Shadowing Practice: How to Deal With Loneliness - Learn English Speaking with Video
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Good morning.
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Dwayne here, Dry Creek Wrangler School.
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We got a morning here.
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We got a new class coming in next to the last class for this year, being this afternoon.
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So mama and I are taking the chance and taking the opportunity to make another video this morning.
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I've been chewing on this.
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We didn't make a video for a couple of weeks, and then I just posted two videos.
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They were both horse related and this topic I've been chewing on for a little
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while but I've been hesitant to put it up because I didn't really have things clear in my mind.
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But I'm going to take a chance this morning and see what we come up with.
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For the last many weeks I've gotten a lot of contacts, comments on the channel, emails,
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different things about young men, especially, I mean, it's pandemic around the world, I think, but young men,
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especially in this country, who are just feeling isolated and alone.
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It's a really bad situation in this country mama sent me a video link of a guy
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and he was talking about in this country the numbers of uh
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when it comes to suicides when it comes to uh homelessness
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when it comes to prisons the numbers of men in these situations are astronomically higher uh than women
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and And then this same guy read a lot of the feedback from women, and it was horrible.
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They were celebrating the fact that men are three times more likely to commit suicide.
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And it's no wonder good men in this world are backing away from women and saying, look, this is not right.
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and uh and when this attitude pervades
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when this attitude pervades feminists cannot sit there
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and say we're only about equality let me let me give
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you a thought ladies i'm gonna get a lot of i'm
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gonna get a lot of grief for this i don't care i don't know you
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and i ain't scared of you okay If a man is here,
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and you want to be equal, and the only way you can get equal is to band together
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and tear him down so that you can be at his level, you're not equal.
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You're not equal, okay?
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You're a parasite.
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I'm not going to go any further into that, all right?
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Because I will get wound up and get scratchy.
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Men, you're feeling isolated and alone and lonely.
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What do you do?
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You can't find a good woman these days, it seems like.
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And they're out there.
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Let me tell you right now, there's good women are still out there.
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They come through here.
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We meet them around, and there are still really good, solid women of values who value themselves,
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who value the men around them.
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They're just harder to find.
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So what's a guy to do?
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Look, I'm not a psychologist.
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I'm not trained.
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I don't, okay?
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I'm just, I don't know, Uncle Dwayne.
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You go sit down and have a cup of coffee and a cigar and say, hey, man, I don't know what to do.
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All I can do is give you my view.
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Maybe it'll help.
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Maybe it won't.
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Speaking of cigar, Perdomo Inmenso 70.
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It's the only Perdomo cigar I've ever purchased that disappointed me.
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I bought a box of them.
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I really like the 70 gauge.
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Sitting around every evening, it gives me a lot of time.
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But this cigar has been the least pleasing of any Perdomo cigar I've ever had.
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It's not that I don't like it.
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If I didn't like it, I wouldn't be having one this morning.
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But it just, to me, it doesn't measure up.
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It's a Maduro made in Nicaragua.
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Everything should be, and it's from a great company, everything should be, but this is like, I'm down to three out of the box,
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and I have not yet had what I call a mustache burner.
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One that's so good, I don't want to let it go, and it gets all the way down to the point I'm afraid it's going to burn my mustache.
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a great cigar is a mustache but but it's you know it's pretty decent and i do like the size
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but i mean i'm getting a hot spot right here back away from my burn and they're just
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i don't know uh but it's still a it's better than some other cigars
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but i wanted one this morning just because of the size um
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so let's look at it guys loneliness loneliness
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and what is the answer to loneliness well
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if you're lonely i mean it stands to reason
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that you're not finding people outside people that you can connect with on a physical level an emotional level
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a mental level a spiritual level whatever wherever you're at now it's harder for some people and I understand personalities.
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I understand there's difficulty in this.
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Like for me, I'm very comfortable in my own head.
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I'm very comfortable alone for hours at a time, for days at a time.
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Um, I, uh, it doesn't mean I haven't felt loneliness.
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It doesn't mean that I don't feel lonely at times, but it's not acute.
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It's not something I can't, uh, I can't deal with.
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And to me, from what I see,
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is the one companion, let's think this through,
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the one companion outside of God, if you follow God, if you believe in God and you have him,
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then there's always a friend that sticketh closer to a brother.
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but this we're talking about the human issue the one companion that's always going to be with you is yourself
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and i think the first thing you have to do i
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think the first thing we have to do is we have
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to get ourselves to the point where we don't necessarily need a companion
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now um it you know in when god created in the bible when god created adam them.
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And then he looked down, he looked at them.
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He said, it's not good that man be alone.
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That's why he created Eve.
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It's not ideal.
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It's not ideal, but it's doable.
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And sometimes it beats the alternative.
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Uh, and ladies, the exact same thing.
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Uh, it's better to be by yourself than it is to be with a bad man.
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Uh, and, but sometimes we choose, we choose less than ideal companions.
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Because to us, that beats the alternative of not having any companion.
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And the reason why we cannot face the concept of not having any companion is
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because we're not comfortable with ourself as a companion.
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We don't want to be left alone by ourself with ourself.
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So we come in and we sit down and we get on our phone or we turn on the TV.
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Or we go wherever we do, whatever, because we don't want to face the reality of being by ourself with ourself.
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And so, fellas, I would say one of the things I would recommend that you think about,
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chew on, look into, is start making yourself a companion that you're comfortable with.
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Now, that sounds kind of maybe not real mainstream, but if you had a friend,
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if you had a person you're going to sit down and spend all the time with, what would you want from that person?
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What would you want?
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Well, I would want to spend time with somebody who's honest.
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Makes sense?
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I don't want to spend time with somebody who's going to be lying to me all the the time.
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Someone who's going to gently tell me the truth about myself.
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One of the hardest things sometimes for the human to do is get to the point where they stop lying to themselves, where they tell themselves the truth.
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They speak the truth to themselves.
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Now, you got to face the reality of who you are.
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You got to face the reality of what you are.
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All right?
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And nobody's going to tell you that like you yourself will tell you that.
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You want to tell yourself the truth, but you want to tell yourself the truth in understanding and forgiveness.
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I look back at things in my life, and I can't say it was somebody else's fault.
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I can't say I didn't do that.
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I can't say this is why I did that so
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that made it all right I mean all the way back you know human our entire lives
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so I got it tell myself the truth.
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Yeah, that was, that was not okay.
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But then I, at the same time, I have to tell myself that,
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uh, you're a human and you made it right and you're making it right and it's okay.
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It's okay.
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Wherever you've been in the past, that's bad.
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If you're not still there, your companion, which is yourself, needs to feel free to tell you it's okay.
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That was a bad place to be.
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That was a bad person to be, but you're not that person anymore and you're not in that place anymore.
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But if you're with yourself and yourself is always beating you up, you're not going to want to be with yourself.
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If I'm sitting out here by myself in the evening, by a fire, cup of coffee and a cigar,
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and I'm constantly beating myself up over my failures in the past,
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I'm not someone that I want to be alone with. Does it make sense?
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All right.
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you've got to make yourself.
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And then the next thing I would want from a companion is I would want someone who is encouraging, who sees the possibility in the future,
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who gently pushes me and encourages me to get out of the rut, to get out of the hole, to get out of the sheepfold,
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to get out of the swamp that I'm in, and to move on and do better.
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You want someone who's going to encourage you.
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Well, if you don't have somebody who's going to do that, become that somebody.
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And again, now, fellas, I'm blessed.
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I mean, I've got mama, okay?
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I'm not speaking, I've got something a lot of you guys don't.
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I have mama.
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But at the same time, I have a very comfortable relationship with myself, all right?
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And sometimes if you don't have someone like mama, yourself is what you have.
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And you need to encourage yourself.
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You need to look around and you need to be able to encourage yourself and say, look, I'm not stuck here unless I choose to stay here.
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I get people get on the channel all the time and they're like, Dwayne, you're out of touch.
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You don't know what you're talking about.
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You're out in the country.
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Those of us in the city, we don't have that opportunity.
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Well, now, I've been in a lot of cities, and I've never been in a city that had a big wall around it that wouldn't let you out.
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If you actually want to leave, you actually want to get away from the crime,
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from the homelessness, from the situations that are being bred in the cities today, leave.
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Now, sometimes you can't.
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I'm not totally stupid.
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Sometimes you can't.
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But a lot more of you can than can't.
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Now, it takes courage.
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It takes courage.
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It takes sacrifice.
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I mean, if I was single and in some of these cities, and I read what's going on in these cities, and I read about the politics and the crime and the homelessness
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and the cost of living and the cost of rent
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and the cost of groceries and the inability to do all this stuff, I'd sell everything I could sell, put enough in the backpack, and I'd walk out.
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I'd sell my car.
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I'd sell everything.
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Don't tell me it can't be done.
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Watch the video on there.
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I hitchhiked and took a bus from Tennessee to Cody, Wyoming, and picked up cigarette butts in the campground for soup
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and a sandwich and a place to stay until I finally got a job.
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Now, that job was $350 a month, but it included a room in a bunkhouse, and it got me started.
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Don't tell me it can't be done.
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It takes guts, and you need to have a companion.
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You need to be a companion that's going to gently encourage you
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and give you the courage to take that next step and to do better and to be better.
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I know, guys, I know that the,
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how do I, the physical aspects of a relationship,
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I know that they're positive.
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I know that they are things that is hardwired in us to search for.
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But it's not something we've got to have.
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It's not something we have to have.
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And the hell that you go through with these relationships
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just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction
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that it's doing to your soul and to your spirit and to your life.
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It's not worth it.
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Become your own man.
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Become your own man.
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If these feminazis want to burn their own world down around them, let them do it.
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You don't have to be in it.
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You don't need their world, and you don't need them.
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You don't need them.
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I was asking Deanna this morning, I was reading this stuff, and I'm like, if these women have their way, are they going to get out and asphalt these highways?
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Are they going to get up on these high lines and do this?
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I'm not saying they can't, but I'm saying the dang sure won't.
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Are they going to do sewer lines?
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Are they going to go into burning buildings and haul people over their shoulder down off the ladders?
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Here and there, scattered here and there.
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There's one, but women as a whole are not going to do this.
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And that's fine.
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That's their business.
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They can live their life as they want.
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I'm not here bashing women.
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But I am totally fed up with this whole feminazi movement that is destroying the young men in this country.
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And nobody can destroy you if you won't let them.
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Alright?
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Don't let them.
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You're a man.
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You are a man.
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Stand up and be a man.
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Make the hard decisions.
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Make the sacrifices.
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Make the unpopular decisions and become comfortable in your own skin.
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And if you are not a person that you are comfortable being alone with,
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that is the one person in this universe that you have full power, full right, and full responsibility to change.
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Okay?
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I don't have the right, I don't have the desire to, and I do not have the right to try to change my wife's personality and who she is.
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I don't have the right to change anybody.
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except myself.
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Now, there's people out there I don't like, and if I don't like them, I just walk away.
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I'm 55 years old.
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I've done without that person my whole dang life.
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I don't need them now.
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And I don't have the right or the desire to try to change them.
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But if I don't like me, if I don't like me, if I'm not comfortable being with me, well, that's a different story.
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all right so it doesn't provide all the answers probably doesn't provide any answers i don't know
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but maybe there's a little bit of encouragement there maybe somebody
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there's a little seed a little step a little something
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that you can say hey you know what i think that'll help me
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and listen just be strong stay strong ladies i'm not bashing women but i am bashing this godless,
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hateful movement that is destroying this country and destroying the men in this country.
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Okay?
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It's not...
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And fellas, just don't...
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Let me add one more thing here, alright?
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I'm choosing my words.
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Give me a moment.
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It is human nature.
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It is human nature when a pendulum swings too far one way.
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When a pendulum swings too far one way, we react and swing that pendulum too far the other way.
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For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
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Don't do that.
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But do not react to this with the opposite all the way over here.
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Don't be hateful and mean and derogatory to women.
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All right.
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I am referring obliquely to a former kickboxer
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who now resides in Europe somewhere who has been all the all the rage.
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There are some things he says that he's right and he's spot on, but his pendulum has swung too far the other way.
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okay and and some impressionable young men have taken it that way we're not at war fellas
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regardless of how this side wants to frame this picture we are not at war with women all right we're not
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you be that warrior in that garden
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all right and you stand strong you be a strong man you be a good man
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and you just let the world rage around you all right i hope this helps
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and uh and my heart's with you guys
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and anything i can do to help i'll be happy to do and so we'll catch y 'all next time
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Bu dersin kelimeleri ve konuşma notları
Bu videoda gölgeleme çalışması için 257 cümle ve 2886 kelime var. Konuşma bölümü 20:29 sürüyor. Konuşmacı dakikada yaklaşık 141 kelimelik dengeli bir hızla konuşuyor; gölgeleme için rahat bir tempo. Kelimelerin %85’i İngilizcede en sık kullanılan 3.000 kelime arasında; geri kalanına başlamadan önce bakmakta fayda var.
Bu videodaki önemli kelimeler
Videodan öğrenmeye değer 15 kelime, telaffuzu ve anlamıyla:
| Kelime | Telaffuz | Anlam |
|---|---|---|
| companion isim | /kəmˈpæn.jən/ | yoldaş, arkadaş |
| cigar isim | /sɪˈɡɑɹ/ | puro, sigara |
| encourage fiil | /ɪnˈkʌɹ.ɪd͡ʒ/ | teşvik etmek, cesaretlendirmek |
| loneliness isim | /ˈloʊnlinəs/ | yalnızlık |
| courage isim | /ˈkʌ.ɹɪd͡ʒ/ | cesaret, yüreklilik |
| lonely sıfat | /ˈloʊnli/ | yalnız, yapayalnız |
| chew fiil | /tʃuː/ | çiğnemek |
| sacrifice isim | /ˈsæk.ɹɪ.faɪs/ | kurban, kurbanlık |
| react fiil | /ɹiːˈækt/ | reaksiyon göstermek |
| hateful sıfat | /ˈheɪtfəl/ | iğrenç, tiksinç |
| topic isim | /ˈtɑpɪk/ | mevzu, tema |
| refer fiil | /ɹɪˈfɜː/ | zikretmek |
| horrible sıfat | /ˈhɔɹ.ɪ.bəl/ | korkunç |
| disappointed sıfat | /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/ | hayal kırıklığına uğramış |
| decent sıfat | /ˈdiː.sənt/ | uygun, onat |
Duyacağınız deyimsel fiiller
| Kelime | Anlam |
|---|---|
| sit down fiil | oturmak |
| stand up fiil | satmak |
Bu videodaki dil bilgisi
Konuşmacının en çok kullandığı yapılar, videodaki sözcüklerin aynısıyla:
| Yapı | Videoda |
|---|---|
| Present perfect continuous have/has been + -ing — önceden başlayıp hâlâ süren bir eylem | I've been chewing |
| Present perfect have/has + fiilin üçüncü hâli — geçmişte olan ama şimdi de önemli olan bir eylem | I've been · I've gotten · I've ever purchased |
| Edilgen yapı be + fiilin üçüncü hâli — kimin yaptığı değil, ne olduğu önemli | be left · being bred · can't be done |
| İlgi cümlecikleri who / which + cümle — bir kişi ya da şey hakkında ek bilgi | companion, which is · someone who is |
Dikkat edilecek telaffuzlar
Konuşmacı don't, I'm, you're gibi kısaltılmış biçimleri 148 kez kullanıyor. Bunları duyduğunuz gibi kısa söyleyin.
- “sh” ve “zh” sesleri: bash /bæʃ/, destruction /dɪsˈtɹʌkʃən/, asphalt /ˈæʃfɑlt/, moustache /ˈmʌstæʃ/, impressionable /ɪmˈpɹɛ.ʃən.ə.bəl/
- Uzun kelimeler — vurguyu doğru yere koyun: necessarily /ˌnɛs.əˈsɛɹ.ə.li/, disappointed /ˌdɪsəˈpɔɪnɪd/, difficulty /ˈdɪfɪkəlti/, equality /ɪˈkwɑ.lɪ.ti/, inability /ˌɪnəˈbɪlɪti/
Bu videoyla nasıl çalışılır
- Videonun tamamını konuşmadan bir kez dinleyin ve bilmediğiniz kelimeleri not edin.
- Normal hızda cümle cümle tekrar edin; ritminiz konuşmacıyla aynı olana kadar her cümleyi yineleyin.
- Kendinizi kaydedin ve orijinaliyle karşılaştırın; companion, cigar, encourage gibi kelimelere özellikle dikkat edin.
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