跟讀練習: Choose Your Pain: Discipline or Regret? - 通過影片學習英語口語
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What's the one thing you know you need to do, but you keep avoiding because staying comfortable feels easier?
有哪一件事你明知道必須去做，卻一直迴避，因為待在舒適區裡感覺更輕鬆？
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You know you should initiate that honest conversation with your wife, but you keep telling yourself, now isn't a good time.
你明明知道應該和妻子坦誠地談一談，卻一直告訴自己現在不是合適的時機。
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You know your kids need more of you, just real, present, intentional time.
你知道你的孩子需要你多花些時間陪伴他們，是那種真誠、全身心投入、用心相處的時光。
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But you know what?
但你知道嗎？
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That next deal, the next project, next trip away, just always feels urgent.
下一筆交易、下一個專案、下一次出差，總讓人覺得刻不容緩。
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You know God has been nudging you towards something bigger or maybe nudging you to slow down,
你知道上帝一直在引導你走向更遠大的目標，或者是在提醒你該放慢腳步了。
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but sitting in the familiar grind feels safer than confronting what needs to change.
但固守熟悉的日常瑣事，總比直面那些需要改變的事要讓人覺得更安全。
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You're not lazy.
你才不是懶。
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You're not checked out.
您尚未完成結賬。
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You're not sitting on the couch doing nothing.
你不是坐在沙發上無所事事。
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You're a hardworking man, an achiever, a provider, someone who's used to doing what it takes to win.
你是一個勤奮努力的人，一個事業有成的人，一個能擔當養家餬口責任的人，一個習慣了為了勝利不惜一切代價的人。
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But sometimes the greatest danger for the high achieving man is comfort.
但有時，對取得高成就的人來說，最大的危險恰恰是安逸。
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It's staying busy enough to avoid the deeper work.
一直保持忙碌，就是為了迴避那些需要深入投入的工作。
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It's choosing the pain you know over the change you need.
這是在選擇你熟悉的痛苦，而不是你所需的改變。
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In my conversation with Beau Parfait recently, he said, there are two types of pain in this world.
我最近和Beau Parfait聊天時，他說這個世界上有兩種痛苦。
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The pain of discipline and the pain of regret.
自律之苦與遺憾之痛。
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And one weighs a lot more than the other.
而且其中一個的重量要比另一個大得多。
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In this episode, I'm going to help you overcome that resistance and make the choice you already know you need to make.
在這一集中，我會幫你克服這種牴觸情緒，做出你心裡早已清楚該做的選擇。
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Because you have to choose one type of pain, discipline or regret.
因為你必須選擇一種痛苦：要麼是自律的痛苦，要麼是後悔的痛苦。
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You can't opt out.
你無法選擇退出。
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And the choice you make changes everything.
而你做出的選擇會改變一切。
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It's no surprise that scripture has quite a bit to say about action, courage, self-control, and following what we know is right.
經文裡有大量關於行動、勇氣、自律以及遵循我們所認知的正確之事的教導，這並不令人意外。
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Proverbs 14, 23 says, In all toll there is profit, but mere talk tends only to poverty.
箴言14章23節說：一切辛勞都有收益，但空談只會導致貧窮。
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God honors action, not just intention.
上帝看重行動，而不僅僅是意圖。
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Proverbs 25, 28 says, Discipline isn't about perfection.
箴言25章28節說，自律並非追求完美。
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It's about protection.
這關乎保護。
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God knows our lives will fall apart when we stop practicing self-control.
天知道當我們不再踐行自我控制時，我們的生活會變得一團糟。
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And James 4.17 says, so whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
雅各書4章17節說，人若知道行善，卻不去行，這就是他的罪了。
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That's a sobering reminder.
這是一個發人深省的提醒。
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Avoidance is not neutral.
迴避態度並非中立。
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Hesitation has a cost, right?
猶豫是有代價的，不是嗎？
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These verses show us something and something very important.
這些經文向我們揭示了一個非常重要的道理。
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You know, God cares deeply about our willingness to step into the things we know we're called to do, you know, even when it's uncomfortable.
你知道，上帝非常看重我們是否願意去做那些我們知道自己被呼召去做的事，即便那會讓我們感到不自在。
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Because yes, you know, discipline is uncomfortable, but it sure beats the alternative.
因為你知道，自律確實讓人不舒服，但總比另一種情況好得多。
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Regret isn't uncomfortable.
遺憾並不會讓人感到不適。
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You know, regret is devastating.
你知道嗎，遺憾是毀滅性的。
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Regret is waking up one day and realizing your marriage didn't fall apart.
遺憾是某天醒來，意識到你的婚姻根本沒有破裂過。
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You know, it just slowly withered away until there was nothing left to hold on to.
你知道的，它就那樣慢慢枯萎，直到最後什麼也抓不住了。
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Regret is noticing your son or daughter stopped coming to you with their questions, right?
遺憾就是你發現自己的兒子或女兒不再來找你問問題了，不是嗎？
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Not because they didn't have them, but because they learned you were too busy, too tired, or too distracted.
不是因為他們沒有這些話要說，而是因為他們知道你太忙、太累或者太分心了。
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Regret is building an incredible business while quietly losing the capacity to enjoy any of it.
真正的遺憾，是你建起了一份了不起的事業，卻在不知不覺中喪失了享受這一切的能力。
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Regret is success that looks impressive from the outside and feels numb on the inside.
遺憾是那種從外面看起來光鮮亮麗，內心卻麻木空洞的成功。
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Keep pushing, right?
繼續努力，對吧？
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Throwing everything into your career, never getting around to all the things you keep saying you'll get around to someday.
把所有精力都投入到事業中，卻永遠抽不出時間去做那些你一直說將來某一天要做的事。
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And this is the exact type of regret you'll wake up to and wish you hadn't.
而這正是那種你醒來後會後悔不已、希望自己從未做過的事。
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You already know this, but you keep avoiding doing something about it.
你明明早就知道這件事，卻一直迴避不去處理。
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At this point, you probably know exactly where you keep hitting the brakes in your life.
到了這個階段，你大概已經清楚自己在生活中哪些地方總是會止步不前了。
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You know which decisions you're putting off and which actions you're avoiding taking.
你心裡清楚哪些決定你一直在拖延，哪些行動你一直迴避去做。
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But you may be bowing down to comfort more than you realize because it's rarely just one area that's affected.
但你可能對舒適的妥協程度遠超自己的想像，因為受影響的往往不只是一個方面。
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The problem may be a lot deeper than you first realize.
這個問題可能比你最初意識到的要嚴重得多。
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Here are three extremely common areas where high achieving men often choose regret tomorrow over discipline today.
以下是高成就男性經常選擇為了明日的遺憾而放棄今日自律的三個極為常見的領域。
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Number one, the discipline of presence over distraction.
第一，培養專注當下、抵禦分心的自律能力。
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For the hardworking man, the easiest thing in the world is to stay productive.
對於勤奮的人來說，世界上最容易的事就是保持高效。
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Email, Slack, text, opportunities, it all feels justified.
電子郵件、Slack、簡訊、各種機會，這一切似乎都順理成章。
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I am as guilty as anyone, but it's a cop-out.
我和其他人一樣也犯過這種錯，但這其實是一種逃避責任的做法。
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Discipline is putting work away, slowing down, and being fully present with your family in good moments, hard moments, and boring moments.
自律意味著放下手頭的工作，放慢腳步，無論是在美好時刻、艱難時刻還是平淡時刻，都全心全意地陪伴在家人身邊。
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You know, regret is skipping out on intentional time with your family
你知道嗎，遺憾就是錯過了與家人用心相處的時光。
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because it requires a level of energy you don't want to give.
因為這需要付出你不願投入的精力。
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It's working late instead of pitching in, right?
這是在加班而不是出力幫忙，對吧？
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It's, you know, sneaking an email on your phone instead of paying attention.
就是那種，你懂的，偷偷在手機上看郵件，而不是專心聽講。
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And it leads to, you know, a wife and kids who don't try to engage with you anymore because they learn not to bother.
而這最終會導致，你知道的，妻子和孩子都不再試著跟你交流了，因為他們已經知道沒必要自討沒趣。
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You know, you're always too busy or too tired.
你知道的，你總是要麼太忙，要麼太累。
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Number two, the discipline of conversations over avoidance.
第二，要選擇坦誠溝通，而非迴避問題。
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At work, you handle tough conversations all the time, but at home, avoidance suddenly feels easier.
工作中你總能從容應對棘手的對話，但回到家，你卻突然覺得迴避要容易得多。
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You tell yourself, you'll bring it up later when things settle down, but that's not wisdom.
你告訴自己等情況穩定後再提這件事，但這並不是明智之舉。
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It's comfort.
這是一種舒適感。
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Disguise as strategy.
偽裝作為一種策略。
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Discipline is leaning in instead of looking away.
自律是直面挑戰而非逃避退縮。
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It's saying, we need to talk even when it feels awkward.
它想表達的是，即便感覺尷尬，我們也得溝通。
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It's asking your wife how she's doing and staying present for the answer.
這是指主動詢問妻子近況，並且認真傾聽她的回答。
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right?
對吧？
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It's checking in with your child when something feels off.
當孩子狀態不對勁時，主動關心詢問他們的情況。
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But regret grows in the silence you never address.
但遺憾會在你從未直面的沉默中悄然滋長。
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Unspoken issues, assumptions, resentment, and just a slow drift that becomes a canyon.
那些未曾說出口的問題、心照不宣的成見、積壓已久的怨懟，還有那慢慢擴大最終變成鴻溝的疏離。
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Avoidance doesn't keep the peace.
迴避並不能維持和平。
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It slowly dismantles it.
它會慢慢將其拆解。
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Number three, the discipline of courage over comfort.
第三項，是秉持勇氣而非安逸的自律準則。
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Courage isn't always climbing a mountain or taking a business risk.
勇氣並不總是意味著攀登高山或承擔商業風險。
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Sometimes it's the quieter, harder moves at home.
有時候，最關鍵的反而是那些在幕後默默付出、難度更大的行動。
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Discipline is choosing that vulnerable courage.
自律就是選擇那份帶著脆弱的勇氣。
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I need help.
我需要幫助。
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I was wrong.
我錯了。
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I'm ready to obey what God is asking of me.
我已經準備好遵行上帝對我的要求。
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Those moments redefine you far more than any achievement.
那些時刻對你的塑造，遠勝過任何成就。
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Regret is the story that forms when you keep choosing safety, missed obedience, missed healing, missed growth.
遺憾，是當你一次次選擇安穩、錯過順服、錯過醫治、錯過成長時，慢慢拼湊出來的人生故事。
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Comfort keeps life manageable.
舒適讓生活變得易於掌控。
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Courage makes it meaningful.
勇氣賦予它意義。
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And you already know which one God is nudging you toward.
你心裡其實已經清楚上帝在指引你走向哪一個了。
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Let's get practical and clear.
讓我們務實一點，把話說清楚。
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Number one, identify the one thing you've been avoiding and commit to doing it within the next 48 hours.
第一，找出你一直迴避的那件事，並承諾在接下來的48小時內完成它。
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Not next month.
不是下個月。
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You know, not when things slow down.
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48 hours.
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Number two, tell someone you trust.
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Make it public enough that you can't escape it.
把事情鬧到足夠公開，讓你根本無法逃避。
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A mentor, a friend, your spouse.
一位導師，一位朋友，你的伴侶。
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Accountability isn't weakness.
承擔責任不是軟弱。
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It's wisdom.
這是智慧。
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Number three, trade one hour of evening productivity for one hour of intentional connection.
第三點，把晚上一小時的高效工作時間換成一小時有意義的交流互動。
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Quality time with your wife, reading with your kids, a walk, a conversation, something real.
與妻子共度的美好時光、陪孩子一起閱讀、散散步、聊聊天，這些才是真實的生活。
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Number four, write a simple question in your journal.
第四點，在你的日記本里寫一個簡單的問題。
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What will I regret if I don't act this year?
如果今年不行動，我會後悔什麼？
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Sit with it.
坦然面對。
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Don't rush past it.
別匆匆走過它。
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Number five, pray this one sentence prayer.
第五點，就禱告這一句禱文。
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Lord, show me where I'm choosing comfort over your calling.
主啊，請讓我看見自己在哪些地方選擇了安逸，而不是順服你的呼召。
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He'll reveal it because he loves you too much not to.
他會把這件事說出來的，因為他太愛你了，不可能瞞著你。
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Let me leave you with this.
最後我想跟大家說一句。
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The pain of discipline lasts for a moment.
自律的痛苦只持續一瞬間。
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The pain of regret can last a lifetime.
遺憾的痛苦可以持續一生。
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And you get to choose which one shapes your story.
而你可以選擇由哪一個來塑造你的人生故事。
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You were made for more than comfort.
你生來就不只是為了安於舒適。
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You were made for courage.
你生來就該擁有勇氣。
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You were made to lead your family with strength, honesty, and intention.
你生來就應當以力量、誠實和信念來帶領你的家庭。
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So choose the right pain today.
所以今天就選擇正確的痛苦吧。
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Have the conversation.
進行對話。
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Take the step.
邁出這一步。
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Do the hard, holy thing.
去做那件艱難而神聖的事。
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Your future self will thank you.
未來的你會感謝現在的自己。
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Subscribe to the Courageous Men podcast so you never miss an episode.
訂閱《Courageous Men》播客，你就不會錯過任何一期節目。
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Will you share this with a friend who keeps putting off the hard things he knows he needs to do?
你會不會把這個分享給那個總是拖延、不肯去做那些他明知道該做的難事的朋友呢？
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You know, start by joining the Courageous Men community.
你知道的，先加入Courageous Men社群吧。
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Let's take action.
讓我們行動起來。
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Let's be courageous.
讓我們勇敢一點。
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上下文與背景
在這段影片中，演講者深刻探討了自律和悔恨之間的選擇。他提醒我們，儘管我們常常因追求舒適而避免面對難以做出的決定，然而這些選擇會對我們的生活產生重大影響。無論是與伴侶的誠實對話，還是投入更多時間關注家人，演講者強調唯有主動行動，才能避免將來的悔恨。通過引用聖經的智慧，他鼓勵我們採取自律的態度，面對內心深處的不安和期望，以實現更好的生活。
日常溝通的五大短語
- 選擇你的痛苦： Discipline or regret.
- 避免並非中立： Avoidance is not neutral.
- 行動勝於意圖： God honors action, not just intention.
- 成功與內心的平靜： Success that looks impressive from the outside and feels numb on the inside.
- 不可拖延： You keep avoiding doing something about it.
逐步影子跟讀指南
要有效地跟讀這段影片並提高英語發音，建議遵循以下步驟：
- 第一步： 首先，播放影片的前幾段內容，仔細聆聽演講者的語調和發音。
- 第二步： 找到適合的英語影子跟讀文本，確保內容與影片一致。
- 第三步： 將影片音量調低，嘗試重複演講者所說的每一句話，模仿他們的語氣和速度，這有助於提高發音技巧。
- 第四步： 藉助shadowspeak的練習，逐漸提高自己的發音清晰度和自信心，讓自己的聲音與原聲更接近。
- 第五步： 定期回顧自我錄音，評估進步，調整練習方法，不斷挑戰自己在其他語言場景中的應用。
通過這些步驟，你可以在shadowing site找到更多這樣的練習，系統地提高你的英語水平。在這個過程中，自律將是你克服懶惰、減少悔恨的關鍵。努力提升自己的發音，最終將在生活的各個方面看到積極的改變！
影片中的語法
說話人最常用的結構，並附上影片中的原話：
| 結構 | 影片中的用法 |
|---|---|
| 現在完成進行時 have/has been + -ing — 以前開始、現在仍在繼續的動作 | has been nudging · you've been avoiding |
| 被動語態 be + 過去分詞 — 強調發生了什麼，而不是誰做的 | were made |
| 定語從句 who / which + 從句 — 補充說明人或事物 | kids who don · friend who keeps |
什麼是跟讀法？
跟讀法 (Shadowing) 是一種有科學依據的語言學習技巧，最初開發用於專業口譯員的培訓，並由多語言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。這個方法簡單而強大：您在聽英語母語原聲的同時立即大聲重複——就像是一個延遲1-2秒緊跟說話者的影子。與被動聽力或語法練習不同，跟讀法強迫您的大腦和口腔肌肉同時處理並模模擬實的講話模式。研究表明它能顯著提高發音準確性，語調，節奏，連讀，聽力理解和口語流利度——使其成為雅思口語備考和真實英語交流最有效的方法之一。