor IELTS spreekvaardigheid oefenen of gewoon om vloeiender Engels te spreken.
Luister naar deze geluiden
Let op de verbonden spraak in zinnen als "they believe in being liked more than they believe in what's inside their soul". Hier worden "in being" en "than they" soepel met elkaar verbonden, waardoor de spraak vloeiender klinkt. Ook merk je reducties zoals "kind of" dat klinkt als "kinda" en "going to" die verandert in "gonna" – typisch voor informele Engels. Deze geluiden helpen je om meer als een native te klinken bij engels spreekvaardigheid oefenen.
Spreek het zoals een native
Om de rhythmiek en stress van de spreker na te bootsen, gebruik de schaduwspraak (of shadowing techniek). Herhaal de zinnen direct na de spreker, met name de sterke accenten op woorden als "IMPORTANT", "GREAT" en "HATE". Let op de pauzes na lange zinnen, zoals na "the problem is, in order to ever become truly great" – deze geven de luisteraar tijd om de boodschap te verwerken. Ook de intonatie is belangrijk: de spreker gebruikt een stijgende toon bij vragen (zelfs als het geen echte vragen zijn) om aandacht te trekken, en een dalende toon bij conclusies. Door schaduw spreken te oefenen, leer je deze patronen onbewust over te nemen, wat je spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert.
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | I've ever made · they've come · I've never been |
| Lijdende vorm be + voltooid deelwoord — het gaat om wat er gebeurt, niet om wie het doet | being liked · being hated · should not be based |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | somebody who builds · somebody who is · man who is |
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.