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The Ben Franklin Effect.
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We often assume that doing favors for others makes them like us, but psychological research suggests the opposite.
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People actually grow to like you more when they do a small favor for you.
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The story behind the effect comes from Benjamin Franklin himself.
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During his political career, Franklin faced a strong rival who disliked him.
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Instead of trying to win the man over with gifts or arguments, Franklin simply asked to borrow a rare book from him.
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The rival agreed.
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Soon after, they became friends.
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Psychologists explain this through the lens of cognitive dissonance.
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When someone helps you, even if they initially dislike you, their brain faces a contradiction.
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Why would I help someone I don't like?
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To resolve this discomfort, their mind adjusts the story.
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I must like them, or else I wouldn't have helped.
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This isn't just theory.
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A 1969 study by Jecker and Landy found
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that participants who were asked to return money directly to a
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researcher rated him as more likable than those who were not asked for anything.
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How to apply this practically?
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Ask for small favors, nothing intrusive.
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For example, can you help me choose between these two ideas?
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Or do you know a good cafe nearby?
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Or could you give me your honest opinion on this?
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people like feeling useful insightful
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and needed by allowing them to invest a little effort into
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your relationship you open the door to an authentic connection you don't need to be loud impressive
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or fake you just need to let others show up for you
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and their own psychology will help deepen the bond two mirroring
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mirroring is one of the most powerful silent tools for connection
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it's not about obvious copying it's about subtly syncing your body language tone and energy with the person you're interacting with.
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Humans are wired for connection through mimicry.
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Psychologists Tanya Chartrand and John Barg called this the chameleon effect.
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We naturally imitate each other without even realizing it.
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When you mirror someone, their brain interprets it as, I feel safe here.
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It builds unconscious trust.
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How to use mirroring properly.
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Posture.
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Match their level of openness and relaxation.
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If they lean back, you lean Lean slightly back.
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If they lean in, you lean forward a bit.
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Reflect subtle hand movements or head tilts.
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Keep it natural.
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No robotic copying, speech pace and tone.
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Speak slower if they are slow.
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Add energy if they are hyped.
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Match their rhythm, not their exact words.
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Facial expressions.
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Smile when they smile, nod when they nod.
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Mirror emotions, not just actions.
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Done naturally, mirroring creates a deep, invisible link between you and the other person.
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It's not manipulation, it's harmonization.
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For introverts, this is a gift.
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You don't need to dominate the conversation.
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You just need to tune in.
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Three, the name drop.
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One of the simplest and most powerful ways to create a connection is by using a person's name.
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The sound of our own name triggers activity in the medial prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain associated with self -identity.
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Hearing your name feels personal.
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It commands attention and builds emotional resonance.
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How to use names effectively.
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Start strong.
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Use their name when greeting them.
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Validate during conversation.
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For example, That's a really thoughtful point, Sarah.
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Close with warmth.
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For example, Talk to you soon, Marcus.
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The goal isn't to overuse their name, it's to weave it naturally into key emotional moments.
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For introverts especially, this technique builds depth and trust without the need for high energy performance.
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4. The Spotlight Effect Have you ever walked into a room and felt like everyone was watching you, judging how you move, how you speak, every little detail?
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It's not real.
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It's called the Spotlight Effect, a psychological illusion.
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In a 2000 study, participants wore embarrassing t -shirts and assumed everyone noticed.
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In truth, hardly anyone did.
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Because the reality is simple.
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People are too focused on themselves.
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They're caught up in their own worries, not yours.
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Once you internalize this, you gain an advantage.
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You stop playing defense.
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You start playing offense.
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You can move freely, speak, act, take risks without the weight of imagined judgment.
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While others are stuck inside their own heads, you stay clear, calm, and strategic, you're not trapped under the spotlight, you're operating behind it.
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And here's the irony.
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When you stop trying to manage how you're perceived, when you stay relaxed and direct, you become more noticeable.
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Because true confidence stands out in a world full of self -consciousness.
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So remember, most people aren't thinking about you, they're thinking about themselves.
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You're free to move, speak, speak, speak, speak, speak, speak, speak, speak, speak, speak, and lead without fear.
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Five, the foot -in -the -door technique.
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Let's talk about how to make people say yes before they even realize they're agreeing.
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It's called the foot -in -the -door technique, and it's one of the oldest persuasion tactics in psychology.
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You don't start by asking for what you really want.
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You ask for something small, something harmless, something no one wants to say no to.
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Because here's how the brain works.
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Once someone agrees to a small request, They're way more likely to agree to a bigger one later.
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Stanford ran a legendary study in the 60s.
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They asked homeowners to put a massive, ugly, drive -safe sign in their yard.
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Most said no, but when they first asked them to put a tiny sticker in the window.
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Then came back later with the big request.
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76 % said yes.
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The reason?
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Humans strive for consistency policy.
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Once someone says yes to something small, they are psychologically inclined to continue aligning with that behavior.
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How to apply this?
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Instead of asking someone new to hang out for hours, ask for a two -minute favor.
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Instead of pitching your full idea at work, ask for feedback on one small part.
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Each small yes builds momentum.
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For introverts, this strategy removes pressure.
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It creates organic progress without needing to push or over cell.
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6. The touch triad, use respectfully.
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Touch is one of the earliest ways we communicate trust and belonging.
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It triggers oxytocin release, the hormone associated with bonding, affection, and emotional safety.
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When used appropriately, brief touches can deepen connection more powerfully than words.
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But context matters.
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Touch must be respectful, welcome, and culturally appropriate.
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Three safe forms of connectional touch.
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The shoulder tap, a brief touch when greeting or emphasizing a positive point.
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The arm brush, a light fleeting contact on the forearm during moments of shared laughter or agreement.
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The goodbye pat, a gentle tap on the upper back when parting ways, signaling warmth and goodwill.
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Seven, body language mastery.
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Before you even speak, your body is already communicating everything.
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If you want people to feel safe around you, you, trust you, and open up.
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Mastering a few essential nonverbal cues is critical.
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Key principles to embody.
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Relax your shoulders.
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Keep your chest open and your stance grounded.
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Avoid crossing your arms or shrinking into yourself.
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Openness signals safety and receptivity.
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Genuine smiling.
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A real smile reaches the eyes, signaling authenticity and openness.
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It lowers barriers instantly.
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Natural nodding.
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Nodding during conversation shows engagement and encourages the speaker to open up more.
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Gentle leaning.
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Leaning slightly forward at moments of importance communicates attentiveness and empathy.
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Eight, eye contact triangles.
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Eye contact, when overdone, can feel intense, even predatory.
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When underdone, it can signal disinterest or insecurity.
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The solution lies in the eye contact triangle technique.
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How to practice it.
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Focus on one eye for three to five seconds.
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Shift gently to the other eye for another three to five seconds.
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Then glance briefly at their mouth before returning to the eyes.
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This technique prevents staring, keeps the interaction natural, and builds a deeper sense of engagement.
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It draws the other person in without overwhelming them.
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For introverts, it offers a calm, confident way to maintain presence without feeling locked into intense, rigid eye contact.
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Nine, join third -place spaces.
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Sociologist Ray Oldenburg coined the term third -place to describe environments that are neither home, first place, nor work, second place,
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but vital spaces of community and connection.
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Cafes, parks, libraries, bookstores, and hobby clubs are all examples.
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Third places offer a low -pressure backdrop where interactions happen organically.
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There is no need for loud self -promotion or forced small talk.
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In third places, you meet people through shared environments, not social posturing.
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How to integrate third places into your life.
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Find spaces aligned with your interests.
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Visit regularly enough to become a familiar face.
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Stay open, but patient.
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Meaningful conversations often begin with small, unplanned exchanges.
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Connection does not always need to be chased.
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Sometimes it needs only to be allowed.
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10. Become the connector.
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The final and perhaps most powerful technique is to shift your mindset from getting connection to creating connection.
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Become the bridge between others.
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Notice common interests, complementary strengths, and shared dreams.
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Introduce people to one another, facilitate conversations offer opportunities for others to shine.
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When you become a connector, your value multiplies silently.
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You no longer need to demand attention.
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You become trusted, respected, and remembered.
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You are not just another voice in the crowd.
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You are the reason the crowd feels like a community.
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Videodan daha az kullanılan 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
- mirror /ˈmiɹɚ/ (isim) — ayna, gözgü. A smooth surface, usually made of glass with reflective material painted on the underside, that reflects light so as to give an image of what is in front of it.
- technique /tɛkˈniːk/ (isim) — teknik. The practical aspects of a given art, occupation etc.; formal requirements.
- spotlight /ˈspɒtˌlaɪt/ (isim) — spot lambası. A bright, directional light or lamp, especially one used to illuminate the focus or center of attention on a stage.
- tone /ˈtəʊn/ (isim) — ton. A specific pitch.
- psychology /saɪˈkɑ.lə.d͡ʒi/ (isim) — ruh bilimi. The study of the human mind.
- psychological /ˌsaɪ.kəˈlɑː.d͡ʒɪ.kl̩/ (sıfat) — psikolojik. Of or pertaining to psychology.
- trigger /ˈtɹɪɡɚ/ (isim) — [4, 5] tetikleme, tetik. A finger-operated lever used to fire a gun.
- rival /ˈɹaɪvəl/ (isim) — rakip. A competitor (person, team, company, etc.) with the same goal as another, or striving to attain the same thing. Defeating a rival may be a primary or necessary…
- gentle /ˈd͡ʒɛntl̩/ (sıfat) — şefkatli. Tender and amiable; of a considerate or kindly disposition.
- psychologist /ˌsaɪˈkɑl.ə.d͡ʒɪst/ (isim) — psikolog. An expert in the field of psychology.
- warmth /wɔɹmθ/ (isim) — sıcaklık, sıcaklıklar. A moderate degree of heat; the sensation of being warm.
- participant /pɑːɹˈtɪsəpənt/ (isim) — katılımcı, iştirakçı. One who participates.
- nod /nɑd/ (fiil) — kafa sallamak. To incline the head up and down, as to indicate agreement.
- greet /ɡɹiːt/ (fiil) — selamlamak. To welcome in a friendly manner, either in person or through another means such as writing.
- align /əˈlaɪn/ (fiil) — hizalanmak, hizaya geçmek. To form a line; to fall into line.
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
- ask for (fiil) — istemek. To request; to order.
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