Shadowing Practice: The Problem Isn't Life, It's Your Expectations | Slow English Podcast #learnenglishpodcast - Learn English Speaking with Video
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you
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Hello friend, I'm Hope.
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And I'm really glad you're here today.
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Welcome to English with Hope a calm space for your mind and your heart In this channel, You don't have to be perfect.
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You don't have to rush.
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Here.
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We learn English slowly.
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We listen to English gently.
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no pressure no stress and here You are not alone.
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wherever you are in the world right here with you so relax your shoulders take a slow breath And let's begin.
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Today's episode is about something that I think touches all of us, probably more often than we'd like to admit.
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It is about expectations.
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It is about the quiet.
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invisible pictures we carry inside us we carry pictures of how life is supposed to go
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and We carry pictures of how people are supposed to treat us.
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We carry pictures of how our hard work is supposed to pay off.
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we carry pictures of how love is supposed to feel We carry pictures of how our mornings are supposed to start.
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But what happens inside our hearts when those pictures do not match what is actually in front of us?
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What happens when our daily reality looks completely different?
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from our imagination.
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Do you ever notice how a quiet sense of frustration can trace its way into your morning?
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you You look at your work, you look at your studies, you look at your relationships.
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Everything seems a bit gray.
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we look at our daily tasks and ask ourselves gently why our energy feels a little low today
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because here is something i want us to sit with today it is something that might feel a little
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uncomfortable at first but I promise you it comes with so much freedom on the other side
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the problem is rarely life itself The problem?
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often is the distance between what we expected and what is
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We look at our circumstances and believe that life is being a bit unfair to us.
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but if we stay very still we see that the day is just being a day the hours are simply unfolding
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The true weight comes from the invisible blueprint we are trying to force onto the present moment.
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when we realize this A beautiful sense of motivation can enter our hearts.
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Amen we understand that we do not have to fix the whole world to feel peaceful again
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we do not have to control every outcome to enjoy our journey
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we can choose to look at our today with a light curious mind we can step away from our hidden requirements.
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we can start to look directly.
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at the actual path under our feet today We are going to explore this truth together like two friends sharing.
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a quiet room we are going to learn how to open our hands and drop our unwritten rules
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There's an old idea in philosophy and in psychology one of my favorites.
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honestly and it goes like this The map is not the territory.
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What that means is this: A map is a representation of a place.
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It gives you a general sense of where things are, what roads exist, how far things might be.
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But the map is not.
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The actual landscape.
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The map doesn't capture.
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The unexpected detours.
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The beautiful shortcut.
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through the woods the road that washed away
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the rain last spring the map is just a drawing the territory is the real thing
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And we do this with life constantly.
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We draw maps in our minds, detailed.
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careful, emotionally invested maps of how things should unfold you We plan the route.
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we imagine the destination We picture exactly how it will feel.
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when we arrive and then we step outside into the actual territory and we discover that life has its own roads,
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its own timing, its own way of moving.
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Life never received your map.
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It was never given the instructions.
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it simply is unfolding in its own mysterious imperfect sometimes breathtaking way you And when we forget this,
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When we hold our mental map, so tightly in demand that reality match it that is when frustration takes root
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that is when we start believing that life has let us down that things are going wrong.
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that we are somehow behind.
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or of course But what if you...
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Weren't off course.
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What if you were just in the actual territory, the real?
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Fall.
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living version of your life.
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And the discomfort he was feeling was simply the surprise of how different it looks.
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From the picture you drew, This is the first thing I want you to hold today.
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You are allowed to have hopes.
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You are allowed to set intentions and make plans.
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but hold them loosely.
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Hold them the way you would hold, a firefly in your hands.
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gently with open fingers ready to let it move in ways you didn't expect Your map is not your territory.
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and your territory might be more beautiful than anything you could have met Here's something worth sitting with, something that...
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When I first really understood it, changed a great deal for me.
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most of our expectations are not wishes they are demands silent unspoken demands that we place on the world
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the people in our lives and on ourselves and the tricky part is that we rarely even realize we're making them.
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think about it when you expect someone you love to know what you need without you saying it
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and That is a demand.
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When you expect that working hard guarantees a particular outcome.
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That is a demand.
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when you expect that being a good person means life will be kind to you in return That is a demand.
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These are understandable demands.
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human demands but they are demands nonetheless and here is what demands do They create conditions for our happiness.
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They say.
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I will feel okay.
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Only if this happens.
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will feel loved only if they do this I will feel at peace only when life looks like this
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and when those conditions go unmet
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life being life often doesn't meet them we call what we feel
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and disappointment but what we're really experiencing is the pain of a demand being refused
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I want to invite you to try something, not to stop caring.
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not to stop hoping but to begin noticing the next time you feel hurt or let down or frustrated get curious
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Ask yourself, "What was I expecting here?" what did i silently require from this situation from this person from myself
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Because when you can name the expectation
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you can start to work with it you can ask is this a hope or a demand.
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"Is this something I communicated clearly?" or something i assumed would just be understood.
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is this expectation based on love or on fear, There is a world of difference.
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between hoping something will go well and quietly requiring it too
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one is an open hand reaching forward the other is a closed fist waiting to be disappointed,
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Catch your silent demands, hold them up to the light.
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Some of them will dissolve just by being seen.
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you I want to tell you something.
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that i think is one of the most freeing truths i've ever come across and i mean that sincerely
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Most of the time.
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when we suffer We are not suffering because of what happened.
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we are suffering because of the distance between what happened and what we believed should have happened.
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Think of two people going through the same difficult experience, maybe losing a job, or going through the end of a relationship.
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we're facing a sudden change in plans.
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One person collapses under it.
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The other moves through it with something close to grace.
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"It doesn't look like strength." Necessarily,
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it looks like acceptance like rootedness what is the difference between those two people Almost always.
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It comes down to expectation.
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The first person had a very specific picture.
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of what their life was supposed to look like and this event shattered it.
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every day they are comparing reality to the picture every day reality loses every day The pain deepens.
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The second person had learned perhaps through their own hard seasons, not to hold the picture.
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so tightly they grieve Yes, they feel the loss.
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of course but they are not comparing they are simply in it present with what is and
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rather than paralyzed by what isn't.
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This is not about pretending.
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Things don't hurt.
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pain is real grief is real Disappointment is real.
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but there is a difference between the natural The honest ache of something not going the way you hoped,
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and the prolonged suffering of continuously measuring your life against a version of it that never existed.
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The comparison is the wound, not the circumstance.
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here is the tender truth You do not have to keep measuring.
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You are allowed right now.
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this moment to put down the measuring stick
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to stop comparing your life to the imagined one to stop measuring yourself against who you thought you'd be by now
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to simply be here in the life that is actually yours and ask what does this moment need from me
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The suffering is in the gap, and the gap closes.
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The moment you stop measuring, I know what some of you
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might be thinking right now something along the lines of
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if I stop expecting things doesn't that mean I've given up doesn't that mean I've settled you Doesn't that mean I just...
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don't care anymore I understand that fear,
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I really do, because so many of us have learned to use our expectations as fuel, as a way of staying motivated, Stain driven.
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staying alive to what we want.
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Thank you.
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but i want to offer you a different way of looking at surrender
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surrendering expectations is not the same as surrendering your hopes
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It is not the same as lowering your standards or deciding that nothing matters.
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True surrender is something much quieter.
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much braver than
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that it is showing up fully giving your absolute best without attaching your sense of peace to a particular outcome
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is planting a seed with complete care and devotion and then trusting the soil and Trusting the rain,
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trusting the season, rather than standing over it every hour demanding it grow on your schedule.
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Thank you.
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There is a deep wisdom in this kind of surrender.
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It doesn't make you passive.
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It makes you free.
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Because when you are no longer white -knuckling, a specific outcome you are able to be present.
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for what is actually unfolding.
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you can see the unexpected turn that becomes the best thing that ever happened to you you can receive the gift.
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That didn't come in the package you ordered.
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so many of the greatest most meaningful things in life have arrived in the exact shape of something we didn't expect
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friendship born from a difficult moment A path discovered when the original road closed.
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A strength uncovered precisely because things.
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didn't go smoothly Surrender is not a white flag, it is an open door.
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It is you saying, "I am going to do my very best and I am also going to trust that life."
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in its wisdom knows what it's doing letting go of the outcome.
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is not the end of caring.
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it is the beginning of trusting We are almost at the end of our time together today and i want to close.
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with what I think is the most quietly powerful shift of all We spend so much energy expecting things from life.
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We expect circumstances to be easier.
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We expect other people to understand us.
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We expect timing to cooperate.
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We expect outcomes to reward our effort.
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and when these things don't happen the way we hoped we feel powerless we feel like life is happening to us
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rather than through us.
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But there's a shift available.
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to every single one of us.
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and it doesn't require anything to change outside of you.
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it's this Move the expectation inward.
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instead of expecting life to be easier Expect more of your own ability to adapt.
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instead of expecting other people to always show up for you Expect more of your own capacity.
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to be there for yourself Instead of expecting the road to be smooth, Expect more of your own courage.
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to walk it anyway.
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This is not about being hard on yourself.
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Please hear that.
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This is about reclaiming your power.
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It is about becoming someone who stops waiting for conditions to be perfect
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and starts showing up for life exactly as it is.
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When you shift your expectations inward, something remarkable begins to happen.
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Life doesn't necessarily get easier.
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but you become more capable.
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than you ever imagined.
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You discover a resilience you didn't know was there.
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You find that you are more creative more patient
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more tender with yourself and others than you ever gave yourself credit for and the strange
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Beautiful thing is that life often starts to meet you differently.
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When you arrive with this kind of energy, Not because the universe rewards you, though maybe it does, in its own quiet way.
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but because when you are no longer at war with what is You are finally free to build with it.
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Stop waiting for life to give you.
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The perfect conditions.
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start giving yourself the one condition that matters most your own presence.
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your own commitment your own willingness to try life is not withholding from you It is simply waiting for you to arrive.
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Fully.
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"Bravely." without the weight of what you expected it to be as we close today
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I want to leave you with something gentle to carry.
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Not a task, not a challenge, just a soft reminder.
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the life you are living right now the one with the detours and the surprises
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and the things that didn't go the way you planned
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this life is not a mistake you It is not a consolation prize.
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It is the real thing.
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It is yours.
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and you are allowed to love it.
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Even in its imperfection, you are allowed to find it beautiful,
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even when it's hard you are allowed to be at peace with where you are even as you continue to grow.
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and to reach and to hope.
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today if you find yourself in that gap that painful space between what you expected and what is
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you I hope you can breathe a little I hope you can loosen your grip
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just slightly i hope you can whisper to yourself The way a good friend would whisper to you.
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This is not wrong.
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This is just different.
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And different is okay.
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different might even be wonderful you thank you so much for spending this time with me truly
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I don't take lightly the fact that you chose to give your time your heart to this conversation today
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i hope you leave feeling a little lighter
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a little softer a little more at home in the life that is actually yours.
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you Take care of yourself.
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Be gentle with your expectations, especially the ones you place on yourself.
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if this lesson gave you something useful I'd love it if you tapped like...
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and subscribe to the channel.
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It helps you stay connected.
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And it also helps this little learning community grow.
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Every click really does make a difference.
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Goodbye for now, friend.
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you you you you
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Context & Background
In the latest episode of Slow English Podcast, the speaker, Hope, creates a welcoming environment for learners to improve their English speaking skills without the pressure of perfection. The discussion centers around the topic of expectations and how they can often misalign with reality, leading to feelings of frustration. This podcast aims to highlight the importance of understanding our feelings in relation to life’s unpredictability and the power of letting go of unwritten rules. The gentle approach taken by Hope allows listeners to connect on both a personal and emotional level, making it an excellent opportunity for learners to enhance their comprehension and speaking abilities.
Top 5 Phrases for Daily Communication
- You are not alone. - A comforting phrase that can be used to reassure someone feeling isolated.
- Relax your shoulders. - A reminder to ease tension, applicable in various situations.
- Let's begin. - A simple way to initiate a conversation or activity.
- It is about the distance between what we expected and what is. - A profound expression that can facilitate discussions about expectations and reality.
- The map is not the territory. - A philosophical way to remind others that plans are not always reflective of real life.
Step-by-step Shadowing Guide
Utilizing a shadowing technique can significantly enhance your English speaking practice. Here’s how to effectively shadow the content from this episode:
- Select a Shadowing App: Choose a reliable shadowing app that allows you to play audio at various speeds. Begin with a slow pace that you feel comfortable with.
- Listen attentively: Play the episode and listen closely to Hope's delivery. Pay attention to her intonation and rhythm.
- Pause and Repeat: After each sentence, pause the audio and repeat what you just heard. Focus on mimicking her pronunciation and expression. This technique is particularly useful for mastering phrases like, “You are not alone.”
- Record Yourself: Use your device to record your voice as you repeat the phrases. Listening to your own shadow speech can help identify areas for improvement.
- Reflect and Practice: After you finish shadowing, take time to reflect on how the phrases made you feel. Try using them in your daily conversations, perhaps while practicing for things like IELTS speaking tests.
By engaging with this method, whether for everyday English or IELTS speaking practice, you’ll deepen your understanding of how to handle expectations while enhancing your English language skills concurrently. Shadowing encourages fluency and confidence, ensuring that you are well-equipped to express your thoughts and feelings in English.
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