Shadowing Practice: How I Stopped Impulse Buying For Good - Learn English Speaking with Video
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So picture this, you're sitting on the couch, minding your own business, just checking out and seeing what's on social media
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and all of a sudden you stop in your tracks.
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"Oh, that's really cute.
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It looks really good on her.
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I think I'm gonna go check that out.
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I wonder where it's from." So you tap and you check the tags and before you know it, you are talking yourself into buying another pair of pants that maybe you don't need.
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maybe you don't have the money for, but you're really tempted, so what do you do?
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How do you talk yourself out of it?
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When you're trying to spend a little more intentionally, get more use out of what you have, and be okay with what you already have,
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it takes a little bit of effort and thinking to talk yourself out of an impulse buy.
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So that's exactly what I'm gonna talk to you guys about today in this video.
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I'm tempted all the time.
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I catch myself scrolling and checking a lot.
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And that's because we just simply live in a world full of distractions and advertising, and a lot of it is not even really our fault.
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But it is up to us to make sure we keep
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that in check
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and just keep some strategies in the front of our minds to stay on top of our goals
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and keeping our best interests at heart.
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And your wallets.
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So today I'm going to talk to you about how I talk myself out of an impulse buy.
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And for those of you who don't know me, welcome.
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My name is Christina.
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I talk all about minimalism, intentional living, and how to get out of debt.
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Because I'm working my way through $120 ,000 of student loan debt
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that I stayed in way longer than I needed to because I frequently gave in to these types of shopping distractions.
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And this channel is all about working your way out of that.
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So if any of that sounds interesting to you, then please go ahead and give this video a like.
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It really helps out my videos and if If you haven't already, please subscribe.
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So you might wanna consider this video as like an updated low buy questions, questions to ask yourself before you buy the thing.
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Oh no, my light just died.
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Oh well, we'll just leave that one there.
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So before I add to cart, the first thing that I ask myself is why I started looking in the first place.
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No matter how impulsive the decision may seem, there's always a why behind it.
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And sometimes you have to continuously ask yourself, and it might be revealing and maybe a little bit more painful than we're ready for.
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But if you know your why, then you have the power.
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to say no or to change it.
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The second thing I ask myself is what am I rationalizing?
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Especially these days as I try to make the most intentional purchases possible, I really sit and think hard about what it is I'm rationalizing about the purchase.
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Am I telling myself that I wanted this for a long time or I work really hard, I deserve this, or I'm going to get paid extra next month so it's not a big deal.
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What are you telling yourself to rationalize your way into buying this thing?
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And for me, in my personal experience, When I rationalize things, too much, it really becomes this cycle of justification
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and trying to find ways to make myself feel better about the purchase
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that I probably shouldn't be making in the first place.
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For me now, there's a huge difference between a well thought out intentional purchase
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that I'm happy to spend the money on and that I feel good that I spent the money on,
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versus a piece that I just get this gut feeling that I probably shouldn't be doing this or I probably can wait.
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Ask yourself what are you rationalizing and even better if you say it out loud to yourself in a journal, jot it down on your notes app,
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or even tell another person.
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Saying something out loud and just getting it out of your own head really helps you step outside of, I think, like the cycle and the little vortex that we get ourselves in,
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especially when we start thinking about buying something.
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And that's especially when we start thinking about buying something that we want right now.
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And when you say things like, I'm treating myself or I deserve this, I think another thing you can do is start thinking about what else you deserve.
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Don't you deserve to be debt -free?
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goals, I don't know if that pair of pants is worth it.
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The next thing I do is not so much a question, but it's a reality that I tell myself.
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especially because I'm still in debt and still really trying to pay down my student loans.
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And it's that when I buy this thing, I'm making them richer and myself poorer.
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or at least more broke.
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And this is completely different than my, for example, deliberately wanting to go out and support small business,
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support local brands, especially in this time when they need that support from us the most.
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Because for that, you can still allocate money in your budget, and it's still things that you're thinking about.
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Supporting local, supporting small, I think is still something that we can do intentionally and absolutely has a place in our budget.
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I'm talking about when something triggers my want reflex, something that I just two seconds ago.
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If I'm catching myself starting to figure out what brand this thing is, start hunting this thing down, figuring out where I can buy it,
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try to pay attention to what you're doing and stop yourself and really ask who is benefiting from this.
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Is it this big company that's trying to sell me these pants?
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Or is it me?
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you The fourth thing I do is tell myself that it's time to take a break.
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Usually whenever I catch myself wanting something or when I am in that impulse buying cycle, I'm on some form of social media.
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So I really try to be mindful of what I'm doing, what I'm looking at, and how much time I'm essentially spending on the phone or the computer.
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when I catch myself wanting these things.
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So before you hit buy, think about putting the phone down first and ask yourself
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if there's something else you could do right now that is a little more nourishing?
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Could you go and take a walk?
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Could you call a friend?
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Could you do a little workout?
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Think about if there's something that you could be doing for yourself right now, other than scrolling, comparing yourself and potentially shopping.
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Point number five I will put in its own category and is it straight up, are you comparing yourself to somebody else right now?
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So the other day was when I even thought about making this video.
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It was because I was taking a on my phone.
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I know that's really not a true break at all.
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And I saw an outfit that I liked.
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I saw sweater.
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I really like the style and I found myself starting to search and I started to get into that rabbit hole, but then I sort of caught myself.
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What did I see in her that I wanted to have for myself?
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And what's my reality?
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If we're using the grey sweater as an example, I just decluttered a very similar grey cashmere sweater, literally a couple of weeks ago.
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And why did I declutter it?
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It's because I never wore it.
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So from there I started to ask myself, well, what's going on in my head where I feel like now all of a sudden I'm gonna wear this grey sweater,
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when I had a perfectly good one for years that I never wore and ended up decluttering?
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So really digging deep and figuring out where this comparison is coming from.
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What does she have that I don't, that this thing is going to bring me all of a sudden?
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Why does looking at that photo or watching this video make me feel a certain way about myself?
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So it's sort of reframing the self -talk and also trying to pinpoint what the motivation is.
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to shop and to want and to buy.
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A lot of times it is comparison and it is a form of negative self -talk.
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And then so much more comes out of that.
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You get buyer's remorse, you might be in debt, going further into debt, pushing back other goals.
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Is a sweater really worth it?
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The next thing I do is
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if I sort of work through the questions of boredom
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and wondering if it's in my budget and wondering if I'm actually going to use it and genuinely
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liking or being interested in something, then it's time to do what I call the test.
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The test is something that my friends
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and I sort of coined back in high school
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when it used to be like a cool thing to go to the mall.
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And the test was if you wanted something or if you were unsure about buying something, then you'd put it back.
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And if you still wanted it or were still thinking about it, at the end of the shopping trip, then it was okay to buy it.
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And I still use the test all the time in my everyday life.
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And it's pretty much the golden rule when it comes to spending intentionally, even when you're an adult.
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For me, the test is now much longer.
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At very minimum, it is at least a week to a month.
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And that's because now I always work it into my budget, and I find a way to spend the money within my means
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that isn't stretching me thin or pushing my goals any further back than they need to be pushed.
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And my friends and I still say that to each other all the time.
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If somebody shares, "Hey, I've been looking at this thing," and the conversation kind of is centered around, well, I'm not sure about this, that, and the other thing, then we just say, well,
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it's time to implement the test.
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So I challenge you guys if there's something that you want if there's something that you catch yourself liking or
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starting to research and dig into implement the test and You can make it for as long as you'd like, but the whole point of the test is to give yourself some breathing space
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and some time to absorb and register and think about the thing and the act of buying it.
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There's nothing intentional about an impulse buy, and that's just a fact.
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We need some space to think and process.
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and even give ourselves time to change our mind.
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And that's what the test is for.
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So give it a try.
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The next question I ask myself is a little bit of self -talk and self -talk that I'm really learning to change.
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And I think that is, am I self -sabotaging?
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And I know that is a heavy question to ask yourself, but if you're anything like me,
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then you might not be a stranger to a little bit of self -sabotage every once in a while.
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Every time I shopped, I thought I was escaping from something, but I was sabotaging my own goals, my own dreams, and my financial future.
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Every time I hit swipe or add to cart or drove to the mall and left with something, I was making a trade.
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Trading clothes and makeup and stuff and short -term gain in exchange for any long -term goal I ever saw for myself.
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- Nowadays, That sort of question just comes to the forefront of my mind.
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Am I going out of my way to undo any self -care, self -love, and self -confidence work that I've done for myself up until this point by buying that thing?
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Especially if you're trying to unlearn things like impulse buying and over shopping and shopping addiction, it's comfortable and it's easy to go back to our default setting.
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But for me, that default setting was truly one of self -sabotage.
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And when you take yourself on this type of journey, I think you really show yourself that you deserve better and that you can do it.
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So getting a little raw and real with yourself and asking yourself these kinds of questions.
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And if it's not self -sabotage, is it escapism?
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Is, are you running away from something?
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Are you deflecting, avoiding?
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Is there something that you're trying to pacify with this impulse by?
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So if these are some things that have come up for you in the past or that you're working through now, I think it's a really good question to ask yourself
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when you're feeling particularly tempted or spendy or YOLO -y at the time.
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The next thing I ask myself, and this is kind of a new thing, will this thing increase my well -being?
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or my peace in some way.
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I heard this on the minimalist podcast a few months ago, and it really sort of, hit home for me.
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And it's that the whole idea of minimalism and intentionality, intentional spending, is to increase your sense of peace both inner and outer.
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So in addition to asking if this thing serves me a purpose, or is useful in some way.
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The other category that you can sort of ask is, will it contribute to my piece? my sense of well -being or my sense of calm in some way.
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And chances are if you catch yourself sort of rationalizing your way through a purchase, wondering if you have the money or not,
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"I'll get it next month." If there's all these sort of dismissive or rationalization sort of jargon going on in your head, then chances are to me,
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I don't know if that thing is gonna really bring a sense of calm
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or peace in your life because it's already disturbing and disrupting that calm just by rationalizing your way through the purchase.
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So there are things that I think can help contribute to our sense of peace and well -being.
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I think that's completely fair, but I don't think that sense of peace or well -being ends at the thing itself.
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It's the entire process from choosing to buy the thing, from deciding whether or not you want it, from allocating funds to get it.
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There's a continuum of action and experience and a potential disruption of peace
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and calm and tranquility when it comes to bringing this thing into your life.
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So if you're rationalizing and feeling yucky about a purchase from the get -go, then I don't think that thing is going to contribute to your sense of peace.
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And the last thing I do when I'm feeling impulsive or spendy is try to remind myself of how far I've come.
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And this sort of reminds me of the Jerry Seinfeld barf record in the black and white cookie episode of Seinfeld.
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"Where are you going?" "14 years down the drain." You don't want to break your streak on an impulse buy.
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If you've been doing really well in your low buy or no buy, minimalism, decluttering, debt repayment, whatever it is you're trying to do for yourself, what's worth breaking the streak for?
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And what I mean by this is that if you want to buy something, just try to remind yourself of how far you've come and all the sacrifices you've made up until this point.
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Is that thing really worth it?
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And if it is something that you want, I'm not saying never, I'm just saying not now.
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Because if you do want it, then you can put it on your list and do the test, find ways to pay for it, add it to your budget and get it at that time.
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And at that time, you've given yourself space to think and to breathe and to actually make an intentional purchase.
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of how far you've come and all the progress that you've made, no matter how big or small, then I think that sort of sparks other thoughts
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and gets you thinking about how you got to the place that you are right now.
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Did you shop your closet more?
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Did you put your phone down and go for a walk?
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What are the ways that helped you get to where you are right now
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and helped you successfully reach any goal that you're working towards?
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And I think that can really help you say, Not now.
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So those are some of the ways that I talk myself out of impulse buys, especially when I'm feeling particularly spendy.
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All this boils down to is basically taking notice of what you're doing and asking why you're doing it.
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And then find out the why to your why.
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And if you slip up, it's a slip up.
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Learn from it.
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and keep moving forward.
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That's the only direction we got.
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So let me know some ways
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that you guys might talk yourself out of an impulse purchase
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and what you do when you're feeling particularly spendy or like you wanna go shopping.
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Leave this video a thumbs up if you liked it.
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And if you haven't subscribed yet, Please do, I'd love to see you back.
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Thanks so much for watching guys, see you in the next one.
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