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Hello, everyone, and welcome back to Everyday English Academy, where we make English simple and enjoyable.
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I'm Sarah.
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And I'm Mike.
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Hello to all of our wonderful listeners wherever you are in the world right now.
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How was your week, Mike?
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It was okay, but something happened at work that is still in my head.
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Oh, what happened?
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We were in a meeting.
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The team was discussing a project, and I had an idea.
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I thought it was actually a good idea, but I didn't say it.
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Why not?
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I kept thinking, what if they think it's a dumb idea?
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What if everyone looks at me and thinks, why did he say that?
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So you just stayed quiet?
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I stayed quiet.
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And then, ten minutes later, someone else said almost the same thing and everyone loved it.
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Oh, no. Yeah.
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And I sat there thinking, that was my idea.
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I was just too worried about what people would think.
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You know what, Mike?
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I think that happens to so many people.
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More than we want to admit.
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It really does.
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And honestly, it made me wonder, why do we do this?
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Why do we care so much about what other people think?
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That is a really good question.
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And I think almost everyone listening right now has felt this before.
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At work, at school, with friends, even at the supermarket.
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The supermarket?
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Yes.
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Yes, I once put something back on the shelf
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because I thought the person next to me was looking at what I was buying. Were they?
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No, they were looking at their own shopping list.
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See, that is exactly what we need to talk about today.
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And by the way, listeners, has this ever happened to you?
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You had something to say but kept it inside?
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Or you changed your behavior because of a stranger?
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Tell us in the comments.
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We really want to hear your stories.
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Okay, so Mike, why do we care?
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Like, where does this come from?
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I think a big part of it is that we want to fit in.
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Fit in, yes.
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To fit in means to feel like you belong in a group.
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Like you are part of the team, part of the people around you.
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Right.
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And that is actually very normal.
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Humans are social.
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We need other people.
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So our brain says, don't do anything weird.
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Don't be different.
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Just blend in.
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And it starts early, right?
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Like in school, you want to wear the same shoes as your friends.
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You want to like the same music.
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You want to laugh at the same jokes.
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Oh, totally.
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I remember in school, I liked a band that nobody else liked, and I just never told anyone.
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You hid your music taste?
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I hid my music taste because I thought people would think I was strange.
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I even pretended to like songs I didn't like just to fit in.
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That is so sad, but also I did the same thing.
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I think we all did.
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We will come back to your band story later, by the way.
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Oh, no. And the thing is, fitting in feels safe.
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But sometimes we lose a little piece of ourselves to fit in.
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We say what other people want to hear.
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We wear what other people think is cool.
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And slowly, we forget what we actually like.
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That's true.
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And I think another big reason is we are afraid people will size us up.
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Size us up.
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Good one.
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What does that mean?
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When someone sizes you up, they look at you and quickly make an opinion about you.
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Like they look at your clothes, your face, how you talk.
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And they decide something about you in seconds.
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Exactly.
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And that is why we get self-conscious.
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Self-conscious.
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That means feeling worried that people are watching you or thinking about you.
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Like when you walk into a cafe alone and suddenly you don't know what to do with your hands?
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Yes.
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Or when you're eating alone and you think everyone is looking at you like, oh, that person has no friends.
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Nobody is thinking that, Mike.
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I know, but it feels like it.
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And that feeling actually has a name, by the way.
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It does?
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Yes, it's called the spotlight effect.
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Ooh, the spotlight effect.
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Like a spotlight on a stage?
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Exactly.
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Imagine you are on a stage and there's a big bright light on you.
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Everyone is watching.
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That is how it feels.
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But in real life, there is no spotlight.
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Nobody is watching that closely.
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So the spotlight effect is when we think everyone is paying attention to us, but they are actually not.
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Right.
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Scientists studied this.
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They found that we believe people notice us much more than they actually do.
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That makes sense.
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Because think about it.
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When was the last time you noticed what a stranger was wearing?
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Hmm.
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I can't remember.
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Exactly.
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We don't notice other people, but we think they notice us.
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It's a little bit crazy.
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It really is.
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And here's something I want everyone to try.
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Think about your most embarrassing moment, something that happened maybe last year.
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Okay.
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Now, do you think the other people in that moment still remember it?
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Probably not.
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They probably forgot the next day.
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Exactly.
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Your embarrassing moment lives in your head, not in theirs.
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They moved on.
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You didn't. That is so true.
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I still remember when I tripped in front of my colleagues two years ago, but I promise you nobody else remembers.
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Have you ever asked them?
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No, and I'm not going to.
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Because if they forgot, great.
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And if they didn't, I don't want to know.
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Fair enough.
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But seriously, the spotlight effect.
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It tricks us into thinking the whole world is watching.
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But the world is busy watching themselves.
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Everyone is the main character of their own story.
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They're not thinking about your story.
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That's a nice way to put it.
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Now, here is where it gets interesting, because I think social media makes this whole thing much worse.
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Oh, I agree, 100%.
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Because before social media, you worried about what?
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Maybe 20 or 30 people thought about you?
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Your friends, your family, your co-workers?
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And now, you can worry about what hundreds of people think, or thousands.
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Right.
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You post a photo, and then you wait.
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How many likes?
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How many comments?
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Did people like it?
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Did they ignore it?
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And if you get a lot of likes, you feel good.
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But if you don't, you start to wonder.
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Is something wrong with me?
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Is this photo bad?
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Am I boring?
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And that is what we call validation.
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Validation is when other people give you approval.
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When they say, yes, this is good.
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You are good.
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And it feels amazing when you get it.
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But the problem is, if you need it, if you can't feel good without it.
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Yes.
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If your happiness depends on other people's reactions, that is a lot of power to give away.
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It's like giving a stranger the remote control to your mood.
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Here, you decide if I'm happy today.
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That is a scary picture.
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Quick question for our listeners.
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Do you check how many likes you get on a post? Be honest.
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Tell us in the comments.
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And no judgment.
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I check too.
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See, we all do it.
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The important thing is to notice when it starts to control how you feel.
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Right.
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Likes are fun, but they shouldn't decide if you have a good day or a bad day.
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Exactly.
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And I think social media also makes us compare ourselves too much.
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Oh, the comparison game.
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That is dangerous.
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You see someone's life online and you think, their life looks perfect, mine doesn't.
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But you are comparing your real life to their best moments.
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That's never a fair comparison.
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That's a good point.
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Nobody posts the boring Tuesday afternoon.
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They post the vacation, the nice dinner, the perfect sunset.
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that nobody posts a photo of themselves eating cereal on the sofa in old clothes at 10 p.m.
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But that is what real life looks like most of the time.
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Exactly.
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And then we feel like we need to do the same thing.
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We want to stand out.
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Stand out means to be different, to be noticed, to be special.
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But trying to stand out for other people is exhausting, because what do they even want?
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Everyone wants something different.
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Exactly.
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You can't make everyone happy.
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Okay.
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But Sarah, I want to say something, and you might disagree with me.
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Oh, this is going to be good.
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Go ahead.
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I think sometimes caring what people think is actually okay.
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Hmm.
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Explain.
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Well, think about it.
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If you never cared what anyone thought, you might say rude things.
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You might show up to a job interview in your pajamas.
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You might hurt people's feelings without even noticing.
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Okay.
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You have a point.
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Right?
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A little bit of caring keeps us polite.
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It helps us read situations.
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It helps us be kind.
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So you're saying caring about what others think is like salt.
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Salt?
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Yes.
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A little salt makes food taste better, but too much ruins everything.
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I like that.
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Yes, a little caring is healthy.
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It means you respect other people, you think about their feelings, but too much caring and you stop living your life.
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You become a people pleaser.
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A people pleaser is someone who always tries to make other people happy, even when it makes them unhappy.
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And people pleasers often say yes when they want to say no. They agree when they actually disagree.
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They change who they are depending on who they're with, like different personality with different groups.
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That sounds tiring.
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It is tiring.
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And honestly, I used to be like that.
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I would say yes to everything, go everywhere, agree with everyone.
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And at the end of the day, I felt empty, like I spent the whole day being someone else.
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Because you were living for other people, not for yourself.
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Exactly.
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And when I finally said no to something, it felt strange at first, almost guilty.
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but also a little bit free.
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Yes, a little bit free.
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And that feeling gets bigger every time you do it.
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And that is something I had to learn.
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It takes practice.
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So, Mike, what can people actually do?
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Like, if you know you care too much, how do you start caring a little less?
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Good question.
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I think the first thing is to notice when you are getting in your own head.
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Getting in your own head.
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I love this phrase.
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It means thinking too much until you confuse yourself or stop yourself from doing something.
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Right.
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Like me in that meeting.
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I got in my own head.
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I had a good idea, but my brain said, no, no, no, don't say it.
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It's probably stupid.
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And it wasn't stupid.
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Someone else said it and everyone liked it.
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Exactly.
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So step one, notice when your brain is being too loud, when it starts telling you stories about what might happen.
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Because usually those stories are not true.
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We imagine the worst, but the worst almost never happens.
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And step two, learn to shrug things off.
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To shrug something off means to act like it doesn't bother you and just keep going.
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Like if someone says something about your clothes or your hair, instead of thinking about it for three days, you just shrug.
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Move on.
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It's not that important.
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Not everything needs a reaction.
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And I know that sounds easy, but it is hard sometimes, especially the first few times.
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It is, but it gets easier with practice.
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Every time you shrug something off, the next time is a little easier.
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It's like a muscle.
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The more you use it, the stronger it gets.
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Yeah, and honestly, most of the things we worry about, in one week, we don't even remember them. So true.
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The comment that ruined your Monday, by Friday, gone.
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And I think the most important thing is to just own it.
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Own who you are.
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Own it.
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I like this one.
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What does it mean exactly?
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To own it means to accept who you are with confidence, without saying sorry for it.
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You like something that's different?
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Own it.
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You have an opinion?
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Own it.
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You made a mistake?
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Own it.
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You are who you are.
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Own it.
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Like my secret band from school.
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I should have just owned it.
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Yes, you should have said, I like this band and I don't care what you think.
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And you know what's funny?
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The people who own it, they are usually the people we respect the most.
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That's true.
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Think about someone you admire.
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Are they trying to fit in or are they just being themselves?
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Usually, they're just being themselves and that confidence is what makes them interesting.
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Exactly.
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So maybe the secret is not caring less.
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Maybe the secret is caring more about your opinion of yourself and a little less about everyone else's.
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I like that.
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I'm doing that from now on.
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No more hiding.
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Good, because here's the truth.
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Most people are too busy worrying about themselves to worry about you.
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And that is actually very freeing when you really think about it.
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Okay, before we finish, quick question for everyone listening.
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Are you more of a people pleaser, or are you someone who doesn't really care what others think?
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Tell us in the comments.
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Yes, and there is no wrong answer.
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Maybe you are somewhere in the middle.
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That is normal too.
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So what did we learn today?
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We care what people think because we want to fit in.
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We want to belong But the spotlight effect tricks us people notice us much less than we think
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Social media can make it worse because we start looking for validation from strangers
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But a little bit of caring is actually healthy.
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It keeps us kind and polite The problems start when we become people pleasers and stop listening to ourselves ourselves.
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So, notice when you get in your own head, learn to shrug things off, and most importantly, own who you are.
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Even if it's a weird band from school.
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Especially if it's a weird band from school.
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All right, everyone.
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Thank you so much for spending time with us today.
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If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe to Everyday English Academy and give us a like.
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It really helps us keep making these episodes for you.
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Share this with a friend who needs to hear it.
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Maybe someone who gets in their own head a little too much.
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We'll see you in the next episode.
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Keep practicing your English.
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Stay confident, stay curious, and remember, nobody is watching as much as you think.
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Bye, everyone.
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Goodbye!
Sobre Esta Lição
Nesta lição, você vai praticar a habilidade de ouvir e reproduzir diálogos em inglês, focando em uma situação cotidiana em que muitos se sentem inseguros sobre a opinião dos outros. Ao assistir a este vídeo, você irá melhorar sua compreensão auditiva, assim como sua capacidade de responder em conversas naturais. Você irá aprender a importância de expressar suas ideias, mesmo que tenha preocupações sobre como elas serão recebidas. Isso não só ajuda a desenvolver a sua confiança em situações sociais, mas também enriquece sua prática de conversação em inglês.
Vocabulário e Frases Chave
- To fit in - Pertencer a um grupo.
- Worried - Preocupado.
- Idea - Ideia.
- Speak up - Falar abertamente.
- Judged - Julgado.
- Social - Social, relacionado a interações com outras pessoas.
- Supermarket - Supermercado.
Dicas de Prática
Para maximizar sua prática de conversação em inglês ao assistir ao vídeo, recomendamos que você utilize a técnica de shadow speak. Ouça atentamente as falas, prestando atenção à entonação e ao ritmo dos falantes. Tente imitar não apenas as palavras, mas também as expressões faciais e emoções que eles transmitem. O vídeo foi desenvolvido para ter um ritmo acessível, então não hesite em pausar e repetir frases que você acha desafiadoras. Isso não só o ajudará a melhorar a pronúncia em inglês, mas também a internalizar a estrutura das frases e a dinâmica da conversação.
Se você se sentir à vontade, grave-se praticando o seu shadowspeak. Depois, ouça sua gravação e compare com o áudio original para identificar áreas em que você pode melhorar. Aprender inglês com YouTube é uma excelente maneira de treinar suas habilidades de fala, especialmente em situações que refletem experiências da vida real.
O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.