Практика Shadowing: Psychology of People Who Have No Friends - Изучайте разговорный английский с YouTube
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Alright, imagine the scene.
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Alright, imagine the scene.
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Saturday night.
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You open Instagram and boom.
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Smack in the face.
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Other people's squads.
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The sound of glasses clinking.
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Group selfies with big grins.
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Accompanied by some cheesy caption like, Besties forever.
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Be honest.
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Do you ever feel a sting in your heart?
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Society keeps whispering in our ears.
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There.
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That is the peak of life.
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That the more friends you hang out with,
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the more connections you have,
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the more successful and VIP you are.
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Now, take a deep breath and look at your own Saturday night.
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Maybe you're alone in your room.
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Maybe your phone has been silent for two days, not a single ding.
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Even just the thought of having to reply to a group chat makes you feel instantly drained.
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If you tell someone, oh,
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I don't have a squad and I don't have a best friend either,
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I bet they'll look at you with a mix of pity and suspicion.
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They'll immediately slap a label on your forehead.
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Weirdo.
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Depressed?
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Or maybe poor social skills?
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They think you're glitched somewhere.
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But hold on.
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What if I told you that for a special group of people,
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this solitude isn't a failure?
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What if science proves that the brains of those who prefer being alone are actually better to perceive this world more deeply?
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Sound attractive yet?
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Sit down, we are about to smash the ridiculous stereotypes about loners.
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By the end of this video,
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you won't just accept your solitude.
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You might actually feel sorry for those who are always running out of breath chasing the crowd out there.
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Let's start.
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First, let's be fair.
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Why does having no friends make us feel a sharp pain?
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A tightening sensation like being punched in the gut.
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To understand this uncomfortable feeling,
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we have to rewind time about 200,000 years.
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You didn't miss here 200,000 years.
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That's when our ancestors, Homo sapiens,
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appeared and started shaping the brain you are using today.
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You have to remember this.
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Biologically, we humans are weak.
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No fangs, no claws, slow runners, thin skin.
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In that prehistoric jungle, any guy who went solo was basically signing his own death warrant.
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The only superpower that helped our ancestors survive was the pack.
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Being brothers meant someone watched your back while you slept.
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Someone shared a piece of meat.
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Being kicked out of the group wasn't just sad,
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it was a death sentence.
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Because of that, the human brain installed an extremely powerful siren system.
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Modern brain scanners have discovered a fascinating fact.
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When you are rejected or isolated by society,
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the brain region that lights up is identical to when you break a leg or cut your hand.
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That means, to our ancient brain,
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emotional pain and physical pain are one and the same.
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When you are alone, the brain immediately pumps stress hormones into your body.
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It forces you to be on guard.
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Danger!
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Danger!
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Why are you alone?
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Who is protecting you?
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It makes you restless.
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Unable to sleep.
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Conversely, whenever you squeeze into a crowd,
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the brain releases safety hormones,
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and your heart rate slows down.
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And that is why 90% of people out there crave belonging to a group.
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They aren't just looking for fun,
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they are looking for biological safety.
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So when the world sees you eating alone or going to the movies alone and acting totally chill,
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the primal instinct part of their brain screams,
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that guy is a freak.
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Why doesn't he need protection?
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But this is where it gets interesting.
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Evolution always creates exceptions.
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And who knows, maybe you are that brilliant exception.
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Let's see if that's true.
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So the million dollar question is,
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why do some people panic when alone while you feel like you can finally breathe a sigh of relief.
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The difference doesn't lie in personality,
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but in how your brain celebrates.
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There is an underground war between two factions,
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the dopamine addicts and the acetylcholine lovers.
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Let me explain this clearly.
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Focus now.
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People who love gathering and partying are usually addicted to dopamine.
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This is the chemical of external excitement.
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new people, hearing drama, loud music,
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it all pumps dopamine for them.
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To them, a crowd is a charging station.
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But you are different.
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People with few friends often have brains that are overly sensitive to dopamine.
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For you, a loud party isn't a reward, it's torture.
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It makes your system overload.
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After a social outing, do you find yourself exhausted, like a social hangover?
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You You need to hole up in your house for days to recover.
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Instead your brain is addicted to a different, smoother, classier substance, acetylcholine.
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While dopamine looks outward for joy,
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acetylcholine looks inward for peace.
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This substance helps you focus deeply,
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reflect, and enjoy the silence.
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When you sit alone reading a book,
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thinking, or simply watching the rainfall,
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you aren't depressed like people assume.
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You are bathing your brain in relaxation.
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You are getting high on the absolute focus that crowd addicts rarely get to taste.
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You don't lack joy.
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You're just running on a different type of fuel.
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A fuel that is cleaner,
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more durable, and much more premium.
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And now, let's be realistic.
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Let's look at friendship as an investment.
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The brutal truth is, friendship is very expensive.
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It doesn't just cost coffee money, it costs brain energy.
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You have to remember birthdays,
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listen to them whine about their exes, flatter each other.
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But for the loner, there is another huge fee,
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which is the acting fee.
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Be honest, how many times have you had to fake a smile when listening to a boring story?
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How many times did you have to nod and pretend to care when your head just wanted to go home and sleep?
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Most social interactions force us to wear a mask,
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and wearing that mask burns up your energy.
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People who choose to have few friends are usually picky investors.
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Subconsciously, you ask yourself, why must I burn 60% of my battery every day for people I only know casually?
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If the return on investment is too low, then quit playing.
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So where does that energy go?
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You pour it into deep work.
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You pour it into a rich inner world.
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Or pour it into one or two truly important soulmates.
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You aren't bad at relationships.
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You just don't like scattering loose change everywhere.
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You invest all your capital into the things that yield the highest profit, which is yourself.
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If this mindset is valuable to you,
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drop a like for Apex.
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One like from a person of taste is worth a thousand random likes.
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Okay, let me introduce you to a concept called the looking glass self.
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Roughly understood.
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Most people define themselves based on the reflection of others.
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Want to feel funny?
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Need a crowd to laugh.
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Want to feel valuable?
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Must count virtual likes.
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Unintentionally, they turn themselves into puppets.
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Happy or sad, it depends entirely on someone else's hands.
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But people without a squad are forced to live differently.
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When there is no mirror to lean on,
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you are forced to switch from looking out to looking in.
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Think about it.
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When you face frustration and have no friends to dump your emotional trash on,
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what do you do?
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You can't rely on anyone.
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You are forced to sit down yourself,
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analyze yourself, and heal your own wounds.
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This process isn't easy, but it forges a rare set of psychological armor for you.
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Absolute autonomy.
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You don't need to wait for the whole group to approve before buying a shirt you like.
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You don't need anyone to nod to know you're on the right track.
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Your self-esteem is solid because it isn't built on the quicksand of public opinion.
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While others live in fear of being boycotted,
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fear of being left out, you are immune.
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How can there be an out when you are the center of the universe you created?
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That isn't loneliness.
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That is peak freedom.
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But wait, we're adults here.
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Let's be honest.
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Don't be too quick to romanticize loneliness into something too cool.
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We have to ask a hard question.
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Is this solitude chosen by you,
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or is it because you are afraid?
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For some of you watching this video,
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I understand that having no friends isn't a life philosophy.
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It's a scar.
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Maybe you were the kid bullied at school.
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Maybe you once absolutely trusted someone called a best friend only to receive a painful stab in the back.
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After that shock, your brain automatically installed a ruthless formula.
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Humans equals pain.
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Therefore, you choose loneliness as a final defensive shield.
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You build concrete walls around yourself,
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not because you like being in the castle,
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but because you fear the enemy outside.
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You say, I don't need anyone.
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because admitting you need them sounds too risky.
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If you see yourself in that,
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I want to say, it's okay.
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That doesn't mean you are broken.
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It means you are a survivor.
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Your brain is just doing its correct biological function,
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protecting the owner from getting hurt again.
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But remember, the goal is for solitude to be a place where you rest,
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not a prison that confines you.
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Use this time to heal,
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not to run away forever, okay?
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Now, let's flip the issue.
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People often judge those who go alone as cold and unfeeling.
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But here is the ironic plot twist of nature.
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Those who like to hole up alone are often people with sky-high empathy scores.
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Sounds wrong, right?
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If empathy is good, why not like being around others?
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That's because you don't have thick skin like normal people.
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You are like an emotional sponge without a filter.
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The radar in your head operates at overly high power.
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See someone sad, you feel sad to your core.
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See someone anxious, your heart pounds as if it's your own problem.
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Now try putting that super sensitive radar at a drinking table of six people.
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Smashing into your intuition is a chaotic mess.
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Resentment, whining, insecurity, envy, fakeness, and judging eyes.
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While others just see fun,
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for a sensitive person like you,
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it is a full-scale attack on the nervous system.
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You unconsciously suck all that toxic energy into your body.
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The result?
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The party ends, they go home refreshed,
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while you drag yourself home with a head as heavy as if you just fought a war.
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That is why you are forced to withdraw.
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You choose to have no friends not because you are heartless or arrogant,
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but on the contrary because you care too much, feel everything too deeply.
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You staying away from the crowd is actually a mandatory survival mechanism.
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You don't hate people, you are just protecting your battery because it wears out too easily.
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Finally, let's look at history's Hall of Fame.
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Isaac Newton, Nikola Tesla, Beethoven,
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or even the giant Picasso.
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Do you think they spent their precious Friday nights going clubbing or nervously worrying about being unfollowed on social media?
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Not at all.
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They were great loners.
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Society today is busy chasing fast food dopamine,
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a few virtual likes, some empty social laughs,
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and then forgetting it all.
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But solitary souls are different.
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They don't hunt for temporary joy.
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They hunt for legacy.
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When you are alone, the brain switches to a mode called the default mode network.
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Sounds technical, but that is when the magic happens.
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In this world that is noisy to the point of suffocation,
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boredom is almost extinct.
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But boredom is the holy ground for creativity to sprout.
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If your hand is always scrolling on a phone and your ears are listening to gossip,
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where is the gap for a million dollar idea to squeeze in?
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When you boldly cut out useless socializing,
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you profit thousands of hours of life.
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In that absolute silence, you truly meet yourself.
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There is a great saying,
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you are the average of the five people you hang out with most.
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So what if you have no friend group?
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Congratulations.
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You aren't diluted by anyone.
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You are a perfect original.
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A limited version with no duplicates.
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So what does all this mean?
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If no one asks you out this weekend,
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please stop blaming yourself for being inferior.
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Simply put, you are playing a different game than them.
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While they are busy connecting,
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you are learning to stand on your own two feet.
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While they run after the noise,
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you are mining the power of silence.
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While they build a network of relationships,
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you are building your own character.
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There is a big difference between loneliness and solitude.
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Loneliness is the pain of being abandoned.
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Solitude is the pride of daring to stand alone.
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Next time someone asks why you talk so little or why you don't go out,
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no need to explain, no need to apologize.
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Just smile.
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Because you know you aren't missing out on any fun.
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You are just busy building a private empire in a world addicted to illusions.
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Okay, that's it for this video.
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If this resonated with you,
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there's a good chance you're wired a bit differently than the crowd.
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And that's exactly where your power lies.
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Don't go back to the noise just yet.
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Click the video on your screen to find out why your perspective is more unique than you think.
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I am Apex.
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Don't forget to subscribe so you don't miss any videos.
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Goodbye, and see you again.
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