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Do you ever wish you were able to be more active in a conversation?

你有没有希望过自己能在对话中更主动一些？

Maybe you're at lunch and there's a bunch of native speakers nattering away and you can't get a word in edgeways,

也许你正吃着午饭，周围一群母语者聊得热火朝天，你根本插不上话。

so you decide to keep quiet.

于是你决定保持沉默。

Eat your lunch and nod along, showing that you're supposedly taking part in the conversation.

一边吃午饭一边点头附和，装出你正在参与对话的样子。

But what if I told you that there are learnable techniques

但如果我告诉你，存在一些可以学习掌握的技巧呢

that you can come away from this video with to enable you to not just get more involved in a conversation,

你看完这个视频后能掌握的方法，不仅能让你更深入地参与对话，

but actually influence the direction it goes,

但实际上会影响它的发展方向

meaning you can lead it towards a topic you have an interest in.

这意味着你可以将对话引导至你感兴趣的话题方向。

I find it quite odd how nobody ever actually teaches us these things.

我觉得很奇怪，从来没有人真正教过我们这些东西。

We just get thrown into socializing as little kids.

我们从小就被推着去社交。

And then over years and years, we sort of figure out how to get by.

然后经过这么多年，我们慢慢摸索出了应付的办法。

And most of us miss out on how to be a good conversationalist.

我们大多数人都不知道如何成为一个善于交谈的人。

And that leads us to think it's something you have or don't have.

这让我们认为它是一种你要么拥有要么没有的东西。

which is really detrimental because it makes those who haven't learned how to be one feel like there's no hope.

这实际上非常有害，因为它会让那些还没学会如何成为这种人的人感到毫无希望。

I'm not a good conversationalist, so what's the point?

我本来就不擅长聊天，那还有什么意义呢？

I'll just listen.

我就听听。

Well, I'm here today to challenge that.

今天我站在这里，就是要对此提出质疑。

We will start with a simple yet powerful technique that many good conversationalists use on a regular basis.

我们将从一个许多健谈者经常使用的简单却有效的技巧开始。

It's something that will help you go from just getting by in a conversation to genuinely having brilliant conversations

这能帮你从只会勉强应付对话，转变为真正进行精彩的交流。

so today we're not doing grammar we're not doing vocabulary we're

所以今天我们不讲解语法，也不学习词汇，我们要

not doing pronunciation we're not doing culture we're focusing on a technique

我们不练发音，也不涉及文化内容，我们只专注于一项技巧。

that will improve your ability to be active in a conversation

这会提升你在对话中主动参与的能力。

instead of stranded on the edge of it nodding along waiting for a gap

而不是被困在边缘，一味点头附和，等待一个插话的机会

that never comes and I'm going to call it branching out.

那种永远不会到来的事，我打算称之为拓展新领域。

OK, so what is branching out?

好，那什么是拓展业务呢？

Let's say if someone gives you a bit of information, the conversation reaches a little pause.

假设有人给了你一些信息，对话就会出现短暂的停顿。

And instead of letting it die there, you take what's been said and you branch off into a related topic,

你不必让对话就此冷场，而是可以顺着对方的话，延伸到一个相关的话题上。

one that keeps things alive and ideally steers the chat somewhere you actually feel comfortable.

一个能让对话保持活跃，并且最好能把话题引导到你真正感到自在的方向的角色。

The key word there is the pause because every conversation has these little natural lulls,

这里的关键词是停顿，因为每段对话都会有这些自然的短暂间歇。

these tiny moments where the topics run out of steam and nobody quite knows where to go next.

那些话题渐渐冷场、谁都不知道接下来该聊什么的微小瞬间。

Most people freeze in that gap.

大多数人都会在那个关头僵住不知所措。

The branching out person, though,

不过，那个勇于开拓新领域的人

they see it as their moment that that pause is the invitation for them to intervene or branch out.

他们认为这是属于自己的时机，那个停顿就是在邀请他们介入或者拓展思路。

And I'd say it's a bit like a muscle.

我会说这有点像肌肉。

You know, the first few times you do it, if it's if it's a new technique to you, it will feel clunky and slow.

你知道，刚开始尝试一项新技巧的时候，头几次用起来总会觉得很生硬、很慢。

But stick with it and it will become second nature.

但只要坚持下去，它就会变成你的本能。

Now, the best way to show you this is to actually watch it happen.

现在，向大家演示的最佳方式就是亲眼看看实际操作过程。

So I want you to meet three fictitious friends.

接下来我想让你认识三位虚构的朋友。

There's Tom and Sophie, who between them could talk for England, meaning they could talk a lot for a long period of time.

汤姆和索菲这两个人加起来简直能代表英国去参加话痨比赛，意思就是他们俩能一直说个不停，说上好久。

And then there's Alex, who's a bit quieter, the one hovering slightly outside the chat,

还有亚历克斯，他要安静一些，总是稍微待在聊天圈的边缘，

wanting to join in, but never quite finding the door.

想要加入，却始终找不到入口。

Alex is the one we're rooting for today, rooting for, supporting, wanting to do well.

今天我们支持的是亚历克斯，我们为他加油，支持他，希望他能有好的表现。

So we're going to watch one single evening in one single

所以我们将只聚焦一个夜晚的一段时光

pub first we'll watch it go wrong for alex then we'll rewind

去酒吧，我们先看亚历克斯搞砸，然后再倒带重来。

and watch alex take control of the exact moment in five

接下来就看亚历克斯在五秒后掌控全场的那一刻吧

different ways all right let's set the scene we're in a

好的，咱们来设定一下场景，我们正处在一个

pub a quaint quintessentially english pub um three drinks are on the table

一家古雅的典型英式酒吧，桌上摆着三杯饮品。

and tom and sophie are mid -flow and tom's saying

汤姆和索菲正聊得投入，汤姆这时开口说道

you know maybe he's looking at his phone he says i

你知道吗，他可能正在看手机，他说我

swear my screen time went up again this week five hours

我发誓这星期我的屏幕使用时间又涨了，多了五个小时

a day five then sophie says don't mine said the same

到了第五天，苏菲说别在意，她也有同样的感觉。

and i nearly threw the bloody thing in the bin then

我当时差点就把那破玩意儿直接扔垃圾桶了。

tom says it's the scrolling you pick it up to check one thing

汤姆说问题就出在刷手机这个动作上，你拿起手机本来只想查一件事

and 40 minutes later you've forgotten what you were there for Let's go.

结果四十分钟后你就忘了自己去那儿是干嘛的，我们走吧。

Sophie says.

苏菲说。

I know every single time.

我每一次都清楚。

I keep saying I'll do something about it.

我一直说我会想办法处理这件事。

Right.

对。

Excuse the terrible acting.

请原谅这糟糕的演技。

But that is a moment where a natural little pause comes in.

但这时就会出现一个自然的短暂停顿。

The topics run its course.

话题会自然发展，走完整个流程。

The gap is kind of widening.

差距正在逐渐拉大。

And Alex, who hasn't said anything yet, just sits there.

而亚历克斯至今一言不发，只是坐在那里。

OK, just we do we we do this, meaning twiddling your thumbs.

好吧，我们就这么干，也就是干等着、无所事事。

So Alex doesn't say anything.

所以亚历克斯什么也没说。

And then after a moment, Tom naturally fills the space by saying, oh, that reminds me.

过了一会儿，汤姆很自然地接话道：哦，这倒提醒了我。

Did you see Jenny's post from the weekend?

你看到珍妮周末发的帖子了吗？

And then Sophie says the Ibiza one yeah how is she affording that

然后苏菲说去伊维萨岛那趟事，对啊，她哪来的钱去啊

and Tom says third holiday this year it was the same

汤姆说，今年的第三次假期也是一样的情况。

villa we stayed in remember Sophie says oh the one with

我们住过的那栋别墅，还记得吗，索菲说就是那栋……

that awful neighbor Tom says oh my god he complained every single night didn't he

那个讨厌的邻居汤姆说，天哪，他每天晚上都在抱怨，不是吗？

and they're off okay deep into a holiday Alex wasn't on

他们出发了，好的，已经进入了亚历克斯没有参加的假期行程。

a neighbor Alex never met Alex opens their mouth once can't find a way in

一个亚历克斯从未见过的邻居，亚历克斯刚一开口，就找不到任何插话的机会了

and quietly loses it again Then five minutes later, Alex is just there holding a pint, nodding along to a story that has nothing to do with him.

然后又不动声色地恢复了常态。五分钟后，亚历克斯就站在那儿，手里端着一杯啤酒，正跟着一个和他毫无关系的故事点头附和。

So let's talk about what just happened, because it's not that Tom and Sophie were rude.

那我们来聊聊刚才发生的事吧，因为汤姆和索菲并不是没礼貌。

They weren't.

他们当时并不是。

The problem is simpler than that.

问题比那更简单。

That pause didn't stay empty.

那阵停顿并没有一直空着。

It never does.

从来都不会这样。

Someone always fills it.

总有人会把它填满。

And here Tom filled it.

这时汤姆把它填满了。

Tom branched straight into territory that he and Sophie shared like a holiday,

汤姆直接切入了他和索菲像度假一样共享的领域，

an old neighbor or a whole little world that Alex was never part of.

一位老邻居，或是一个亚历克斯从未涉足的完整小世界。

Alex didn't go on that holiday.

亚历克斯没有去那次度假。

And the second that happened, Alex was locked out, really not on purpose, just because the conversation got steered

事情一发生，亚历克斯就被排除在外了，这真的不是故意的，只是因为谈话的方向发生了转变。

and Alex wasn't the one doing the steering that's the lesson

而当时掌控方向盘的人并不是亚历克斯，这就是教训所在。

hiding in here the pause is is up for grabs whoever grabs it points the conversation wherever they like

躲在这里，现在这个停顿的主动权谁都能抢，谁抢到了就能把话题引到自己想聊的方向。

so let's do this again and give Alex the wheel

那我们再来一次，让Alex来掌控局面。

so we've got the same night same pub same two lines from Tom

所以还是同一个晚上，同一家酒吧，汤姆还是那两句话。

and Sophie about their screen time you know five hours oh

还有和苏菲聊他们的屏幕使用时间，你知道的，五个小时呢。

my god yeah same here I want to do something about it

我的天，我也是啊，我真的很想做点什么来改变这种情况

that thing and then we're going to arrive at

处理完那件事之后，我们就会到达。

that exact same pause only now Alex is ready

还是那一模一样的停顿，只是这一次亚历克斯已经准备好了。

and I'll show you five completely different places Alex could take it all from

我会给你展示五个完全不同的位置，亚历克斯完全可以从那里发起进攻拿下球权。

that one little gap

那道小小的缝隙

so we've got the first branch I'm going to call the personal branch you you take the big general topic

好，我们已经有了第一个分支，我称之为个人分支，你负责处理大的总主题。

and bring it down to the actual humans in the room okay let me explain

把话题落到现场真实的人身上，好，我来解释一下。

so the last line of

所以最后一行是

that little dialogue Sophie said every time I keep saying I'll do something about it right and then there's a pause

苏菲每次都会说的那段小对话，我一直说我会处理的，对吧，然后就会停顿一下。

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and then Alex comes in with do you um do you scroll

然后亚历克斯走了进来，问道：“你，呃，你会刷手机吗？”

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when you're going to bed like last thing at night Sophie

索菲，就等你晚上最后准备上床睡觉的时候

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says oh yeah I've started leaving it in the kitchen now lasted about two days though

他说，哦对，我现在开始把它放在厨房里了，不过也就撑了两天左右。

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and then Tom says I tried

然后汤姆说我试过了

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that then I bought a second charger for the bedroom

后来我又买了一个充电器放在卧室用。

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and defeated the whole point and then Sophie says what about you Alex

然后彻底推翻了整个论点，接着苏菲问道，那你呢，亚历克斯？

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and then Alex gets to continue the conversation

然后亚历克斯就可以继续对话了

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so here Alex pushed the conversation down the personal branch by leaning in on their actual habits

于是亚历克斯主动把话题引向私人层面，开始聊起他们真实的日常习惯。

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and notice how it naturally bounced straight back with a question to him it's likely

你会发现它很自然地立刻反过来向他提出了一个问题，这很可能是

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that that would happen unless you're conversing with people

除非你正在和人交谈，否则那种情况是会发生的

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that are just disrespectful if somebody asks a question involves themselves in

如果有人提出一个涉及自身的问题，却得到这种回应，那完全是不尊重人的表现。

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that topic it is much more likely

那个话题的可能性要大得多。

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that the recipient will then play back a question to them not always not always the case

接收方随后会向他们回放一个问题，但情况并非总是如此。

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but much more likely right

但可能性要大得多，对吧

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so that's the first variation before we go on to the second variation

这就是我们进入第二种变体之前的第一种变体。

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and we've got five of them coming up um i want you to picture your next dinner maybe

接下来我们还有五个这样的活动。我想请大家想象一下你下一次的晚餐会是什么样子。

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or work do or chat with someone you've only just met

或是一起共事，或是和刚认识的人聊天

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and instead of sitting there quietly hoping somebody throws you a

而不是静静地坐在那里，指望有人给你机会

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question you are the one keeping the whole thing alive the

问题是，你才是让这一切维持下去的关键。

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pauses don't scare you anymore you spot one you branch

停顿再也吓不到你了，一察觉到停顿，你就立刻切换分支。

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and then the other person walks away thinking I really liked talking to them

然后对方走开时心里还想着，跟我聊天真的很愉快

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that feeling of never being that that spare part again is is completely learnable as I'm trying to tell you

那种再也不做备用零件的感觉是完全可以学会的，我一直想告诉你这一点。

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And it's a lovely, lovely feeling.

这真是一种非常非常美好的感觉。

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So I've made you a little something for free to get you there faster.

所以我免费给你做了个小工具，帮你更快上手。

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Five minutes with it, and you'll walk away with one branch loaded and ready in your own words.

只需花五分钟操作，你就能得到一个内容充实、完全用你自己的话组织好的分支了。

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So the next time a conversation goes quiet on you, you won't freeze.

所以下次当对话陷入冷场时，你就不会手足无措了。

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You'll just reach for these techniques.

你自然就会运用这些技巧。

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If you want that, here's how to grab it.

如果你想要那个，这是获取它的方法。

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Scan the QR code on screen right now or

请立即扫描屏幕上的二维码，或

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if you're listening the link is in the description box show notes

如果你正在收听，链接就在简介栏的节目说明里

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or comments section and clicking that link will open this screen

或评论区，点击该链接将打开此界面

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that video podcast viewers can see right now pop your name

观看该视频播客的观众现在就能看到你的名字显示出来。

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and email in and it will be in your email inbox straight away

发送邮件后，它会立即出现在您的收件箱中。

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but remember to check your your spam

但记得检查一下你的垃圾邮件箱

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if it doesn't appear immediately right let's get back to alex and doing the second variation.

如果效果没有立刻显现，我们就回到亚历克斯那里，进行第二种变式训练。

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Okay, so let's rewind again.

好吧，那我们再倒回去说。

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And this time, Alex reaches for a timeline branch.

这一次，亚历克斯伸手触向一条时间线分支。

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Okay, so this is what I'm calling the timeline branch, right?

好，我把这个叫做时间线分支，对吧？

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So you're moving the chat backwards or forwards in time.

所以你是在把聊天记录在时间上向前或向后回溯。

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So we've got Sophie's last line.

我们已经拿到了苏菲的最后一句台词。

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Yeah, every time I keep saying I'll do something about it.

是啊，每次我都一直说我会想办法处理这件事的。

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Same pause, but here's the different move.

同样的停顿，但接下来的动作不一样。

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Alex then says, do you reckon we were actually happier before all this?

亚历克斯接着说，你觉得这一切发生之前我们是不是真的更快乐？

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You know, like pre -smartphone.

你懂的，就是智能手机普及之前的那个时候。

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And then Tom responds, God, I used to be so bored on the bus, just staring out the window.

然后汤姆回答说，天啊，以前坐公交车的时候我总觉得特别无聊，只能一直盯着窗外看。

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Then Sophie says, I miss being bored though.

然后苏菲说，不过我还挺怀念以前无聊的日子的。

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Honestly, that's a weird thing to miss.

说实话，没注意到这点也太奇怪了。

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Alex then can say, yeah, And I swear I had my best ideas come to me when I was actually bored and the conversation continues.

然后亚历克斯可能会说，对啊，我发誓我最好的点子都是在我真正无聊的时候冒出来的，然后对话就继续下去了。

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So the same setup, but different outcome, right?

所以设定都一样，只是结果不一样，对吧？

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Alex branched out using a timeline and was able to reflect on how things were before.

亚历克斯借助时间线梳理思路，得以回顾过去的情况。

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And now there's a proper thoughtful little chat about boredom and creativity.

现在我们来好好聊聊无聊与创造力之间的关系。

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And Alex didn't just join in on this.

而且亚历克斯不只是参与了这件事。

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Alex started that.

那是亚历克斯发起的。

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So again, you can play to your strengths.

所以再说一次，你可以发挥自己的优势。

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If you're somebody who likes to reflect on these things, then you can do exactly that.

如果你是一个喜欢思考这类事情的人，那你完全可以这么做。

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You can lead or steer the conversation towards that kind of branch, right?

你可以引导或把对话往那个方向引，对吧？

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But that is the second of five.

但那只是五个中的第二个。

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So the third one is a culture -based branch

所以第三个是基于文化的分支。

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so let's rewind again same pause

那我们再倒回去，还是同样的停顿。

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and you know Sophie says yeah I should really do something about it something like

你知道的，苏菲说对啊，我真的该做点什么了，就类似这样的话。

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that and this time Alex branches sideways across cultures wondering how this looks somewhere else

这一次，亚历克斯跨越不同文化进行横向拓展，思考在其他地方这会呈现出怎样的面貌。

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which is likely a very useful one for you

这很可能会对你非常有用

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because you're probably interacting with two or more cultures in a conversation

因为你在对话中可能正在与两种或更多的文化进行互动

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if you're a non -native speaker of English right

如果你不是英语母语者的话

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so we have um Sophie saying yeah every time you know I keep saying I'll do something different

所以我们听苏菲说，是啊，每次都是这样，你知道的，我一直说我会做出些改变。

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or I'll do something about it

不然我就采取行动了

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and then Alex says do you think it's the same everywhere

然后亚历克斯说，你觉得所有地方都一样吗

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like I heard some schools make the kids hand their phones in at the gate now

我听说现在有些学校要求孩子们在进校时把手机交上去。

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and then Sophie says oh do they that's a brilliant idea actually

然后苏菲说，哦，是吗？这主意真是太棒了。

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and Tom says my cousin's in Sweden he reckons um nobody

汤姆说我表哥在瑞典，他觉得那儿一个人都不认识。

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touches their phone in cafes over there everyone just sits

那边咖啡馆里的人都只是坐着，各自刷着手机。

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and talks sophie says really i'd love that

苏菲说，她真的很乐意那样做。

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or i'd find it terrifying one of the two

不然我会觉得这很吓人，反正就是这两种情况之一。

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and the conversation continues so again same pause

对话继续进行，同样又出现了一次停顿。

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but a sideways move this time he's moved it across borders let's say um is it the same everywhere else

但这次是横向调动，他把业务拓展到了其他地区，那其他地方的情况也都一样吗？

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and instantly there's a door open for everyone to pour in

瞬间就有一扇门打开，所有人都涌了进来。

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what they know you know tom's cousin in sweden someone's holiday someone's home country

他们所知道的，你认识汤姆在瑞典的表亲，某人的假期，某人的祖国。

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and as i said this branch is gold for english learners because it's

就像我说的，这个板块对英语学习者来说简直是宝藏，因为它

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that perfect invitation for the person you're talking to to to

这正是向你正在交谈的人发出的完美邀约

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tell you all about their own world you hand them the floor

让他们畅所欲言，给你好好讲讲他们的世界。

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and they feel interesting and you learn something and and then

它们很有意思，你还能学到一些东西，然后……

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if they are a half decent human they will ask you

只要他们还算是个像样的人，就会主动问你的。

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about your culture in regards to this topic win -win okay get the idea let's do two more though

关于你们在这个话题上的文化观念，双赢，懂了吧，明白了，不过我们再做两个吧。

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but to recap quickly

不过简单回顾一下

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so we had leaning into a personal branch sort of learning more about the individual

所以我们当时是在深入研究一个个人分支，更多地去了解个体情况。

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or a timeline branch going backwards or forwards in time

或是一条在时间中向前或向后延伸的时间线分支

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and then we just had the culture branch so thinking about other cultures and whether different groups of people do different things.

之后我们又学习了文化分支，探讨不同的文化，以及不同群体是否会有不同的行为方式。

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So the fourth one is I'm going to call the cause and consequence branch.

那么，第四点我称之为因果分支。

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So Again, another rewind, same pause.

所以又一次，倒带重来，还是同样的停顿。

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Now Alex digs into the why or the what happens next.

现在亚历克斯开始深入探究背后的原因以及接下来会发生什么。

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So Sophie says, yeah, every time I keep saying I'll do something about it.

苏菲说，是啊，每次我都一直说我会想办法处理的。

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And then Alex says, why are they so hard to put down, though?

然后亚历克斯说，可是为什么它们就这么让人爱不释手呢？

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It's not an accident, is it?

这不是意外，对吧？

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Somebody's designed them to be that addictive, haven't they?

就是有人故意把它们设计得这么让人上瘾，对吧？

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And then Tom says, oh, completely.

然后汤姆就说，哦，完全是这样。

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There are whole teams of people whose entire job is keeping you scrolling.

有一整个团队的人，他们的全部工作就是让你一直刷手机。

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Sophie then says, that's a little bit sinister when you actually think about it.

索菲接着说，仔细想想，这有点让人不寒而栗。

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Then Alex might respond by saying, I'm somehow impressed and horrified at the same time.

然后亚历克斯可能会回应说，我不知怎么的既感到印象深刻又感到毛骨悚然。

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Right.

对。

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So this time Alex went digging.

所以这一次亚历克斯开始深挖了。

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Why is this happening?

为什么会发生这种情况？

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You know, what's behind it?

你知道这背后有什么原因吗？

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And he looks genuinely curious and thoughtful rather than just nosy towards somebody.

他看起来是真的好奇又体贴，而不只是对别人爱管闲事。

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And you can point it in two directions.

你可以将它指向两个方向。

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You go backwards into what's causing it or forwards into where it's all heading.

你要么回溯到导致这一切的根源，要么向前探寻它最终的走向。

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Either way, you've turned a flat little observation into a proper little investigation.

不管怎么说，你已经把一个平淡的小观察变成了一次像样的小调查。

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And often people enjoy coming up with their own theory as to why something is how it is.

人们往往喜欢自己琢磨出一套理论，来解释事情为什么会变成现在这个样子。

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But let's go on to the last rewind and the last branch.

但我们继续看最后一次回溯和最后一个分支。

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So this time, Alex zooms out, lifting the small thing up to the big idea underneath it um

所以这一次，亚历克斯把视角拉远，将这件小事提升到其背后的宏观理念层面。

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so sophie says every time i keep saying i'll do something about it

苏菲说每次我都只会嘴上说会采取行动，但从来没落实过。

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and then alex says it's mad though isn't it

然后亚历克斯说这也太离谱了，对吧？

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when you actually stop and think about it like we're moaning

当你真的停下来仔细想想，就会发现我们其实是在抱怨。

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but we've got every song ever recorded

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and basically all the human knowledge sat in our pockets our

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grandparents would have called it witchcraft sophie retorts by saying that's

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true a video called my sister in Sydney this morning for free.

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And Tom says, do you know what?

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When you put it like that, I feel a lot less guilty about my five hours.

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Sophie says, right, maybe we're not addicted.

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Maybe it's just genuinely brilliant.

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So there, Alex took screen time and everyday little moan and found the bigger idea sitting underneath it.

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And what was nice about that was

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that he lifted it somewhere positive in about two seconds

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that the whole table went from grumbling to actually marveling at the idea

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and that's the other little secret of zooming out you you get to choose

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which way you direct it

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and choosing up finding the the wonder rather than the doom

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is often the better option for a nice conversation right now i'd like to say

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that these examples I didn't spend ages on those dialogues right

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so they might not feel totally relatable

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but I think you get the idea of how to think up these different directions

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that you can take a conversation you don't have to just wait

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and let an opportunity come to you if you take action you can steer the conversation.

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So that is my aim for this video.

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Take action yourself and you can become the person in control of the conversation rather than just sitting there nodding along.

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And the more you do it, the more it becomes second nature

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and you start to see these patterns emerge where you can just take the conversation in different directions more easily.

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But yeah, I'd say what we've just seen was impressive for poor old Alex

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because it was the same three people same pub same lull in the conversation

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and then five completely different conversations all hanging on one small decision from Alex

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and that is the whole power of this you are not sitting there waiting to be handed a turn

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that might never come you're spotting the pause

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and you're deciding where everyone goes next

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so yeah here are your five branches to practice we've got

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the the personal one bring it down to the humans in the room we've got the timeline uh

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so you move it backwards or forwards in time the culture one

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that asks how it works somewhere else in the world and then we've got a cause and consequence.

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So sort of dig into the why or the what next,

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and then we've got the zoom out to find the bigger idea underneath.

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And here's all you actually have to do, really.

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Don't try to juggle all five of them.

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Just pick one of them.

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Just pick one to start.

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Keep it ready.

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Then in your next conversation listen for that pause and

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when it comes instead of freezing branch into

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that one you'll get it wrong sometimes the branch will land a bit flat now and then and that's that's completely fine.

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That's the muscle building.

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Do it a handful of times and I promise it stops feeling like a technique

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and starts feeling like part of you, really.

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If you want to actually drill this though, right now with different situations, then grab that clever little interactive exercise

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that I've made for you for free by scanning the QR code on screen now

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or clicking that link in the description box, show notes or comments section.

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And if you're looking for a new way to learn English something

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that you've never quite experienced before then I highly recommend checking out my academy my approach was quite simple

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but a real game changer if you've ever had one -to -one conversation classes

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and then after a few months thought hmm am I actually getting better

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or am I just getting more comfortable

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and have built up a bit more rapport with this one native teacher

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or if you've ever bought an online course

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and lost motivation to actually finish the thing then i think

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i might have found your new home to actually leveling up your english

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so um head over to the britishenglishpodcast .com academy to learn

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more all right that's it for me today i've been charlie the host of british english podcast thanks for watching

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or listening and see you again next week bye

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本课的词汇与口语要点

这节 B2 级别的口语课以视频“How to Stop Feeling Left Out in English Conversations: Try This Simple Technique”为素材。视频中反复出现的词有：alex, conversation, sophie, branch, pause。这段视频共有 274 个句子、3162 个单词可供跟读。讲话部分时长为 21:32。说话人语速平稳，每分钟约 147 个词，很适合跟读。 85% 的单词属于英语最常用的 3,000 词，其余的词建议在练习前先学一下。

视频中的重点词汇

视频中最难的 15 个单词，附发音和释义：

单词	发音	释义
pause 名词	/pɔːz/	停頓 /停顿, 暫停 /暂停
rewind 动词	/ɹiːˈwaɪnd/	重繞 /重绕
steer 动词	/stɪɹ/	掌舵, 驾驶
timeline 名词	/ˈtaɪmˌlaɪn/	年表, 時間軸 /时间轴
backward 形容词	/ˈbækwɚd/	逆向
neighbour 名词	/ˈneɪbɚ/	鄰居 /邻居, 比鄰 /比邻
nod 动词	/nɑd/	點頭 /点头
scroll 名词	/skɹoʊl/	條幅 /条幅, 卷軸 /卷轴
bore 动词	/boɹ/	煩擾 /烦扰
variation 名词	/ˌvɛəɹiˈeɪʃn̩/	變化 /变化, 變動 /变动
freeze 动词	/ˈfɹiːz/	凍結 /冻结, 凍 /冻
lull 动词	/lʌl/	催眠
moan 动词	/moʊn/	呻吟
thoughtful 形容词	/ˈθɔːtfəl/	周到
consequence 名词	/ˈkɑn.sɪ.kwəns/	後果 /后果, 結果 /结果

视频中出现的短语动词

单词	发音	释义
zoom out 动词	/ˌzuːm ˈaʊt/	縮小 /缩小
check out 动词		退房
come up 动词		上來 /上来
come up with 动词		想出, 提出
figure out 动词		弄清楚
go up 动词		上昇 /上升, 上去
put down 动词		放下

值得反复跟读的句子

视频中简短而完整的句子，可以直接用在日常对话里：

I'm not a good conversationalist, so what's the point?
I keep saying I'll do something about it.
You'll just reach for these techniques.
If you want that, here's how to grab it.
You know, what's behind it?

视频中的语法

说话人最常用的结构，并附上视频中的原话：

结构	视频中的用法
现在完成时 have/has + 过去分词 — 过去发生但与现在仍有关联的事	haven't learned · what's been said · you've forgotten
被动语态 be + 过去分词 — 强调发生了什么，而不是谁做的	been said · was locked · be handed
定语从句 who / which + 从句 — 补充说明人或事物	those who haven · somebody who likes

需要注意的发音

说话人用了 94 次缩略和弱读形式，例如 you're, we're, we've。请按听到的简短形式来说。

“th” 音: underneath /ˌʌndɚˈniθ/, thoughtful /ˈθɔːtfəl/, thumb /ˈθʌm/
“sh” 和 “zh” 音: conversationalist /ˌkɑːnvɚˈseɪʃənəlɪst/, variation /ˌvɛəɹiˈeɪʃn̩/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, fictitious /fɪkˈtɪʃəs/, quintessentially /ˌkwɪntɪˈsɛnʃəli/
长单词——注意重音位置: conversationalist /ˌkɑːnvɚˈseɪʃənəlɪst/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, quintessentially /ˌkwɪntɪˈsɛnʃəli/, pronunciation /pɹəˌnʌn.siˈeɪ.ʃən/

中文母语者容易读错的音：

/v/ — 不要读成 /w/，上齿轻触下唇: conversationalist /ˌkɑːnvɚˈseɪʃənəlɪst/, variation /ˌvɛəɹiˈeɪʃn̩/, invitation /ɪnvɪˈteɪʃən/, converse /kənˈvɝs/, addictive /əˈdɪktɪv/
词尾辅音 — 要读清楚，后面不要加元音: pause /pɔːz/, rewind /ɹiːˈwaɪnd/, backward /ˈbækwɚd/, conversationalist /ˌkɑːnvɚˈseɪʃənəlɪst/, nod /nɑd/
/r/ 和 /l/ 的区别: scroll /skɹoʊl/, grumble /ˈɡɹʌmbl̩/, learner /ˈlɜɹnəɹ/, relatable [ɹɪˈleɪ.tə.bɫ̩], detrimental /ˌdɛtɹɪˈmɛntəl/

如何用这段视频练习

先完整听一遍视频，不要开口，记下不认识的单词。
用正常速度逐句跟读，每句重复到你的节奏与说话人一致为止。
录下自己的声音并与原声对比，特别注意 pause, rewind, steer 这类单词。

什么是跟读法？

跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。

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