Prática de Shadowing: Build Your Self Worth for Good | English Podcast for Everyday Life Use | English Speaking Practice - Aprenda a falar inglês com vídeo
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All right, welcome back to Podcast and Chill, where we talk about real stuff in real English at a pretty chill pace.
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If this is your first time here, hi, I'm Gwen.
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And I'm Leo.
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We're basically two people who think too much and talk about it so you don't have to think alone.
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That's actually a nice way to put it, because today's topic is one of those things that a lot of people feel but never really talk about out loud.
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Yeah, we're talking about self-worth.
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And to be clear, we are not talking about the kind of self-worth that comes from your job title, your GPA, or how productive you were today.
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We're talking about that quiet, internal question that always pops up.
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Am I actually enough?
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It sounds heavy, I know, but we're going to keep it honest, keep it light, and hopefully keep it useful.
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We'll be here helping you build your own self-worth, step by step, at your own pace.
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You don't have to have it all figured out right now.
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Just being here, listening and reflecting.
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This podcast is designed for people around the B2 level, so we speak naturally with richer English, but we also don't throw in a hundred idioms a minute.
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Right, it's that sweet spot where you're slightly challenged but never lost.
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And as always, we've got a vocabulary recap waiting for you at the end, so if you miss a word, don't stress.
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Just stay with us.
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Language and Life Listens, two for one.
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So grab your coffee, your tea, or just get comfortable wherever you are.
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Let's dive in.
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Maybe I should start with the root of the problem.
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When you don't have a strong sense of your own self-worth, how do you even measure it?
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You outsource it.
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You look for it outside yourself, mostly in other people's approval.
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Because if you can't see your own value, you desperately need someone else to tell you that you are enough.
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Exactly.
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It's like floating without an anchor.
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You start relying on a compliment, a like on Instagram, or just someone noticing you to feel okay about yourself.
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And the crazy part is, you don't even realize you're doing it.
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Until something tiny happens.
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Right.
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Let's look at a real-life example.
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Imagine you see a friend post a story that they are nearby.
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You feel excited, so you text them, Hey, want to hang out?
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With a big smiley face emoji.
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You're totally pumped.
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Yeah, a good vibe.
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But then they reply, Hey, kind of busy.
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Catch up later.
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No emoji, no exclamation mark, just a dry, simple text.
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Oh no, the dreaded dry text.
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Now, a secure person would just think, oh, they're busy, cool.
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But if your self-worth depends on them, your brain immediately calls an emergency meeting.
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Yes, you start completely spiraling.
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Your brain goes, wait, are they mad at me?
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Did I do something annoying?
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Do they not want to be friends anymore?
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Your entire mood for the day is ruined just because of a missing emoji.
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And that shows exactly how vulnerable you become when your value is tied to someone else's reaction.
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So it's not about them at all.
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It's how we interpret their response.
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Right.
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Your reaction is tied to their approval.
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And sometimes, because of that, you slowly start changing yourself.
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Changing in what way?
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You become someone who tries to keep everyone comfortable.
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You avoid saying anything that might upset people.
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Ouch.
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That sounds a little too real.
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It is.
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The tricky part is that it doesn't look dangerous at first.
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So it just looks like you're being a kind, friendly, easygoing person?
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Exactly.
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But over time, it turns into an automatic pattern.
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You start saying yes automatically,
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even when your first instinct is no. It's like your mouth says yes before your brain even catches up.
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Wow, that sounds so true.
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You smile, you agree, and you go along with things just to keep the peace and avoid any awkward tension.
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Right deep down, you're terrified of making people disappointed in you.
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So you end up trading your own comfort for theirs.
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But the problem is, you can only play that role for a while.
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What happens after a while?
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You start feeling completely drained, exhausted, maybe even a little resentful.
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And the saddest part?
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You still feel like you're not enough.
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Because people-pleasing quietly disconnects you from your own needs.
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It makes you feel like you're doing everything right.
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That's tough.
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Yeah, and eventually you're not even yourself anymore.
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When that happens, you start looking for another way to feel valuable again.
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Another way?
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Yes.
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If you can't feel your worth from within, you try to prove it through what you do.
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Ah, like productivity?
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Yeah.
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You start tying your self-worth to your output, like your work, your achievements, your results.
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So it becomes, if I do more, I am more.
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Yes.
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If I'm productive, I'm valuable.
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If I'm useful, I matter.
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That sounds very familiar.
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It is.
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I actually have a friend like that.
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She's always working, always busy.
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Like nonstop?
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Nonstop.
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At first, I thought she was just really driven.
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But later, I realized something deeper.
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What was it?
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She was afraid of being seen as not enough.
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Like, if she slowed down, people might look down on her.
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So working harder was her way of protecting her value?
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Sadly, yes.
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She wasn't just working to succeed.
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She was working to feel worthy.
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That's heavy.
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Yeah, and that's the danger.
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Your value becomes conditional.
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It depends on how much you produce.
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Then what happens when you slow down or fail?
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That's when everything drops.
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If your work or role disappears, your sense of self can drop with it.
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So it's not just about work anymore.
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No, it becomes your identity.
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And once your identity is tied to performance, you're always under pressure to prove your worth.
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No matter how much you do, it never really feels enough.
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Because deep down, you're not building self-worth, you're chasing it.
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So, if that's the pattern, how do you even start breaking out of it?
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You start by rebuilding trust in yourself.
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Trust?
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Yeah, through small promises.
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Why small, though?
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Why not big changes?
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Because big promises are easy to break.
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And every time you break one, you trust yourself a little less.
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Ah, so it's not about pushing harder.
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It's about becoming someone you can rely on.
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Exactly.
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Okay, then what does that look like in real life?
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Simple things, like telling yourself, I'm going to rest, and actually resting.
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Or, I'll go for a short walk and actually do it.
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That sounds almost too simple.
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It does, but that's the point.
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You're not trying to impress anyone you're trying to show up for yourself.
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I love that.
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Every single time you keep a promise to yourself, you send a message.
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I matter too.
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And over time, that builds something?
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Yeah, it builds self-trust.
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Once you trust yourself, you don't need as much validation from other people.
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That's powerful.
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In a quiet way.
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Yeah, that's how you slowly stop chasing validation, because you're finally showing up for yourself.
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Okay.
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What's another thing we should look at?
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Stop over-explaining yourself.
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Hmm.
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I feel like a lot of people do that without realizing.
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Yeah, it's one of those habits that feels normal, but it actually comes from needing approval.
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Like when we say no, but then we keep explaining for five minutes?
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Yes, instead of just saying, I can't make it, we add reasons, details, even apologies we don't really mean just to make sure they're okay with it.
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Or, more honestly, to make sure they don't judge you for it.
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Oops.
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That's real.
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And that's the deeper pattern.
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When we over-explain, we're trying to control how other people see you.
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So when we do that, we're managing their reactions.
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Exactly.
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We want them to understand, agree, and approve of our decision.
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But the more we do that, the more our value depends on their response, right?
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Right.
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And it slowly weakens our internal sense of worth because we stop trusting that our no is enough.
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What happens if we stop doing that?
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It feels uncomfortable at first.
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We might feel guilty or worry that people will misunderstand us.
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Yeah, that's silence after a short answer.
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Kinda scary.
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Uh-huh, but that's where the growth is.
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We're allowing people to have their own reactions without trying to fix it.
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That's why, instead of explaining more, you guys should stand by your decision.
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Trust me, that builds real confidence.
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Quiet confidence, the kind that doesn't need constant approval to feel okay.
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But I feel like, even if you stop explaining, that uncomfortable feeling is still there.
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It is.
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And that brings us to the next step.
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What is that?
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You have to learn to accept that discomfort, without treating it like something is wrong.
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That sounds.. hard.
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We're so used to fixing things right away.
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If someone seems disappointed, we try to make it better.
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If someone misunderstands us, we rush to explain.
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It feels like we can't just sit with it.
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I know.
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But not every uncomfortable feeling is a problem.
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Sometimes it's just a reaction, yours or theirs.
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So what does that look like in real life?
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Maybe you say no to something, and the other person seems a bit off.
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Our instinct is to fix it.
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Right.
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To explain more, to apologize again, to make them feel okay, blah, blah, blah.
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You're now saying, don't do that.
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Yeah.
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Just do nothing.
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Pause.
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Notice what you're feeling.
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Let them have their reaction.
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So their reaction doesn't define us.
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Exactly.
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Their disappointment, their misunderstanding, is about them, not your worth.
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That's a big shift.
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Uh-huh.
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And the more you practice this, the more emotionally stable you become, because you're not reacting to every signal anymore.
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I got it.
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We're standing in our own space instead of chasing other people's responses, just by doing nothing.
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That sounds.. freeing.
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It is.
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Once you stop trying to fix everyone else's feelings, you're finally left with what's happening inside your own head.
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True.
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And that brings us to the fourth and final habit, changing the way you talk to yourself.
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Spill the beans, Gwen.
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It's the way you talk to yourself.
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Hmm.
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Self-talk.
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Yeah, because at the end of the day, the relationship you have with yourself matters the most.
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I feel like most people are actually pretty harsh on themselves.
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Oh, 100%.
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We say things to ourselves we would never say to anyone else.
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Like, why am I like this?
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Or, what's wrong with me?
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Well, that one hit.
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The problem is, every time you talk to yourself like that, you are actively damaging your own sense of worth.
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So, what should we do?
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Start with something simple.
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Instead of blaming yourself, you're a loser, you're not enough.
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Just say, I know you did your best, I'm proud of you.
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Wait, instead of thinking, why am I so lazy today, you ask, what does my body need right now?
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Exactly.
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You shift from attacking yourself to supporting yourself.
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That already feels different.
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That changes everything.
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It really does.
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Because over time, you build a healthier relationship with yourself.
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You create an environment in your own mind where you feel safe, rather than constantly judged.
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I love that.
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That sounds like something a lot of people are missing.
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Your true self-worth doesn't grow from other people's compliments.
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It grows from how you treat yourself when no one else is listening.
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That's powerful.
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You guys can start doing it today.
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And maybe before we move on to the next part, I want everyone listening to take just one second.
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What would you say to yourself right now if you were being a little kinder?
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Just one sentence.
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You can drop it in the comments or just whisper it to yourself.
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Either way, it matters.
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I guess when you start being more aware of how you treat yourself...
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You also start noticing something else.
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Like what?
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Like asking yourself what you want from other people.
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Ah, that's interesting.
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Yeah, a lot of the time we're not just reacting, we're hoping.
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Hoping for what?
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For someone to understand us, support us, reassure us, make us feel okay.
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So we're kind of waiting for others to give us something.
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Yep, that's not wrong, but here's the shift.
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Before you look for it outside, ask yourself, what am I actually hoping to get right now?
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Hmm, that already sounds more intentional.
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It is.
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When you can name it, you can start giving some of it to yourself.
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Like, if I want reassurance, I can call myself first.
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Exactly.
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Maybe not 100%, but even a small part.
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And that changes things?
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A lot.
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You're no longer completely dependent on how others respond.
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You're still connecting with people, but you're not relying on them to define how you feel.
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That's how you slowly build emotional independence.
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I feel like beyond these small steps, there's another piece to this.
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Oh?
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What is that?
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Learning how to set boundaries.
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You're right, but I think a lot of people misunderstand what boundaries really are.
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Yeah, most people think it just means saying no. Right, but it's not always about saying no, it's about knowing when something is enough.
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Enough?
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Enough effort, enough emotional energy, enough explaining.
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Oh, so it's more about what you stop giving.
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Exactly.
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Sometimes you don't need to reject the situation, you just stop over-giving.
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That's interesting.
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What does that look like in real life?
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It can be really simple.
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Not replying right away, not jumping in to fix someone else's mood.
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Then you're not reacting instantly anymore.
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So you create a little space between what happens and how you respond.
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That space feels uncomfortable, though.
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It does, because we're used to thinking we have to respond to everything.
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Like if we don't, we're being rude or a bad person.
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Honestly, you don't have to react to everything to prove you're kind.
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Oof, that hits.
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You can still care, you can still be a good person without giving all your energy away.
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Yep.
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Boundaries are less about pushing people away.
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It's more about not abandoning yourself.
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That's a big difference.
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Once you get that, everything starts to feel a lot more balanced.
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Before we wrap up, we just want to say a few things.
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Yeah, we hope today's chat helped you pause and actually look at your self-worth.
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Not to compare, not to prove, just notice it.
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Even just realizing one little thing about yourself is already a win.
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We want you to remember this.
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You are allowed to take up space.
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You are allowed to have needs.
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You don't have to earn your worth.
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You already have it.
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Beautifully said.
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All right, now let's look at some words.
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These are the useful words and phrases from today's episode, perfect for discussing self-worth or just keeping your English real and natural.
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Great.
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Let's start with the first one.
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The first term is validation.
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Validation is approval or recognition from others.
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For example, she often looks for validation from her friends before making decisions.
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The next term is sneak in.
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Sneak in means something gradually appears or enters without being noticed.
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For example, self-doubt can sneak in quietly, even when you feel confident.
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Another important term is people-pleasing.
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People-pleasing is the habit of always trying to make others happy at your expense.
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For example, he's always saying yes to everything, a classic case of people-pleasing.
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Next, we have emotional independence.
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Emotional independence is the ability to manage your own feelings without relying on others for reassurance.
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For example, building emotional independence helps you stay calm even when others react unexpectedly.
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Then we have overgiving.
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Overgiving means giving too much of your time, energy, or attention, often to the point of exhaustion.
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For example, her over-giving at work left her drained and resentful.
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Last but not least, over-explain.
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Over-explain is when you feel the need to explain yourself too much, usually to avoid judgment or conflict.
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For example, he tends to over-explain his choices, even when it's not necessary.
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And that wraps up today's vocabulary.
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We covered a lot today, but if you only remember one thing, make it this.
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Your worth was never up for debate.
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Stop explaining yourself to people who've already decided.
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Stop shrinking to make others comfortable.
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Easier said than done, but that's why we're here.
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Thank you for staying to the end.
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You didn't have to, but you did.
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That means a lot to us, more than you think.
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If this one hit home, share it with someone who needs it.
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Before I say goodbye, we have a question for you.
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What do you want us to talk about next?
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Drop it in the comments.
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I'm Leo.
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I'm Gwen.
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See you next time.
Sobre Esta Lição
Nesta lição, você irá praticar a construção da sua autoestima através da escuta e compreensão de conversas reais em inglês. O podcast aborda temas profundos como o valor pessoal e a forma como buscamos validação externa, proporcionando um espaço seguro para refletir sobre essas questões. Ao ouvir os apresentadores Gwen e Leo, você terá a oportunidade de aprimorar seu vocabulário e entender melhor contextos do dia a dia, além de desenvolver sua habilidade de conversação em inglês. Através da prática de conversação em inglês, você se sentirá mais confiante para expressar seus pensamentos e emoções.
Vocabulário e Frases Chave
- Self-worth - Autoestima
- Approval - Aprovação
- Enough - Suficiente
- Dry text - Mensagem seca
- Spiraling - Entrar em um ciclo de pensamentos negativos
- Anchor - Âncora (figurativamente, referindo-se a algo que dá estabilidade)
- Emergency meeting - Reunião de emergência (no contexto, um alarme mental sobre a situação)
Dicas de Prática
Para aproveitar ao máximo este podcast, recomenda-se a técnica de shadowing. Você pode colocar seu podcast para tocar em um shadowing site e repetir as falas dos apresentadores, imitando a entonação e o ritmo deles. O tom mais tranquilo e a velocidade moderada do podcast tornam possível para você acompanhar e participar ativamente. Tente começar ouvindo uma parte curta, depois pause e repita. Isso ajudará você a se familiarizar com expressões naturais e aumentar sua fluência.
Experimente também assistir ao vídeo no aprender inglês com youtube, onde você pode ver as emoções e reações dos apresentadores, o que pode enriquecer sua experiência de aprendizado. Ao praticar as frases em situações imaginárias, você desenvolve não só sua capacidade de fala, mas também sua autoconfiança. Não esqueça de utilizar a técnica shadowspeak para internalizar melhor as novas palavras e expressões no seu vocabulário.
O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.