Pratique du Shadowing: It Only Takes Two Weeks - Apprendre l'anglais à l'oral avec la vidéo

Jeffrey's watching self-improvement videos, but he's not taking action.

He feels like he's in a massive rut.

That habit tracker's looking kinda empty, Jeffrey.

Wait, don't lie, Jeffrey.

You haven't meditated today.

Don't check the bar, Jeffrey.

Will Jeffrey get out of his massive rut?

Find out at the end of this episode.

Adonis.

Adonis doesn't get into ruts.

He cuts.

He cuts vegetables and meats for his entire tribe. That loud slurp.

He cuts.

But he wasn't always like this.

When Adonis was going through his self-improvement journey, he was in rut after rut after rut.

The only difference was that he used the best strategy to get out of them.

So imagine me in 2021, I've got about a thousand subscribers on YouTube.

I'm in my bedroom, I open up my laptop, and I'm about to go onto a call on Discord with my video editor, Sam.

I already knew that this guy, he was like, no offense to him, but he was like a Jeffrey.

This is like a few years ago, he's different now, but let me tell you the story of 2021, right?

He was live streaming like every day, like I would see it on Discord next to his name,

where it would say like he's been live playing valorant oh you know some like video game or something

and basically every time i would go on to discord he

was live streaming quick side note i didn't actually expect to tell you this story

and i think i've told sam this

but i used to go on to his live streams like

i this was literally i didn't play video games i wasn't interested in it

or anything but he was like my employee like my friend

so i used to go on his live streams on like a random twitch account

that i had which didn't have my name on it

and i'd literally be there in the chat supporting him

and sending him donations

and stuff i'm pretty sure i'm pretty sure i told him maybe i'll ask him

but that's so sweet isn't it i'm a sweet guy aren't i

but anyway we're about to go on to this discord call

and when he accepts the call his room is just like dark

and messy and

if depression had a look that's what he had you could just tell he wasn't living like a healthy, happy life.

And honestly, like right away, I felt really sorry for him because I was living like this beautiful life on self-improvement.

I was going out into the sun and exercising every day and meditating.

I was feeling amazing because I had committed myself to the path of self-improvement.

And he was one of the closest guys to me.

You know, he started as like my employee, but soon turned into my best friend around here.

We started to call, you know, like one, two, three times a week and

so we go on this call and he ends up just opening up

because I think I asked him the deep question of you know how are you doing really

and he said you know he stayed up late

and he's sick of it and like he's just not liking his life at the time

that we had this call I was doing self improvement coaching for my audience

so basically I had like this website where people could pay

me like I think it was like 50 bucks per month

or something and they'd be able to hop onto calls with me every week and I'd give them like advice on self-improvement.

I just thought, fuck it, I'll do it for this guy like for free, right?

I had already done this for myself and so many guys

that I literally imagine I said this to a guy who's been depressed.

He was literally on antidepressants, right?

I forgot to mention that.

He was literally on antidepressants, went through the like the sort of government doctors, NHS and all that type of stuff.

I remember distinctly having conversations with my mom about the possibility of having to learn with

and adapt to the fact that I have very strong depression.

Everything felt like a chore and a mountainous task to me.

Even really simple things like brushing my fucking teeth.

And here was me with like a shaving head saying, oh yeah, bro, I'll get you on self-improvement and within two weeks you won't be depressed anymore.

I remember like him almost reacting in the sense of like, yeah, right.

He had been literally depressed for years and he had me say, oh yeah, within a few weeks you won't be depressed anymore.

So I told him exactly what to do.

I checked in with him every single day.

I told him, okay, this is the workout that you do.

This is the habits that you do.

This is the book that you read.

And over the next few days, you know, he's sending me some messages and realistically he didn't do a lot of the habits, right?

You know, he didn't read this day or he didn't meditate this day, but you know, he really did try, right?

Two weeks later, he actually felt significantly better.

He wasn't jacked, he wasn't rich, he wasn't like off the antidepressants or anything, but there was like a significant difference and he was,

he did literally seem happier and funnier.

And one point I'll just make is I think us just talking through this rut that he was in also helped because, you know, we were having these like positive,

hopeful conversations about growth and progress and goals almost every single day, which is exactly what someone needs when they're in this like rut, right?

So it takes 14 days and he literally feels better.

Now here's the best part of the story.

He tries his best and continues on this path, me and him get closer.

He makes more progress more progress more progress this guy who's

my best friend who was depressed for fucking years who was

suicidal at one point who was on literal antidepressants two months

of following my advice this is not two months he gets

off antidepressants two months it was one of the most proud days of my entire life leading up to

that moment where he was going to have like the consultation with the doctor

and he just didn't need this medication anymore like it was him doing the work of course

so he gets the credit

but like you know it was it was me who like told him what to do what advice

and you know what action steps to take

and everything two months he had depression for years it took him two months

but two weeks to actually feel the difference

so before i go on to like tell you the advice of this video

and exactly what to do i'm sure

that sam is going to be reading all the comments

and he's going to watch this video of course

because i'll send it to him so If you just want to write a message to him, I think that'll be really sweet.

So if you just scroll down and say, I don't know, W Sam or some shit, or, you know, tell your story of what's been happening,

because I genuinely do think that my friend Sam has one of the best self-improvement transformations that I've personally seen.

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He went from genuine Jeffrey, like 16 hours of video games, live streaming antidepressants, to living in Thailand,

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having a good group of masculine men around him, beautiful girlfriend, happy and fit, and going to the gym,

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business, that's making money online it's a wonderful transformation to see your own friend go through

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so here's my advice to you if you want a transformation like

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that and you're feeling like you're in a rut because

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that was in 2021 a year before

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that moment i was the one in the rut in 2020

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when covid had just started i was living in like this apartment in manchester like the city center in uk

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and i was like down bad as fuck i've told this story

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so many times where like literally i used to smoke weed every day i used to like fap

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and watch fucked up like degenerate porn

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like you know the kind of like stimulating porn where i'd have like five tabs open at once

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or i'd be watching like compilations and shit like that and

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so i remember one day where people were talking about mental health it was like on reddit right

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and here was the interesting thing someone actually linked a questionnaire

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that you can take that would quantify your mental health and give you a score

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and as soon as I saw this link I clicked on it

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because I was like oh that would be

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so cool to have like a quantitative score

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because you know I had been kind of like an athlete like nothing serious

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but you know going to the gym

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and one of the things I always liked was like tracking the number of like my body weight the weight

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that I could lift

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or the amount of pull-ups I could do you know to see the number progress

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so I click on this link

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and I got a score for my depression for my anxiety

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and ADHD and as soon as I did

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that imagine it was like something just hit me

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and I was like all I've got to do is reduce

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these scores a lower score means like a better mental health

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and I was like oh okay so I'll set a goal right

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so imagine if my depression was like 20

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and I set the goal to get it to 10 within

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two weeks it's like straight away my brain started creatively coming

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up with ideas of what I could do to improve my mental health

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and get out of the rut that I was in and

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so I started to do just

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that I had these three scores for my mental health and my goal was just to half them in two weeks.

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And so every day I would just kind of close my eyes

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and imagine myself taking the test again and the score being halved.

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And then my brain would tell me what you need to do to achieve that.

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So suddenly I went from being this guy who was literally, honestly, like you could have defined me as a Jeffrey wanker, literally like that's the word which would have defined me like degenerate.

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I went from that to running around the city shirtless in the sun

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and like kind of smiling and being so happy

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and like being playful like instead of just doing a normal run where you know you're proper serious

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or some shit i'd do a run

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and i'd like i'd jump over stuff you know there was like a fence

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and i'd just stop at the fence and try

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and like vault over it you know do some weird parkour

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shit like a little kid i like i see some like brick wall

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and i just try and climb over it

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or something you know just being really happy

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because it just intuitively came up to me like oh yeah

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like well that's how you cure depression you just play with the world like you used to as a child, right?

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So I wasn't on any kind of like specific plan or anything like that.

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I just let my sort of inner child come out

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and go play with the world like I used to when I was like just a little boy.

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I'm doing this for two weeks.

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I'm spending time away from like technology.

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I'm just sat in the grass.

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I had a girlfriend.

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So I started to take her on like long walks with each other.

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We'd walk into like the woods and like literally like randomly climb trees and everything.

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Two weeks go by.

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I open up the laptop again.

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I take the same test.

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And I swear of the three questionnaires that I took, all three, this is the most interesting part,

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all three were exactly half the score as two weeks ago.

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So I almost like, let's say, doubled my mental health or halved my mental illness in two weeks time.

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So if you're finding yourself in a rut right now and you really want to get out of it, this is the action step that you can take.

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I've linked the questionnaires in the description of this video so

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if you just scroll down just go take them it only takes a few minutes

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and it's really kind of weirdly fun to go

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and get your like mental health score and just make sure

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that you save the score so what you can do

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if you also want to help me

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and this video perform just get the score from each test

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and come back to this video and just comment the score especially

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if you comment it individually as well this video will start performing on the algorithm

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which would be really really nice and then you can just come back

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and just see okay your comments what score you got and two weeks from now, you can see how much you've been able to improve it.

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And here's the thing, I'll give you the same advice that worked for me.

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Instead of me telling you, do this, do this, do this.

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Creatively, let your own brain and your own heart tell you what you need.

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As soon as you set a goal in your mind's eye, and for example, let's say on the depression questionnaire, you got 20 and now you think, okay, I wanna get that to 10.

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And you put that sort of visualization, like you just see the picture

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or the mental movie of like depression score 10 in your mind

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and just kind of sit there for a moment

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and enjoy like yeah 10 like you know i halved my

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mental health yeah fuck yeah okay feeling good okay really good

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mental health 10 okay depression score is 10 your own brain

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will start to think okay like what you need to do for it

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and you can just ask the question okay what do i do to achieve this

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and just sit there for a moment don't you know stimulate

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yourself look away from the phone you can pause the video

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and just sit there and be like what could I do your brain

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and your heart will tell you what you need

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if you just listen to it just go follow

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that instead of me giving you the advice instead of me

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saying okay just follow what I say maybe it'd be nice

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if you followed what your heart told you

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and another amazing action step you can do is

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if you go over to your like calendar app or your phone

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or something like that and set in a reminder 14 days from now

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so for 14 days just try

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and listen to your heart on how to half these scores 14 days from now go ahead

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and take the test again and then just see how much progress you've made

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and if within 14 days from now you take the test

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and you have halved your score or you've improved it by any amount be

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so proud of yourself and maybe hopefully come here

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and like tell everyone else what exactly what you did any tips

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that you can give them

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and i would personally love to hear it just you know knowing that like my video helped you here.

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One last piece of advice that I just love to give is that I'm realizing more and more that it really, really is the mental side of things,

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like the inner work that dictates so much of your life.

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I'm reading a book right now, which is called The Mountain Is You, which is a really interesting book.

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And so if you're in this like weird rut, I can highly recommend reading this book because it's

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so like deep about like your mental health and traumas and childhood and sabotage.

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And I'll just give you the lesson that I've taken from it and then we'll end this video.

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The bad habits that we do, just think about your bad habits for a second, right?

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Those bad habits, they are coping mechanisms.

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They are symptoms.

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The real problem is not porn, video games, junk food, weed, all those things that we thought are the problems.

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They're not the problems.

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There are coping mechanisms that we do because we have some kind of emotional need, like some mental health need that we're not fulfilling.

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So the guy who binge eats, and he eats really loads of junk food, he thinks that food is the problem, but it's not.

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Food is his coping mechanism because the emotional need is, for example, he doesn't feel comfortable or safe.

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I'm just gonna say this, right?

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It would shock you how many fat people were as children.

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It would shock you.

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I've heard, like when I used to do self-improvement coaching, I heard, imagine this, like the weird life experience that I had.

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I've been like a self-improvement coach, you know, I'm not like a specialist or psychologist or anything like that.

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I'm just a guy who just likes to be on self-improvement, right?

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But I've had, what, thousands of conversations with people about the deep things that they've been into.

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And I'm telling you, like, it's so interesting speaking to people who think the problem is, for example, junk food, when really it's the junk food that they eat just to make themselves feel safe

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because the real problem was that they were literally violated as children.

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And so I know that's a very severe, like, specific example.

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But think about the variation of that for yourself.

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Imagine a time when, like, you went through so much pain and maybe trauma as a child.

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And how that's coming out in your actions as an adult.

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I'll open up to you and tell you the truth.

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Like, I never felt safe as a child.

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I was hit and abused and threatened by my own parents, by my family, by my brother.

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I had a lot of, like, kids being racist to me.

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And so there's two things that I did for like a feeling of comfort and safety, which was video games and junk food.

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And so I still find myself, honestly, as an adult craving the peaceful video games like Minecraft

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and also craving like comfort food when I'm in a moment of stress.

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So I'll just end this video just after this quick story.

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So I'm in Bali right now and I was trying to find a home

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and I was checking into hotel after hotel

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and imagine like you know at first it's kind of novelties

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and it's like oh new hotel is kind of cool

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and everything but there was a time

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when i checked into four hotels in four days

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so imagine how stressful

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that is wait you check into a hotel you've got your bag you unpack your bag

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because you need something in there then you go

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and do your day and everything but then you sleep knowing

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that you've got to leave tomorrow you wake up

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and you've got the gym at like nine

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but you also need to check out

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so you're trying to figure out okay i've got to check out before can i come back

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and after okay i'll check out right now then you pack

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up everything again you fit it all into the bag You go downstairs with a heavy bag, then you check out, then you check into the, oh, you can't check into the new place just yet because the check-in starts at 1 p.m.

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So you take it back to the gym, you go train in the gym, then you go over to the new place, you check in there knowing you're only there for it.

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Imagine how stressful that is for four days

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because I was trying to find like a place to stay for long term, right?

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And I remember on the last day, I actually felt the feeling of like stress and exhaustion that literally the desire for comfort food,

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for junk food and pastries and snacks was so high that I'll just admit to you, I completely crumbled and I had like 2000 calories like before 9am.

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And when I look at it now, I'm like, was it really that like I needed the croissants and the chocolate thing or anything before like, you know, like morning time?

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I didn't need that as like nutrition, right?

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The reason why I craved those foods that day was

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because I was so exhausted and I needed like a feeling of comfort.

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And so imagine if I hated food because of that moment.

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Imagine if I thought the problem was the food that I ate that day.

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It'd be so easy for me to say, oh yeah, the problem was the food, right?

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I think the food is just a symptom.

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Like I would say I probably do have like a bit of an addiction to like junk food, but I don't think it's the junk food that's actually the problem.

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It's the emotional need that I'm eating it for.

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It's because I see it as a stress reliever.

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And so having these realizations in the last few days has really made me slow down and think like, oh yeah, like that's actually so interesting

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that we have these like tendencies as humans that we go and do actions that aren't really good for us,

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but they're almost like coping mechanisms for the real problem,

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which is like an unmanageable amount of stress or we don't have like a healthy coping mechanism. And

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so my action step for myself to get out of like

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the sort of rut I'm in with my diet is

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that I wanna try and find healthier coping mechanism that when I'm in that moment of stress, like I'm checking out of a hotel or this thing or that thing or this thing,

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There's something healthier I can do, which still feels pretty comforting and relaxing.

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And I think if I can find that, I think my diet will improve as well.

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So hopefully, if you follow along with my videos, you'll see me make progress on that alongside you.

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And so what happened to young Jeffrey at the start of this video?

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Maybe, just maybe, he's able to get out of his rut with Adonis' help.

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One last thing, the top two links in the description are my free community.

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So if you want to go and make friends on self-improvement, the top link will take you to our Discord server where you can just go chat with other young men.

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And also the second link is a self-improvement forum.

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So if you want to get into really high-level intellectual discussions

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and you want to write like paragraphs and everything to talk to other guys to discuss like self-improvement concepts,

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philosophy and health and religion and like the deeper things, go down to those links and just choose which one you want to join.

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Do the hard work, especially when you don't feel like it.

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