ฝึกพูดภาษาอังกฤษด้วยเทคนิค Shadowing จากวิดีโอ: What to do when willpower doesn't work
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Hello everybody
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and welcome back to the psychology of your 20s the podcast
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where we talk through some of the big life changes and transitions of our 20s and what they mean for our psychology.
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Hello everybody welcome back to the show welcome back to the podcast new listeners old listeners wherever you are in the world.
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It is
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so great to have you here back for another episode as we of course break down the psychology of our 20s.
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Today we're going to be talking about the psychology of toxic habits.
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The little rituals that we you know we swear we're going to quit.
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The behaviors that we hide, that we justify, that we laugh off.
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The ones that make us promise to ourselves that tomorrow is going to be different and then unsurprisingly it's not.
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Now for you that could be procrastination, that could be smoking, that could be using your phone way too often,
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self -sabotaging, impulse buying, whatever it is this covers it all.
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I think what's so difficult about these toxic habits is that we do want to stop.
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We know that they are not what's best for us
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and we can't and I want to let you know it's not
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because you don't know any better and it's not
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because you don't care about yourself it's not
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because you don't have the willpower or because you're lazy
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or lack discipline it's
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because your brain is doing what it has trained to do
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it is performing a pattern rather than learning a new one i want to make it
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so clear this isn't a discipline discipline problem it's not a willpower problem as people may have you believe.
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It is deeply rooted in your psychology as you can expect
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but it also can be undone and rewired using that same psychology if we understand it.
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So today I'm going to give you
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that guide for breaking toxic habits plus four of the biggest mistakes we make
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when we try to change and what actually might help instead.
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Without further ado let's get into it.
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So let's firstly pin down what we really mean here.
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The idea of toxic habits is a very tidy phrase right
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and it can mean anything from I go to bed too late to I can't stop replaying the same relationship pattern.
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Let's give it some more shape.
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Firstly what is a habit?
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A habit generally refers to a behavior that is repeated regularly,
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often automatically, triggered by a cue and reinforced by a reward.
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You go to the gym every night at the same time
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because you get the same good feeling when the clock strikes six.
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You go because that's a pattern that your brain has learned through association.
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A toxic habit cycle refers to that same cycle but the behavior that is occurring is in some way negative or harmful.
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A habit becomes toxic when it crosses three thresholds and we call them the three C's.
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Number one, compulsion.
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You feel an urge to do it often without conscious thought.
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Number two, control.
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You cannot stop or limit the feeling.
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Number three, consequences.
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It costs you something.
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It costs you time.
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It costs you health, money, trust in yourself.
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It costs you relationships.
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There is something that you are exchanging that you don't necessarily want to, to continue performing this habit.
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Now, not every habit that we necessarily dislike is toxic, but a habit becomes toxic again when And the cost outweighs the comfort.
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When it starts to make your life feel smaller.
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That's like the best definition I can give you.
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One of the clearest signs that a habit has crossed over into something toxic is
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that you want to stop and you can't.
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Which has you questioning your ability to control yourself.
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You tell yourself this is the last time and you genuinely mean it.
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That's not the problem here.
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You genuinely want to do better.
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Maybe you even go a couple of days, a week without performing the habit.
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But then something happens.
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You have a really stressful day at work.
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You're really lonely.
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You're bored.
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And you're right back into it.
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This is because you're in the territory of what psychologists call the intention behavior gap.
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The intention behavior gap is basically the space between what we intend to do and what we actually do.
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A lot of the research actually suggests that intentions only predict around 30 to 40 percent of our behavior,
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meaning that simply wanting to do something,
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simply want to change is only a tiny fraction of the overall process and the more emotionally loaded the habit is,
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the more it stews you, numbs you, distracts you, comforts you, the wider this gap is going to be.
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When a habit is doing the job of regulating emotion, not just like occupying your time,
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it becomes psychologically really hard to break.
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You may find that, you know, your toxic habit rapidly increases when you're really stressed, you're anxious, you're isolated
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because it does feel good in response to a negative emotion
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it also equally feels bad afterwards as well the behavior it
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kind of gives with one hand it takes with the other
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that relief crash emotional arc i feel good i feel bad i feel good i feel bad
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that is the clearest marker of a toxic habit cycle like
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we said this really is an emotional process rather than a conscious one.
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You're not doing these behaviors because they are what's best for you or because they align with your values.
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You're doing it
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because it is a way to regulate internal emotional states rather than being able to make a choice
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that feels better for you.
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The emotional trigger because you've been performing the habit in response to it so often it has nowhere else to go.
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It has nothing else to comfort or soothe.
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This thing remains the one and only.
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Spending $100 when you feel terrible remains the only coping mechanism.
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Going out and drinking a bunch with your friends remains the only coping mechanism.
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Another sign that this is a toxic habit is the mental choreography that begins to form around the behavior.
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You start justifying it, you start hiding it.
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You start delaying thinking about it.
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You start giving yourself like timelines and deadlines for when you're going to quit.
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The amount of thinking around the behavior actually becomes larger than how much you're even performing the behavior itself.
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So you think a lot about drinking.
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You think a lot about your phone even when you're not on it.
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You think a lot about these toxic habits or behaviors even more than you're doing them and it just becomes this
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balloon that gets bigger and bigger and bigger in your mind and just pushes everything else out to the sidelines.
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Another subtle sign is also escalation.
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So this is something that you're using to emotionally cope.
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It occupies a huge part of your mental real estate and you notice it's getting a little bit more intense.
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The consequences are getting a little bit larger.
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This is not because you're spiraling, it's because the brain is adapting.
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It learns to expect the behavior and it learns to expect the emotional relief
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but as time goes by it needs more of the thing
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that you're providing it to feel that same level of numbness
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or pleasure or relief and so it just gets worse and worse and worse.
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These signs are important not just to label yourself
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or to label the habit but just to understand the reality of what's happening here.
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If any of this sounds familiar what I really want you to realize is
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that your habit has shifted out of the realm of conscious decision making into this space of automatic emotional coping
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and it's your brain doing what it's meant to do.
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It is repeating what has worked in the past to help you survive uncomfortable feelings.
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So this is the foundation of every habit, whether it's positive or not.
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Here is where we talk about, and we can talk about, this idea of the habit loop.
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This was made very famous by the book, The Power of the Habit, but there has been decades of research that supports what's happening here.
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The habit loop is basically what happens when we experience a trigger
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or a cue and respond in a way to receive a benefit.
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This is what's going on in your mind right now.
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This loop that you can't consciously see, but you are, you know, unconsciously stuck in.
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What's really interesting is that the research on habit loops has found
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that your brain doesn't care whether the reward is healthy or harmful.
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It only cares that it provides relief.
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This is where repetition begins.
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It's just chasing the thing that it has the easiest access to to make you feel better.
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The thing is, you can actually overcome that feeling if you provide your brain with an alternative.
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Before any habit became a toxic habit or became a habit at all, you had to actively choose the behavior
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that you were partaking in, right? somehow you stumbled upon this thing
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that made you feel better and you actively chose to partake in it
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but over time the repetition actually transferred the behavior into a completely different region of your brain called the basal ganglia. So
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when we begin with the habit it starts in the prefrontal
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cortex then it moves into this deeper part of our brain when our brain begins to associate it with relief.
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In particular it's the basal ganglia within it's called the dorsal striatum and this is what specializes in routines, in patterns, in automatic actions.
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What's happening here is basically just another form of neuroplasticity.
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Your brain is physically rewiring itself based on your experiences.
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Synaptic connections form when we continue to associate a behavior with a specific outcome.
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This actually has its own name.
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It's called Hebbian learning.
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It's named after Donald Hebb.
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Every time two experiences happen close together, for example, a feeling and an action, a cue and a behavior, behavior and relief, the brain links them.
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And the more they occur in sequence, the stronger that connection kind of becomes.
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So if periods of stress are followed by scrolling or loneliness is followed by texting, texting someone who isn't good for you,
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or social anxiety is followed by pouring another glass of wine
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or having a cigarette the brain learns that connection
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and here is the emotional part science often overlooks these feelings these habits persist
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because they are preventing us from feeling something worse
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that is really what this whole loop this whole pattern thing is bringing us to.
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The emotional need remains.
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The emotional pain remains.
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This habit loop is just creating like a layer of bubble wrap around the deeper emotion that you don't want to feel.
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And eventually the thing is, you are going to outlearn.
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Your brain is going to outlive the habit so that it no longer helps.
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That's why this escalation thing happens.
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That's why we have to keep seeking something bigger or newer
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or better or more intense to keep us from this emotion
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that the habit is trying to wrap up and soften and blunt.
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I want to be very, very clear.
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I can confidently say
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that all of us at some point in our lives have picked up a less than desirable habit for
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that very reason without even realizing.
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It's not unique to you.
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It doesn't make you weaker.
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It doesn't make you less than another person.
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We just need to understand how to approach them better.
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There are also some people who are just more vulnerable to developing certain habits and maybe you are one of these people.
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Again, not because there's something about you that is flawed but
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because of the way your brain and your emotions developed or operate to seek out comfort or to handle big emotions.
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So we're going to dive a little bit deeper to that in a second.
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Why are some people more prone to toxic habits?
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What are the alternatives to performing this toxic behavior loop after this job break?
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okay so why do toxic habits impact some of us more than others
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because all of us have
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that implicit habit loop system in our brain some people just
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find themselves unable to resist it more than other people
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and it's a combination of things like genetics of upbringing of trauma but you know, for the more emotionally sensitive among us, me included,
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sometimes it is purely just because the emotions that this habit is trying to bubble wrap run a little bit louder.
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We feel stress more intensely.
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Loneliness, it's not just that it's uncomfortable, it genuinely feels unbearable.
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Boredom feels horrendous.
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We refer to this as a high emotional level of reactivity or high emotional reactivity.
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And research shows
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that people who experience emotions more strongly who may be seen
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as more sensitive are more likely to use habits especially soothing ones to regulate numb or minimize those big big feelings
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For example, there was a study published in 2019 from Mastricht University, I think, in the Netherlands.
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And it found that participants who displayed higher cortisol reactivity, so stress reactivity, were actually more likely to fall on more automatic ingrained habits
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that they actually didn't want to perform rather than engage in flexible goal -directed decision making.
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I don't necessarily think that's a surprise, but I think it's just important to understand maybe that's why it is
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so hard for you to quit there's also the brain's reward system itself I think we typically think
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that every single one of us has the same brain has
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the same operating manual has the same hardware we should be
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able to do the same things we should be able to have the same level of wheel power
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and convert that into behavior that is just completely untrue We actually have differences,
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all of us, in how our brain signals dopamine.
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And that is controlled by two genes in particular, the DRD2 gene and the COMT gene.
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You can literally look these up.
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They influence dopamine regulation in our brains.
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They are switched on, switched off, different in all of us.
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And therefore, they regulate how strongly our brain responds to rewards, but also how strongly our brain just responds to emotions
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and we have follow -up research that shows
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that certain variants of these genes are associated with stronger reward -seeking behavior and faster reinforcement learning.
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You don't have to perform the habit actively as many times before it becomes you know subconscious or automatic.
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For example individuals who have more dopamine receptors do experience rewards more intensely in the moment.
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So they're going to go after it.
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They're going to chase it more.
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They also feel the absence of reward more painfully, which makes it so hard to stop.
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If all that sounds very complicated, basically all you need to know is that the decisions that you are making that you think are conscious, that you think are deliberate,
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that you shame yourself for performing even when you want to stop, sometimes the level of which you had a choice is not as great as you think it is.
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So that's the nature element as to why some people form toxic habits more than others.
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Let's talk about the nurture element, more specifically, the environment we grew up in.
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How does that influence toxic habit loops?
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You know, some of us learned that emotional expression wasn't a safe thing
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and it wasn't a welcome thing and it wasn't something that was going to be tolerated.
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Maybe you grew up in a household where feelings were ignored.
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They were mocked.
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They were punished.
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Maybe you were taught to be self -reliant before being taught how to self -regulate.
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Maybe you were bullied and you knew that an emotional reaction would just encourage the people bullying you.
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In those environments, we don't learn how to process emotions in a visible way.
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We learn how to manage them in a way that makes them invisible and that makes them our problem, not an outside problem.
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And often off the back of this, there's this deeply ingrained belief that has been shaped over many, many years that, you know,
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letting that emotional reaction out, letting people see it, will only hurt us more.
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Maybe we don't actually deserve to feel better.
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Maybe this is just how we are.
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This is just who we're going to be.
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We're going to be somebody who just keeps it all in.
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The barrier sometimes isn't just the desire to change.
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It's whether you feel worthy of change in the first place.
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And this belief shows up in really subtle ways.
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You know, you hesitate just before you want to try something new.
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You apologize for asking for more.
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You feel this familiar pull back into the same cycles
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because at least you know how they work the brain interprets this as familiar as as safe even
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when the familiar is draining us when a habit becomes tied to our identity
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or our sense of self
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or our sense of coping like i'm the type of person who you know is lazy
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so of course i'm going to be somebody who stays up
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to 3 a .m i'm the type of person who doesn't deserve love
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so of course i'm going to text my terrible terrible ex it becomes a lot harder to let go not
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because the behavior is pleasurable remember a toxic habit doesn't actually have to feel good it just has to provide relief
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but because it feels familiar
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and your brain is always going to choose the known over the unknown even
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when the known hurts this attachment to familiarity is often something that fuels one of the biggest mistakes we face when trying.
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to break certain habits.
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So with that in mind, let's talk about those big mistakes.
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What are the five things that we do that stop us from being able to change when we want to?
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Mistake number one.
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When most of us try to break a toxic habit, we tend to approach it with this really great intensity,
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a kind of this ends now idea.
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We suddenly decide like tomorrow will be different.
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this is going to be the time we're going to be stronger.
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We're going to be more disciplined.
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We're going to be more determined.
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And because we genuinely do mean it, that feels like enough.
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You know, you want it really bad.
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You want it bad enough this time.
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This is the time that things change.
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What I need you to know is that motivation is great, but it's more like a spark than a fuel source.
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And what often happens next,
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what often happens after this big promise is that life continues on and all those previous triggers come right back.
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And the thing is, is that as we encounter these same triggers, we actually don't have other skills or habits to manage.
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And so we repeat the same habit we swore we wouldn't in that moment because what else are we meant to do?
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And then also after we've done that, we feel a lot of blame.
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We feel a lot of shame that kind of creeps in.
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It makes it harder to change the next time.
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The truth is, is that you, you set yourself up to fail.
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You were just set up to fail by this approach, not because you didn't have the desire, but because you underestimated the power of, of a toxic habit.
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The first common pitfall is this.
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We believe that we can win through willpower alone.
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Willpower is great.
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It's a short -term resource.
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It's affected by things like sleep, by stress, by hunger, by hormones, countless things that we experience in our day -to -day life.
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It is not designed to carry us in the long term.
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So if you're relying on sheer effort alone, here is a way to do that better or to counteract this.
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Plan the alternative.
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You can't just expect yourself not to scroll if you literally don't have anything else in your house to do instead.
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you don't have a book that you're really into, if you don't have plans, if you don't have a project you're working on, have a plan B habit.
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If you're like really trying to break smoking, chew gum.
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Like that's what they always say.
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Have something that you're going to swap out to make it easier.
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If you know that you really want to drink less,
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make sure that you have non -alcoholic alternatives just completely withholding yourself from any kind of behavior will mean
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that the habit
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and the urge just become stronger another really powerful thing we can do is just adjust your environment
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so that the habit becomes harder to perform
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and the alternative becomes easier your brain loves the path of least resistance
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so create some resistance for things you don't want to do
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and reduce resistance for things that you do want to engage in.
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If alcohol isn't in the house, you know, you can't just reach for it.
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If your phone is in the other room, you can't hit snooze.
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If you stock the fridge full of like really yummy, delicious foods, you're not going to order takeout.
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So by creating less friction between you and your ability to carry out these more positive alternative habits,
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it just increases the likelihood that they will be done.
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The second big stumbling point that we tend to do is we start too big.
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It's similar to the previous one, but we set out to be perfect and we set very dramatic rules.
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We often also set multiple rules.
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We go cold turkey.
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We outwardly at the start line promise we're never going to do it again
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and we plan too many big things that we're going to do in advance.
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We as humans don't respond well to dramatic change.
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We respond well to consistency and to baby steps.
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So when the bar is set at perfection, the first slip up is always going to feel really detrimental, and it's going to feel like,
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why did I even try?
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That's going to mean that you're just going to abandon ship, not because you're incapable of change,
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but because you've made up these terms for what change looks like that are really hard to sustain.
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So the alternative to this, the alternative to starting too big is to start incredibly small and imperfectly.
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And that begins with just one rule.
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Make one really specific rule for yourself about the behavior
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or the habit that you want to change that you know is doable.
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So I won't vape until midday.
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I can scroll, but only up to three hours instead of four.
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I won't drink on weekdays.
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I can buy the things I want, but only after I've sold something else I already own.
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One rule, one tiny rule that just moves the needle a little bit,
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that just minimizes the friction of beginning and creates like a platform that you can build better habits on.
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the third pitfall is
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that a lot of us try to change the behavior without addressing the emotion
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that drives it we decide to stop doom spending
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and we don't ask what feeling am i avoiding we say we're going to stop drinking alcohol
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but we never investigate why it is we feel so socially anxious
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or why it is that our body feels the urge to to drink or to be soothed in that way.
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If the habit is soothing something within us,
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removing the habit without replacing the need for the soothing effect does leave a really big void
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and the brain is always going to again return to the fastest source of relief and the source that it knows.
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The alternative is that you confront the habit by asking yourself what am I avoiding?
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By really not just trying to address the symptoms but the root.
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Here are some questions that you can kind of sit with, maybe now, maybe later, that might help you investigate what's really happening below the surface.
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Number one, what am I afraid might happen if I don't engage in this behavior?
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And why does this outcome scare me so much?
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Secondly, what need is this habit trying to meet?
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is it the need for comfort connection control distraction are there other ways
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that I can give that to myself
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and how could I try those third what would it look like to face
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that uncomfortable feeling for just 30 seconds without acting on it is
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that something that I'm that I'm capable of
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and like before what's your plan b what would an alternative to all of this to this habit look like
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and could it satisfy me enough just to not perform the habit I really want to.
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This brings me to my final point, the final pitfall of trying to change a toxic habit, which is
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that many of us put all of our attention on stopping the old habit rather than on cultivating a new one.
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We focus on addition purely through subtraction rather than through addition rather than filling our life with other things
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that feel equally amazing.
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What all these mistakes, pitfalls have in common is
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that what we're really asking ourselves to do is to fight ourselves
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and to fight against the part of us that is a lot stronger than our current conscious self,
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the unconscious parts of us that have had years and years of experience, years and years of repetition to form.
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And we assume that discipline is stronger than a habit, that intention is stronger than conditioning, that we can think our way out of something
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that the nervous system has learned is an emotional necessity for us and has learned that over many, many years.
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The thing is we learn through small steps.
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We learn through consistency.
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We learn through being incredibly imperfect and just gentle with ourselves.
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Let's talk about some of the other ways that we can go about this that are going to prove more effective.
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You've probably heard about this before, but it's known as identity -based change.
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And it's another thing that is going to be really, really helpful.
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Behavior follows identity, not the other way around.
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When you begin to see yourself as someone who is capable of change, that is when you are actually going to change.
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That is when the behavior is going to begin to align with the story that you are telling yourself.
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Not perfectly, not instantaneously but gradually
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if you stay within the confines of I'm just someone who
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does this I'm just someone who jumps back into bed with
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my ex after a few drinks I'm just someone who is
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impulsive I'm just someone who is lazy I'm just someone who
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doesn't have them in them you're not going to change
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because you're fighting against how you view yourself
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and the deep truths you have about your identity so you need to challenge those parts and replace them with new ones.
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I want you to write down five statements about the kind of person you want to be
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and the kind of person who would beat this habit and why they are the same.
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For example, I want you to deliberately write down statements right now like, I'm someone who values my health.
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I'm someone who is in control.
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I am someone who is a good spender.
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Whatever it is that aligns with your goal convince yourself show yourself repeat to yourself that you want somebody
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who by your very nature by your very personality
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and identity would do this thing
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if you've read atomic habits you will know this sounds very very familiar
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but the science and the research backs it up
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when a new behavior feels more aligned with your identity than
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an old behavior you are more likely to do it another
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way we can teach the brain a new path a better path is through mental rehearsal there is
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so much research on the overlap of neural circuits that are used when imagining
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and actually carrying out certain behaviors basically thinking about something you know it's not as good as doing
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but it actually might be pretty close
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so there was a 2018 paper from researchers at the university of colorado in boulder
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that found that mentally imagining a fear -inducing situation helps us process
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and unlearn that fear just as effectively as actually seeing it and actually living through it.
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Another study found that people who imagined themselves lifting weights,
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who mentally practiced and rehearsed lifting weights without actually even doing something, saw an increase in muscle mass, saw an increase in strength,
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saw an increase in how much they were able to lift purely by thinking about it.
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You think that you can only break this toxic habit through action.
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You can do it by picturing yourself encountering a trigger and doing something else.
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Encountering a trigger and not taking the route you don't want to take.
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You can just do it by imagining yourself being confident, imagining yourself being capable, imagining yourself choosing the alternative.
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And so when that moment does inevitably come, when you are met with a trigger, because of course you will,
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your nervous system isn't shocked because mentally it has a script that it can follow.
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It's encountered this problem before in your imagination and in your mind.
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That is an incredibly powerful act that you can do right now, that you can practice without needing anything on you, anything around you, just in the moment.
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And I think it really brings us to like a deep theme that comes through all of this.
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If you want to fail at breaking a toxic habit, the easiest way you can fail is by looking for perfection
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and wanting it so badly that you don't put any other guidelines,
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any other skills, any other helping cues in your environment and in your hand.
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All you think about is how much and how deep your intention is to change.
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You don't actually help yourself change the structures around you that will allow you to.
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So what we really want and what I really want from you is just to practice this in the smallest, smallest of ways possible to begin with.
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Give yourself the confidence by doing, by resisting for just a second to show that, you know, after a second, there's two seconds.
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After two seconds, there's five seconds.
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I can keep resisting and I can keep changing the neurology
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and the plasticity and the repetition of the habit that is built around this behavior.
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I think it's also worth knowing and remembering that there will be days when the old habit wins.
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That's just part of it.
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And this is where the most important part of it all comes in.
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Knowing that relapse, if we can call it that, reverting to an old habit, that is not the end of the process.
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It is part of the process.
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It is an essential step.
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The brain doesn't unlearn a pathway in one quick motion, no matter all the things that we've talked about, even if you do them all, sometimes you just have to be patient
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and sometimes you just actually have to fail in your objective
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to beat this habit to know where you went wrong
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and to know what to do the next time remember
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that throughout all of this what you're really trying to do is just take care of a version of you
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that once needed this habit to survive that maybe still needs that habit to bundle up,
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avoid, numb out really hard emotions.
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You didn't set out to do this habit, to perform this habit, to become addicted to this habit because you wanted to.
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You did so out of a need for survival.
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You did so out of a need for emotional preservation.
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And the version of you that started and that needed
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that the most deserves a lot of love and a lot of understanding
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and not shame and not this idea that you're just too lazy to quit
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or that you just don't have what it takes
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so you're not strong enough like that's not going to get
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you anywhere other than into a shame spiral you are completely capable of doing this through a pathway of love
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and through a pathway of gentleness and just persistence So I really hope that this episode was helpful.
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I hope it helped you think about the habits
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that you have a little bit differently
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and understand the psychology behind where they came from and I guess how to make them disappear.
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If you enjoyed this episode, make sure that you share it with a friend.
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Make sure that you are following us along wherever you are listening
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and give us a five star review if this was helpful, if you feel called to do so.
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I also want to thank our research assistant Libby Colbert for her contributions to this episode this episode
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if you are listening anywhere other than youtube you should know
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was on youtube as well we are now doing video episodes
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so if you prefer to watch
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and listen rather than just listen you can find us at
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the psychology of your 20s on youtube you can also find us at
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that psychology podcast on instagram
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but with all in mind until next time stay safe be
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kind be gentle to yourself good luck with whatever habit you are trying to break
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and we will talk very very soon
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วิดีโอนี้เหมาะกับใคร?
วิดีโอนี้เหมาะสำหรับผู้ที่ต้องการ ฝึกพูดภาษาอังกฤษ โดยเฉพาะผู้ที่กำลังเผชิญกับอุปสรรคในการสร้างนิสัยที่ดี เช่น การเลิกใช้โทรศัพท์มากเกินไป หรือการเลิกทำสิ่งที่ไม่ดีต่อสุขภาพ ผู้ชมที่มีความสนใจในการพัฒนาจิตใจและพฤติกรรมของตนเองจะได้ประโยชน์จากเนื้อหานี้ นอกจากนี้ยังเหมาะสำหรับผู้เรียนที่ต้องการ เรียนภาษาอังกฤษจากวิดีโอ เพื่อปรับปรุงความเข้าใจและการออกเสียงให้ดีขึ้น
คำและสำนวนที่ควรจดจำ
- Compulsion: ความต้องการที่จะทำบางสิ่งโดยไม่สามารถควบคุมได้
- Control: ความสามารถในการหยุดหรือจำกัดพฤติกรรมที่ไม่ต้องการ
- Consequences: ผลที่ตามมาจากการกระทำที่ส่งผลกระทบต่อชีวิต เช่น เสียเวลา หรือสุขภาพ
คำเหล่านี้เป็นคำสำคัญที่ช่วยให้คุณเข้าใจแนวคิดและพฤติกรรมต่างๆ ที่เกี่ยวข้องกับการสร้างนิสัยใหม่ คุณควรนำคำเหล่านี้ไปใช้ในบทสนทนาหรือการฝึกพูดเพื่อเพิ่มความคล่องแคล่วในภาษาอังกฤษของคุณ
วิธีการออกเสียงให้ถูกต้อง
การออกเสียงในวิดีโอนี้มีความน่าสนใจและให้โทนเสียงที่ชัดเจน คุณควรฝึกฟังและเลียนแบบเสียงพูดของผู้พูดเพื่อ ปรับปรุงการออกเสียงภาษาอังกฤษ ของคุณ โดยเฉพาะการเน้นเสียงในคำสำคัญ เช่น "toxic habits" และ "willpower" ซึ่งเป็นคำที่ถูกใช้บ่อยในบริบทนี้
การใช้เทคนิค shadowspeak หรือการเลียนแบบเสียงพูดสามารถช่วยให้คุณได้ยินจังหวะและอารมณ์ของภาษาอังกฤษได้ดียิ่งขึ้น และทำให้การเรียนรู้ของคุณมีประสิทธิภาพมากขึ้น คุณสามารถเริ่มต้นได้ที่ shadowing site ต่างๆ หรือฝึกพูดกับเพื่อนเพื่อเพิ่มความมั่นใจในการใช้ภาษาอังกฤษ
เทคนิค Shadowing คืออะไร?
Shadowing เป็นเทคนิคการเรียนรู้ภาษาที่ได้รับการรับรองทางวิทยาศาสตร์ พัฒนาขึ้นสำหรับการฝึกนักแปลมืออาชีพ วิธีการนี้เรียบง่ายแต่ทรงพลัง: คุณฟังเสียงภาษาอังกฤษจากเจ้าของภาษาและพูดตามทันที — เหมือนเงาที่ตามผู้พูดด้วยช่วงเวลาห่าง 1-2 วินาที การวิจัยแสดงว่าเทคนิคนี้ปรับปรุงความแม่นยำในการออกเสียง ทำนองเสียง จังหวะ การเชื่อมเสียง การฟังเข้าใจ และความคล่องแคล่วในการพูดได้อย่างมีนัยสำคัญ