Shadowing Practice: Push Yourself to Be Happy Even When Life is Hard - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Do you ever notice how when life punches you in the gut, your mind starts attacking you too?
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And suddenly you're not just stressed, but you're spiraling and now you're finding flaws in everything in your life.
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Your job, and your body, and your future, and your own worth.
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Here's the truth that most people never actually learn: happiness is not what happens after the pain is gone.
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It's what you practice during it.
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When you only focus on what's going wrong, your brain becomes a magnet for misery.
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You find more things to be miserable about.
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And that's a really, really slippery slope.
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So what if you could actually rewire your brain to find the good in everything, even if your entire life is on fire?
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And if you can train yourself to search for even a sliver of good,
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your entire mindset and even your brain chemistry and your brain wiring will start to shift.
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And so let's dive into it.
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Let's just call it like it is, right?
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Most people, very good people in this world, completely cave when things go sideways in their lives.
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If bills start to stack up, they shut down.
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If their relationship If they get bad news, they start finding everything that's wrong in their life.
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Every single little teeny tiny thing.
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It's kind of like as soon as like one thing just goes wrong, the brain is like, see, I told you your entire life was trash.
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It's like just this, you know, it's like this little teeny tiny house of cards
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and you just give it one little flick and the entire thing falls apart.
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Does that sound familiar?
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Well, you have to understand that if you don't actually start to work on your mindset around
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It's only going to get worse and worse, and you're going to start to develop patterns to find the bad in everything.
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Like, you probably know somebody, I have somebody in the top of my head right now that I can think of that is negative all the time.
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You could win the lottery, And they'd be like, "Oh my God, do you know how much you're going to have to pay in taxes?" Like they can find the bad in everything.
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And they're that way because they have accidentally, I'm sure they didn't do it on purpose, they've accidentally wired themselves to find the bad in everything.
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But people who really actually become resilient and develop a really resilient mindset are different.
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The people who have done the inner work and worked on themselves
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and worked on their mindset and worked on their trauma and worked on their past and everything, they see life differently than everybody else.
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Like those who have spent time going and finding the things that's going on, like in the trenches, in their mind and in their life, the ones that are doing the real inner work,
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they don't collapse when things get hard.
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Why is that?
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Because they've trained their brain to find the good, even if it's hidden under layers and layers and layers of chaos.
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Now, I want to be very clear.
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I'm not talking about toxic positivity.
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I'm talking about you finding good
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in anything that's happening so
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that you can become a better person thinking better to work out of whatever negative thing is happening in your life.
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This is called neurological resilience.
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It's like you learn to internalize the truth behind the yin and the yang, which is within every hard thing, there is something good.
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And even if it's tiny, if you search for it, you can find it.
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You just have to be willing to look.
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And so I want you to remember this phrase the rest of your life.
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Happiness is a choice.
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Now, that phrase...
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When I put it on Instagram or I talk about it on an Instagram Reel, it pisses a lot of people off.
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It triggers a lot of people.
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Because they're like, "Well, you don't know my life and you don't know what's happened to me."
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You have to understand not some feel -good slogan.
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And I'm not being all woo -woo when I'm like, "Hey, happiness is a choice.
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Your life is on fire.
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Act like it's not on fire." What I'm saying is not a feel -good slogan.
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It's neuroscience.
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Your brain is always rewiring itself.
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always.
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And every time that you try to find something good, which means that you are not being on autopilot anymore,
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but you're actually taking time and energy and intention to find something good,
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you're actually strengthening the part of your brain that is responsible for positive pattern recognition.
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Now, on the opposite side of that,
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if you are actually looking for the for negative pattern recognition.
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And so in neuroscience, there's a thing called Hebb's Law, and they say neurons that fire together, wire together, which means that anytime that you think something a certain way,
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that wiring becomes stronger.
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And if you decide that you want to think differently, you're going to actually start to wire together new neurons that have never been together.
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And so when you practice happiness and gratitude and finding the good in things, especially when you don't feel like it,
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you're actually literally reshaping your brain You're doing three different things.
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You're strengthening your prefrontal cortex, which is where your decision -making and your optimism comes from.
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You're soothing your amygdala, which is where your fear and your threat detection comes from.
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And you're building more dopamine receptors in your brain, which is where motivation and pleasure comes from.
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So over time, this actually will become your new default setting.
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So you don't even have to try to find the good in things.
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You'll actually just start living that way.
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And I can tell you, from 100 % in my own anecdotal story Trust me,
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I was the definition of a negative Nancy when I was younger.
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I could find the negative in anything and I could give excuses
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and I could tell you why I was screwed over all the time
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and why life wasn't working out for me and other people always had good luck and I had bad luck.
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But now my default setting is to find the good in everything.
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But I also do, just so you know, have the overall, because now that I've been living my life now for a while, and I've seen things happen for my benefit,
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even when I didn't think they were going to be in my benefit, I truly believe, and I have this like just thought over my entire life,
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that with all 40 trillion of my cells, I believe it, that...
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everything that's happening in my life is happening for me.
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Not happening to me, because if it's happening to me, I'm a victim.
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If it's happening for me, then it's actually happening for me to learn or grow or get better or to have a better life.
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And I believe that to my core.
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And so let's actually tell you with research.
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So I gave you my anecdotal, oh yeah, this is what happened in my life, but I don't wanna just give you fluff, I wanna actually talk real studies for those of you guys that want proof, right?
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So there was a study that was done at Indiana University where they used fMRI scans to show participants who practice gratitude.
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and they showed that the people who practice gratitude showed more activity in the medial prefrontal cortex of their brain,
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which is the area that's linked to learning and decision making.
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They studied them six months later, and they actually found that the effects lasted over six months after the study ended.
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Which means when you train yourself to look for the good in something, your brain eventually starts doing it on autopilot.
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Now, I don't want to give you just one study in case you're very, you need a lot of studies and really a lot of proof to believe me.
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There was actually a study that was done by Dr. Martin Segelman, who is considered the father of positive psychology,
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and showed that people who practice optimistic reframing, so whenever something happens, you find the optimism in that situation,
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were more likely to recover from setbacks and experience less depression in their lives over time.
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And then the last one, Harvard psychologist Dr. Shawn Acker found that five minutes a day of positive journaling
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and finding the positive in their life significantly increased happiness and reduced stress hormones like cortisol in somebody's brain.
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So this isn't, like I said, toxic positivity, like, oh my god, the house is on fire.
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I'm just going to act like it's not on fire.
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It's not toxic positivity, it's neurological facts that your brain actually starts to change and rewire itself.
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for the good and finding the good when you actually take time
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and intention to find the good in anything that's going bad.
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And you have to understand that the rewiring is not something that just happens instantly.
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It's not like you do it one time.
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But if you stay consistent, it will be inevitable.
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the way you like to think of, the way you should think of your brain is kind of like a big cornfield, right?
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Like think of your brain like this giant cornfield and this new, maybe you've been negative your entire life and you're just trying to figure out how to be more positive.
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Every time that you choose to find the good, even when it's buried, even when it's in the middle of a bunch of chaos, it's like walking a new path.
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the very first time in that cornfield.
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Is it gonna be hard to walk through a cornfield?
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If it's a brand new path, yeah.
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But the next time you do it, it's gonna be a little bit easier.
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And the next time you do it, a little bit easier.
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The hundredth time you do it, it's gonna be way easier.
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Eventually, that path becomes clearer.
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it becomes easier for you to walk down, aka to start to think through,
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and it becomes a road that you actually will start to take in your brain over time, even without thinking after a while.
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But the truth that most people avoid in this situation is you do have to push yourself.
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Like you have to push yourself sometimes to when you see shit hitting the fan, be like, okay, I've got to get out of my victim mindset.
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I've got to stop being so sad and I've got to figure out.
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What is the good that could possibly come from this?
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How could this be working out in my favor?
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What lessons can I get from this?
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It's like happiness just doesn't float down from the clouds and it's not delivered to you by a unicorn, right?
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Like you don't just wait for something to make you feel happy.
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You have to decide that my natural state will be happiness.
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So you have to sit there and say, I'm going to find one thing to be grateful for today.
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I will shift my focus, even when my brain wants to catastrophize everything and think that my life is in shambles.
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I'm going to stop feeding this victim story in my head, and I'm going to find out how the world is working for me.
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Because if you don't, your brain will just keep collecting evidence that your life sucks.
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And that's a natural part of our brain.
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It's called the negativity bias.
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It's like this way in almost every single person.
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I've done entire episodes on the negativity bias you can go back and listen to.
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So your brain will always look for and collect evidence.
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that things are going wrong as a protection mechanism for you.
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And so you know who also collects evidence?
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Your subconscious mind.
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And whatever you think about a lot And whatever you repeat the most, it will believe.
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So if you say stuff like, "Oh, I'm stuck," or, "I don't have any good luck," or, "Nothing ever works out for me," or, "Life is just hard and I'm always screwed over," Guess what?
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That is actually going to become your truth.
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And so what you want to do is this: when something becomes hard, acknowledge it.
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I'm not saying, don't be like, "Oh my god, no, this is, yeah, no, it's completely fine." I'm not saying that you need to, you know, spray perfume on a turd.
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What I'm saying is clean up the turd and then make the floor that was once on shinier.
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Find the good in that thing. So acknowledge.
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Okay, yeah, this is tough.
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This is really hard.
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I really do feel it.
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then you want to just breathe through it.
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Because when stuff is really hard, your brain's usually all over the place.
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And when your emotions are high, your logic is low.
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So you breathe.
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Anchor yourself in the present moment.
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It might be two minutes you need to breathe or if shit's really hitting the fan, it might be ten minutes.
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And then just ask yourself to try to see, you know, change your perception in some sort of way from this is so bad, this is so bad, this is so bad and doom and gloom.
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Ask yourself, What can this teach me?
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Like what's one good thing that could come from this?
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Like how can this circumstance possibly make me stronger.
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Or like, if everything is happening for me, That must mean that this thing's gonna make me better.
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So what lessons can I pull from this?
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I And it might be like, you know, I'm actually learning to ask for help.
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Or this pain that's happening is showing me that I need to figure out new boundaries.
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Or it could be even, "I'm still here in that something." And you can find the good in the fact that you're still here.
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And that becomes your access point for starting to rewire.
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So it's like, what good can come from this?
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What lessons can I pull from this?
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How can I make this make me stronger?
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What can this teach me?
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And you start to actually ask yourself these questions, because when you ask yourself a question, or ask anybody a question, you're framing their perception.
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And you're framing your own perception from something's wrong, this is not good, to what can I learn from this?
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How can I get better in this?
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And so I want you to understand, in your life, happiness is a choice.
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It really is.
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And if you're going to have a great life, if you're going to be happy in your life, then you need to make the choice that no matter what happens,
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You're going to end up having a great life
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that everything in this universe that happens around you is happening for you for your greater good.
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You're not the story of your past.
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You're the narrator of it, and you're the person who gets to reframe everything that's happened to you, to reinterpret everything that's happened to you,
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to rewrite everything that's happened to you, and to see it from a different perspective.
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And like life gets hard.
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You're not going to go through this life without at least a decent amount of pain.
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But when you're hardwired for growth, you push yourself, you smile through the tears, you laugh in the middle of chaos,
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and you keep finding the gold that's hidden inside of the dirt.
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Because every single time that you do, what you're doing is you're building yourself and your brain neurologically into a stronger,
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happier, and more powerful version of you.
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Hey, thanks so much for watching this video.
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Woordenschat en spreektips bij deze les
Deze spreekles op niveau B2 is gebaseerd op de video “Push Yourself to Be Happy Even When Life is Hard”. Deze video bevat 188 zinnen en 2702 woorden om na te spreken. Het gesproken deel duurt 14:53. De spreker praat snel, ongeveer 182 woorden per minuut, dus reken op verbonden en ingeslikte klanken. 88% van de woorden hoort bij de 3.000 meest gebruikte Engelse woorden, dus de woordenschat is goed te volgen.
Belangrijke woorden in deze video
De 15 moeilijkste woorden uit de video, met uitspraak en betekenis:
| Woord | Uitspraak | Betekenis |
|---|---|---|
| mindset zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈmaɪn(d)ˌsɛt/ | mentaliteit, ingelsteldheid |
| gratitude zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɡɹæ.tɪ.tud/ | dankbaarheid |
| perception zelfstandig naamwoord | /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/ | perceptie, gewaarwording |
| anecdotal bijvoeglijk naamwoord | [ˌænɪkˈdəʊ̯tɫ̩] | anekdotisch |
| autopilot zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɔtoʊˌpaɪlət/ | automatische piloot |
| neuron zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈn(j)ʊɹɑn/ | neuron, zenuwcel |
| neuroscience zelfstandig naamwoord | neurowetenschap | |
| resilient bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /ɹɪˈzɪl.jənt/ | weerbaar |
| neurological bijvoeglijk naamwoord | /nɝəˈlɑd͡ʒɪkəl/ | neurologisch |
| optimism zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈɑptɪmɪzəm/ | optimisme |
| slogan zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈsloʊɡən/ | slagzin |
| strengthen werkwoord | /ˈstɹɛŋ(k)θən/ | versterken |
| bias zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈbaɪ.əs/ | neiging, vooroordeel |
| acknowledge werkwoord | /əkˈnɑ.lɪd͡ʒ/ | bekennen, erkennen |
| dopamine zelfstandig naamwoord | /ˈdoʊ.pəˌmin/ | dopamine |
Phrasal verbs die je zult horen
| Woord | Betekenis |
|---|---|
| figure out werkwoord | uitvogelen, er achter komen |
| clean up werkwoord | schoonmaken |
| end up werkwoord | belanden, terechtkomen |
| fall apart werkwoord | uiteenvallen, uit elkaar vallen |
| find out werkwoord | ontdekken, onderzoeken |
| go back werkwoord | teruggaan |
| shut down werkwoord | afsluiten, uitzetten |
| think through werkwoord | doordenken |
Zinnen om te herhalen
Korte, volledige zinnen uit de video die je in alledaagse gesprekken kunt gebruiken:
- How could this be working out in my favor?
- What lessons can I get from this?
- What lessons can I pull from this?
- How can I make this make me stronger?
- What can this teach me?
Grammatica in deze video
De structuren die de spreker het meest gebruikt, met de exacte woorden uit de video:
| Structuur | In de video |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — iets dat eerder begon en nog bezig is | I've been living · have been watching |
| Voorwaardelijke zinnen if + zin, will/would + werkwoord — een voorwaarde en het gevolg | if you stay consistent, it will be · if you don't, your brain will just |
| Betrekkelijke bijzinnen who / which + zin — extra informatie over een persoon of ding | people who really · people who have · those who have |
| Present perfect have/has + voltooid deelwoord — iets uit het verleden dat nu nog telt | have done · have spent · they've trained |
Uitspraak om op te letten
De spreker gebruikt 83 samentrekkingen en verkorte vormen, zoals you're, I'm, don't. Spreek ze kort uit, zoals je ze hoort.
- De “th”-klanken: strengthen /ˈstɹɛŋ(k)θən/, hundredth /ˈhʌndɹə(d)θ/, soothe /suːð/, algorithm /ˈælɡəɹɪðm̩/
- De klanken “sh” en “zh”: perception /pɚˈsɛpʃ(ə)n/, reshape /ɹiːˈʃeɪ̯p/, shambles /ˈʃæmbəlz/, subconscious /sʌbˈkɑn.ʃəs/, detection /dɪˈtɛk.ʃən/
- Lange woorden — let op de klemtoon: positivity /ˌpɑ.zɪˈtɪv.ɪ.ti/, autopilot /ˈɔtoʊˌpaɪlət/, negativity /ˌnɛɡ.əˈtɪ.vɪ.ti/, neurological /nɝəˈlɑd͡ʒɪkəl/, optimism /ˈɑptɪmɪzəm/
Zo oefen je met deze video
- Luister de hele video één keer zonder te spreken en noteer de woorden die je niet kent.
- Begin op 0,75× snelheid, spreek zin voor zin na en ga terug naar normale snelheid zodra het makkelijk gaat.
- Neem jezelf op en vergelijk met het origineel; let daarbij op woorden als mindset, gratitude, perception.
Wat is de Shadowing-techniek?
Shadowing is een wetenschappelijk onderbouwde taalleermethode die oorspronkelijk is ontwikkeld voor professionele tolkentraining en gepopulariseerd door polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. De methode is eenvoudig maar krachtig: je luistert naar native Engelse audio en herhaalt het onmiddellijk hardop — als een schaduw die de spreker volgt met slechts 1–2 seconden vertraging. In tegenstelling tot passief luisteren of grammaticadrills, dwingt shadowing je hersenen en mondspieren om echte spraakpatronen tegelijkertijd te verwerken en te reproduceren. Onderzoek toont aan dat het de uitspraaknauwkeurigheid, intonatie, ritme, verbonden spraak, luisterbegrip en spreekvaardigheid aanzienlijk verbetert — waardoor het een van de meest effectieve methoden is voor IELTS Speaking-voorbereiding en echte Engelse communicatie.