Pratica di Shadowing: Master The Art of Approaching Women (It’s Easier Than You Think) - Impara a parlare inglese con YouTube

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Okay, every single guy watching this knows this exact feeling.
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You see her.
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Maybe she's sitting a few tables away in a cafe.
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Maybe she's walking past you in the bookstore, or just standing in line at the grocery store.
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It's completely unexpected.
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And for a split second, your brain says, wow, should I go talk to her?
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But right after that thought, literally a millisecond later, the panic hits.
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The absolute flood of anxiety.
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Wait, what do I even say?
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What if she's busy?
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What if she has a boyfriend?
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What if other people hear me and it gets super awkward?
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What if I just completely embarrass myself?
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So, you do what 99% of guys do.
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You wait.
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You pull your phone out and pretend to scroll.
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You overthink it.
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You wait for the perfect moment.
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And then, she leaves.
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You do nothing.
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And later that night, you're driving home or you're lying in bed, and you're just playing the tape back in your head, thinking, man, why didn't I just say something?
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I should have just said hi.
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This happens way more than most guys will ever admit, and I need you to hear this.
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It does not happen because you aren't confident.
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It happens because you fundamentally do not know how to feel normal in that specific moment.
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Today, we are going to fix that forever.
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I'm not going to teach you how to do magic tricks or manipulate people.
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We are going to break down the exact psychology of how to approach women naturally, calmly, and without that suffocating, awkward pressure.
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Let's get into it.
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Alright, let's talk about the real problem.
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Most guys think the issue is that they lack confidence.
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But confidence isn't the root issue here.
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The issue is pressure.
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The second you decide you want to approach a girl, your brain tells you that something massive has to happen.
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You tell yourself, I have to get her number.
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I have to make her laugh.
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I have to impress her.
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I have to make sure I don't mess this up.
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Do you see how heavy that is?
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That pressure is exactly what makes everything feel so incredibly awkward.
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Because in that moment, you are no longer just a guy having a conversation.
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You are an actor on a stage.
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You are performing.
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And the moment you start performing, you completely stop being natural.
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Your voice gets weird.
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Your body language gets stiff.
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You start filtering every single word before it leaves your mouth.
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So before we even talk about what to say, you have to understand what makes an interaction actually feel normal to a woman.
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It comes down to three things.
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You are physically relaxed.
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You are not trying to impress her.
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You are completely okay with whatever the outcome is.
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If those three things are present, you could walk up to a gorgeous girl and literally just say, hey, I like your shoes, and it will feel charming and natural.
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But if you are tense, sweating, and desperate for her approval, you could drop the most perfect, well-crafted sentence in the world, and it will still feel incredibly creepy.
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The secret to approaching is outcome independence.
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You aren't going over there to get something from her.
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You are just going over there to see what her vibe is.
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Let's talk about how this actually works in the real world, Because theory is great, but you guys need to know what to do when you're actually standing there in the moment.
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Situation one, the casual environment.
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This is a girl you see around.
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Maybe she's in your lecture or works in the same building.
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This is the easiest situation because you already have built-in familiarity.
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You do not need to go up and formally introduce yourself like a job interview.
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Just use the slow burn approach.
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You walk past her, make eye contact, smile slightly, and just say, hey, I feel like I see you around here all the time, I'm Jake, that's it.
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You don't ask for her number, you just establish contact.
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It's zero pressure.
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The next time you see her, you aren't strangers anymore.
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Situation two, the cafe or bookstore.
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This is the one that gives guys the most anxiety.
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She's sitting there, reading or working, and you wanna say something.
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Guys overthink this because they think they need to be clever, you don't.
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You just need to be honest and respectful of her time.
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Use the time constraint plus honesty method.
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You walk up, keep a respectful distance, and say, hey, I know you're busy so I won't take up your time, but I just saw you sitting here, and I would have kicked myself all day if I didn't at least come over and say hi.
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Why does this work?
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First, you gave her an out.
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I know you're busy.
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That immediately lowers her guard.
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Second, it is aggressively honest.
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It feels real.
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And in a world full of guys playing games, real is incredibly rare.
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Situation three, the gym.
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Okay, listen to me carefully on this one.
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The gym is tricky.
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Nobody wants to be the creepy gym guy.
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If she has huge headphones on, her hat pulled down, and she is in the zone, leave her alone.
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But if she takes her headphones off or you make eye contact, do not force a pickup line.
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Use a situational ping.
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Hey, are you using this bench?
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If she says, No, go ahead and puts her headphones back on.
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Cool, you walk away.
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But if she smiles and says, No, it's all yours.
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I'm just doing shoulders today.
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Now you have an opening.
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Oh, nice.
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Yeah, today is leg day for me and I'm already regretting it.
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The key at the gym is do not try to turn every single moment into a date.
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Just be a normal social human being.
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Situation four, the group setting.
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If she is with two of her friends, most guys are terrified to approach.
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But groups are actually easier, because the pressure isn't focused purely on a one-on-one dynamic.
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Here is the secret to groups.
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Ignore the girl you like for the first 30 seconds.
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Walk up and address the whole group.
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Hey guys, and a quick random question to settle a debate.
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Talk to her friends.
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Win the friends over.
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If her friends think you are cool, safe, and funny, her guard instantly drops.
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If you only focus on her and ignore her friends, it gets incredibly awkward.
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Now, what happens when you go up?
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You say hi, and suddenly, your mind goes totally blank.
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You stutter.
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The conversation dies.
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It gets awkward.
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Here is something nobody on the internet tells you.
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Awkward moments are entirely normal.
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The most confident, charismatic guys in the world have awkward moments.
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The difference between a confident guy and a nervous guy isn't that the confident guy never experiences awkwardness.
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The difference is that the confident guy doesn't panic when it happens.
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If you walk up to a girl, you stumble over your words, and the tension spikes, do not try to desperately cover it up with a cool line.
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Do not try to backtrack.
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Call out the awkwardness.
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Point directly at it.
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Just laugh, take a breath, and say, wow, I'm not gonna lie, I totally forgot what I was going to say.
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I'm actually a little nervous right now.
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Guys, vulnerability is a superpower.
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When you just admit that you're human, it shatters the tension instantly.
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Nine times out of 10, she will laugh.
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Her guard will completely drop and she'll say, oh my god, no, you're fine, don't worry about it.
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Because now, you aren't pretending to be some smooth James Bond character.
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You're just a real dude.
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Honesty removes tension.
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If the idea of walking up to an attractive girl still absolutely terrifies you, you have a momentum problem.
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You are trying to go from zero to 100.
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You need to start way smaller.
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You need to build social momentum.
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Tomorrow, I don't want you to hit on anyone.
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I just want you to start talking to random people.
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Talk to the barista making your coffee.
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Ask her how her morning shift has been.
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Talk to the old guy at the bus stop.
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Chat with the cashier at the grocery store.
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Just get used to the friction of initiating conversations with humans without wanting anything in return.
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When you get comfortable just opening your mouth and speaking to the world, the moment you finally see that girl in the cafe, it won't feel like this massive, terrifying leap.
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It will just feel like the fifth conversation you've had that day.
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At the end of the day, this really isn't about women.
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It's about you.
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It's about you feeling comfortable being yourself in a moment of total uncertainty.
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Every guy feels that hesitation.
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Every guy feels that split second of doubt when he sees a beautiful girl.
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The only difference is that some guys choose to move through the doubt, and others let the doubt paralyze them.
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But here is the reality check.
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Let's say you do it.
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You walk up.
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You don't perform.
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You are totally natural, and you start a conversation.
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How do you know if it's actually working?
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Because women are polite.
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A girl might smile and talk to you just because she doesn't want to be rude.
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So how do you tell the difference between a girl between a girl who is just being friendly and a girl who is actually sitting there thinking, wow, I really hope this guy asks for my number.
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If you can't read her subtle signs, you are flying blind.
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You might walk away from a girl who is desperately waiting for you to make a move, or you might overstay your welcome with a girl who just wants to be left alone.
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You need to know how to read her hidden signals, and that is exactly why your next step is to watch this video.
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Every sign a girl has a crush on you but won't say it.
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Thank you.
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