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Do you know what a lot of us do?

We romanticize the what if.

The, oh my God, you know, the future could look like this.

We could do this, we could do that.

We could do this and that together.

Him and I.

If I could slap you right now, I would slap you.

You know why?

Because you don't actually know what it would be like if you got in a relationship with this person.

You don't know what it would feel like for you guys to be in this perfect situation right now.

And if it was perfect, you wouldn't be watching this video relating to what I'm saying right now.

Hi guys, welcome to or welcome back to my channel.

Welcome to my new home.

I am in Los Angeles, California.

I'm staying here for a few months.

I'm testing it out and if I like it then I might go for a more permanent visa.

So yeah, I'm so excited.

I'm so excited to be here.

I literally packed up my life and moved.

So there is a lot that's going to be happening.

It's going to be very exciting on this channel and I'm just so happy to be here truly.

I feel like I'm such a California girl.

Like it suits me and it makes sense.

I moved by myself.

I am your virtual big sister, your best friend.

Okay.

We're FaceTiming.

We're two friends FaceTiming.

And I'm going to give you some cutthroat advice today

because I feel like if you saw the title of this video and it clicked and it resonated, then we need to chat.

Okay.

We need to have a little intermission right now because we have some shit to talk about.

When I tell you, I am not just talking the talk.

I'm walking the walk.

I moved across the world by myself.

Okay.

So I'm ready to give you some advice and I'm ready to put you in check.

Are you ready to be clocked but like with love though you know

because i love you

and i want you to be doing well i am going

overseas for i don't know how long in less than a week i'm

so anxious i'm

so nervous i'm feeling all of these crazy feelings it's really

hard to wrap your head around a really big life change

because it's almost like your logical brain is telling you

that through doing

that through stepping out of your comfort zone you are going

to have the most amazing experiences you are going to gain

all of this knowledge it's going to be incredible there's nothing worse than being comfortable

and sitting around and doing nothing

but it's like emotionally i don't feel ready do you know what i mean like logistically i have everything sorted

but emotionally i feel so scattered i'm nervous i feel like i'm very type a

and i like to control the narrative control my life there are things

that we just have to do for ourselves

and nobody is going to help us but one thing

that will help you is astra

and i want to talk about astra really quickly through this

transition of me moving everything into storage getting my life together

getting prepared to go overseas my emotions have been absolutely turbulent they've been everywhere

and having an app like astra has been

so incredibly reassuring i mean i know

that i give you guys advice on this channel

but a girl needs her advice too and

because i'm moving overseas i can't just go to a therapist

and access a therapist whenever i want and so having ai for therapy is literally a life pack.

I'm just really obsessed with anything that gives me insight into myself, my relationships, my timing, moving overseas, whatever I need help with.

There are so many different features on the app.

And so you can use Astra to tell you if you're compatible with somebody, whether it's a friendship or a new relationship, you know, maybe you're meeting somebody, you can ask Astra for advice.

There's a styling guide.

I love asking Astra for advice.

I also love, you know, sort of putting in somebody's star sign and then mine as well and seeing if we're compatible.

That is super fun to do.

Astra is basically an astrology-based AI advice app where you can pretty much ask any question about love, compatibility, life changes, absolutely anything.

There are a ton of different features on the app.

You can go into whatever you're dealing with in life

and it will pretty much give you a response that feels very specific and personal to you.

So whether you're trying to understand a relationship or a friendship

or decode your patterns or you just want a little bit of cosmic emotional support, it's genuinely an incredibly fun app.

I love it so much and I I highly, highly recommend it.

Thank you so much to Astra for sponsoring today's video.

Everything will be linked in the description and without further ado let's get into the video.

If you're into astrology, you're into relationships or honestly you're just anxious and you overthink Astra is the perfect app for you.

There is something on the app for absolutely everybody.

Today's topic is you are too pretty to be acting like this for a man.

boy we have a lot to get into

so get comfy men are always going to disappoint you

if you are chasing and you are obsessed

and you just put them on this pedestal they're always going

to disappoint you there is never going to be a situation where you are more in love with a man

and they don't disappoint you

and that's a fact i'm willing to fight you on it i know

that there is this joke going around of like men should love their girlfriend more that's the only way

that it works blah blah I feel like

that is true they should want you more and I'm not saying

that in a relationship it's going to be them constantly always chasing you always doing

so much like it is a push

and pull you know it's a relationship obviously but

when you're in a relationship and it's been years

and you have a ring on your finger

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and you're more comfortable with them and you trust them

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and whatever still at that point you cannot look at me and say my man would never dot dot dot

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You can't say that.

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You don't know that about anybody.

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At the end of the day, men are out here cheating on their wives when they're about to pop out a baby.

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Let's be so for real.

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So don't think that they would never, okay?

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We're starting this off a little bit negative, but it's just the truth.

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Let's be so for real right now.

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It's the truth.

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A lot of us have been played by a man.

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And so what we do is when we really like somebody, everything that they say to us, we really want to believe it.

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It's almost very sweet, okay?

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it's like you're literally turning a shit show into something

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that looks more promising because you want to believe that we're

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so good at

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that believing in somebody's potential oh that's like one of our specialties as women it's just something

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that a lot of us have done like 99% of us have done this

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but it's time

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that you stop you are too pretty for a man to

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treat you like you're just an option I'm not going to live in this negative low vibrational energy okay

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because of my limiting beliefs and my anxiety and my fear

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because all of your fears are just this is just a feeling fear is just a feeling okay

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and it's not useful and it does not help so

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when you are scared and when you feel fear and

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when you are experiencing limiting beliefs you're almost putting it out

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there you are quite literally manifesting bad things to come into your reality

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so stop doing that oh my god what if he goes to

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that party and he meets a really pretty girl what kind of energy is that Are you kidding?

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You're putting out the most awful energy out into the universe.

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It's like a boomerang.

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Okay, you're putting it out.

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It's going to come back to you and it's going to come true.

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So instead, try this.

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If the man you like is going out to a party, you know what?

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I'm kind of annoyed that he's going out to that party because we were supposed to hang out.

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How about I make some plans?

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I dress up.

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I look good.

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And let's see who I can meet.

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What if I actually meet someone better?

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Listen, I'm going to tell you something.

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and this is going to be a hot take, okay?

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I am going to hold your hand and tell you this

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and I want you to believe it and I want you to know it

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and I want you to listen to this a million times until you do believe it.

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You can always find somebody else.

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Just because this man is amazing, he's fine, he's this, he's that, he ticks all the boxes, whatever.

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You guys have the same birthday, you guys are so compatible, your brothers are friends.

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I don't care.

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I don't care what the situation is.

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I truly don't.

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Anybody can be replaced and I'm not saying it's easy to replace people even for me.

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If you're friends with me, I can be replaced.

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There's no other one of me, but you can find somebody else that makes you feel loved and happy.

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And there's 8 billion people in the world.

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No hard feelings.

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It's just the truth.

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So do not make somebody the epicenter of your universe.

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Remember that there are other people out there for you, and they are so lucky that you've chosen them.

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They're so lucky that you want to be with them.

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The same way that yes, you are lucky that they choose you and that's what makes love beautiful in this world of so many people.

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You guys choose each other.

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I think that is absolutely beautiful and that's what is so special about love.

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But do not paralyze yourself into believing that this is the only one person in this whole universe for you.

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That is a really ugly energy.

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I want you to practice stepping out of that energy.

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When you start to feel that way, do absolutely anything you can.

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Listen to one of my videos, journal, anything that you can to remove yourself from that experience.

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Because the truth is it's like a snowball effect.

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You are who you hang around with.

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You are what you interact with.

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You are what you listen to.

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You are what you say.

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So if you keep saying, oh, I'm just, I'm so ugly.

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Like my skin never gets better.

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And like, I can't lose weight.

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And this guy doesn't want me.

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And everybody always dumps me.

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It's just going to keep happening.

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You need to stop.

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Let's talk about the good things.

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Okay, I'm gonna start first.

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I am going to list out some things that I like about myself.

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And it's gonna sound a little bit vain, but I'm gonna do it.

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It's something that we all should do.

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Listen, there's things I don't like about myself, but I'm not gonna think about it right now

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because these are things I'm working on and I want to improve and why ruminate on those thoughts, you know?

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Ooh, I like my hair.

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I think I have nice hair.

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I like when I get a blowout.

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I think it looks really nice and I have thick hair and I love my hair.

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So that's one physical thing.

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I love that I can talk to people easily.

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A compliment that I always get is you are

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so easy to talk to and you're so good at keeping a conversation going.

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So that's one thing I love about myself.

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And another thing is I love that I've been focusing on my health

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and I've been really showing up for myself and going to the gym.

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So these are all things that are positive that I love about myself.

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I want you to try because there are so many beautiful, amazing things about you.

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And I want you to pause this video right now

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and say it out loud and think about how that makes you feel.

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pause the video are you done okay let's take a deep breath together ready three two one why is

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that like crack like it just not that i've tried crack

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but it just feels

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so good to have a deep breath oh my god it's

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like feels amazing anyway why did we just do this you

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ask we listed all of these great things about ourselves because i want to remind you you are actually somebody's dream person.

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And okay, let's say maybe you're not this guy's dream person because he's not coming correct for you.

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Okay, the person that you want is not coming correct for you.

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They're ignoring you.

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They're not super interested.

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That obviously sucks.

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And I'm sorry you're going through that.

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But the thing is, just because they don't want you doesn't mean that everyone else doesn't want you.

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It doesn't mean that you're not valuable.

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Like somebody out there would genuinely look at me and I just would be the complete opposite of their type.

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I know it.

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I know it for sure.

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Like they would be like, that's just not my type.

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The same way that I might look at them and think the exact same thing.

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You're not my type.

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We're not a match.

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I don't want to date you and you don't want to date me.

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And so I'm not going to go home and, you know, sit in the corner there in the fetal position and be like, oh my God, I, there's nothing left for me.

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Like there's literally nothing left for me.

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And I hate my life and I hate myself.

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That is ridiculous.

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Imagine feeling that way.

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Oh, we don't have to imagine it.

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You are feeling that way over someone and you're too pretty to be feeling that way.

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You are too valuable.

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You are too amazing.

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And it needs to stop because the thing is you are putting this person on a pedestal.

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Do you know what a lot of us do?

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We romanticize the what if the, Oh my God, you know, the future could look like this.

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We could do this.

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We could do that.

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We could do this and that together.

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Him and I, if I could slap you right now, I would slap you.

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You know why?

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Because you don't actually know what it would be like if you got in a relationship with this person.

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You have no idea what it would be like.

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You don't know what it would feel like for you guys to be in this perfect situation right now.

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And if it was perfect, you wouldn't be watching this video relating to what I'm saying right now.

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Like the perfect situation would have you happy and you wouldn't be feeling stressed.

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Your cortisol wouldn't be up.

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You don't deserve any of this.

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These are ugly things.

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This is ugly.

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When you're sitting there stressed out about somebody, worried about somebody, you got eye bags, you've been crying, you have puffy eyes, like you're stressed.

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You know what I mean?

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Like that is not cute.

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Okay.

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I need you to care about yourself more than to allow yourself to feel this way.

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It's not cute.

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We all get stressed.

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I get stressed.

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All of us get stressed, but it's not good for you.

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It's not good for your body.

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It's not good for your mind.

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And it's just doesn't benefit anything.

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You're telling me in this world of all these beautiful places to travel, all of these amazing people to meet and friends to make and cute guys to date.

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You are sitting here, paralyzing yourself into believing

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that this one person who's not showing up for you is the only thing in this world

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that could bring you joy and happiness.

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You're being ridiculous.

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I'm going to slap you.

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You're being insane.

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You need to stop.

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You know what?

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You have to have respect for yourself.

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So here's an example.

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If I really like somebody, let me tell you, I'm a little bit insane.

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I'm insane.

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Why do you think I give you guys this advice?

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It's because I understand how you're feeling.

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And I've been there and I've crashed out multiple times over multiple things.

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Now I don't anymore.

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Well, rarely, like sometimes I will if it's something really big in my life and it's like a catastrophe, you know?

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But even then, 99% of the time, I will clock myself and I will be like, ew, why am I doing this?

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Why am I stalking this guy's following?

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Why am I crying about this?

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Like, I will let myself be sad for 20 minutes

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and then I'll come and watch a video like this one on YouTube

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and I just get out of it because I refuse.

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I'm not gonna waste my life.

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I'm not gonna sit there thinking these negative, horrible thoughts.

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It doesn't benefit me.

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It doesn't help.

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It doesn't make things any better.

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I like to be happy.

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Let me ask you a question.

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Say it out loud.

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Like I want you to actually answer me.

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Do you want to be happy?

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Cool.

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So if you want to be happy, then why are you sitting here putting this person on a pedestal and losing sleep over them?

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Another thing that makes you ugly, losing sleep.

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Why are you losing sleep?

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You tell me.

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If you showed me a photo of this person, would I look at you and say, oh my God, girl, he is the hottest thing that's walked.

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Would I say that?

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And I know that looks is just like, you know, subjective and whatever, but I feel like I would look at you

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and I'd say okay sure but really like you're actually

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that stressed over this person who treats you like that

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and looks like

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that no I'm kidding I'm actually just joking like whatever you guys can like whoever you want

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if you like a troll under a bridge

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if you like a prince I don't care

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if he doesn't treat you well then it's not good enough it's not good enough for me doll

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so what I want for you is for you to be

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so happy that you don't even have to press on a video like this

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because you're just so over the moon and so in love.

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And this person never makes you question your worth, never lets you question your worth, okay?

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So that's what I want for you.

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You deserve better.

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You deserve everything.

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Believe it, okay?

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I want you to believe that because it's true.

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Anyway, this was a short pep talk, okay?

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I have some long videos coming up, but I felt really inspired to film a video and I really wanted to kind of clock you guys.

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And I wanna make this a series, you know, kind of building up your feminine energy

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and not chasing men and sort of like dating advice and stuff like that.

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I really want to talk about it more.

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So any questions that you have, leave in the comments.

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I'm going to answer them.

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Any ideas you have for videos, let me know.

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I'm going to answer them.

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This video was really fun.

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I know it was short, but I just wanted a short little pep talk

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that you guys could listen to whenever you're feeling a type of way about a man because it needs to stop, girls.

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So I'm going to put this on Spotify as well as an episode on my Spotify

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so that you guys can listen to it.

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And yeah, I hope that you liked today's advice session.

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I sure loved giving you guys some advice.

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So I will see you in my next video.

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I love you so much and take care of yourself.

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Do not get ugly for a man.

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영상의 맥락과 배경

이 영상은 자기 존중과 삶의 변화에 대한 솔직한 조언을 전하는 내용으로, 화자는 로스앤젤레스로 이사한 후의 경험과 감정을 공유하며 시청자에게 "자신이 소중하다"는 메시지를 전합니다. 친근한 어투로 "가상의 언니"처럼 이야기하며, 감정적 공감과 함께 현실적인 조언을 섞어내는 특징이 있습니다. 이러한 대화체 영상은 유튜브 영어 공부에 매우 적합하며, 일상 회화에서 자주 사용되는 표현과 자연스러운 발음을 학습할 수 있는 기회를 제공합니다.

일상 대화에 유용한 상위 5개 표현

"romanticize the what if" - "무엇이 될지에 대해 낭만화하다" (상상만으로 좋게 그리다)
"step out of your comfort zone" - "안전 구역을 벗어나다" (새로운 도전을 하다)
"wrap your head around" - "머리로 이해하다" (상황을 파악하다)
"talking the talk, walking the walk" - "말만 하지 않고 실천하다" (이론과 실천을 병행하다)
"put you in check" - "너를 각성시키다" (현실을 직시하게 하다)

이 표현들은 영어 회화 연습뿐만 아니라 IELTS 스피킹에서도 자주 사용될 수 있으며, 자연스러운 어투를 연마하는 데 도움이 됩니다.

Shadowing 연습 가이드 (단계별)

shadowspeak 또는 shadow speak라고도 불리는 이 연습법은 발음, 리듬, 억양을 학습하는 데 효과적입니다. 이 영상을 활용한 단계는 다음과 같습니다:

1단계: 영상을 2-3번 듣고 전체 흐름 파악

화자의 감정과 말하는 속도를 주의깊게 듣고, 전체적인 내용을 이해합니다. 특히 친근한 어투에서 사용되는 축약형(예: "you're" → "you are" 아님)을 주목합니다.

2단계: 문장 단위로 반복하며 발음 모방

한 문장씩 멈추고, 화자의 발음과 억양을 정확히 따라합니다. "I moved across the world by myself"와 같은 문장은 강조할 단어("myself")의 위치를 확인하며 연습합니다.

3단계: 속도를 맞추며 연속적으로 말하기

영상을 멈추지 않고 화자와 거의 같은 속도로 따라합니다. 이때 "it's really hard to wrap your head around..."와 같은 긴 문장도 흐르게 말할 수 있도록 연습합니다.

이 단계를 반복하면 영어 회화에서 자연스러운 리듬을 익힐 수 있으며, IELTS 스피킹에서 요구되는 유창성도 향상시킬 수 있습니다.

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화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.

문형	영상 속 표현
조건문 if + 절, will/would + 동사 — 조건과 그 결과	if it was perfect, you wouldn't be
현재완료진행 have/has been + -ing — 전에 시작해 지금도 계속되는 동작	I've been focusing · you've been crying
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	have been · has been · it's been
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쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법

쉐도잉(Shadowing)은 원래 전문 통역사 훈련을 위해 개발된 언어 학습 기법으로, 다언어 학자인 Dr. Alexander Arguelles에 의해 대중화된 방법입니다. 핵심 원리는 간단하지만 매우 강력합니다: 원어민의 영어를 들으면서 1~2초의 짧은 지연으로 즉시 소리 내어 따라 말하는 것——마치 '그림자(shadow)'처럼 화자를 따라가는 것입니다. 문법 공부나 수동적인 청취와 달리, 쉐도잉은 뇌와 입 근육이 동시에 실시간으로 영어를 처리하고 재현하도록 훈련합니다. 연구에 따르면 이 방법은 발음 정확도, 억양, 리듬, 연음, 청취력, 말하기 유창성을 크게 향상시킵니다. IELTS 스피킹 준비와 자연스러운 영어 소통을 원하는 분들에게 특히 효과적입니다.

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쉐도잉이란? 영어 실력을 빠르게 키우는 과학적 방법