Prática de Shadowing: The Psychology of People Who Don't Post Their Photos on Social Media - Aprenda a falar inglês com vídeo
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I'm sure you've experienced this moment before.
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You've just taken a picture after a fun night out.
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You're on the verge of sharing it online. And then it happens.
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You feel this twist in your stomach, like an aching in your heart.
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And there's a voice inside your head saying, Why am I doing this?
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Some people in that moment decide, "Eh, screw it," and they'll post it anyway.
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But others Seize that moment of reflection and turn it into transformation.
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they put their phone away and then they reclaim the moment.
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So, My question is, What is the difference between those two different types of people?
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This is the psychology of people who don't post their photos on social media.
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In a world where posting almost no longer feels like a choice anymore.
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To understand what makes these people different, and what we can learn from them, we first need to understand how we got here in the first place.
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Posting photos on social media wasn't always an anxiety -inducing experience.
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In the early days, it was pretty exciting to post your pictures and connect with friends and family across the globe, and this was the early days,
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on platforms like MySpace and Facebook.
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really dating myself here.
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It was a time where social media had no real identity, we just kind of made it up as we went along. But then...
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Over the years, as these platforms became even more popular,
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slowly things went from harmlessly sharing in a genuine effort to interact with your friends and family, to a battle of popularity,
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trying to get the most likes and reach the most followers.
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Soon enough, it felt like everything was cringe and nobody wanted to present themselves authentically anymore.
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They wanted to post what would get the most results.
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That shift in behavior is something psychologists term as "extrinsic motivation"
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compared to the intrinsic behavior of sharing pictures from a fun night with friends.
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Extrinsic motivation is less about what you like.
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Instead, it strips away your individuality for external rewards or to avoid punishment.
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In an effort to escape being cringe, we are forgetting what it means to be real.
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compared to the early 2010s.
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Posting nowadays feels less like an expression and more like performance.
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The average dinner date is, oh it's dystopian.
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You get your meal and you cannot wait to dig in.
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Maybe you've been waiting hours
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and then you get a gentle smack on your hand to get away from the cutlery
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and your date pulls out their phone and spends a few minutes capturing aesthetic photos with the meal.
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Not so you guys can savor that moment and then relive it later, but it's all for the gram.
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So the followers know It's all performative,
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and recognizing that doesn't easily exclude you from the theater.
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Extrinsic motivation has everyone in a chokehold.
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Even if you don't have aspirations to be an influencer, there's still a minimum bar that people feel a pressure to keep up with.
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I know I do.
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It's an invisible line in the sand that we deem as a standard.
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You don't fully realize it until it just randomly hits you.
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This battle between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation is made even clearer in one specific kind of moment, and this is called the photographer's paradox.
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So, Follow me on this one.
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Have you ever found yourself at a function that you enjoy?
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Uh...
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Maybe it's a concert your favorite singer is hitting all the right notes and your soul is in tune with the experience.
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And then you realize, You haven't taken a picture yet.
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And suddenly you're burdened by a weight of emotional proportion.
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Suddenly your mind starts to zone into capturing what you're feeling inside of a photo.
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As both the observer and the performer, you expect this should be easy.
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Therein lies the paradox.
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The need to prove that I was here and I had fun and then it just ruins the value of the experience.
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The conflict between creating for yourself and performing for an imaginary audience will only end
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when you abandon the need to post every experience on social media.
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The temptation to participate ultimately leads to no solid end and that's by design.
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After all, you Not many can fully grasp the decision to look past this new normal.
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However, the Danish philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard, understood such withdrawal from convention.
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Back in the 19th century, Kierkegaard drew a spotlight on individual authenticity.
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He highlighted individuality as a guiding principle in the face of a crowd, arguing that the "crowd" is untruth.
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A place where people hide from themselves, acting only on what's popular.
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- Thank you.
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In his view, the pressure to meet up with standards or avoid being cringe ultimately drowns out our true selves.
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Kierkegaard's warning was never as haunting as it is today.
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Now we understand why.
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In our world today, the crowd isn't just the collective consciousness of social media users, it's the algorithm.
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A specially designed tool dedicated to keep us engaged with a platform's content.
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Insecurity is profit.
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When the crowd says your phone's camera is outdated, well, you go out and buy the newest iPhone.
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When it says you're not fit enough, you buy a conveniently advertised weight loss tea.
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With all the loudness from the outside, how would you ever find yourself?
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The whims of celebrities and algorithms dictate the standard, so There are those who ask: Why should participation matter?
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This answer from French philosopher Albert Camus rings true for the outliers: with rebellion Awareness is born.
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A user who refuses to post is a textbook Kamuyen rebel.
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The performative logic of social media's machine is worth rejecting.
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In an absurd world, accepting strange rules is like smothering one's own independence in ignorance.
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Choosing silence in the attention economy can feel like a digital strike, a form of protest that rejects every aspect of the all -consuming machine.
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It's modern day activism.
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The people that refuse to post stop contributing to the system that is killing authenticity.
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Rejection of the norm means avoiding the tools of subservience, even when the message is justifiable.
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It invokes Gil Scott Heron's iconic words: "The revolution will not be televised." As you tread the path away from convention, there's another danger on the horizon.
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This time, you risk becoming a caricature of your protest.
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It's to fully embrace life and individuality away from the crowd.
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Therefore, spending your life telling everyone that they're wrong for posting on social media leads to the opposite result.
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You just make people cringe and...
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kind of become inauthentic in the real world.
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Human beings may be complicated, but we are also quite simple in unexpected ways.
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It's like asking a friend not to have a chilled can of coke on a hot summer afternoon because it's unhealthy.
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Sure, they get it, but there's no way they're going to let you talk them out of it.
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Social media is pretty similar especially among younger generations.
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Here's my old man shouts at cloud moment.
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For Gen Z, it's synonymous with thriving.
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Psychologist David Elkind described adolescence as having an imaginary audience.
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Even with their phones switched off, younger generations seem primed to always act with an audience in mind.
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It's no surprise.
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Just look at the rise of the Gen Alpha term "6 /7".
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The entire point of the meme is to do it in the presence of an audience, without which has no meaning.
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It's a symbol to others that you are in the know, that you're a part of the tribe.
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It's completely performative and completely extrinsic.
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You also see it in the idols kids of today have.
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Back in the day Kids idolized athletes like Michael Jordan, Today, their idols are YouTubers and Twitch streamers.
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They're even beginning to speak in a TikTok accent.
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It's the cadence and delivery of younger demographics and it's shifting towards something that was entirely birthed online.
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It's a performative change, as if every conversation is a potential clip, and everyone is a creator in waiting, hoping for the day that they go viral.
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It's crazy that the word "chat" might soon become a fourth -person pronoun.
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It's carved from the world of streaming.
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People have started using this word in real life to reflect the same feeling of breaking the fourth wall
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and speaking to an imaginary audience.
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Posting on social media is...
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strangely restrictive to your identity.
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There's an odd sense of responsibility that comes with carving a niche for yourself.
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Even if you don't plan to become an influencer, friends and family still have baseline expectations for who you are.
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That's where an online presence really starts to crystallize.
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This crystallized self is a core part of social media.
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Every post, like, share, aesthetic, it all contributes to the data that your audience builds on you.
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Once your identity is crystallized, it's incredibly fragile.
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Any deviation cracks the facade.
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However, in the real world, identities are always more fluid and contextual.
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To one friend group, you're a lovable loudmouth with a snappy sense of humor to another, you're a career -driven person and you're always in a serious mood.
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That's even who you are with co -workers and family members.
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Meanwhile, the average popular person on social media is almost not allowed to have a bad fan interaction.
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Once that happens, it's seen as a betrayal of the crystallized identity.
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That's why A -list actors like Jennifer Lawrence and Scarlett Johansson have openly refused to join social media.
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It's not that they're above it, it's just a professional necessity.
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Their job is to be a blank slate for the audience, to convince you that they are a new character in every film.
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But for the actors that are active on social media, there's a strong connection to that crystallized self when you watch them in a movie.
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Ryan Reynolds plays Ryan Reynolds, seen so much Ryan Reynolds.
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Deadpool might as well be.
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Ryan Reynolds.
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And it's the same thing with Dwayne Johnson.
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and the new, younger crop of actors.
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For those that avoid social media, they understand.
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that the most powerful form of presence can sometimes be a strategic absence.
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Posting on social media doesn't only cause that inevitable crystallization.
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For many, it comes with a pigeonhole effect.
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If you'd like your presence to grow, it's nice to have a niche.
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One small problem though: by sticking with a niche, you risk becoming boxed into the one thing that you got famous for in the first place.
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If you're a body positivity influencer, a moment of dissatisfaction can lose you followers.
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You're no longer a person.
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You're only a product with a brand identity.
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When someone avoids posting their photos and life on social media, it's more than just quitting addiction.
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It's a jailbreak that shatters the crystallized nature of themselves.
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returning to a more fluid personal identity.
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While it feels like the people who don't post on social media are a small group, That couldn't be farther from the truth, actually.
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For decades, internet culture has actually operated on a 1 % rule, one that dictates only 1 % of users create content,
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9 % interact, and 90 % consume.
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But today, the passive 90 % are strategically withdrawing further.
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Yes, even with their minimal participation, there's a growing effort to abandon posting.
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People who would upload a new picture once a year are clearing their entire feed.
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A 2023 survey found that 47 % of Gen Z delete posts because they didn't get enough engagement,
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and one in three avoid posting at all out of fear of judgement. That...
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doesn't automatically mean they've closed the curtains on social media.
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No, this shift is from public broadcasting to a more private, narrow casting.
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We're seeing the rise of Finstas and close friend lists.
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The small, curated circles where people feel they're safe from the biggest consequences of social media.
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Ephemeral content is even bigger than ever.
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Think of stuff like Instagram, TikTok, WhatsApp, and Snapchat stories.
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After 24 hours, it all disappears, reducing the pressure of a permanent record.
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What we're witnessing is the rise of the quiet participant, a new face to social media that refuses to participate in the game of algorithms.
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that doesn't exempt them from its consequences.
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Even quiet users are vulnerable to social media's worst effects.
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In what I would describe as an ironic twist, the reality of social media users you have to wonder why the truth isn't so popular.
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On the outside, it looks like everyone is participating actively This silent majority holds all the cards.
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It's only a matter of time before an exodus brews hitting the pockets of the tech companies of the world.
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So in a culture that rewards visibility, withholding information is self -control.
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And in a generation raised on endless comparison, the decision to keep something private stands as one of the final ways to stay mentally independent.
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The world is quickly becoming one where memories are harvested.
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feeding into AI and algorithms, spewing a crude version of our desires back at us.
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Choosing not to post might be the only way for us to remain uncaptured, unmeasured, and unprofitable.
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So, If you've.. ever kept a moment for no one but you, that's a precious thing.
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I don't feel like you're fading into the background.
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The truest version of you?
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is the one that can't be used.
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