Shadowing Practice: How to be GIRLY and CONFIDENT - Learn English Speaking with Video

We are so blessed as women to be in this era where we are powerful, we are successful.

We are able to stand on our own, make our own money, look the way we do, and still have like these girly qualities about us, but also be like ultra successful and hold our own.

It is such a beautiful thing that we have nowadays.

And I feel like the older I get, I have goosebumps, the more that I'm just like really trying to like, nurture that.

You know what I mean?

Like I'm nurturing the fact that I'm a woman and I'm successful and I'm happy.

And I see the bright side of things.

And I also like to just let go.

Really just lay back and be a woman and enjoy the things in life.

We are so multifaceted.

We can achieve and do and absorb so many things.

Why would we not want to take our highest self?

and become that version of ourselves

so girls welcome back to my channel i thought i would do another one of my girly videos

because you guys love these and i love them as well i just love being girly

and i feel like just sharing what i do every day might be helpful for you guys

because i realize i do a lot of things

that are just second nature to me that maybe you guys don't know about

and could help you feel more girly and feminine so let's get into it Okay, tip number one is to start acting as the highest version of yourself.

This is so important for literally anybody watching.

This is a universal thing.

No matter what your circumstance is right now, where you're at in life, if you act on the highest version of yourself, you will start seeing improvements.

Let's use me for an example.

This morning, I woke up two hours late.

I snooze my alarm.

for two hours because i didn't want to get up

but i thought to myself the rest of my day is not going to go as planned

if i don't get up

and start acting as my highest self my highest self would

get up right now she would say okay you slept two hours late

but that's okay let's wash your hair blow it out put a cute outfit on do your makeup

and start filming for the girls because that is what you love to do so

that is exactly what i did i think like this morning

i literally did not want to film i was just going to take a break day

but i was like you know what no because the highest

on the highest version of myself

and the highest version of myself the way she thinks the

way she looks my life genuinely started changing you know

when you're out i feel like this is like a common thing

that happens when you're out

and maybe you're not looking your best you're wearing sweatpants your hair's in a bun

and you see your ex or you see somebody

that you used to talk to or an old friend

and you're just like oh my gosh like i wish i looked

so good and you're like oh my gosh i wish i looked so good right now.

I cannot believe I look like this.

I'm telling you, if you start acting on your highest self, that will never be an issue because your hair will always be done.

You'll always be wearing a cute outfit.

You'll always have a little bit of makeup on or whatever that means for you.

It doesn't mean that you have to wear makeup and put on cute clothes to look good, but whatever the highest version of yourself looks like,

that could be just a split back bun, skincare, cute outfit on.

It's not like a one size fits all, if that makes sense.

If you always get up every morning and put your best foot forward

and try to get ready and look cute for yourself and you feel good in your cute little outfit on, it won't matter who you run into because you always look good.

And I'm telling you.

Soon enough, you will start forgetting about, oh, what if I run into this person?

Or is this person looking at me?

You will start to become so obsessed with yourself that I'm telling you, everything will change.

Everything in your life will change the way that you view yourself, the way that you view other people.

It's the best.

Another thing that I love to do is to get my body moving.

I started taking Pilates classes with my best friend Lely.

We started wearing cute matching outfits.

We wear leg warmers, we wear pink, we always plan what we're going to wear.

And then we wake up early.

We do our makeup.

We go to Pilates.

And then we get a little snack after.

so fun and I genuinely feel so fulfilled when I do stuff like that.

When I plan something, especially in terms of like working out and I go through with it, I always feel So, myself after.

I don't know how to describe it.

Like I'm proud of myself because I'm showing up for myself.

I'm confident that when I say something, I'm going to do it.

And it makes me feel better as a person.

I love that.

Also, after Pilates, that's such like a girly thing in and of itself.

I love love that my best friend and I started taking Pilates classes.

I genuinely feel like it has changed my brain for the better.

Like I see, I've always been a really positive person, but like, I feel like I'm even more positive.

I have even more energy.

Like it's just been like a cute little addition into my life.

Another tip is to choose your friends, Wisely I have been there done that with big friend groups

and it never works out There's just too many personalities

and I feel like a lot of the times like you

can't get as deep as you want to You end up like gravitating towards one person

and then these people are talking about these people

and it's just too much Especially like

when you're young - like big friend groups Like I feel like they're fun like in theory, but like they usually don't work out.

So I have five real real girlfriends that know me the inside out that

they know the good they know the bad they know how

i'll react to things they know my favorite fruit like those are my girls i have acquaintances

but the people that i choose to share my life to are very few and far in between

and i like it that way and i like it

that way because genuinely i feel like the girls that i have in my life are the most

solid girlfriends like they are ride or die for me as i am them

and i feel like it's so important to nurture your friendships

and don't always assume that they're just going to be there for you especially

if you're not putting in like the effort

or time to be with your girlfriends you can be mad

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when they start disinviting you to stuff or you can't be mad

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when they're planning stuff without you because it's like you've already set up

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You've already kind of set up this thing that they know

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that you're not going to show up if you keep ditching them for your man or whatever it might be.

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Or maybe you're too lazy that morning.

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You have to remember that true friendships you have to nurture.

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You have to pour into them and show up for them when they need you.

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And girlfriends will always, always make me feel more girly, more feminine.

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Like whenever I leave a date night with my girlfriend or we're getting our nails done, Pilates class, just going out to get a little snack or even a FaceTime call.

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with my best girlfriends, I always feel so happy, so fulfilled and joyful.

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Like there is genuinely nothing like

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a female friendship like a true female friendship and i hope

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that every single one of you watching has at least one person like

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that to you because there are things that women can provide in friendships

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that you will never get out of like a

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male romantic relationship

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and that's not even a diss that's just literal facts like

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you need a good woman in your life to vent to

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to talk to to laugh with until your stomach hurts like it's

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so important i literally have the goosebumps just thinking about it because

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girl i don't know what it is like i just love my girls like i love them

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Another thing I'd love to do is set myself up for success period, just in general.

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But I'll give you like a small example.

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I love to have my bed made.

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I always spray a little bit of like chamomile sleep mist on my pillows, make sure the dishes are done, my apartment's clean, then I go take my everything shower.

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So when I get out of the shower and I'm hot, because it's been 30 minutes and boiling heat, 'cause I love taking hot showers,

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I come out, everything's clean the lights are dim like the moon lights on i have my little sunlight lamp

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and my favorite reality tv is on the screen I love setting myself up for success.

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That's even just like a small little thing.

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It doesn't have to be like this big huge thing or picking out your outfit the night before.

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So when you wake up in the morning, you're not as stressed.

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doing your hair the night before.

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Those little things, I promise you, will get you to like subconsciously start thanking yourself and being like, dang, like I did this for myself.

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Like I really set up my bed so cute and cozy with my little bear and my cute little pink blanket,

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went to go take a shower with all my cute girly products came out and now everything's perfect.

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I did that for myself.

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That will also start training you to trust yourself and get more confidence in yourself, Very, very important, which kind of leads me into the next thing,

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which is saying no with no reason behind it.

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This is definitely something that I'm working on because you know what?

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I would probably classify, not probably, I'm going to take ownership.

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I would classify myself as a people pleaser.

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That is something that I'm working on.

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I don't know what it is, if that's some deep rooted trauma, some childhood trauma that I have to deal with and work through.

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But I feel like when I hit 25, things just started like clicking in my head and I'm definitely a people pleaser.

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always say no and feel bad about it.

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I would always say no and give this huge explanation on to why I'm saying no. And like, hopefully, you're not gonna be mad at me.

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But like, I really don't I'd really rather do this.

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Or sometimes I would even just completely conform.

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I would just do what I didn't want to do so

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that I didn't have to deal with like arguments or anything like that.

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But I am telling you, when you start learning to say no with no explanation behind it,

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It is so liberating and I don't know how many people this is gonna like connect to

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because I don't know how many people have this experience but girl

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slowly but surely I have been saying no

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or I have been putting my foot down or

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if there's just something planned and it's like I could make it work

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but I would be overexerting myself I have learned to start

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saying no you know what can we reschedule to this day

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and when I whenever I do that with no explanation I feel so so powerful.

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There is just something so powerful about saying no, sitting back, and just letting it happen.

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Literally let life happen.

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If you don't have the time to do something and you're going to overexert yourself for doing it, say no, sit back.

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You don't have to apologize.

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You don't have to overexert yourself.

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Nobody's going to be mad at you.

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You are an adult.

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You can say no and move on.

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And girl, that has literally changed my life.

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I know that is like such like a small little thing.

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You're probably like, girl, what?

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Like we all say no, but no. To me, it's like life changing.

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You girls know that I always have to add in like a few little beauty things.

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So I love having my nails and my toes done.

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That is just a non -negotiable for me.

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I mentioned this in the last video as well.

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There is something...

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so girly about it.

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It makes me show up as a better person.

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Like when I know that my nails are done, I'm not kidding.

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When I'm at the drive -thru handing somebody my card, I think about my nails look so cute right now.

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You know what I mean?

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When I put on my cute little pink Tory Burch sandals and my toes are French tip, I'm like, yes, girl, like you did this a week ago

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so that right now you can look down at your feet and be like, I'm proud of myself.

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Like that looks good.

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I look polished.

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I like to show up as the best version of myself.

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And when I have my nails and my toes done, I feel like the best version of myself.

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I feel that same way with self tanning.

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And that's why I wash my hair so often because I like for it to look as fresh as possible, bouncy.

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silky, soft, like all of it, I love it.

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So I like to set myself up by doing these little things.

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All those things lean into me feeling my best.

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And whenever I feel my best, I show up as my best self and everything just kind of dominoes like in the best way possible.

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Finding your own style is so important.

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And this is something that could take a long time.

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Honestly, I feel like even for me, I'm still figuring out what my style is.

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It's so funny that I feel like you guys can like clock my style, but like I don't know in my head, I can't.

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But anyways, I feel like finding your style when you finally do

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and you feel confident in the clothes that you are wearing, not for anybody else but yourself, you will start to feel So girly and feminine.

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I'm telling you guys I think you know what I like

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a lot of different styles I like I wear a lot

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of like matching sets like athleisure CSB define like cute girly colors but I think Um,

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like my style I do like a little bit more of like a western style.

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Okay And I feel like i'm just like now coming into this and realizing it whenever I fully I

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lock into like that Western style that I like, like cute girly dresses, and my cowgirl boots and honestly like just boots in general

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or little like micro shorts and a cute top whenever i wear stuff like that i feel

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so confident because I feel like myself.

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I'm like, you know what?

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I might live in LA.

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Okay.

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And this might not be the most common style out here, but like, I genuinely feel so confident because I feel cute.

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Like I feel cute wearing it.

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So who cares?

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Whatever your style is just honed into that.

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And I swear you will feel so much more free.

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Like don't try to conform into what you think that's social media wants you to be, if that makes sense.

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I feel like that's another thing too, like people can see right through that.

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If you're trying to emulate somebody else's style, whether it be like in your home or on your body or whatever it is, I feel like people can kind of clock it.

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And if you truly just become yourself, There's nothing to clock, girl, because you actually like that.

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You actually look like that.

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Like, for example, my room, like it's so cute and girly.

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I have a chandelier up here that you can't see.

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I have my pink with my white and like everything's just so girly.

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And I just love that nobody can say that like I'm trying to be like somebody else because I'm genuinely not.

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Like I saw every single one of these pieces and I said, you know what?

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that's me like that's gonna look so cute i put it all together

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and i just feel whole like i feel like myself

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and try to have a positive mindset i'm telling you guys your words hold

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so much value you don't understand you should not be nitpicking yourself you should not be tearing yourself down

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if you mess up you should not say oh my gosh i'm

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so stupid i'm so stupid i should have known

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that those little things in your brain will start to create a pattern

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and you don't want that you don't want to see yourself in that light

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You could start with something as easy as this.

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Look yourself in the mirror, tell yourself three things that you are proud of yourself for.

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That could be maybe not ordering takeout when you said you were going to order takeout.

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That could be working out when you said, or waking up early, like you said, make sure you start training yourself to be confident within yourself.

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And that is how you start training yourself to become more confident in yourself.

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And that is so, so important because once you start trusting yourself,

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nobody's else opinion, truthfully, confidence is.

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bread.

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Like you have to trust yourself and you will become

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so confident in what you're wearing and what you look like

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and what you do and how you perform

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and how you show up to places that literally nobody can throw you off

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because you're so confident in yourself that you're just like, Okay, and anyways, off with a negative comment.

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Genuinely, that is how I feel.

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That is how I feel, especially being in social media.

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Like there's a lot of people who leave crazy comments, crazy DMs.

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And when I tell you they roll off my back, like you could tell me that I just gave you the worst advice of your life.

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And I genuinely wouldn't believe that because I think it's great advice.

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And like, it's things that's helped me.

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So as long as you feel confident in what you're doing, saying, eating everything.

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That's all that matters.

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I could go on and on and on about this topic.

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I made another one of these videos and you guys liked it.

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I see some mixed reviews in the comments, but I hope you guys take what I say, take what resonates and leave what doesn't literally like you don't have to take every single thing

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that I say in these videos and implement it to be girly.

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And if you don't do all these things, then you're not girly.

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That's not what I'm saying at all.

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That's not what these videos are about.

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These are supposed to be empowering.

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And honestly, I'm just trying to share how I live my life

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and little tips and things

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that have got me to be where I'm at today in hopes that it will help a girl out there.

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Especially now that I'm 26, I do feel like I'm at that older sister stage where I can

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say a little bit more of like my life experiences and really help a girl out.

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Because you know what?

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I've been there mentally, physically, emotionally, up and down so many things.

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And if I just had like an older sister to tell me these things, I swear,

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maybe i would have gotten over things faster so if i could be that for you girls That's what I'm here for.

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And also just remember to unapologetically be yourself.

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The last thing I always try to leave you with is to look yourself in the mirror tonight

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and tell yourself three things that you love about yourself.

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Three things.

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If you think you have the most beautiful eyes in the world, tell yourself that.

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If you love that you went to the gym five days a week this week, tell yourself that whatever it is, maybe you learned how to cook something new.

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Maybe you didn't order out when you told yourself you weren't going to order out.

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That's a big win.

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Make sure you tell yourself positive things in the mirror because it will start to correlate.

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It will all come full circle.

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Okay.

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Do not say these little don't nitpick yourself.

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Okay, because you should not be your harshest critic.

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I love you guys so much, and I'll see you in the next one.

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Bye!

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Why practice speaking with this video?

This video, titled "How to be GIRLY and CONFIDENT," is a fantastic resource for those looking to enhance their english speaking practice. It provides a relatable context for practicing conversational English, especially for learners interested in personal development and self-expression. By engaging with the speaker's ideas, viewers can develop not just their language skills but also their confidence when speaking.

One of the main benefits of utilizing this video is its focus on everyday life situations. The speaker shares personal anecdotes, making it easier for learners to connect with the material. This connection fosters a more natural learning environment, allowing English learners to practice the shadowing technique, where they can imitate the speaker’s intonation, rhythm, and pronunciation.

Furthermore, by practicing along with the video, learners might find it easier to adopt a more confident and feminine way of expressing themselves. This can really boost their self-esteem and ability to communicate effectively in diverse settings.

Grammar & Expressions in Context

Throughout the transcript, the speaker uses several key structures and phrases that are great for learners to focus on:

“...my life genuinely started changing…” – This phrase highlights the present perfect tense, which is useful for discussing personal experiences and their ongoing impact.
“...start acting as the highest version of yourself” – The use of the gerund (“acting”) emphasizes the importance of continual actions in self-improvement.
“...you slept two hours late, but that's okay…” – The casual tone of this expression demonstrates how to manage discussions about challenges and setbacks while maintaining a positive outlook.
“...whatever that means for you” – This phrase invites personal interpretation and encourages empathetic communication.

By integrating these structures into your own speech using a shadowing app, you can practice more fluid conversations and develop a natural flow in English.

Common Pronunciation Traps

As you engage with the video, pay attention to some tricky words and phrases that might challenge your pronunciation:

“genuinely” – Watch for the flowing sound between the syllables; it can easily be mispronounced if not practiced.
“highest version” – The combination of the ‘h’ and ‘v’ sounds may be difficult for non-native speakers, so practice articulating them clearly.
“feminine” – This word often trips up learners, particularly with the stress on the second syllable; emphasize that part when practicing.
“multifaceted” – With multiple syllables, it's crucial to maintain clarity to ensure each part of the word is pronounced correctly.

Utilizing the shadowing technique while focusing on these words can significantly improve your pronunciation and understanding, making your english speaking practice more effective and enjoyable.

Grammar in this video

The structures the speaker uses most, with the exact words from the video:

Structure	In the video
Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — an action that started earlier and is still going on	have been saying · have been putting
Present perfect have/has + past participle — a past action that still matters now	has changed · I've always been · have been
Passive voice be + past participle — the focus is on what happens, not who does it	be done · is set · are done
Superlatives the -est / the most … — the top or bottom of a group	the highest · the best · the most common

What is the Shadowing Technique?

Shadowing is a science-backed language learning technique originally developed for professional interpreter training and popularized by polyglot Dr. Alexander Arguelles. The method is simple but powerful: you listen to native English audio and immediately repeat it out loud — like a shadow following the speaker with just a 1–2 second delay. Unlike passive listening or grammar drills, shadowing forces your brain and mouth muscles to simultaneously process and reproduce real speech patterns. Research shows it significantly improves pronunciation accuracy, intonation, rhythm, connected speech, listening comprehension, and speaking fluency — making it one of the most effective methods for IELTS Speaking preparation and real-world English communication.

Shadowing technique: read the full step-by-step guide →

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