Prática de Shadowing: How to Talk to Anyone (Even If You Don't Know What To Say!) - Aprenda a falar inglês com vídeo
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I'm going to show you how to talk to anyone without running out of things to say.
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I'm talking when you're stuck in awkward small talk with a co-worker, when you're meeting someone new and your mind goes blank,
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or when you've known somebody for years but still feel like you barely know them.
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As long as you follow the exact framework in this video, you'll never feel trapped again in conversations.
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Understanding this framework has allowed me to form a strong connection with 95% of the people
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that I've met as a keynote speaker and as a communication coach.
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But before I teach you the framework, I need to address the biggest misconception I hear when it comes to talking to people.
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Small talk.
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Everybody hates small talk.
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Yet, you've got to understand
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that small talk is the path you have to go through in order to get to big talk.
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The problem is staying in small talk.
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The problem is when people go, Hey, how's your morning been?
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Oh, good, good, good, good.
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How's the weather?
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I guess.
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I guess we're in the same place or experienced in the same weather.
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Haha, it's pretty hot outside.
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And the reason it gets weird and the reason it feels weird is because you're staying within the small talk category.
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If you want to talk to anyone but you're afraid of getting stuck in that small talk loop, then this framework will help you.
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It uses a communication technique called conversational threading.
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Conversational threading is a technique where through conversation you actively notice specific words or topics and details that the other person mentions.
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and then you pick one of those to respond to or expand upon to keep the conversation flowing naturally.
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Or if you're the person talking,
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you give enough detail in your answers so the other person has multiple pathways or conversational threads to take the conversation next.
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Most conversations end fast because there are no threads to pull on.
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This framework creates six threads.
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It's called High Low Buffalo.
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High means you're sharing something that's going good for you.
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What's going well for you?
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What's going really good for you?
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And then low is something that's not as good.
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Something that's not going so well for you, not so good for you.
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There's you being a little vulnerable.
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And then buffalo, this is something that's interesting about you.
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What's interesting about you?
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Share one interesting thing about you.
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And that's how you play High Low Buffalo.
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So say for example, we were going to play this game.
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The way I would frame it after a little bit of small talk is I'd say, Oh, hey, by the way, my name's Vin.
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It's so nice to meet you.
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Oh, my name's Ben.
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Great to meet you too, Vin.
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Ben, I learned from this communication guy named Vin Zhang.
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He's amazing.
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If you want details to join his class, I'll give them to you via email later.
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He's got a crazy game.
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He calls High Low Buffalo.
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We've worked together for three years, we barely know each other.
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Do you mind if we play this game?
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High means you share something that's going well for you in your life.
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Low means something that's not so good for you in your life.
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And then Buffalo is something interesting about you.
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Are you open to this?
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Yeah, sure, let's give it a go.
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Then you go first.
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So then what I do now is I share the three things.
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So if I was to play this with you right now so you can experience how it happens, I can say, you know, something that's going really well for me right now is I've handed in my final edit for my book.
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It's been a really challenging thing that I've done in my life, but I'm so proud of what I've been able to do and I'm just glad that chapter's over and done with.
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So I'm feeling really positive about that.
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Low for me?
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Low for me is that I've found that I've been working still too much in the last probably two to three months.
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I'm still getting into work so early and I'm leaving really late and I find myself my life's a little bit, it's not really well balanced.
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I feel like I'm not spending enough time with the kids and my wife.
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So yeah, I'm not feeling too great about that.
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And then the third thing I'll share with you is I just got two to cats.
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I've never been a cat person my entire life
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and what's interesting is that I've discovered this part of me
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that I've really fallen in love with cats
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and I used to be a dog person 100% I used to think
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that people who own cats are evil but I find myself really liking cats now.
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So that's been an interesting thing I found about myself.
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What I've just done there is I've created three threads okay
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so what I've done there is
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when you think of this conversation now what allows you to
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get out of the territory of small talk is I've created now three opportunities.
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The first thing I spoke about was my book.
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The second thing I've talked about was work, life, balance.
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And how it's a little bit off balance, right?
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So I'm off balance.
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And then the third thing I spoke about was the kittens.
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We adopted a couple of cats
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so what i've effectively done is i've created three brand new
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threads for this conversation to be able to move into whichever
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direction we want to go by the way as a quick note for those of you who are new here
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if you want to learn more about conversational frameworks that work in professional and personal environments
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I've created a free two-hour training that shares three of my top frameworks
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that I use every single day and even in this video.
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Make sure you click the link in the description
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or scan the QR code you see on screen if you want access to it.
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But here's what's brilliant, because what's brilliant is now they have a go.
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So now Ben has a turn.
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Oh, well, thank you for sharing that.
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That's awesome.
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Well, okay, my turn.
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What's going well for me is I just got a promotion, which is I'm so excited about.
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I've been waiting for this promotion for so long and finally I got the promotion, so I'm really proud of that.
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The second thing, something I don't feel
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so good about is I've been putting off a really hard
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conversation with one of the team members who's not really pulling their weight
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and I just keep putting it off
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and I'm having to do their work all the time and I'm not setting clear boundaries, so that's been really hard.
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And then something interesting about me is that I do archery.
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I do archery and that's what I do in my free time.
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I've loved archery for the last 10-15 years of my life.
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Okay, you see what's happened to you?
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Now there are not just three threads, now there are six threads in this conversation.
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Because if you think about what Ben just mentioned, first thing was that he got a promotion.
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Second thing that Ben mentioned was that he had a tough conversation.
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How he's avoiding the tough conversation.
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And then the final thing is archery.
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What we've effectively done now is we've got six different threads, six different directions that we can go in with this conversation.
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And I call it conversational threads because now there are so many different threads that we can choose to pull on.
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And these are threads that both parties actually care about.
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Otherwise, when you don't have this, what are you doing?
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You're shooting in the dark.
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We are now creating known knowns, things that people actually like talking about and are open to talking about.
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And we've done a really special thing here too, because we also got them to share something that's a little vulnerable.
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And that's such a critical factor into having deep conversations.
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Because once Ben and I both play this game, there are now six threads in front of us.
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And Ben can choose.
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Does he want to pull on one of my threads?
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Does he want to pull on the book?
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Does he want to pull on work-life balance?
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Does he want to pull on the kittens?
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Right?
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And I've got three choices with Ben.
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Do I want to pull in on the promotion or the tough conversation that he should be having?
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Or maybe even archery, because I do archery too you too and then you found something in common.
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This also increases the chances of you finding something that you have in common with the other person.
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Do you see how powerful this framework is?
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Is that it opens up so many threads and now it allows you to have a deeper conversation.
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So Ben might actually ask me, oh hey Vin, Ben tell me more about the work-life balancing because I'm finding myself working too much too.
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The result of me avoiding the tough conversation is that I'm also working more now too so I totally feel you.
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So what are you going to do about that Vin?
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Now I I get to talk more deeply on why work-life balance is important to me, what's my approach, how am I going to start to change things
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and it might lead to a really deep conversation to where to where Ben might have some insights
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that helps me get through that.
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Then I can ask Ben, Ben tell me more about the promotion.
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I heard people talking about him, tell me more about the promotion, how do you feel?
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How do you feel in the new role?
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This is what deepens connection and builds rapport.
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But that's how I approach conversations where I know I'm going
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to be sitting with a stranger for for the next 30 plus minutes.
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I will create this.
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And when you're playing this with three or four people, oh my goodness, the conversations go crazy because you've got now 15 threads.
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I've discovered that most people end up hating their jobs, not so much because of the job itself.
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They don't hate the job.
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They hate that they feel so disconnected in their job.
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They hate that they feel so isolated.
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They hate that they feel so alone.
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Whereas when you work with great people and you've got great connection, you love what you do.
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Sometimes even if what you do sucks a little bit, you still do it because you love the people.
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And the single biggest thing that people regret
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when they die is I wish I spent more time connecting with the people that I love.
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It's the single biggest regret.
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I wish I connected more.
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It's not like I worked harder or wish I had another car or wish I had this house.
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No, no, I wish I had deeper connections with the people that I love.
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So try this game with the people you love.
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Try this at dinner with the kids.
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Try it with your partner.
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Give it a go.
Sobre Esta Lição
Na lição de hoje, você vai aprender como iniciar e manter uma conversa com qualquer pessoa, mesmo quando não sabe o que dizer. Através de uma técnica chamada "conversational threading", você descobrirá como transformar uma conversa simples em um diálogo mais profundo. Vamos explorar o jogo High Low Buffalo, que ajudará você a compartilhar experiências pessoalmente significativas, criando laços mais fortes com os outros. Usar essa técnica pode ser uma maneira eficaz de praticar shadow speak e aprimorar suas habilidades de comunicação em inglês.
Vocabulário e Frases Chave
- Small talk: conversa superficial, muitas vezes iniciada em situações sociais.
- High Low Buffalo: um jogo que ajuda a explorar diferentes tópicos de conversa.
- Conversational threading: técnica para manter a fluidez da conversação, identificando tópicos relevantes.
- Vulnerabilidade: compartilhar algo pessoal ou negativo para aprofundar a conexão.
- Interesse: uma característica que torna você mais cativante em uma conversa.
- Conexão: o vínculo que se forma entre duas pessoas durante uma interação.
Dicas de Prática
Para maximizar seu aprendizado e melhorar no shadowing em inglês, siga estas dicas:
- Pratique ouvir atentamente: Concentre-se nos detalhes que as pessoas compartilham durante a conversa e procure identificar palavras-chave que você possa construir sobre.
- Repita em voz alta: Utilize o vídeo para praticar a técnica de shadow speech. Ouça o diálogo e tente imitar o tom e a velocidade da fala para melhorar sua pronúncia e entonação.
- Experimente o jogo High Low Buffalo: Se possível, jogue com um amigo ou colega. Isso não só tornará a prática mais divertida, mas também permitirá que você experimente a técnica em um ambiente informal.
- Seja curioso: Não tenha medo de fazer perguntas para aprofundar a conversa. Isso ajuda a puxar mais 'threads' e mantém a conversa fluindo.
- Grave suas práticas: Ouvir suas gravações pode ajudar você a identificar áreas de melhoria e a se sentir mais confiante ao falar inglês.
Com essas dicas e o uso da técnica do High Low Buffalo, você estará mais preparado para criar conexões significativas ao se comunicar em inglês. Continue praticando e aproveite sua jornada de aprender inglês com youtube!
O que é a Técnica de Shadowing?
Shadowing é uma técnica de aprendizado de idiomas com base científica, originalmente desenvolvida para o treinamento de intérpretes profissionais. O método é simples, mas poderoso: você ouve áudio em inglês nativo e repete imediatamente em voz alta — como uma sombra seguindo o falante com 1-2 segundos de atraso. Pesquisas mostram melhora significativa na precisão da pronúncia, entonação, ritmo, sons conectados, compreensão auditiva e fluência na fala.