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So, how do you actually get him obsessed with you?
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Not answering your text messages within minutes or telling you how gorgeous you are obsessed.
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No, I mean actually obsessed, like staying up at night because he can't stop thinking about you, obsessed.
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Consistently showing up even in times that you didn't ask him to, obsessed about you.
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Taking initiative and making it clear that you are exactly who he wants to be with, obsessed.
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The unfortunate truth is most of the things that women do to try
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and create that feeling of obsession from him are the exact things that prevent it from ever happening.
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And after talking to and helping hundreds of women go from feeling underappreciated
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and a placeholder and invisible to totally adored and cherished and loved without even having to ask,
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I've discovered that the women who naturally attract devotion and consistency from men are not doing more.
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They're doing something completely different, which is why I'm making today's podcast.
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To show you why most relationships end up feeling imbalanced, why you keep attracting the same dynamic no matter how much you change who you're dating,
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and what it actually takes to become the woman a high -quality man genuinely cannot get out of his head.
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So let's dive in.
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Let's talk about what obsession actually is and what it is absolutely not.
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let's get into it.
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Because I think a lot of women say that they want a man who is obsessed with them.
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I know it because whenever I post the word obsessed on TikTok, it goes viral.
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But what they actually mean is that they want a man who is devoted and certain.
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And those are very different things from what social media calls obsession.
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Real obsession from a high quality, grounded, masculine man that you want is not possessive or jealous or controlling.
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It's not him checking your phone or panicking when you go out or trying to isolate you from other people.
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That's insecurity, fear, and an anxious attachment at its extreme.
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A real obsession from a stable man that you want looks calm.
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It just looks like presence.
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It looks like him consistently initiating, making real plans, and showing up without being reminded, thinking about you when you're not asking him to.
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I know revolutionary.
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It's not like loud, it's just steady commitment from him.
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It's just basically him deciding that he's sure about you and that's the woman for me and moving accordingly, not too much to ask.
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He basically pursues you, protects the connection and invites and basically invests into you without being pushed or prodded.
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And the important part here is that the kind of devotion is not manufactured through games or tactics.
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You cannot hack it, you cannot trick it really, and you cannot pretend for the long run.
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It's a natural response to a specific type of feminine energy
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that most women have actually been conditioned out of by today's society.
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There is a difference between a man who is addicted to the chase
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and a man who is genuinely devoted to you in the relationship.
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The man addicted to the chase is triggered by anxiety.
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He likes unpredictability.
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He likes the dopamine of not knowing whether he's got you.
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He likes the push and pull effect.
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He likes the drama.
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He's a little drama queen he doesn't actually like you he likes the stimulation you give him from being hot and cold
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and that's why as soon as things calm down
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he gets bored again the genuinely devoted man is not triggered
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by chaos from you he's triggered by self -possession on his own accord
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he is drawn to the groundedness of the relationship he's activated by a woman he's emotionally invested in
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and stable with who's available and that's okay for him.
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He doesn't want like a puzzle he needs to solve.
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He wants a partner to be with.
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And most women completely misunderstand what creates that feeling in a man over the long run.
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Because popular dating advice teaches women to manufacture obsession and it's all over online.
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Like don't talk to him and then he'll chase you, etc. Play hard to get.
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Only one daily response.
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Withhold affection.
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Make him jealous.
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Act busy.
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Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, post strategically, don't post this, post that.
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And yes, that might actually trigger anxiety in someone.
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It works, right?
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But a high quality man that you actually want, that you actually want attention from, it won't work on him.
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He can feel when something is unrealistic and a tactic, and he can feel when it's calculated and fake and you cannot sustain it.
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And a grounded man who does want that won't compete with your strategy.
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The women who actually inspire devotion are not the ones who are playing games.
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They're genuinely fulfilled in their lives.
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And that is the first clue.
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They're genuinely selective about who they let close to them.
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And they're genuinely unbothered by outcomes.
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That's a big one.
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They don't pretend.
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They're actually unbothered by outcomes, not by people and situations.
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There's a really big difference in the two of those.
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A man can feel the difference between a woman who is pretending not to care
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and a woman who truly has a life that is
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so full and is grounded in a sense of self and a mission.
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And.. he can feel the difference in that and feel the tension.
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A woman like that truly feels magnetic.
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One feels like she has a purpose that she's having in her life.
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The other feels like she's simply not available and is pretending and acting.
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One feels manufactured like a manipulation, and one feels realistic and authentic and adds real value to your life.
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And this is the core truth that a lot of women don't want to hear, or maybe they miss it.
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You can't perform your way into being the woman he's obsessed with, no matter what you do.
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Like when you send me the DM, there is nothing I can do to make him obsessed with you.
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He cannot wear a costume, wear the right lipstick, write the right script.
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You just have to become her.
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You have to just be her.
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Because obsession from a grounded man is not a reaction to what you do.
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It's a reaction to who you naturally are.
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You see?
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It's how you move.
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It's how you regulate yourself, not using him by the way that's the clue it's how you don't collapse
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when he pulls back it's how you don't change your personality
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or character when he changes it's how you stay steady in your own life
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and body even if he has some kind of different mood
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that is the attractive part about you it makes him want to match
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that energy and this is where most women get stuck with this whole dynamic
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because they keep trying new tactics with new men and going hot and cold and doing this and that new strategies, boundaries, approaches, personas.
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I'm going to this and that one, the other one, it's not going to work.
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Dynamics keep repeating because you can't keep up the act, which brings me to the real pivot of the situation.
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It's not about tactics.
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It's about understanding why you keep ending up in the same dynamic no matter how many times
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you start over with somebody new.
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Face it, it always ends up the same, right?
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And that's where we're going into next, which is why you keep attracting the same dynamic.
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And I guess this is the uncomfortable part to talk about.
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You keep attracting the same dynamic, even when the man changes, it's a different face, different job.
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It was Gary, now it's
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Barry, different city, but somehow it's the same story repeating itself.
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And this is the part that requires some emotional maturity on your part.
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Ready, Jessica?
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Because the pattern is rarely about him, is it?
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It's about the energy and the identity you're bringing to the table that people interact with and accordingly react to.
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The nervous system is not neutral.
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It acts like a filter.
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It unconsciously scans for what feels familiar, not what's healthy, familiar.
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And that's the concept in psychology called repetition compulsion.
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It comes from psychoanalytical theories and it essentially explains why we unconsciously create familiar emotional environments in our lives,
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even when they hurt us, yeah?
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Your nervous system does not prioritize happiness, it prioritizes familiarity.
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And if you learn early on that love requires overgiving, you will repeat that again.
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If you learn that connection requires effort and performance and fakeness, you will repeat that again.
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And if you've learned that you need to earn closeness, you will unconsciously create that dynamic even with someone new because it what feels familiar.
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And this is why a woman operating from anxiety over giving
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or over scroll overdo everything she will attract the same type of man who will reinforce
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that behavior because that's what she's used to not because she deserves
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that not because she isn't valuable or a or a terrible person
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but because that dynamic feels familiar to her body she will choose the same again research on attachment shows
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that anxious attachment tends to pair with what avoidance we've talked about it it's a polarity it's one pursues one,
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one distances and the one that chases keeps backing the other one away.
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The dance feels electric because it's unstable and because it's familiar.
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And here's the thing, right?
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Changing the man does not change the pattern.
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You can take your nervous system into every room and you will attract the same type of thing.
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You can take your defaults into any type of date
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and you will repel the person who's not like that and attract the same one until something in you changes.
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I know so many women who have had this exact situation.
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You've had three months into something new on the surface.
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It looks different.
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He's a different person, right?
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He says the right things.
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He's got a good job that you like.
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He seems really mature.
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And then suddenly you feel the same tightening in your chest, the same weird feeling, the same overthinking begins, the same patterns in him begin.
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Why is he avoidant of you?
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Why are you doing all the emotional work? and you realize, oh shit, this is exactly what I felt like before,
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even though everything on paper is different.
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Let's talk about the specific mechanism that keeps people stuck in this imbalance dynamic, operating from need instead of desire.
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When you desire a manner or situation or whatever, you're very open.
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When you need a specific outcome, you become strategic and manipulative.
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And when you need something to work, you start over -functioning, over -explaining,
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over giving, over accommodating, over investing and being like somebody that people don't want to be around.
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Not because you're weak, but because your body believes that giving more creates more safety.
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There are studies in behavioral psychology
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that show people who develop anxious relational patterns often over -function as a way to maintain proximity to the person
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that they're targeting.
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They become hyper -attuned to people's needs, person's moods, reactions, they scan constantly, they anticipate things, they compensate.
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I used to do this all the time.
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And here's the problem.
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When you over -function, you create an imbalance from the very beginning.
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You're doing emotional labor for two people.
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You're doing initiating for two people, planning for two people and regulating for who?
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Two people.
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And he's doing very little.
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So it's not necessarily because he's like malicious and mean and he plotted it,
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but because there's no space for him to do the job of the other person, there's no requirement.
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And I've told you this before about men, they will do the minimum that they have to in these situations.
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And if there is no gap and no motivation
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and why would he step up and do it
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if you're doing all the planning
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or the adjusting of the schedule is always the one sending and following up on texts and all these things.
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You slowly train the dynamic that you do the job of two and he does the job of zero.
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And then months later, you look up suddenly and you're like, why am I the only one trying?
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Margarita, why is he not trying?
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But it's a conscious choice.
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Like it's unconscious, but it's also conscious in the fact
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that you've done too much and now you've trained the pattern your body's learned
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that love does not equal equality from two partners putting in effort
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but in adult romance and relationships that strategy backfires because masculine energy
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and masculine men healthy ones respond to challenge and space unfair i know
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but they do masculinity steps up when there is a room to step into it
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and when you fill every gap and manage every detail
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and carry everything and every emotion there is nothing left for him to do there is no need
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which is why the cycle becomes exhausting and you're the one who always
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does the masculine energy in the relationship and over time
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that doesn't just feel tiring it actually feels demoralizing and soul crushing
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because you start to feel unwanted and unloved and all of these things
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that are very big for women and eventually you're resentful
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and like this angry little rat in the corner
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that we talk about a lot right
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and it's not about finding a better man or anything
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because the dynamics created it's about understanding
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that it really creates an imbalance in the first place and
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if you leave barry you'll do it with gary and the one
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that you see clearly once
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you see it something shifts let's talk about why um most relationships become imbalanced in the first place um
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they often start very nice and very beautifully because this is the part
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that confuses a lot of people at the beginning it's easy
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you met a new person you're relaxed it's exciting
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you show them the best parts of yourself you're not analyzing every text because you don't have like ownership, emotional ownership over them.
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You're in your feminine as in like, he does this, you don't mind what he's doing.
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He's initiating, planning, pursuing you.
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He's leaning in, you're responding and all of this good stuff's happening.
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There's polarity, there's sexual tension, there's flow.
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And then you start to care.
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Bloody hell, you start to care.
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And when you start to care, anxiety sneaks in, not because you're like crazy, but because you're invested in now what's happening.
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And this is where most women accidentally step into their masculine energy to feel safe.
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It looks really subtle at first, but you start to text or double text first.
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You suggest to the next date and the day after that.
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You double check plans to clarify.
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You clarify what he meant when he said something.
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You just communicate again to be clear and clarify.
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And because you know it, you're initiating more, planning more, doing everything.
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And you're sending the, are we still on for today text?
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and you're organizing everything and you're bringing up the next step in the relationship and I've told you not to.
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What are we?
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You're making sure everyone feels okay.
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You're slowly becoming the manager, the mother or the martyr in the relationship and he does what?
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Steps back.
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Not because he's evil and men ain't shit, but because you stepped forward so far, he's basically standing nose to nose with him.
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There is something behavioral psychologists actually show quite clearly
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when one partner over functions the other under functions
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it's called a complementary pattern the more one takes responsibility the less the other feels required to do
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so humans adapt to gaps and especially men
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if there is no gap there is no motivation and
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that is the painful part because women think
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that he should just step up
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and it's not his fault it's not your fault either it's what happens
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when your nervous system confuses control with security so your body thinks
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if I manage this properly I won't lose him
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so you manage you direct you steer you optimize the whole relationship you help out more
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and slowly you're no longer present in the relationship you're like this managing role you're running it you're not in it
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And this dynamic, I see it all the time.
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She's doing everything right on paper.
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She's communicating her needs.
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She's doing a lot of talking.
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She's understanding.
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She's patient.
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She's everything, thoughtful, everything.
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Mother Teresa, she plans the date.
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She checks in and she feels completely unseen, underappreciated, like a placeholder, basically.
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She sits there thinking, I'm doing everything.
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Why does it feel like I'm getting crumbs?
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And this is where it gets super uncomfortable because often the doing is the problem.
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doing too much.
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And now let's answer the question every woman asks, why did he stop showing up the way he did at the beginning?
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At the beginning, you weren't managing him, were you?
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You were doing your own thing.
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You were in your own world, in your own lane.
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You weren't trying to secure him yet or ask him how he is or if he took his vitamins this morning.
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You were present and magnetic in your own life for your own self.
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There's research from early stage relationship studies that show that novelty
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and uncertainty activates dopamine
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and reward pathways in men where there's space curiosity polarity there's pursuit in the early stages it creates
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that pull from them he responds naturally but when
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that shifts it stops there's actually research from early stage relationship studies showing
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that novelty and uncertainty activate dopamine in reward pathways in men.
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When there is space, curiosity, and polarity, there's pursuit.
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In early stages, your softness and groundedness creates that pull from him.
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He responds naturally from that.
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And when that softness shifts into anxiety, when you care too much, that changes for him too.
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When desire shifts into need, that pull disappears because masculine energy is drawn to feminine presence, not feminine management.
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A man
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and his grounded masculine does not want to be directed into devotion by you he wants to move towards
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that feeling because he wants to the moment you start trying to secure him steer him
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or correct him into being the man you want him to be the polarity
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and him chasing you collapses and i know someone's going to hear this
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and think so what i just shut up then i just don't do anything
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or say anything ever no you this is not what it's about it's not about silence
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it's about energy there's a difference between I need you to reassure me now
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because I'm spiraling and when you don't confirm plans that doesn't work for me.
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One is fear -driven and the other is grounded in your desire.
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One is trying to control what he does and the other is communicating your standard and your own way of living.
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A woman in this dynamic often feels like they're doing everything and getting back nothing but the doing,
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the constant initiating and planning and explaining is often the very thing that's preventing him from stepping into his masculine fully.
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You can't step into a space that's already occupied by you.
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You can't pursue someone who's chasing you.
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How are you going to chase each other?
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And this is not about women blaming women.
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It's about understanding the mechanisms.
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You can't go on a hunt for a moose that's already standing on your doorstep.
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And if you're always the one who's filling the silence, if you're always the one who fixes the tension,
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if you are always the one who bridges the gap, babe, He never has to, no matter how much you argue with me about it.
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And over time, you start feeling exhausted and resentful and demoralized by the whole thing.
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And he starts feeling what?
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Unnecessary, which is a dangerous place for masculinity to sit.
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That's bad.
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And this is exactly why relationships start with so much spark and slowly turn into this flat line.
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Not because you're not enough, but because the dynamic shifts from polarity to management.
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If you want my help on becoming the woman who naturally attracts devotion
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and consistency and genuine effort without even chasing or managing a guy or overthinking,
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then you should click the link in description for Unbothered Women where I'll show you exactly what
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that looks like through a framework.
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But let's get back into the video because now that you understand that changing the man will never actually shift the dynamic,
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let me show you what actually does change the dynamic.
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What actually creates the pull in a relationship?
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The pull that you want is not tactics.
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We've discussed that.
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It's not the scarcity games because you can't sustain them.
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If it's not withholding affection like you're rationing water in the desert, then what is it, Margarita?
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It's self -possession, babe.
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I don't mean independence in the I don't need no man finger -wagging way.
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I mean a woman who is actually grounded in her own life, in her own identity and fulfillment and purpose
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and she's not looking for a man to give her a life
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and purpose and stabilize her she can like like him a lot she can want to be with him
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but her mood and her self -worth do not depend on his okayness
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and that is so magnetic and most importantly babe it's rare
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because most women and i say this with love outsource their emotional stability that I see.
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The moment they like someone, they're like, boom, have it.
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One text can make their day.
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One delay can ruin their evening.
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The man can feel that, not like intellectually, but energetically.
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There's research in emotional cognition and interpersonal neurobiology that shows humans unconsciously mirror and respond to each other's emotional stances and states.
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We regulate off one another.
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So if your nervous system is dysregulated and hyper -focused on him,
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he will feel that pressure and also focus on himself because he knows you're focused on him too.
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It feels heavy and the heaviness is not seductive.
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Self -possession feels light because it gives the person freedom.
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It feels spacious.
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It feels like a woman who has her own center of gravity
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and that is important because he can then be free to be himself.
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It's not that you don't care or you're cold.
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It's not pretending that you're busy either.
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It's actually being busy.
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A man can sense the difference between a woman who is pretending that she doesn't need him
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and a woman who is genuinely enjoying her life and does not need him to regulate her.
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One feels strategic and very manipulative and the other one's a strength.
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And that is exactly what creates obsession in men.
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And here's the feminine principle that explains all of this.
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Desire is magnetic, need is heavy.
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When you desire a man, there's an openness and a curiosity and a playful energy.
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And when you need him, there's an urgency and there's tension and there's pressure and need feels like, please choose me.
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I can't do life without you and I can't relax.
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And desire feels like, I like you.
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Let's see where this goes.
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And that shift alone changes everything.
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So what does this actually look like in real life?
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Because I know you don't just want the theory.
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You want to know what it looks like on a random Tuesday at 7 .30 when he hasn't confirmed the plan.
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It looks like this.
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You continue investing in your own life.
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You keep your friendships.
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You keep your own gym membership.
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You don't cancel for him because he said yes last minute.
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You keep your projects.
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You keep your joy.
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You do not disappear into him and his friends in his life.
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You invite him into your life that you already love,
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that is very different from building your entire world around him in the moment that you see some kind of potential.
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It also looks like when he makes an effort, you receive it as opposed to trying to match it.
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You don't immediately try and do the same thing.
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You don't overcompensate.
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You don't disregard it you just feel comfortable to say, wow, thank you.
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Let him show up.
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Let him make a plan, babe.
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Let him pursue you.
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Let him move into the space.
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So many women sabotage this because a moment a man invests, they panic and they think, I have to prove I'm worth this.
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So they start doing it back and they over -offer and they overdo.
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And suddenly it's this competition that just is dumb, which sounds like good in theory that you're doing it back,
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but energetically it removes the polarity self -possessed feminine energy receives
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it does not compete
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it also looks like regulated communication not silent treatments not suppression of your emotions not leaking anxiety either
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there is a difference between it feels insecure
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so i'm going to emotionally unload on you
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and make you fix it right now and when you disappear for two days without saying anything that doesn't work for me.
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One is dysregulated and one is normal and grounded and self -possessed.
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You regulate your emotions before you bring it to someone else.
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You don't expect him to be your nervous system regulator.
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And here's the shift that really changes things.
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When you stop trying to secure the outcome and you start actually enjoying the present moment in your life,
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when you stop analyzing whether he's the one by date three and you start asking yourself, Do I even like him?
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Rare question.
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There's a spaciousness and men lean into spaciousness because masculine energy expands in space.
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It contracts under a lot of pressure.
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When you're not gripping the outcome, when you are not subtly pushing the relationship forward, even though you're pretending you're not.
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When you're not trying to extract certainty, he feels like he can lean into it, not because you're manipulating him, but because you can finally move.
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towards you without feeling that you're already standing there and
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that is the whole shift
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that i'm talking about now you've seen why um obsession from the right kind of man
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that you want has nothing to do with tactics
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and everything to do with the woman you are
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when no one is watching
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which means you can finally stop blaming yourself you can stop thinking
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you're not pretty enough not interesting enough not strategic enough
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and actually start changing the thing that matters because the relationship you want is not out of reach.
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The devotion you want is not unrealistic.
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The man who plans for you shows up for you and chooses you consistently.
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He exists, but he is only going to show up for the woman who's already chosen herself.
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And if you want my help becoming that woman, as I've said, the link is in the bio where I'll be walking you through the steps.
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There's five steps and we start on March 20th.
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Thanks for watching and I'll see you on the next video.
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Bye.
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Bu konuşma dersi “How To Actually Make Him Obsessed With You” videosuna dayanıyor. Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 393 cümle ve 4580 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 25:14 sürüyor. Konuşmacı hızlı konuşuyor, dakikada yaklaşık 181 kelime; bu yüzden birbirine bağlanan ve zayıflayan sesler duyacaksınız. Kelimelerin %84’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| obsession isim | /əbˈsɛʃən/ | saplantı, takıntı |
| masculine sıfat | /ˈmæskjələn/ | eril |
| chase fiil | /t͡ʃeɪs/ | kovalamak, peşinden koşmak |
| pretend fiil | /pɹəˈtɛnd/ | numara yapmak, rol yapmak |
| anxiety isim | /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/ | kaygı, endişe |
| feminine sıfat | /ˈfɛmɪnɪn/ | dişil |
| devotion isim | /dɪˈvoʊʃən/ | fedakarlık, özveri |
| tactics isim | /ˈtæktɪks/ | taktik |
| pursue fiil | /pɚˈsu/ | kovalamak |
| trigger isim | /ˈtɹɪɡɚ/ | [4, 5] tetikleme, tetik |
| tension isim | /ˈtɛnʃən/ | gerginlik |
| regulate fiil | /ˈɹɛɡ.jə.leɪt/ | regüle etmek |
| strategic sıfat | /stɹəˈti.dʒɪk/ | stratejik, sevkülceyşî |
| consistently zarf | /kənˈsɪstəntli/ | devamlı, aralıksız |
| emotion isim | /ɪˈməʊ.ʃən/ | duygu, his |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| show up fiil | ortaya çıkmak | |
| calm down fiil | sakinleşmek | |
| go out fiil | çıkmak | |
| keep up fiil | ayak uydurmak, yetişmek | |
| look up fiil | /ˌlʊk ˈʌp/ | yukarı bakmak |
| shut up | /ʃʌt ʌp/ | kapa çeneni, sus |
| start over fiil | baştan başlamak |
Tekrar etmeye değer cümleler
Videodan, günlük konuşmada yeniden kullanabileceğiniz kısa ve tam cümleler:
- Why is he avoidant of you?
- Why are you doing all the emotional work?
- Why does it feel like I'm getting crumbs?
- At the beginning, you weren't managing him, were you?
- How are you going to chase each other?
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Koşul cümleleri if + cümle, will/would + fiil — bir koşul ve sonucu | if you leave barry you'll do · if I manage this properly I won't lose |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | I've discovered · have actually been conditioned · you've learned |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | is devoted · being reminded · being pushed |
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | women who naturally · different, which is · man who is |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı you're, don't, can't gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 119 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: obsession /əbˈsɛʃən/, devotion /dɪˈvoʊʃən/, initiate /ɪˈnɪʃ.i.eɪt/, tension /ˈtɛnʃən/, possession /pəˈzɛʃn̩/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: genuinely /ˈd͡ʒɛn.ju.ɪn.li/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/, initiate /ɪˈnɪʃ.i.eɪt/, consistently /kənˈsɪstəntli/
Türkçe konuşanların zorlandığı sesler:
- /w/ — dudaklar yuvarlak, /v/ değil: reward /ɹɪˈwɔɹd/, pathway /ˈpæθˌweɪ/, framework /ˈfɹeɪm.wɜːk/, equality /ɪˈkwɑ.lɪ.ti/, requirement /ɹɪˈkwaɪɹmənt/
- Kelime başındaki ünsüz kümesi — araya ünlü eklemeyin: pretend /pɹəˈtɛnd/, trigger /ˈtɹɪɡɚ/, strategic /stɹəˈti.dʒɪk/, curiosity /ˌkjʊɹ.iˈɑ.sə.ti/, clarify /ˈklæɹ.ɪ.faɪ/
- /æ/ — “e”den daha açık: dynamic /daɪˈnæm.ɪk/, masculine /ˈmæskjələn/, attract /əˈtɹækt/, anxiety /æŋˈzaɪ.əti/, naturally /ˈnæt͡ʃ.(ə.)ɹə.li/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- 0,75× hızla başlayın, cümle cümle tekrar edin ve kolaylaşınca normal hıza dönün.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; obsession, masculine, chase gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
Gölgeleme Tekniği Nedir?
Gölgeleme, başlangıçta profesyonel tercüman eğitimi için geliştirilen ve çok dilli Dr. Alexander Arguelles tarafından popüler hale getirilen, bilim destekli bir dil öğrenme tekniğidir. Yöntem basit ama güçlüdür: ana dili İngilizce olan bir sesi dinler ve hemen yüksek sesle tekrar edersiniz — konuşmacıyı 1-2 saniye gecikmeyle takip eden bir gölge gibi. Pasif dinleme veya dilbilgisi alıştırmalarının aksine, gölgeleme beyninizi ve ağız kaslarınızı gerçek konuşma kalıplarını eşzamanlı olarak işlemeye ve yeniden üretmeye zorlar. Araştırmalar, telaffuz doğruluğu, tonlama, ritim, bağlı konuşma, dinleme anlama ve konuşma akıcılığını önemli ölçüde geliştirdiğini göstermektedir — bu da onu IELTS Konuşma hazırlığı ve gerçek dünya İngilizce iletişimi için en etkili yöntemlerden biri yapar.