쉐도잉 연습: Why I decided to end my relationship - 영상으로 영어 말하기 배우기

Hi guys, welcome back to my channel.

I have a little life update for you guys.

So basically, I decided to end my relationship with my partner.

Now, the reason that I decided to end my relationship is not because something happened or the relationship was toxic or whatever.

Literally nothing happened.

However, I still decided to end it.

And I wanted to make this video not because I feel obligated to give you guys an explanation or anything.

However, I do think that there's people in the same situation as me

that have a good relationship

but they don't feel like oh i can get out of it

because there's nothing really wrong with the relationship

so why do i feel like this

but you still want to get out of it

and for you guys i want to make this video

because people will shame you when you get out of a relationship like

that yeah like you will hear

so many opinions of like oh what you did was

so wrong you're a horrible person but you know inside of yourself

that staying is not an option for you sometimes it's fine to listen to your own intuition

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Hi guys my name is Liz and welcome back to my channel.

Okay let's get into it.

Why did I end my relationship?

First of all I was way too comfortable in the relationship

and I posted about this on TikTok and I said

that I was way too comfortable and then everybody was like oh my god you're

so toxic isn't that good being comfortable blah blah blah.

Being comfortable is good being way too comfortable is not good

when people become way too comfortable in a relationship they don't

want to do anything anymore that's why you see a lot

of people they stop looking after themselves like they don't care about anything anymore

because they think oh i just have my partner i already have him whatever you know

and then the partner starts to lose attraction for the person

or the person starts to feel really bad about themselves

and they become very insecure now for me i literally have no motivation

and no more passion for life like at all

because i literally like the amount of money even

that i let on the table and i didn't do brand deals

or i didn't do anything

because i thought whatever it doesn't matter i have my partner

that's what i mean like i am not working towards my goals as hard as i should

and it infuriates me I'm like I don't have that fire anymore

and to be this comfortable I don't like it I don't

want to be this comfortable you know I want to have passion in life I want to have like

that strive for life again and

and I want to go after my goals like really hard

and as well he as well like there's so many things

that he needs to work on that he doesn't want to work on

because he thinks like oh whatever I just have Liz

but now that he doesn't have me anymore he

because we're still texting he told me like oh i'm immediately

fixing this i'm doing this i'm gonna go to therapy now has fire again he has passion again

because it's like oh i don't want to lose the person

that i love the most and i think we both need

that like fire again we need that passion again

and that's at the same time my partner my ex-partner is

the kind of person he he doesn't have friends like he's

very anti-social he doesn't like socializing like for him it's me

and him together that's it like he doesn't need anyone else

and he needs my he's very clingy so he constantly needs me around everywhere

or calls me

or whatever you know for me i honestly i miss having

friends i miss like like having relationships with women especially

because he's my best friend and

because he's my best friend i am literally not looking out

or going out with girls anymore or creating new friendships

because i think oh anyways i'm just with him i'm at

a point in my life where i wouldn't even date myself

because i don't think i have a healthy pattern

when it comes to dating because i always put my partner first

and until i fix this unhealthy pattern

that i have i don't think i should be dating at all like i should be the kind of person

that does my own thing and the person that's in my life should just add value

but he shouldn't influence what I do in my life like

i should still have my hobbies i should still have my friendships

and i shouldn't be isolated with one person this is unhealthy it's not

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that he's telling me to not go out with friends

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or not do these things but it's like because he doesn't do it

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and he doesn't have friends

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when i go even like to a restaurant with my friends i feel bad

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because i'm like oh he's sitting at home like he's not doing like it makes me feel bad

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so for me honestly right now i i don't want to

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date anyone i want to date myself i just want to be single for a

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while i want to date myself

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and i want to i want to get to know myself again

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because i feel like i focus my energy so much on my partner

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that i neglected myself i neglected my soul i didn't neglect my outer appearance

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but my outer appearance is not me like what is inside is me

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and i don't feel connected to myself anymore and i hate

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that feeling i know it's not his fault but it is mine

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because i for me it's like i keep dragging it on

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because i think like oh we'll get better we'll get better

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and it doesn't because i have issues in myself

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that i still need to fix and still need to work on

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and i am going to work on them once like i have worked on my issues

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and he has worked on his issue there is a possibility

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for us to get back together obviously right now i think

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for both of us to grow we need to be separate i became

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so anxious as well like in public that even

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when i go to the mall i call him

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and i'm constantly on the phone with him

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because i don't want to walk by myself meanwhile before this

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relationship i used to travel alone i miss myself like i really miss myself

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and i just want to know again what it's like to to have

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that connection with myself to not feel weird

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when i'm alone out in public when i'm going alone to a restaurant

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or whatever i want to have

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that connection back with myself i i want to think like okay liz what are we gonna do together you

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and me and i just believe that everyone

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that comes in your life comes into your life for a reason there is no one no one

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that has entered your life or you had a relationship with

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that just came for no reason see we are a soul right

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and we're those on earth are literally here to evolve

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and to learn

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and we learn through relationships we learn through our parents we

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learn through our traumas we learn through our heartbreak these are the reasons

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that we learn and these are the reasons that we evolve

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when when somebody comes into your life

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and you have a relationship with them sometimes it's not meant

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to be forever sometimes it's only a phase in your life

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and i really understood this because people are telling me oh why aren't you sad

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if this happened maybe two years ago

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because I really have such a strong bond with my ex-partner

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i would have been devastated i would have been heartbroken

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but i understand life differently my value doesn't come from having a partner

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or relationship my value comes from myself i need to be whole by myself

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and then when the person comes in he will be whole as well

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so anyone that i attract right now into my life

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or start dating will be a reflection of me i was

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reading this book it's many lives many masters the book basically

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had a quote where it said like you have reached true consciousness

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when you realize that the relationship you have is your own soul looking back at you

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and this is so true if you look at your relationships with like even

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if it's your friend or your partner they are mirroring you every guy

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that comes into my life that they will be just a reflection of me

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so i don't want to date anyone this is just a

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time for me to learn to be on my own again

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to learn to love myself fully like every single morning now

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when i wake up i look at myself in the mirror

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and i say i love you i say my name

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and i say i love you you have to try go to the mirror look yourself in the eyes

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and tell yourself you love yourself like we all speak about self-love

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but when you say that to yourself like it brings tears to my eyes

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literally even saying that to myself

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so for me it's just like i want to become my dream woman

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so whoever comes into my life will be my dream person

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that matches my vibration and matches my energy don't let people shame you

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or feel like oh why are you doing this like this

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is such a bad idea whatever listen to your intuition we neglect our own inner voice

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so much and then we spend years in a relationship

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and then at the end we have spent years hating it

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because we cared more about other people's opinions than our own intuition like i know

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that this is the best thing i'm ever gonna do in

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my life right now like this is my best decision

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and i believe this and i just really believe

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that whatever i do is for the better of me like i truly trust myself on

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that any decision that i've ever made in my life has has brought me here

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and this is really the reason that i'm this successful today is

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because of me and because of the the decisions i made

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and because of my intuition that i listened to

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and i went against everyone's opinion to do it everyone i

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did not care this is how i'm gonna do it again feel

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that this is right that's it

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so yeah guys i just wanted to give this little update to help you guys

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and yeah i love you guys so much thank you so much for watching bye

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