跟读练习: When People Turn Down Love - 通过视频学习英语口语
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The arrival of love should ostensibly always be a matter of celebration.
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Let's imagine that finally, after years of waiting, along comes what might be called a nice person.
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They're mature, they apologise for their flaws, they listen, they ask questions, they take an interest, they're generous.
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So, a new couple go on a number of holidays.
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Maybe to Pisa first, then a weekend in Wales, then a trip to Nottingham.
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them.
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Introductions are made to best friends, from the training course, to an aunt, to a brother-in-law.
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There's laughter, some innovative sex, deep conversations and a sense at last of having come home.
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But in the background of one of the two parties, the lover who is fearful of love,
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there will also be a rising discomfort.
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For a time, this is managed through strategic lowerings of the temperature.
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Let's say there's an argument on the steps of the museum which ruins one afternoon.
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Then there's a mysterious bout of so-called illness which puts pay to a few dinners.
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Then there's an urgent need to see a friend which shatters the intimacy of the third weekend.
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Then there's a pressing need to attend a course or fix a shelf.
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Subtle attempts to ensure that love cannot deepen,
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that dependence is stymied, that a home is carefully dismantled at the same time as it seems to be being put up.
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Let's make an analogy.
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A person is taken prisoner early in their life, a time of terrible war.
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In a prison camp, there's barely any food.
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The young prisoner grows up having to adjust to an extreme calorie-controlled of diet.
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There's little nourishment and the stomach shrinks to accommodate what's on offer.
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Then suddenly there is peace, the prison gates are open, it's liberation, there's joy and celebration, a banquet is laid on,
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there are chocolate tarts, creamy cheeses, lush fruits, dried meats.
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But the banquet is wholly indigestible to the prisoners.
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The goodness cannot be metabolised.
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incomparable will have happened to the lover who cannot love.
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They too will have been neglected by a mother who was mentally unwell, or a father who was filled with rage and then later ran off or married a friend.
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The lover has never been fed.
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The lover's emotional stomach has shrunk.
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They dream of banquets, the deprived always do, but they will retch at the sight.
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Gradually, a conclusion forms in the emotionally undernourished partner's mind.
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They must get out very fast.
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Their lover is not, despite appearances, very nice at all.
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They're controlling.
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They don't have their best interests at heart.
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They aren't actually interested in listening to them.
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These accusations bear the imprint of their opposites.
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They can be read as desperate, confused pleas on the part of the unwell lover's unconscious mind.
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What on earth is one meant to do with kindness?
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What in heaven's name is one meant to do with trust?
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How can one handle goodness?
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These are desirable but entirely alien properties.
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And they kick off an acute unconscious fear of loss.
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What would happen if the lover were to be snatched away?
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How could one survive disappearance now?
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It would quite literally kill one.
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Better then to instigate loss oneself than see it unfold hideously outside of one's volition.
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I must fire rather than be fired.
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I must deny the legitimacy of love to prevent dependence growing.
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The lover who is terrified of love sets about priming the explosives.
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An affair, a grave rupture of trust, a disappearance, a cancelled holiday, silence online.
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And they're ready with an answer were they to be questioned by the incensed, terrified partner.
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It's your fault, you're complaining about nothing, you've got a bad temper, you don't listen to my needs.
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And they're off.
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In a classic so-called avoidant discard, the lover can blow up a relationship in a matter of days, sometimes hours.
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Social media profiles are changed instantly.
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The The lover who is afraid of love may be back on the dating scene in minutes.
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The now ex is erased from history, airbrushed out like a Soviet-era leader.
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The love never happened.
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The lover was too intense.
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It would never have worked.
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They were controlling.
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It takes a very steady mind indeed not to fracture at this point when one is on the receiving end of this.
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One is being told to go away on the grounds of
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something one is not done by someone one adores who is denying that they are up to anything.
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We need to remember some core truths.
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We have been discarded because love is terrifying to those who were not loved as children.
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We have been thrown away not because we were horrible but because we were not horrible enough.
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We have been punished for caring for people who do not, in their core, in any way feel worthy of care.
背景与情境
在这一段视频中，讲述者探讨了爱情的复杂性，尤其是当个体在经历了情感创伤后，如何向爱和信任的开放过程感到恐惧。通过描绘一对情侣的经历，揭示出爱与恐惧之间的微妙关系。讲话者利用隐喻，引导我们理解当一个人早年经历过情感上的匮乏时，如何对后来的亲密关系产生质疑。
日常交流的五个常用短语
- 我很抱歉我的缺点 - 这是诚实和自我反省的标志，适用于任何关系。
- 我在听你说 - 表达倾听和重视对方交流的态度。
- 你有什么计划吗？ - 这是一个引导对话的好问题，可以帮助建立联系。
- 我需要和朋友见面 - 表达个人需求，同时给予对方理解空间。
- 我想了解更多 - 显示出对他人兴趣，有助于推动深入对话。
逐步跟读指南
为了有效地理解和运用这一段的内容，建议采用以下步骤进行英语影子跟读练习。通过shadowing site或shadowspeak等方式，能够帮助你掌握语言节奏和发音。
- 选择视频段落 - 找到一个有趣的段落，从中选择要练习的部分。
- 初步收听 - 先完整观看一次视频，了解整体情境和情绪。
- 分段播放 - 将视频分成小段，一段一段地进行跟读，有助于加深记忆。
- 模仿发音 - 注意讲话者的语调和情感表达，尽量模仿其发音和节奏。
- 反复练习 - 每天花些时间进行重复练习，提高流利度和自信心。
通过以上方法，你可以提升自己的英语表达能力，也同时理解爱与情感中的深刻含义。利用shadowspeaks，让你在真实语境中学习，用简短而有力的句子与他人交流。
什么是跟读法？
跟读法 (Shadowing) 是一种有科学依据的语言学习技巧，最初开发用于专业口译员的培训，并由多语言者Alexander Arguelles博士普及。这个方法简单而强大：您在听英语母语原声的同时立即大声重复——就像是一个延迟1-2秒紧跟说话者的影子。与被动听力或语法练习不同，跟读法强迫您的大脑和口腔肌肉同时处理并模仿真实的讲话模式。研究表明它能显着提高发音准确性，语调，节奏，连读，听力理解和口语流利度——使其成为雅思口语备考和真实英语交流最有效的方法之一。