Shadowing Practice: 🎧B2 C1 Deutsch Podcast | Der Vergleich mit anderen: Gut oder schlecht? | Deutsch Lernen durch Hören - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Hello and welcome to a new episode.
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I am Anna and today we talk about a topic that probably everyone of us is the stentary comparison with others.
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When did you last time ask why that life of others is better than your own?
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Hello, Thomas here.
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Anna, this is really a universelle Erfahrung.
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We all know this feeling when we have the impression that others are more successful, happier, or just their life better in the grip.
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Exactly.
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And the interesting thing is that this Vergleich is actually nothing new, right?
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People have always been compared, but somehow the quality of this Vergleich has changed.
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Thomas, can you explain that?
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Absolutely.
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We must first look at the perspective of why we So is
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that Vergleichen is not problematic?
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No, not.
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There is even a psychological theory.
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The Social Comparison Theory.
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The idea is that people have to compare themselves with others, to their own abilities and opinions.
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If I have no objective Maßstäbe, I look at how others do something.
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That sounds pretty.
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But I notice that this is a very negative feeling.
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What is that?
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Here comes the change.
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You have seen your life with people in your direct environment.
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Your neighbors, your colleagues, your friends.
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That were maybe 20, 30 people you personally saw.
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You saw your life with all the high and high.
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With good and bad days.
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And today we compare ourselves with millions of people worldwide.
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That's a huge difference.
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And the worst thing is, we see not the real life of these people, but only the perfect moments.
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The photos, the stories, the beautiful pictures.
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I compare my real life with the highlight reel of others.
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That's the point.
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It's like a normal day with a holiday video.
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Our brain can't really change between real and real.
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That's really a bit of a joke.
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I can say that Instagram only shows the best moments.
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Emotional we are still.
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It is like a film.
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I know that it is not real.
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But my feeling is still reacting.
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And then this idea that everyone else has better.
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Only for me is not going around.
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And this is how to do some psychological problems.
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Many people develop the feeling, never enough to be.
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Not enough, not attractive enough, not happy enough.
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Yes, and then there is a Teufelskreis, right?
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You feel like you are scrolling through social media, you see there more, scheinbar perfect life, you feel like you are still.
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Some people try to present a perfect picture in the world, but the peace is only short, because they are not authentic.
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Right.
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And the social media have not found this problem, but they have it massively stärked.
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Okay, but now the important question.
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What can we do?
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I mean, we can't just stop talking about others.
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That's our nature.
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But it must be a better way.
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The first step is always the Bewusstsein.
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If you feel bad, you feel bad, I'm going to ask you, Vergleiche ich mich gerade?
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Mit wem?
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Und ist dieser Vergleich fair?
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Fair, das ist das Stichwort.
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Die meisten Vergleiche sind ja total unfair.
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Ich vergleiche meinen Anfang mit dem Erfolg eines anderen, der vielleicht schon Jahre an etwas arbeitet.
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Oder ich vergleiche meinen schwierigen Moment mit dem perfekten Moment von jemand anderem.
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Das kann niemals fair sein.
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Genau.
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Der fairste Vergleich ist der mit dir selbst.
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with the person who you were in a year, six months, a month.
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Have you learned something?
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Waste you?
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That's a really important perspective.
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I against my best version, not I against the illusion of someone else.
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What I also helps is this idea with empathy.
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If I see someone, who has a perfect life, I try to show myself.
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This person has problems, fears, bad days.
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Jeder kämpft mit etwas, was ich nicht sehen kann.
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Das nimmt dem Vergleich so viel von seiner emotionalen Kraft.
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Das ist ein sehr guter Punkt.
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Es geht auch darum, die eigenen sozialen Medien bewusst zu gestalten.
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Welchen Accounts folge ich?
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Fühle ich mich danach besser oder schlechter?
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Ja.
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Ich habe vor einiger Zeit angefangen, Accounts zu entfolgen, die mir permanent ein schlechtes Gefühl geben.
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Und ich folge jetzt mehr Menschen, die auch Schwierigkeiten zeigen, die authentisch sind.
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That has really changed something.
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It's like digital hygiene.
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I decide what comes in my mind.
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And then there are other techniques techniques, such as the Führen of a Thankbarkeit-Buch.
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Every day three things to write, for which you are thankful.
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That's so simple, but it works actually.
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I do this for a few months and it's really training the brain from the brain to the focus, from the focus to the focus, to the focus, to the focus.
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Instead of thinking, I don't have enough, I think, look what I have all of them.
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That's a big difference.
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Absolutely.
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What also helps are the pause of social media.
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We talk about it quite often in our videos and I want to do that today a little bit.
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Such small steps are better than nothing and they really work.
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Because they give us a pause, just a chance to come out of all this.
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But of course, that's just a temporary solution, right?
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What it actually takes is the time in which we are not online.
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These moments are allowed to experience a change in perspective.
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It's about understanding that all these relationships often are important.
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What do I actually want?
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Not what Instagram wants, I want.
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Not what my friends want, but I.
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What are my own values?
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What makes me really happy?
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That's the deepest point.
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Self-establishment instead of Fremd-establishment.
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Right.
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And we have to be a bit of a surprise?
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In the moment, when I started to define my own priorities, they have automatically lost the Vergleiche in Bedeutung.
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When I know that for example, tiefe friendships are important as many of the front contacts,
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then it's suddenly egal, how many followers someone else has.
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Because you have a own Maßstab developed.
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Exactly.
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It's a clear way.
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If I know where I am, what is important, then are the other more relevant.
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They are not so close to me.
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That reminds me of a quote, if you don't know where you want, is every way the wrong way.
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Yes.
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And if you know where you want, you can see other ways without feeling you wrong.
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You can say, it's good for this person, but that's not my way.
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That's a big difference to this feeling of why I don't have it, why I'm not so.
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But how do you get to this inner clarity?
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That's almost philosophically.
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It's philosophically.
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And I think that's something that is in our world verloren.
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We don't take any time to think about it anymore.
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I mean, when are we still sitting there and thinking about it?
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Oh no Handy, oh no music, oh no Ablenkung?
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Langeweile is so seldom, but in the same time are the important thoughts.
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The stentive comparison is also a form of a link.
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It is a link of ourselves.
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Instead of me with myself, with my fears, my real goals, I scroll through the lives of others.
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It's easier to compare others than to know them.
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But it's nowhere to go.
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And the paradox is, the more we are with others, the unsicher we are.
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It's a Teufels-Kreis.
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The solution is not to compare it to not to compare it, that is impossible.
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The solution is to know it so well, that the Vergleiche their power verlieren.
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And how does it make you better?
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In fact, you need to know it for reflection.
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That can be a book, that can be a long walk, a conversation with friends, therapy, meditation, whatever it is.
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But it needs time and still.
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And that's the problem.
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We learned to go with still.
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So if we have 5 minutes to do nothing, we can do something to do.
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Because still can be unbeatable.
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But if we are at our own time, if we know where we are and what we want,
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then we can get more decisions that really pass to us.
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We don't have to see what others do because we have our own compass.
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And I think more I think about it and listen to it, I understand that Geduld is just part of this long process.
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The process of knowing that it is really a long journey.
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It is also.
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It is a lifelong journey.
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But the best thing is that with every step is free.
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Free from the other's opinions, free from these of these mistakes, free from the own experiences, free from building your own life.
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And that is what we all want, right?
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that life from someone else to live, but our own life to live.
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That's it.
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And I think that's also for our listeners and listeners, who learn German.
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It's not about how a language is speaking, but about how to find their own voice in German.
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Exactly.
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Everyone has their own way, everyone has their own pace.
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And that's not just okay, that's good.
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Vielfalt is not through copying, but because it's because everyone is authentic.
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So, dear viewers, take time to learn yourself.
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Ask what you really want, not what others expect.
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And have patience with yourself.
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This life is not a sprint, it is a marathon.
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It is not a marathon, it is a journey and everyone can choose his own goal.
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Perfect, thank you for listening.
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And think about that, The most important person you must understand is yourself.
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See you next time.
Context & Background
In this episode, Anna and Thomas engage in a profound discussion about the universal experience of comparing oneself to others. They explore how social comparison has evolved over time, particularly with the rise of social media, leading individuals to measure their lives against a seemingly perfect reality presented online. This conversation highlights the psychological implications of comparison, illustrating how it can foster feelings of inadequacy and unhappiness. By understanding these dynamics, learners can better navigate their thoughts and emotions, while simultaneously practicing their English skills.
Top 5 Phrases for Daily Communication
- “When did you last ask why someone else's life seems better?” – This phrase encourages deep reflection on personal feelings and thoughts.
- “People have always compared themselves to others.” – Acknowledges the historical context of comparison.
- “We see only the perfect moments of other people's lives.” – Highlights the curated nature of social media.
- “Our brains can't differentiate between reality and highlights.” – A significant point about perception versus reality.
- “It creates a vicious cycle of feeling inadequate.” – Describes the emotional fallout of comparison.
Step-by-step Shadowing Guide
To effectively learn English and improve your speaking practice through this video, consider the following shadowing strategy:
- Choose the Right Segment: Select a short segment of the video that captures Anna and Thomas's conversation. Aim for a clip that is 1-2 minutes long to keep focus manageable.
- Listen Actively: Play the segment without looking at the transcript initially. Pay close attention to pronunciation, intonation, and rhythm. This will also help in improving English pronunciation.
- Read Along: Next, read the transcript while listening to the audio. Notice any new vocabulary or phrases that stand out. For instance, phrases about emotional reactions can be particularly enriching.
- Repeat and Imitate: Use the shadowing technique (known as shadowspeak). Pause the audio after short phrases and repeat them aloud, trying to match Anna and Thomas's tone and pacing. This practice aligns with IELTS speaking practice techniques.
- Reflect on Emotion and Context: After shadowing, reflect on what you learned about the themes of comparison and emotional well-being. Consider how you can incorporate similar themes into your conversations in English.
By following these steps, you’ll not only enhance your communication skills but also gain insights into navigating modern social dynamics. Use resources like learn English with YouTube as a tool to develop your language skills while addressing relevant topics in today’s society.
What is the Shadowing Technique?
Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.