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Someone you want to notice you barely knows you exist, but what if I told you there's a way to make that person think about you even when you're not around?

To make them look forward to seeing you?

To make them feel like something's missing when you're gone?

Here's what you're about to learn.

First, how to spot what a person secretly craves.

Second, how to give it to them in a way that feels natural.

Third, the one mistake that ruins everything, which I'll reveal at the very end this works whether you

want someone to like you romantically respect you at work

or just pay attention to you the technique stays the same

here's the uncomfortable truth most people try to be interesting they

show off they talk about themselves they try to impress that's

backwards the secret is making the other person feel something they're not getting anywhere else

i once watched someone do this without even realizing it they

weren't the most attractive person in the room they weren't the most confident they weren't the funniest

but people kept gravitating back to them seeking them out asking

when they'd be around again why

because they understood something most people miss every person walks around with an invisible gap inside them something they want

but rarely get when you fill that gap they become attached to you

not because you're perfect but

because you give them what nobody else does there are four

types of gaps most people have one that's bigger than the others your job is to find

which one then fill it

but here's the thing you can't just guess you need to watch for signals

when you talk to someone watch their energy most of the time they're just normal talking responding nothing special

but sometimes something shifts they get more animated they talk faster

they lean in their voice changes that's the signal most people never notice this when you see that shift

pay attention to what caused it was it something about them

their achievements their struggles their goals here's an example you're talking

to someone about random stuff movies weather whatever then you mention

working out suddenly they light up they start talking about their

gym routine how they hit a new personal record how they're training for something that energy spike

that's your clue or maybe you're talking about jobs they mention wanting to start their own business but

when they say it there's something different maybe they repeat it

maybe they explain it twice maybe they pause waiting for your

reaction that's another signal eh they're testing whether you see their dream is real

or stupid most people miss these moments completely they're too busy

thinking about what to say next therefore they never learn what the other person actually cares about him, but you're going to be different.

You're going to watch for those moments because once you spot them, you have the information you need.

However, knowing someone has a gap isn't enough.

You need to know which type of gap it is.

That's where the four types come in.

The first type of person craves validation.

These people want to feel special.

They want to feel admired.

They talk about their wins, their accomplishments, the impressive things they've done.

They might tell you the same story more than once.

Here's what most people do wrong they give direct compliments wow you're so smart that's amazing

you're really talented

that does nothing the person hears it feels good for five

seconds then forgets about it instead you need to make them

feel praised without directly praising them first method ask them for

advice not fake advice real advice find something they're good at then actually ask them about it

when they answer respond with genuine interest i never thought about it

that way that makes

so much sense you're not telling them they're smart you're treating them like they're smart

that hits deeper second method let them know other people see their value

don't say you're great at running instead say mike and i were talking the other day

he mentioned you run like six miles without stopping i didn't believe him now they feel validated twice first

because people are talking about them second because what they do is impressive enough

that someone doubted it third method joke about something they're proud of

if they're tall make a height joke

if they're fit make a fitness joke you're acknowledging what makes

them special without being direct about it keep this playful keep it light make them smile

while they feel good about themselves but here's what makes this really work

which i'll explain at the end there's one more thing you have to do or this whole technique backfires

the second type of person lives with fear they have a big goal something

that would change their life

if they pulled it off starting a business getting into a

specific school making a career switch landing a difficult opportunity everyone around them says you can do it don't give up

believe in yourself that doesn't help because they already know all that

deep down they're scared it won't work out they're scared they'll fail They're scared they're wasting their time.

This part makes people nervous because it requires you to sit with someone else's fear instead of trying to fix it.

When they talk about their goal, listen for the fear underneath.

They might mention obstacles, they might talk about how hard it is, they might express doubt.

This is where most people make a huge mistake.

They jump in with advice.

Have you tried this?

You should do that.

Here's what I would do.

Stop.

They don't want advice unless they ask for it what they

want is hope here's how you give it tell them a

story about someone who succeeded in the same situation someone who

faced the same challenges someone who had the same doubts

but who made it work my cousin was in your exact position he wanted to get into tech

but had no experience he felt completely lost

but he stuck with it now he works at a major company the turning point for him was

when he realized everyone starts at zero the story gives them proof

that their goal is possible it gives them a road map it gives them hope

or let them know their fear is normal everyone who's ever

done this felt the same way at your stage it's part

of the process you're not solving their problem you're making them

feel less alone in it slow down here let them talk

let them feel hurt this is where real connection happens however there's a third type of person

and this one's different third type carries a wound maybe they got rejected

maybe they failed publicly maybe someone betrayed them maybe they embarrassed

themselves the details don't matter what matters is they feel like something is wrong with them because of it

your job isn't to fix the wound is to reframe it

let's say someone got rejected by a person they liked they're

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dwelling on it wondering what's wrong with them replaying it in their mind don't tell them, you're too good for them anyway.

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That sounds fake.

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Instead, present facts that shift how they see the situation.

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Didn't that person just get out of a long relationship?

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Didn't they reject other people too?

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Aren't they dealing with their own stuff right now?

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You're showing them the rejection wasn't about their value.

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It was about circumstances.

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Or if they're with someone new, point out how much better the new situation is.

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This person treats you way better.

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You two actually have things in common.

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They clearly respect you.

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You're helping them see they've already moved past what hurt them.

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But here's the thing.

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None of this works without the final piece.

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And that's what most people completely miss.

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Quick thing, hit like and drop a comment telling me which type you relate to most.

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All right, here's what ties everything together.

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Everything I've shown you so far is powerful.

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But there's one thing that makes the difference between someone who likes you

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and someone who becomes obsessed with you timing you can't give someone validation hope

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or reassurance every single time you talk to them

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if you do they get used to it it becomes normal

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it loses power instead you give it to them sporadically not every conversation not on a schedule randomly here's why

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that works when something good happens to us unpredictably our brain gets more excited about it than

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when it happens predictably it's the same reason people get addicted to gambling social media

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or checking their phone the randomness makes it more powerful

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so after you've filled their gap a few times pull back

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have a normal conversation where you don't give them anything special let them notice the difference their brain will register

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that talking to you sometimes gives them that feeling they crave

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but not always therefore they'll want to talk to you more

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hoping to get it again this is the piece nobody talks about everyone focuses on what to say.

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But when to say it matters just as much.

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If you praise someone every time you see them, they'll think you're just nice.

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But if you do it occasionally, unpredictably, they'll start looking forward to your interactions.

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They'll wonder when it's coming next.

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They'll think about you when you're not there.

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The same applies to hope.

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The same applies to reassurance.

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Give it sometimes, not always.

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But here's the most important part.

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This only works if you're genuine.

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If you're faking interest in people just to manipulate them, they'll sense it eventually.

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People aren't stupid.

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The goal isn't to trick people into liking you.

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It's to understand what they need, then genuinely provide it when you can.

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When you do this right, something interesting happens.

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People start seeking you out.

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They text you first.

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They remember things you said.

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They ask when they'll see you again.

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They feel like you understand them in a way most people don't.

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You become the person they think about.

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The person they want around.

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The person they feel best around.

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Not because you're perfect, but because you pay attention.

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Because you give them something real.

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Because you understand what they need.

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People don't get obsessed with who talks the most.

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They get obsessed with who makes them feel understood.

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Thanks for watching, and until next time.

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영상에 나오는 덜 흔한 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.

praise /pɹeɪz/ (동사) — 칭찬하다. To give praise to; to commend, glorify, or worship.
scare /skɛɚ/ (동사) — 놀래키다. To frighten, terrify, startle, especially in a minor way.
impressive /ɪmˈpɹɛsɪv/ (형용사) — 인상적. Making, or tending to make, a positive impression; having power to impress.
technique /tɛkˈniːk/ (명사) — 기술. The practical aspects of a given art, occupation etc.; formal requirements.
genuine /ˈd͡ʒɛn.juˌɪn/ (형용사) — 성실하다, 진짜의. Belonging to, or proceeding from the original stock; native.
gap /ɡæp/ (명사) — 간극, 극간. An opening in anything, made by breaking or parting.
reveal /ɹɪˈviːl/ (동사) — 나타내다, 드러내다. To uncover; to show and display that which was hidden.
solve /sɒlv/ (동사) — 해결하다. To find an answer or solution to a problem or question; to work out.
cousin /ˈkʌz(ə)n/ (명사) — 사촌, 종형제. Chiefly with a qualifying word: Any relation (especially a distant one) who is not a direct ancestor or descendant but part of a person's extended family; a…
occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/ (부사) — 가끔. On occasion: at relatively infrequent intervals, from time to time, sometimes.
routine /ɹuˈtin/ (명사) — 일과, 루틴. A course of action to be followed regularly; a standard procedure.
achievement /əˈt͡ʃiːv.mənt/ (명사) — 달성, 업적. The act of achieving or performing; a successful performance; accomplishment.
ruin /ˈɹuː.ɪn/ (명사) — 폐허, 유적. The remains of a destroyed or dilapidated construction, such as a house or castle.
talented /ˈtæləntɪd/ (형용사) — 재능 있는. Endowed with one or more talents.
interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/ (명사) — 상호작용. The situation or occurrence in which two or more things act upon one another to produce an effect; the effect resulting from such a situation or occurrence.

영상에 나오는 구동사

give up (동사) — 항복하다. To surrender (someone or something); to inform on (someone).
point out (동사) — 가리키다. To identify among a group of similar subjects, or in a scene where the subject might not be readily seen or noticed, with a gesture of the body.
show off (동사) — 나대다. To exhibit the best attributes of something.

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화자는 you're, they're, don't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 80번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.

“sh”와 “zh” 소리: validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, rejection /ɹɪˈd͡ʒɛkʃən/, accomplishment /əˈkɑm.plɪʃ.mənt/
긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: validation /ˌvæl.əˈdeɪ.ʃən/, occasionally /əˈkeɪʒənəli/, interaction /ˌɪn.təˈɹæk.ʃən/, uncomfortable /ʌnˈkʌm.fɚ.tə.bl̩/, genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/

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자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, praise, scare, impressive 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.

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문형	영상 속 표현
조건문 if + 절, will/would + 동사 — 조건과 그 결과	if you do it occasionally, unpredictably, they'll start
현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때	they've done · Have you tried · they've already moved
관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보	someone who succeeded · someone who had · someone who likes

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