쉐도잉 연습: This Texting Method Makes People Addicted To You - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기
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You ever notice how some people just "Stay in your head?" like they rent space there without paying a cent.
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You check your phone, nothing.
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You check again, still nothing.
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And somehow they're still there.
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That quiet pull that makes you wonder?
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What did they do?
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What was it about that one conversation, that one text thread, that got under your skin like that?
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Let's pull that apart.
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Because what nobody really tells you is this: Attraction isn't built in grand gestures.
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It's not the perfectly timed compliment or the cute selfie.
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It's built in the tiny spaces between words, in the rhythm of a reply.
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in that invisible dance between curiosity and fulfillment.
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And once you see the psychology behind that dance, You can't unsee it.
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One.
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Your brain on a text message.
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The gambler effect.
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Your brain on a good conversation is basically a gambler at a slot machine.
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Not because you're desperate, but because you're hooked on uncertainty.
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Neuroscientists call it Variable rewards You pull the lever, send a text, And what happens next is unpredictable?
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Sometimes you get an instant reply, Sometimes you wait three hours, sometimes their response is short, sometimes it's perfect, or even better than you hoped for.
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And that unpredictability?
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It lights up your dopamine system the same way gambling does.
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Your brain starts chasing the possibility of a reward, not the reward itself.
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That's why you keep checking your phone.
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You're not obsessed with the person.
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You're addicted to the anticipation.
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But here's where it gets beautiful.
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You're not manipulating anyone by understanding this.
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You're creating space for genuine intrigue to breathe.
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Think about the people who've captivated you.
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They weren't available 24 /7.
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They had lives, purpose, things that pulled them away.
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When they finally showed up, it meant something.
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And that's the quiet truth.
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Distance doesn't kill attraction.
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Predictability does.
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2. The open loop.
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Philosophy.
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Leave them wanting more.
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Here's where most people get texting completely wrong.
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They think closure equals kindness.
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They wrap everything up neatly.
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Answer every question, explain every thought.
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But here's the paradox: Attraction lives in the ellipsis and what's left unsaid.
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The conversations that stay with you are the ones that feel unfinished, Not in a frustrating way,
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but like a movie you can't stop thinking about because the ending invites interpretation
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You ever notice how the best books don't close every loop?
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They leave a door cracked open.
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your mind walks through it on its own.
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Here's what that looks like in practice.
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Instead of saying, "Yeah, I had a great weekend, went hiking, saw some friends, cooked a big dinner, try this." Stumbled into the strangest conversation with a stranger.
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This weekend actually changed how I think about something.
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See that?
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It's a story but not a conclusion.
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It's an invitation.
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Now the other person has a choice.
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Do they lean in or let it go?
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and that choice.
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That's where connection actually happens.
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Because when someone invests their curiosity in you, It's no longer passive.
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They're emotionally participating in the conversation.
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and the more they do
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that the more their mind starts to fill in the blanks they start imagining you they start replaying your words
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and suddenly you're not just a person anymore, you're an experience.
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3. The mirror and the mystery.
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Now this is the real art form, the balance between reflection and mystery.
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The people who become unforgettable do both.
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They mirror just enough to make you feel seen.
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and hold back just enough to make you want to see more.
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Say someone tells you they're stressed about a presentation.
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You remember to ask how it went later.
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That's emotional attentiveness.
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It says: I see you without ever saying it outright. But mystery?
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That's editing.
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Not every thought needs to be shared.
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Not every update needs to be texted.
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When your inner world feels vast, Every conversation just scratches the surface of something deeper.
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and that's what makes people linger.
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People aren't drawn to oversharing.
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They're drawn to depth.
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to the sense that there's always another layer they haven't unlocked yet.
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Think of it this way: Being mysterious isn't about withholding, It's about pacing revelation.
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If you give someone your entire story up front, they have nowhere to go.
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But if you reveal it in chapters, you become a narrative. And humans?
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We're wired to chase stories to the end.
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4. Timing is an art form.
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Let's address the obvious.
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Response time.
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Everyone wants to know the rule.
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Wait 10 minutes, wait an hour, don't double text.
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Forget all that.
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Timing isn't a tactic, it's a byproduct of a full life.
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If your phone is your main source of dopamine, you'll always look like you're waiting.
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But when you're genuinely absorbed in your work, your hobbies, your goals, your world, you naturally create space.
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And that space feels magnetic because it's real.
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When someone texts you and you're unavailable, they feel your absence.
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When you return, present and intentional, they feel your presence.
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That contrast is the heartbeat of attraction.
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presence and absence, connection and space.
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not strategy.
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Rhythm.
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5. The vulnerability paradox Here's where things get really interesting.
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The messages that stick in someone's mind, the ones they reread, they're rarely perfect.
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They're raw.
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Human slightly unpolished.
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It's not: "Yeah, totally agree." It's: "Honestly, I've been thinking about what you said the other day." And I think you might be right.
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See the difference?
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One is safe, the other is alive.
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Bye.
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Vulnerability isn't about spilling your trauma or oversharing.
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It's about letting someone see that you feel.
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When you allow small cracks in the armor, When you admit uncertainty, curiosity, even hesitation, you create emotional realness.
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Because perfection is forgettable.
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Humanity isn't.
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It's the small confessions that make someone stay up at night thinking about you.
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Not because of what you said, but because of what it meant.
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6. The exit that creates entrance.
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Now for the hardest part: knowing when to end.
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Most people drag conversations until they die naturally.
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But the ones who stay memorable know when to walk away first.
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Not abruptly not coldly. but gracefully.
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Like, "Hey, I've got to run, but I'm really glad we talked about this." Let's pick it up soon, simple.
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Respectful but psychologically powerful because you're leaving while energy is still high.
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While curiosity is still alive, You're preserving the emotional charge instead of letting it fade into small talk.
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and the brain remembers emotion more than content, You're not just ending a chat, You're locking in a feeling.
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That's why some conversations haunt you for days.
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They didn't end with exhaustion.
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They ended with potential.
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7. The real secret.
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Wholeness is magnetic.
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So here's what it all comes down to.
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The psychology that makes someone obsessed with you, it isn't about tricks, it's about energy.
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Attraction lives in the space between connection and independence.
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between being seen and remaining your own person?
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The most magnetic people don't text to fill silence.
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They text to extend something already alive within them.
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They're interesting because they're interested in life, in learning, in self -growth, in meaning.
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Their texts hit different, because they're coming from someone who's actually living
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you can feel it you can sense it in the way they phrase things the timing the confidence
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They're not trying to impress, they're expressing.
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And that's the secret that changes everything.
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Stop trying to make them obsessed.
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Start building a life that's so rich, so textured, so yours, that anyone who glimpses it can't help but want to see more.
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because ultimately, The best message you can send comes from someone who doesn't need the response to feel whole.
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but welcomes it when it comes, as an addition to something already beautiful.
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So next time you pick up your phone, Don't just text compose Create a moment
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a rhythm A spark that reminds the other person they're not just talking to you, They're experiencing you.
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And maybe that's the real reason some people stay on your mind long after the conversation ends.
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Keep living deeply.
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Keep creating connections that mean something.
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And remember: you're not just exchanging words, you're shaping emotion, you're making someone feel, And that, more than anything, is what makes you unforgettable.
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이 레슨의 어휘와 말하기 포인트
이 B2 수준 말하기 레슨은 영상 “This Texting Method Makes People Addicted To You”을(를) 바탕으로 합니다. 가장 자주 반복되는 단어는 다음과 같습니다: conversation, text, space, attraction. 이 영상에는 섀도잉할 문장 151개와 단어 1367개가 있습니다. 말하는 구간의 길이는 9:18입니다. 화자는 분당 약 147단어의 일정한 속도로 말해서 섀도잉하기에 편한 속도입니다. 단어의 82%가 영어에서 가장 많이 쓰이는 3,000단어에 속합니다. 나머지는 연습 전에 미리 확인해 두세요.
이 영상의 핵심 어휘
영상에서 가장 어려운 단어 15개를 발음, 뜻과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 단어 | 발음 | 뜻 |
|---|---|---|
| curiosity 명사 | /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/ | 호기심 |
| rhythm 명사 | /ˈɹɪð.əm/ | 리듬 |
| magnetic 형용사 | /mæɡˈnɛtɪk/ | 자석의 |
| dopamine 명사 | /ˈdoʊ.pəˌmin/ | 도파민 |
| gambler 명사 | 노름꾼, 도박꾼 | |
| unforgettable 형용사 | /ˌʌnfə(ɹ)ˈɡɛtəbəl/ | 잊을 수 없다, 잊지 못하다 |
| paradox 명사 | /ˈpæ.ɹəˌdɒks/ | 모순, 자가당착 |
| vulnerability 명사 | /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/ | 취약성 |
| uncertainty 명사 | /ʌnˈsɜːtənti/ | 불확실 |
| emotion 명사 | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | 감정 |
| ellipsis 명사 | /ɪˈlɪp.sɪs/ | 줄임표, 점점점 |
| intrigue 명사 | /ˈɪntɹiːɡ/ | 음모 |
| lever 명사 | /ˈliː.və/ | 지레 |
| heartbeat 명사 | /ˈhɑɹtˌbit/ | 심박 |
| unpredictable 형용사 | 예측할 수 없다 |
영상에 나오는 구동사
| 단어 | 뜻 |
|---|---|
| pick up 동사 | 줍다 |
따라 말해 볼 만한 문장
영상에 나오는 짧고 완결된 문장으로, 일상 대화에서 그대로 쓸 수 있습니다:
- That quiet pull that makes you wonder?
- That's why you keep checking your phone.
- You're not obsessed with the person.
- You're addicted to the anticipation.
- You ever notice how the best books don't close every loop?
이 영상의 문법
화자가 가장 많이 쓰는 문형을 영상 속 실제 표현과 함께 정리했습니다.
| 문형 | 영상 속 표현 |
|---|---|
| 수동태 be + 과거분사 — 누가 하는지보다 무슨 일이 일어나는지에 초점 | isn't built · be shared · be texted |
| 관계절 who / which + 절 — 사람이나 사물에 대한 추가 정보 | people who become · ones who stay · anyone who glimpses |
| 현재완료 have/has + 과거분사 — 과거의 일이 지금도 관련이 있을 때 | who've captivated · haven't unlocked |
주의할 발음
화자는 you're, they're, isn't 같은 축약형과 약화된 형태를 56번 사용합니다. 들리는 대로 짧게 발음하세요.
- “th” 소리: rhythm /ˈɹɪð.əm/, withhold /wɪθˈhoʊld/
- “sh”와 “zh” 소리: attraction /əˈtɹækʃn̩/, emotion /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, unfinished /ʌnˈfɪnɪʃt/, intentional /ɪnˈtɛnʃənəl/
- 긴 단어 — 강세 위치에 주의: curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, unforgettable /ˌʌnfə(ɹ)ˈɡɛtəbəl/, vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, uncertainty /ʌnˈsɜːtənti/, predictability /pɹəˌdɪktəˈbɪlɪti/
한국어 화자가 어려워하는 소리:
- /f/ — ㅍ(/p/)으로 바꾸지 말고 윗니를 아랫입술에 대기: unforgettable /ˌʌnfə(ɹ)ˈɡɛtəbəl/, frustrate /ˈfɹʌsˌtɹeɪt/, fulfilment /fʊlˈfɪl.mənt/, gracefully /ˈɡɹeɪsfəli/, respectful /ɹɪˈspɛkt.fl̩/
- /v/ — ㅂ(/b/)과 구별하기: vulnerability /ˌvʌln(ə)ɹəˈbɪlɪti/, captivate /ˈkæptəˌveɪt/, unavailable /ˌʌnəˈveɪləbəl/, lever /ˈliː.və/, revelation /ˌɹɛv.əˈleɪ.ʃən/
- /z/ — ㅈ이 아니라 성대를 울리는 /s/: compose /kəmˈpəʊz/, exhaustion /ɪɡˈzɔːs.t͡ʃən/, hesitation /ˌhɛzɪˈteɪʃən/, invisible /ɪnˈvɪzəb(ə)l/, preserve /pɹəˈzɝv/
이 영상으로 연습하는 방법
- 먼저 말하지 않고 영상을 끝까지 듣고 모르는 단어를 적어 둡니다.
- 보통 속도로 한 문장씩 섀도잉하고, 화자의 리듬과 맞을 때까지 반복합니다.
- 자신의 목소리를 녹음해 원본과 비교하고, curiosity, rhythm, magnetic 같은 단어에 특히 주의합니다.
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